Worried that I might be bad in bed

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Worried that I might be bad in bed

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I'm still a virgin so I'm worried that when I have sex with my gf for the first time, I'll do something wrong and finish in a few minutes or just end up boring her

Even as a virgin you gotta know what to do, right? I'm so clueless and might end up looking like a fool. First impressions are important so if I screw up the first time she might not even want to have sex with me any more

What can I say to her? I need her to understand that I won't be as good as her previous partners

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Cannot stand my brother's girlfriend!

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Cannot stand my brother's girlfriend!

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My brother got a girlfriend a few weeks ago. They're both 19 and I'm 22. I'm a girl. It's got very intense very quickly. She's essentially moved into my parents' house. She's here 24/7 and she's just around to the point I'm getting sick to death of her. I also personally think she has a hidden side of her personality - she acts sweet and girly, but I know that during her school years she was a school bully. I mean she broke someone's nose when she was eleven. I know she comes from a damaged background - and I feel sorry for her from that point of view - but it doesn't stop me wanting shot of her. Since they've got together she's done the following:

Practically forced me to come on a night out with her and him by saying she didn't want to be the only girl etc. (not JUST with them - with a few of his friends) and then proceeded to spend the whole night talking about her and my brother's sex life. Even when me and her were in private in the bathroom she was rabbiting on about it.
Essentially called me a prude and asked me if I was a virgin in front of my brother and his mates who I don't even know. She doesn't seem to be able to get through her thick skull that the reason I'm grossed out about it is NOT because she's talking about sex, but because she's describing graphic details of sex WITH MY LITTLE BROTHER (talks about giving him blow jobs, the size of his dick etc.)
Showed pictures of her naked boobs to me and all of his mates on said night out.
She's recorded him naked - admittedly as a joke when he wasn't looking - threatened to put it on facebook when they rowed.
Told me she can hack paypal accounts etc.
And today to top it all off I've been out ALL day (I'm talking 16 + hours of an empty house) in which they could have banged till their hearts content (me and my parents were out at an open day.) I come home, I can here them watching TV, we all clatter around upstairs, so they know we're home. I get ready to go to bed. The partition wall between my room and his is paper thin - SHE knows this. They start having sex with her being REALLY loud. Needless to say, the most uncomfortable few minutes of my life. My Mum was also in the bathroom so I reckon she probably got an earful too.

I'm not a prude - and neither are my parents - of course I know they're having sex and I have zero problem with it. But I just feel like this is all pretty unreasonable and disrespectful. I would never in a million years have sex with a guy when I knew my brother could DEFINITELY hear and was next door. I think sex is private thing and whilst I understand they're young and don't have their own house just do it while we're out or at least while I'm not in my room. I'm going to uni next year thank god - I was ill at 18/19 so couldn't go then. But I'm finishing off A2 levels and she's even cutting into my study time - I've lost hours where she's tried to distract me etc.

I don't mind being friendly, but I just feel like the whole thing is unfair - and shoving all the sex stuff in my face is off-putting. What can I do, if anything? I can never get my brother alone to say anything to him. Even if I did I don't think he'd care since he's pretty selfish himself.

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Pinching during sex

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Pinching during sex

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• 18 hours ago 18h ago

My boyfriend pinched me really hard on the arm during sex is this normal?

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Boyfriends going to uni

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Boyfriends going to uni

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My boyfriend is a year older then me and leaves for uni very soon, and I am so worried about it and about how I am going to handle it, if anyone has any tips or can just talk to me about it that would be great :) x

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I dont want you to go back. I want you to stay here with me.

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I dont want you to go back. I want you to stay here with me.

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• 18 hours ago 18h ago

urgh.

wut do?

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My wife doesn't satisfy me sexually

I am 27 years old and my wife 32 years old, many times she don't want to do sex when I ask why she reply she lazy to do... And when we do it seems she don't have any passion... what can I do?

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Acronyms on TAM?

I'm new. Some posts, I can't understand with all the acronyms. All I have managed to gather is:

TAM Talk About Marriage aka the site
WW Wayward Wife
WH Wayward Husband
WS Wayward Spouse
OW/OM Other woman/man
D Divorce
R Reconciliation

Help a sister out?

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The Stepson

I know I have some other popular threads going on here, and I am working on my marriage, or lack there of, but I wanted to get the opinions of this great community when it comes to what I deal with when it comes to my stepson. Hopefully this is the correct forum for that.

I am going to post you some stories that I posted on a Step Parents support forum. Most are long, and I will post them separately, but please feel free to read whichever ones that you want to and comment appropriately.

I know this is probably too long and I won't get many, if any, responses. Just interested in some feedback and opinions. Most of it is done. Maybe only read one a day? Maybe only read one, period?

And to be clear: I already received sound advice on these in the Step Parent's forum, by the way. I just wanted some advice from this community because you guys ROCK!!!! I know some of the issues are in the past, but I wanted some more opinions on them, if you don't mind.

The posts will be titled at the top, so please mention which post you are referring to if you were nice enough to offer your advice and comment!

So here we go:

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Our 15th year anniversary......

Our 15th year anniversary was on September, Friday 12.:smthumbup:

So I figured Mrs.CuddleBug thought I'd forget, so I went to the local jewelery store, bought a $1000 pair of blue gem earrings (her birth color December) seated in white gold, very romantic card and a custom made flower arrangement in a glass vase. I hid this in our storage area above the crawl space under the stairs. Mrs.CuddleBug still doesn't know were I hid it....heh heh. Anyway, I decided to surprise her even more, one day early and put the card, flowers and earrings on the dining room table, were she watches tv and does her hair in the mornings before work. She went downstairs and bam, she was surprised and happy. She told me, she thought I'd forgotten and that it was even earlier, nice surprise. :D

Now she did not buy me anything. No card, no sex that day or night, nothing. The next day, our actual anniversary, I was getting down and depressed, so I read that 10 points on LD's posted on TAM and sad thing is, all 10 points describe my wifee to the letter. :( So I printed them out and placed them on the coffee table because she sleeps on the couch after her last day of work for the week and I sleep alone. She read it......I got up at 5:30am, had a shower and suddenly the bathroom door opens....At first I thought it was the cat pushing his way in, nope. Then I thought it was air pressure opening the door, nope. It was Mrs.CuddleBug, completely naked, and I honestly thought she wanted to use the bathroom, so I told her, I can wait outside. She didn't want to use the bathroom, took me to the bedroom and we had great sex!!! So for the first time in 15 years, Mrs.CuddleBug and I were naked together in the bathroom and had sex before I went to work.

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So two main things that started her thinking about her low sex drive and how it effects me and our marriage, 5 love languages quiz and the 10 points of someone who is LD posted on TAM.


Did I do good ladies??? Advice? :scratchhead:

Is it normal for the ladies not to buy anything for their man for their anniversaries, just the way it is, tradition?

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Any Advice?? Living with A Grump :(

Hi Everybody,

Any advice on how to handle my husband would be much appreciated.

Background: Married for about 1.5 years, been together for 10.

He's under a lot of stress right now and it will not let up until about March of next year. We're also trying to conceive (just starting to try) so I think that is also adding to his stress. I'm trying to be a supportive wife and friend, but honestly sometimes he is just so grumpy about work and he ends up taking it out on me. I need a few quick one-liners that I can try to get him to stop dumping. Everyone has bad days, but I don't want him to ruin mine days with mean comments just because he's mad about work.

Here's an example: Last night, he didn't get home until very late. Came in and I knew he was in a bad mood right away. I got up and went to the door to say hello and give him a hug... he was just really disinterested (barely moved when I hugged him)... we sat on the couch together, I stopped my show to watch something he'd enjoy more since he had a rough day... he said less than 10 words to me the whole time. One word answers... I asked about his day and unfortunately had to remind him about some stuff he had forgotten that we needed to do (like book a flight). I also asked him to take his plate up when he was going to the bathroom (I've been having to pick up after him A LOT... whole other topic!). He gets up and says "Can you ever say anything nice?" Then goes to bed pissed off at me.

Typically he is loving caring and kind hubby. When he's stressed... not so much. He gets so self absorbed. Even today, he is still mad that I am "mean" for reminding him to clean up (I ask once, I don't nag! If he doesn't do it, I end up doing it). I get he is under pressure ... but I can't see the next 6 months being remotely good for our new marriage if it's going to be like this so often.

Any pointers??

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Should I break up with my GF for this ...?

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Should I break up with my GF for this ...?

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I think this is rape, but I'm not too sure as I'm a guy and EVERYONE knows men can't be raped (apparently) - because rape is being penetrated, isn't it?

I invited my GF over last night for dinner, which I made. We had a whole bottle of wine for the both of us and ended up getting quite drunk.

We got into bed round midnight. I was really tired, so I kind of refused her advances... apparently this is very unmanly-like...

I fell asleep and awoke to my GF sucking me off and fingering my bumhole.

Isn't a blowjob penetration? I mean my penis is in her mouth?

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Help

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Help

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So I was really close friends with this girl and really liked her, so decided to ask her out but she said no but still wanted to be mates and I said of cause we can still be mates. However few days later the friendship seems to have gone cold and I feel like complete idiot as now i have lost a close friend. What can I do ?

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How to stop feeling inadequate.

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How to stop feeling inadequate.

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I'm a 22-year-old female with very little sexual and romantic experience. You could say I've experienced unrequited loved which has restored to zero relationships. At Uni, I wasn't able to find a like-minded person who had feelings which reciprocated my own. At one point during my time at university, I met a person on TSR, we eventually met and I grew attached to him but he soon cut of contact with me. I resorted to online dating and met a guy who I really liked but he broke it off with me today because their was no spark. I told my family about him and I invested a lot of my emotional energy in him and now I feel embarrassed. I guess to some degree he was right, I imagine my urgency to be with someone worthwhile blurred my realism.

I think all in all my self-esteem is incredibly low. I feel inadequate. This feeling of inadequacy has been made to accumulate from my academic failures, to my best friend unexpectedly to cutting off contact with me, to being bullied, and of course, unrequited love. I try to push on and pretend I'm strong enough to handle it all, but I'm a just a fragile soul, and I just don't know how much more I can take of it without going insane.

Do I resort to counselling?

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Not sure if to dump my boyfriend or not

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Not sure if to dump my boyfriend or not

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I am going to university next week, we have been dating for 1-2 months. While he understands I will be busy and won't see him very often, he really wants to carry on dating me long-distance for a little bit just to try it out and see if it goes anywhere. I am really reluctant to do this, because I'm not sure if I can stay committed, or if I even want to stay committed - its not so much that I'll be jumping into bed with another guy straight away, but its only been a little while and I really don't know what my feelings are towards him. I fancy him (thats why I'm dating him) but going long-distance feels like a step in the relationship that I'm not ready to take. I'd rather throw myself into university life without ties back to my hometown. But we do like eachover so it does seem a shame to waste it.

Would I be stupid to throw this away, or is it the right thing to do? My gut says to dump him, but I don't feel I have a proper reason to do it.

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I'm worried that I won't fit in at university

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I'm worried that I won't fit in at university

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I'm not sure why but I keep having this feeling that I'll be left alone and miserable at university. I am quite sociable, and make friends pretty easily (in college I did anyway), but I don't drink or party, I'm fairly quiet and introverted and I am quite independent too I suppose. Sometimes, I get really shy in new situations and might isolate myself. I'm anxious that during freshers week, for example, all my flatmates could go drinking and clubbing, and ask me to come along and I'll have to decline and just stay inside and be depressed.

I've seen the societies at my university, and none of them really stand out to me to be honest, a few freshers events seem appealing, just like tours of the city etc, but I'm worried I'll end up doing it all alone. When I move away, I won't know anybody, none of my friends are coming to this university and I barely know my way round.

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How many of you would never consider a 5ft 4 guy romantically?

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How many of you would never consider a 5ft 4 guy romantically?

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• 20 hours ago 20h ago

I've heard plenty of girls say thigns like "I would only go out with someone 5ft 10 or above etc"

I'm 5ft 4, and I'm curious as to how many girls would never go out with someone of that height.

This should be a simple yes/no question. Don't worry about offending me. And I'm not interested in responses along the lines of "Height isn't everything/personality is more important/just be nice and you'll get a girlfriend etc". I just want to know how many people respond yes or no.

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What did she mean when she called me cute?

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What did she mean when she called me cute?

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Basically me and my mate(he's like a celebrity-everyone knows him) were walking from our common area to our lesson and my mate paused to talk with a girl,when he walked towards me he said that the girl "had some growing feelings for you" , me thinking hes just having a laugh i said "for you,you mean" and he said "no for you." Than the girl out of the blue said "Your cute y'know." My friend then looked at me and gave me that "I know your gassed smile." Me not knowing what to say quickly cut off to my lesson(we go to different lessons).Tbh this isnt the first time ive seen this girl(shes in my form and during the taster she was the first person i talked to). She's fairly nice and when i was in the study area she gave a small wave and asked whether i was okay.

So is she calling me cute because I'm not particularlly talkative around girls in our sixth form(i want to a boys school so i have to adjust...) or because she genuinely means it.

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