| I've been with a girl 5 months. She's lovely, intelligent and sweet. She really likes me and this is the longest relationship she's been in. Honestly she's brilliant. She never ever puts a foot wrong and if we argue it's usually because one of us gets jealous.. And it always ends well. To be honest she's probably way out of my league and easily the best girlfriend I've ever had. So what's the problem ? She has a past. she told me a little while ago she had sex with a 24 year old when she was 15. It wasn't a massive problem at first because she put it down to being drunk, not knowing his age and it being a spur of the moment. Later she admitted that she wasn't actually that drunk, she knew how old he was and it was a weekend fling.. Where she took him to her friends had sex with him.. Spent the next day with him and then had public sex again in the toilets of a bar. Yeah. I've seen the guy and apparently he didn't know she was 15 until afterwards ... I find that very very hard to believe. I don't know. It just doesn't sit right with me. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I keep branding her a "slut" in my head. I have a Christian background so perhaps that make things categorically worse. I really want to get over this but it's driving me away and making me feel bad whenever I think about it. Thought and advice? Please no bull**** .. | |||
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Girlfriend had sex with a 24 year old when she was 15
Wasn't THIS WOMAN one of the sexiest women alive?
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What gets you guys going?
| I believe most women are turned on by a man who does really well at something whether it be a sport, hitting hard, throwing well, excelling at work, being a genius with technology, etc.. I was thinking, is there an equivalent type of success or talent or anything about women that grabs your attention & makes you more interested? Posted via Mobile Device | |||
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In Kinkiness Or In Health
| When we got married 13 years ago I never thought that now it seems like every weekend he wants to go out and do something kinky (go to "clubs" that oftentimes involve BDSM or recently swingers clubs--to "check it out"). It starts Thursday mornings. He'll start asking me "are we going to do something kinky this weekend"? I do not usually jump up and say "hell yes". He will pout. I try to spice things up with him and I tell him I think there is a lot of stuff that we can do between us that we haven't even tried yet. So understand, doing spicy stuff btn just us works for me and I've clearly communicated that. He wants to see me flirt. I just got my hair cut and we're going out to dinner with his son's GF's parents and he wanted me to pack my corset and boots "in case we decide to go to a kinky place afterwards." We are at the point that I don't feel I can relax when weekends come because I feel pressured wondering why can't we just go out like most people ? It seems like the only way we go out is if it involves something kinky. I try to meet him half-way with activities I can tolerate. I've made it consistently clear that I cannot have any third party involvement. This is communicated clearly. Do any of you have this issue? We're in our 50's. | |||
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Not sure what to do
| I've been married for 3 years, but have known my husband for 7. He has PTSD and it has gotten worse over the years, especially in the past 2 years. We lived together for about a year and a half before we were married, and things were great. After the wedding, he started to become distant. I make more money, and pay almost all of the household bills. That frustrates him, understandably, but to make matters worse, he is irresponsible with the money he does have. After we were married, our sex life plummeted and is now non-existent. He gives me a ton of excuses as to why he doesn't want to have sex. I feel like he's my roommate. We've been to two different marriage counselors, but they haven't helped. He says he doesn't know why he doesn't want to have sex even though he's attracted to me. We talked about having children when we were still dating, and now he tells me he isn't ready. We're in our early 30's. I feel like if I stay in this m arriage, I am going to be giving up my ability to be a mother. I'm so unhappy. I love my husband, and I thought we would be able to get through anything, but now I'm not so sure. I'm tired of having to pay for everything. I'm tired of just waiting for him to want me. It kills me to think I may never have children because he won't have sex with me. I don't know what to do. He doesn't make enough money to live on his own, and I don't think his parents would let him move back in with them. He needs a car to get to work, but it's in my name, and he can't afford the payments. I feel like if I leave, I'll be causing him to lose everything. I'm so torn. | |||
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Previous bad relationship experiences?
| This is a thread to purely vent emotion about previous relationships that did not end well, get regrets off your chest and feel better about it! :) | |||
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womans opinion please
| So I wrote a thread about the horrible things I did to my wife last summer when we split. She wants her space now but when I ignore or don't talk to her regularly she asks why I am ignoring her when I'm just giving her space. Then last night I went out to dinner and then a movie with my brother and his gf. When I left she text me about fixing the breaks then she text later seeing how dinner was even though she already said talk to you tomorrow. Then she starts texting again on the way to the movie asking who I am really with and stuff like that I assured her I was with him. This morning I asked what's was up with that she said she thought I was lying and with someone else. So my question is does this mean anything? She says shes not IN LOVE with me we still live together but she's probably getting her own place soon she says. So does this mean she does have feelings? Maybe a little jealous? Posted via Mobile Device | |||
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MEN: what is your ultimate turn off?
| For example, I hate it when a guy tries to get my attention by telling me really bad jokes...'cringe' | |||
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What do boys think of small girls?
| 5ft girls, to be precise. Good, bad? Cute? Turn off? Interested in opinions. I'm trying to find something good about myself to like. I'm struggling, so I'm hoping, maybe being small could be considered good by some guys ... Obviously it's not for everyone. | |||
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What is wrong with him?
| So my bf and I have been together for over two years were both 20 and right now I don't know what is wrong with him. We've had our ups and downs but we've been able to go through them with ease. Recently, he has been acting very awkward. He went to stay with his friends over the weekend (who live about 3 hours from where we live) and when he came back I met him and he just felt out of it and not interested in the conversation. Over the past few weeks he gets mad at me for not talking to him on my part, I'm giving him time alone to get over this "awkward" time. He just yells at me and says mean things to me whenever I do that so that is not even working. I even let him know I'm going to give him time for himself but he just blasts at me for even bringing that up.The main thing he says is that "I piss him off". I recently got a job and I work fulltime and I don't even have time for anyone I know right now either I'm at work or at school so I am rea lly busy. Oh yeah and he recently lost his job but he did not feel bad about it and I know him well he would not feel like this because he lost his job. I meet him like 3 times a month now and we barely get to talk because I work. It does annoy me that we don't talk as much but I get over it. I keep asking him if I did something wrong and I try to communicate with him to find out what is going on in his head. Today he told me I'm selfish for thinking I am the main reason he is stressed but if he keeps saying I piss him off for no damn reason I will obviously think I probably did something wrong and I am causing him stress. If I don't talk to him he gets mad and when I try to talk to him he gets mad what in the world is wrong with him??? I also feel like something happened at his friends house and ever since he came back he is like a different person now. His friends are fucked up guys that have no clue where they will go in life. I hope their attitude didn't rub off on him. And please excuse my unorganized thoughts I am in a hurry at the minute. | |||
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can players change?
| I know of this guy who I think is interesting but unfortunately he has been known to be a bit of a player. He used to hook up with girls, do his thing and leave them. He is a very easy going, laid back guy who doesn't take life seriously and is very chilled about everything. Anyway, he used to do it a lot at uni and a bit after but now he is 27 and I am not sure if men grow out of this or if he will always be this way? Are there any players/former players/someone who knew a player that can give some advise? I want to know if it is a phase in some guys or if he will be like this forever? | |||
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Boyfriend broke up with me because i went too uni
| In my first year at uni my boyfriend broke up with me after we had been together almost six years because going to university put too much of a strain on our relationship, has anyone gone through something similar? And if so how did you deal with it? Or how did you manage to make it work even though you are so far apart? I feel like going to uni was a huge mistake :( | |||
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Finding it too hard to cope
| I'm coming towards the end of first year and I've had a really difficult year. I've wanted to be a commercial pilot since I was a kid, so i'm lucky in the sense that I know what i want to do with my life, but the only way to become one is to have ALOT of money which I dont have. I took 2 years after finishing school working full time to pay for it but it simply wasn't enough after lifes expenses. So I've come to University to get a better job and hence higher salary to afford it. But i hate University and I hate studying. It's not my course, it's any course I just dont like being here - I'm done with education. I'm at a top Uni doing a top degree but i'm counting down the days to 2016 when I graduate and I just dont think im going to be able to do it. Because i've had a hard year i've relied completely on my girlfriend for happiness to help me through it and haven't made any friends. My girlfriend left me about 2 weeks ago because she's graduating this summer and wants to travel etc. I'm completely alone and I dont know what to do. I've got 5 exams coming up but i'm so depressed from losing my girlfriend that I just dont know how to cope. Can anyone give me some advice please ? | |||
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Should I worry about little things in a girl?
| Ok, so a bit random, but when I get to know a girl, I pick up on her little 'traits'. So, with little things such as the words they sometimes put into a sentence, for instance. E.g: 'vintage' and the way some say 'London' as 'Landaan' and so on. I get on well with them, think they are good looking and so on, but I just think about these words and the smallest little things. Is it because I am waiting for the perfect girl? Should I look past the little annoying things? | |||
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Aspergers and friendships/relationships
| Hi So here's the thing, I'm 19 and in the first year of studying a Computer Science degree and I feel as though I have a bit of a dilemma. Before I explain my situation I need to tell you a few things first though. I'm an only child and didn't have a great deal of family as I grew up; unfortunately only really my parents now. This meant I was kind of sheltered (as my parents were quite protective) and didn't really experience a range of types of relationships. I began to come out of my shell a fair bit in year 13 and still did so for the first term of uni, though I feel as though I've gone backwards a bit this term. I have Asperger's, problems with coordination, and what I believe to maybe be slight dyspraxia. I got good GCSEs and A-Levels and am doing fairly well in my course, and university has given me opportunities unlike I had at home and made me broaden my interests. The main problem regards developing friendships and in particular relationships, the latter of which I've tried a couple of times this year but didn't really get anywhere. I've met a lot of different people at university and do have a good group of friends, however we don't always see eye-to-eye because of our different outlook on things and have arguments, primarily because of one or two things that they do that I don't want to be involved with. Also, whilst I'm generally thought of as being a friendly, kind person I can be socially awkward at times and thus find it difficult to engage with my peers. According to a friend I perhaps "spread myself a little thinly at times" however. There's a distance that I feel between myself and my peers that I want to overcome. I know it's a result of my AS and has been worsened by my slightly limited social experience, though I'd really like to become closer again to my existing friends and make new ones too, as well as in time try and get a girlfriend. I've gone to a few societies over the year (and will definitely keep going with one in particular) and will try a couple of new ones next year, though I feel as though at these I've just really made more acquaintances. Sorry for the long post and this really isn't a rant about how bad my life is, because I'm fortunate in many other ways and hopeful, but this is a real challenge that I face. I'd be grateful for any suggestions. Thank you :) | |||
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My next move
| As I've made pretty clear I have a manwhore past and I'm trying to get out of it. I stopped looking for easy girls and lo and behold, last night I met someone. It was at a bar and I started talking to her. I had seen her checking me out earlier, but the reason I approached was because she did look pretty. Conversation was really easy and she had way more personality than girls I'm used to. She was mature and funny and spontaneous. Basically not the girl I thought I would go for, but she blew my mind in a lot of ways. I was completely disarmed. I ended up telling her about all my goals and dreams before the night was over. I felt like there was almost no bullshit in the conversation. I met her friends and her female wing girl tested me with a lot of questions. It was obvious there was attraction between us. I got her number. Then we sat down on a bench and we made out for a little. I almost wanted to wait to make out to make it more special. They invited me to another bar but I didn't go because it was late and I had to work this morning. We kissed again and goodbye. I feel like I should have gone to the bar despite work. Now, here's where I'm fucking lost. I have no problem getting girls I don't like, but when I actually like a girl, I am a retard! This morning I texted her something like: "I'm bad at texting and don't want to fuck this up, so do you want to meet up tomorrow for a drink at 10pm?" So far no response at all. I got clear vibes last night that she was digging me. She seemed nervous around me and was mirroring me, she was agreeing with everything I said. I don't get it and I'm pretty blown about it. I connected with her on so many levels, it made me realize what I've been missing in my life. I know it was one night, but I don't see why we can't go out for one more date. My plan is to send her flowers, since she told me where she works. Is that too cheesy? This is the kind of thing I have never done in my life, nor ever wanted to do with a girl. Any recommendations? Thanks in advance. It's been a long time since I opened up to a girl like this and now I'm feeling really shitty. | |||
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Sorry About That
| Sorry, mods. Bad post on my part, no real excuse (reading rules != retention, in this case). I will be more careful and law-abiding. | |||
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Reading too much into a kiss.
| I'm female and came out to all my friends/class yesterday that i'm bisexual. It was only after a few drinks I plucked up the courage just to blurt out that I am in fact Bi and probably swaying more towards lesbian. After I moved from the party to a club I bumped into an old friend (let's call her H). We're good friends but don't get to see each other that much as she's at University and we've always gone to different schools. I told her that I was bi and she told me that she was too (I already knew as she kinda had a secret relationship with a girl last year which I knew about). We spent the night dancing away as a group and H kept her arm around me and kept telling me how proud of me she was (if you can imagine, it's a pretty big deal for me). Later on we were outside and I managed to get lipstick on my chin so I asked H to wipe it off for me. We were standing pretty close and with her hand on my face she said "I'm so tempted to kiss you now" and to I replied with "So what's stopping you?". She said about her 'boyfriend' (He's only an online boyfriend as they've only ever met up twice but she's pretty into him). Then she kissed my cheek and kept it there for a while then hugged me. I must admit, it was pretty romantic as the way we were looking into each others eyes and that. I've spent the whole day thinking about it as I do fancy her (it's the first time i've saw her that way.) I've had drunken kisses with both sexes before and this didn't feel like 'let's just kiss for the sake of it'. I'm just thinking that if she was to split up with her boyfriend would I have a chance or did she just do that because she was bored/feeling sorry for me/just happy. Thoughts? Sorry for the long essay :) | |||
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Shirtless in a nightclub for fancy dress is it weird?
| There is a superheroes theme at the club and I decided to spray paint my upper body as green to copy the incredible Hulk. Will I be seen as being weird or a show off or something or is it fine do you think? | |||
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Some great life lessons and mantras
| I don't post links very often unless I find them particularly helpful. I don't know if this is the right place for this or not. I found these two sites that pertain to lots of "situations" on these boards that people find themselves in. http://worldobserveronline.com/2012/...p-to-be-happy/ http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/04/...razy/#more-606 | |||
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Not enjoying my job, feel like crap.
| I have recently started a new job, one of my first ones in fact. But I'm not enjoying it. I keep doing stuff wrong and despite some nice staff the supervisor expects me to know procedure and fails to rely information to me and gets annoyed when I ask. I have only had four shifts but I feel like crap and want to pack it in. Last night I got *******ed for signing out and leaving at the end of my shift, and today I'm sure I have done something else to annoy him and quite frankly I'm dreading a phonecall or my next shift. Does anyone have any advice? Quite frankly I feel pathetic for feeling this was and being so terrible at my job, and I don't really want to quit as I made my family quite proud getting the job. Any advice will be much appreciated, I just don't know what to do. | |||
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What are some common signs a guy likes you?
| I like a guy at my school, but I don't know if he's into me. I think he might be, but I'm unsure. He talks to me whenever he sees me in the halls, he's always smiling, he always looks me in the eyes when I'm talking to him, and he's really fun to be around. We've never really hung out much outside of the religious group we're both in, but I'm hoping to hang out with him this summer once he gets back from his mission trip. I think he may like me, but I've been wrong about this before. What are some other signs that a guy likes a girl? Is he just being friendly? I appreciate any responses! | |||
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I want out, but when is a good time?
| I have been miserable in my marriage for years. I have only been married to my husband for four years and I don't want to do it anymore. I sound like a child throwing a tantrum, but I just think that this is never going to get better. I feel lied to, cheated and he has taken from me the only thing in the world he had no right to, The ability to become a mother. I am 38 and I have no hopes of becoming a mom now. He has always had some excuse as to why we can't have children, mostly financial. I make very good money on my own. He had a good job, and unfortunately his past caught up to him and he went back to his former life of drugs and wanting to be out on the street making money. When we met, he was working as a counselor helping people get their lives together. He was going to church and was working towards getting his bachelors. He did reveal his past to me as a former addict, and that may have been my first mistake. I saw who is was when I met him, not who he was before. It went against what I believed in. Once and addict or criminal, always an addict or criminal. I gave him a chance because of his determination to succeed. But that was my mistake. We argued a lot over anything and everything. But especially about starting a family. I had to go as far as going through the bible and giving him a three page list of verses condemning him for preventing conception. We never had sex without condoms, even after getting married. We stopped having sex two years ago. I cannot get myself to even kiss him on the lips, much less get intimate. A year ago, he relapsed. After all the problems we were having, and the constant fighting, I thought it was finally my way out. But because of my religious beliefs, and pressure from the ladies I sought advice from, I stuck by him. I worried and called and searched for him. I even showed up at his men's bible group to beg for help in getting him home. But after three months, I wanted out, and I decided to leave him and get a place of my own. I did find a place and was close to getting a lease. He was in the hospital doing detox, and was supposed to go into rehab for 90 days and that was enough time for me to run away from him and never see him again. He did not go to rehab, and I was stuck. I lost all my savings and my 401k through all this. I was forced to pay rent on our apartment all on my own, and the car payments, credit cards and every expense by myself. And on top of that, the deposit on the new place, moving expenses, etc. Now... to add to the mix, his mother is very sick. She does not have very much longer to live, so I feel like i'm evil for wanting to leave him now. He was never there when I was going through my mother's cancer and death, so I take it out on his mother too. I feel awful leaving him now that his mom will be dead soon. So, now I am here, miserable. I am depressed and constantly wishing I could leave. Do I just pick up and go? Is there a good time to leave? I have been trying to save up, but honestly, through all this mayhem, my credit has been shot and I cannot afford to make a large deposit. My lease is up in October. I am thinking that I will just go then. I need help.. or more so, someone to tell me that it is ok to feel like this. | |||
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Husband had emotional affair with old girlfriend
| I am married 26 years two kids. I found out last April my husband was texting and talking to old girlfriend . In two months over 2500 texts and over 5 hours worth of phone calls. We were having a lot of problems granted, but I have asked for counseling he never wanted to, so I just went along with my life and took care of house and kids. I went on my at and t bill one day and was floored called the number and heard the voicemail I knew who it was because name is unique and he told me about her when we first married how he loved her and she dumped him. I have gone thru hell I have had shingles I have been depressed ... Problem is he has never really told me any details anytime I bring it up he says enough already. When I confronted him back then I got she's just a friend nothing happened just chit chat about her work my work nothing more. In beginning after I found out he really wasn't begging me to forgive him. he was kind of nasty te lling me well u were not being a great wife so I figured I needed to talk to someone. Well here I am a year later and ya he's better to me but for a year it's always the same thing u as hold be over this already u overreact blah blah blah. He's leaving to go to Florida today for 12 days. When he went there last year to visit his mom he was going crazy talking and texting her Round clock I told him this is like a trigger for me and ya I was upset he wasn't going to be here. Mother's Day with me since last year I spent Mother's Day with my dtr crying the whole time. He asked ,e about going to visit his mom a few days since he has a work thing there i said no problem I then find out he's staying there an extra week. So I get over this things a little better even though I'm fighting my demons I text him and say I'm reading this book it's really good I think u should read it I think it will help understand and be a little more patient with me and then I said I love you. He texts me back and says I'm being crazy again get over it stop reading stupid books. He just wants to act like it never happened. I never got anything. I never heard suppp what he said to her end g this and it haunts me what they talked about. He was intimate with iThis girl and he still swears to this day she thought me and him were happily married | |||
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