Is it better to be single? - The Revived Thread

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Is it better to be single? - The Revived Thread

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Check here for the first posts: http://ift.tt/1zBCBD8

There are some interesting posts in the original thread.

Personally, I think the question is worded in absolute terms which is what makes it so unlikely to be agreed with anyone. I agree with the views saying that the unspoken rules of social conformity might put some pressure in staying in a relationship, as well as with the opinion that in some cases individuals enter in a relationship because of self-esteem issues.

So the way I see it, whether it is better or not depends on what you want a relationship for and whether you can have that outside a relationship under conditions that you deem acceptable.

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Girls. Do you enjoy or look for casual sex?

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Girls. Do you enjoy or look for casual sex?

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• 20 hours ago 20h ago

Girls, this question has probably already been done so sorry in advance, just wondering what our your opinions on casual sex?

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Should I contact her?

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Should I contact her?

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I'm a guy. I and a girl were best friends till September last year when I asked her out. She rejected initially; then was unclear about her decision saying I made her rush and put her on the spot;then rejected me after some days. I was moving to a far away city when I asked her out: that might have played some role in the rejection - she also told me other reasons for the rejection.

After this incidence, we made up just before I moved to the new city. But things got out of hand due to interference from other people (gossips etc). She was angry and we decided to end our friendship. However, we made up again - I think.

She initiated contact once in a while but I initiated most of the contact between September and December (we chatted probably about 6 times in this period). I invited her for an event in which I was getting an award in November at her uni: she rejected the invitation and never asked me how the event went. I forgot this episode and contacted her a week post-event. Also, I went for a concert at her uni and I told her I would be coming; all she gave was a thumbs up. I was not happy and didn't respond to her reply but went to the uni still.

In christmas break, I went home for holiday. Our mutual friend (a guy) who knew about all that happened planned that three of us should meet during the holiday. We had to change dates to fit her work schedule (she chose the date). Then on christmas day, I asked her if she would meet up as planned. She said: "I'm tired. Too much stress from my job. I will let you know of another day when we can meet." Anyway, she never contacted me afterwards.

Now, we have not spoken since christmas day. I must say that I have lost all the romantic feelings for her. Also, I no longer have the same friendly affection that I used to have for her. But I still care about her as a friend (although I don't count her as my friend anymore.)

Recently, she's posted some things online which makes me feel that she might be going through a lot. She posted these:

"Feeling like myself for the first time in forever. Learning about life as I go along but I'm still me"

"Never let your feelings get too deep, people can change at any moment"

"What can you do when the love turns to hate??"

I know these quotes are not about me because it is very recent and our problems happened last September till about November.

Anyway, I have this urge to contact her and check on her but I am too proud to do so (because she does not make the effort to contact or meet up).

Does anyone have any advice for me? Should I contact her, swallow my pride and free myself of the urge?

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I like a guy who's in a relationship!

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I like a guy who's in a relationship!

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So I like this guy in my school. He's in one of my lessons and I like him. Problem is he has a girlfriend in the US. I'm quite annoyed, they've been together for 10 months. What do I do? Do I just stop talking to him or what. It stresses me out.

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My Boyfriend of over a year won't go out with me on Valentines day...

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My Boyfriend of over a year won't go out with me on Valentines day...

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He always refuses to meet up with me for some reason or another and I just don't know why. We're 16 and its completely ridiculous. He's so sweet and lovely but I just don't understand why he won't meet up with me. He's going to boarding school next year for sixth form so if it carries on this way I'll never see him! I'm just really upset he won't even meet me on Valentines, help??!

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I think I'm bi ... but don't want to be

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I think I'm bi ... but don't want to be

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So recently I've found some females really attractive (mostly older than me, I don't crush on girls my age - I'm 17) but I'm a little worried because I always thought of growing up, getting married and having children. Maybe I'm too young to be thinking about those things and it's my hormones talking but I've had a crush on this female for about a year now and it's taking over my life

Don't get me wrong, I totally support homo and am not homophobic but the thought of MYSELF being bi is quite disturbing since I come from a religious family and my parents + brother disapprove of homo.

I'm constantly trying to make them see that being homo isn't a bad thing but they just say it's unnatural :/ hearing them say this is making me feel really bad about myself and I don't know what to do!!

Any advice? :(

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Am I totally in the friend zone with this girl?

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Am I totally in the friend zone with this girl?

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I work with this girl. She's very upbeat with me, confident etc. she teases me, makes fun of me, calls me names, likes to talk to me. Calls me by my full name sometimes, she's started calling me 'love' on occasion for some reason. When We look at eachother she looks at me with a big grin on her face, sometimes I talk to her and she randomly starts smiling and laughing? When I've been talking to her, on a few occasions she just randomly comes out with 'awww look at you!' When Im in the middle of talking to her. She seems to think I'm very funny. I was joking about how I'm going to get a Valentine's date, and she was laughing at my story and then told another girl about it. She sometimes also subtly touches me, or brushes against me. She has a bf who she does occasionally talk about, so I asked something about him, she be like, 'I don't know I don't listen to him'

I do have a soft spot for this girl, and yes I know she has a bf and I dont Intend to do anything, I'm just curious for my own experience whether this is definate friend zone behaviour?

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What is it about "the one that got away"?

Seems like this has popped up a couple times recently. Soul mates don't exist. So that one that got away? Forget it. You can have every bit as awesome of a relationship if you can live in the present and find someone else OR learn to live in the present with your spouse.

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Discovered H's 6 YEAR co-worker EA/PA recently.. ?'s

Okay, here's the deal... We've been married for 15 yrs w/5 kids. I had suspected for many years that 'something' wasn't right, but I didn't have any proof. Although I would confront him on many occasions regarding certain things that were amiss in our marriage, he would reassure me, blame me or whatever, and I never researched further. (Stupid, I know.) Before the recent holidays, I checked my husband's phone and found a voicemail from a co-worker, a married woman w/ children. I had suspected for many years that 'something' wasn't right, but I didn't have any proof. I had even gone to counseling (after marriage counseling failed a few years ago) to learn how to love & respect him while in a loveless marriage.

After much research & disclosure: They had been in an extensive EA/PA, daily, for at least 6 YEARS! After I confronted him, he ended things via email with her that weekend and has been striving to be honest, transparent and save our marriage. He's been affectionate, thoughtful, engaged and well, everything he hasn't been prior. I've never seen this part of him - ever.

If I didn't find that voicemail, they probably would've continued. One moment he is content in their fantasy adulterous affair & lying to me repeatedly... but once I find out, he decides he really does want me after all these years. Not sure what to believe. I question if he is just not wanting the divorce.

He's doing everything he can to keep me, including MC & IC. I would love to be loved by him, if this new person is really who he is. BUT I don't even KNOW him apparently, and I don't know that I can get passed all that he has done. I do feel like I need to TRY to work through this and see what God can do in our lives before I just give up.

Has anyone attended Family Dynamics Institute's... A New Beginning seminars???

I have read a lot on the internet about affairs. I have yet to find an affair recovery based on this same intensity and length of time. Anyone??

Also, I'm getting mixed counsel about him changing jobs due to the co-worker. Stay at the job to focus on R or move? If we move and change jobs, some say it will interfere w/ R bc of the new stresses. Yet, every morning, I wonder if she or he will start this again without my knowledge and anxiety gets the best of me.

(btw, I can't stay in this city - too many triggers with all of their lunches and nooners.) How do I choose to move with him when I'm not sure this "new person" he is showing is legit?

Thanks, in advance...

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I'm torn apart

Hi all, I caught my wife cheating Jan. 16th. I'm a 35 year old man who has been in a relationship with the same woman for 18 years. I finally married her a little over a year ago. In 18 years I have been completely faithful. We have three beautiful children together, A daughter 17, a son 16, and a 8 year old boy.
I've been with my wife since high school. When we first started dating she was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend for a few months. That really hurt me and took me years to get over but I did get over it.
Im an industrial electrician and make a descent living but about 8 months ago I asked my wife to get a job at a local manufacturing facility in town to help out with finances and help save for our next home purchase. She found a job and things were going great. now I will admit the last couple years I have been distant from my wife, I found out she had been abusing pain pills. I am very against drug users. Her teeth began to decay, she laid in bed all day, so yeah I became distant. I repeatedly tried to help her but she of course denied everything, so she just pushed me away further. We did have a sex life but it was limited to maybe twice a month.
anyways back to the story.
I work first shift and she works second shift. My hrs. are 7 am to 3 pm and hers were 4 pm to 12 am. the last few weeks leading up to Jan. 16th I started noticing her dolling herself up with makeup ect. and as soon as I would walk in at 3:15 she would say I got to go, her job was a 5 min drive. Basically to sum this all up. I logged onto my cell account and went under the text log for her phone and seen where she had been texting the same number starting at about 2 pm until about 2 am daily for months. She admitted to me it started i8n Nov. and she had sex with him once and performed oral sex twice. The sex she later admitted after I went after this man was had in our family car! It was also unprotected and they were scared she was pregnant! She said she had no feelings for him what so ever . Turns out she isn't pregnant. her lover was more than honest with me after I went after him twice. She is begging for my forgiveness and doesn't want me to leave her.
What should I do? I am so crushed... I will say, (and im not conceited in any way) I am a very good looking man and would not have a problem moving on. I love this woman with all my heart but everytime I look at her I get angry and emotional. I could have cheated on her so many times including with her friends but believe it or not I have morals. I think she knows she messed up because im a very hard working man, a great father, and a devoted husband...But im really not sure anymore...PLEASE HELP!

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Valentine's Day

Newly separated and dreading today. Instead of sitting inside like a hermit, I am baking cookies with my little one, and have a babysitter coming so I can go see an unromantic movie tonight. How are you weathering today?

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Fighting for my Marriage

So about two years ago my husbands father passed a away. We had to move in with him mother because even through she is fairly young she can't really take care of herself. His father did everything for her. The money she getting from his pension doesn't cover the household bills. So because we didn't have a house at the time we moved in with her.

The first year I tried to do as much for my husband as I could to make things easier. He resents all that we have to do for his mother. There is history there, stories that he has told me that make him very resentful of his mother, but as an only child he is doing what he feels needs to be done.

Lately, I feel more like a personal assistant than a wife. I make his appointments and her doctors appointments. I work from home so I rearrange my schedule to take her to doctors appointments, because she can't drive herself she won't drive on a highway. She has at least 3 or appointments a month. I can ask my husband to take off from work to help out but I feel bad doing that.
My husband leaves every morning at 4:00 am to get a parking spot outside of work doesn't start work until 6:30 so he sleeps in his car for an hour. Three days a week he works until 7 pm because we need the money from the overtime. Money is always tight but we always find a way to make it work.

We haven't had sex in a year and now I am going through fertility treatments to try and get pregnant.

I love my husband and I know that we have both been faithful and to be honest I can't imagine my life without the man I married. He and I ended up talking about this last night and he got very upset. Honestly if I were to leave him right now he would say that it is no more than he deserves, but I don't want to leave him I want to fight for my marriage but I'm not sure if he has any fight left and I'm not sure if I should tell him to fight...

I'm just not sure what to do. I am worried about my marriage. I go to a therapist and he went to a different once twice. He went for me but I couldn't force him to keep going.

Sometimes I think the only reason he would notice if I left is that the bills wouldn't be paid and he would have to take his mother everywhere.

Not sure anyone can help but definitely needed to put this out there...any advice welcome. Thank you

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Can't on day just be about me!!!

So this weekend is vday and our 5yr wedding anniversary, so usually in the past my hubby has never done anything special, till today I wake up to roses and a ring wow I was surprised he did anything. Then I see a small flower arrangement and I'm like aww for our daughter, uh no he says oh I'm taking it to my mom. I'm like wtf really , I know I sound like a brat but honestly i think I've earned one day, I've gone through birthdays Christmas mothers days easter always him making sure to get her something and me I've never gotten a gift for mothers day, I have 2 children, I think this is the 2nd vday I get anything, and Christmas never, I've always done something special for him no matter what. I'm just like really on Valentines day our anniversary you still need to get your mother something? Now I may be a little biased because me and his mother don't get along she's talked horrible to me doesn't really see our kids unless we take them to her but he sees her perfect. Should I be upset or what??

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David Wells

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Do you love me?

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Do you love me?

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Are you ready to satisfy my personal desires?" It is a display of my ego. We are witnessing an increase in the incidence of divorce and breakups of the family. But is this trend a sign of a reassessment of this generation's values?

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Girls grinding/dancefloor.....

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Girls grinding/dancefloor.....

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Would you or have you been fingered on dancefloor, see it all the time, and it really puts a bad opinion on girls for me.

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Ladies, is 6 inch a good penis size?

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Ladies, is 6 inch a good penis size?

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Is this a pleasurable penis size when erect? Would you prefer slightly bigger or smaller?

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