My story

Hello. I've been wandering around on here reading posts and decided to join up and tell my story (or one of them at least). Not sure if it'll help anyone or not, but sometimes it's nice to see how others got to where they are. Right now I'm happily married to my second husband. I was single for 5 years before I met him, and had been married 18 years to my first husband before we divorced. My first marriage was rocky from the start, but I was young and stupid and thought it best to hang in there. I was married to a narcissist who knew how to put me down and make me feel like cr*p about myself. He hated that I worked outside of the house, would constantly want to know what went on at the office, who I went to lunch with, etc. I never did anything wrong. Meanwhile he had been all over the internet sex dating sites hooking up with women. When we finally split, even though I didn't love him, I was scared - I had been told I wasn't worth anything and I was afraid to be on my own with 2 small children. A few months after we split, my boss started complimenting me. We'd go out to lunch and he would tell me that I was very good at my job, I was pretty, I deserved so much more, etc. He was married, but I enjoyed the attention. I started dating a man I had met about 8 months after my marriage ended. It was a nice relationship, but I certainly wasn't looking for commitments, etc. My boss seemed extremely interested in my relationship with this man, to the point it almost seemed like jealousy. Then one day he out right asked me if I was sleeping with this man. Excuse me? I said it was really none of his business. About this time he had started complaining about the state of his own marriage. So a few months later the guy I was dating moved out of state for a job and we ended it on good terms. My boss made his move... and I fell for it. He claimed he was in love with me, his wife didn't understand or care about him, etc and so forth - the typical drivel. But I was not in the best state of mind, still insecure about myself, so I believe him, I really did. We had an affair for close to a year when he left his wife and moved into an apt on his own. I thought this meant that we really could be a couple. a couple months later he said he was taking his kids on vacation for a week. Ok. I don't know what compelled me, but I checked his wife's FB page and saw that she was talking about heading out on vacation too. Of course he wouldn't return my texts or emails for a week and when he did get back he said that he "owed" it to his wife to work things out and how he missed his kids, etc. Turns out the whole time he was living on his own, he was going back to the house where his wife was and spending 3 or 4 nights a week there. That's when it finally hit me - I had been the stereotypical bimbo OW. Worse - he told his wife WHO he was having an affair with. According to him though, I was not his first affair, so maybe she was used to this, I don't know. Flash forward and yes, I STILL work for him (I was single and needed my job and benefits, and honestly can not make the money I make at my job anywhere else) You can imagine how uncomfortable the company Xmas parties are when the wife is there. We don't speak much other then him to give me a project and me to complete it. But I have heard through the grapevine that he's had a couple other affairs after me - one being with an employee of one of our clients and she left her husband. My husband now knows about my past, and at first he hated this guy... until he met him in person a few times and saw what a joke he is. So what did I learn from my little adventure? Well, first, never sh*t where you eat. But most important, don't let anyone prey on your weaknesses for their own gain. Had I not been so low in my self esteem at the time, I would have never fallen for this guy's spiel.

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