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Is it wrong to be over complimenting to a girl?

Is it wrong to be over complimenting to a girl? I'll admit I'm a nice guy and I say nice things to a girl I met on the Internet know she said its annoying and I want to understand why being nice is wrong. Before when we first started talking online she said I was different to her friends and I was nicer than the, and she liked that. Why would she change her mind? I want to be plutonic friends with her don't friends says nice things to each other? Even if we were in a relationships din't couples say nice things to each other?




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Very confused and need advice.

I am in a dilemma and i'm not sure what to do, if anything at all. I came here hoping for any advice.
I am a 16 year old bisexual girl and have been in love with one of my best friends for almost 1 and a half years now. She's straight and we have a mutual understanding that its definatley unrequited and no ones fault and she's lovely about it. It hasn't affected our friendship at all, if anything it has brought us closer together. I recently met a guy who is very sweet, we got on really well and he asked me out. I said yes and we have been going out for 4 months now in the hope that I would get over her and maybe fall for this guy who is a sweetheart.
However this hasn't happened and i'm still in love with her while i'm still going out with him and I just cant help making comparisons and feeling guilty, like i'm leading him on. He's a lovely guy and i don't want to hurt him.
I don't know whether i should keep going out with him and carry on making comparisons to the girl i'm in love with and feeling guilty about it, or...what? I don't know what to do, any advice you could give would be so greatly appreciated. Thank you.




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How do I know if my relationship is ending!?!

So here's the deal...I am a bi-sexual guy and so is my boyfriend. I know that he wants to sleep with women and he hasn't (that I know of) because he knows I wouldn't like it. It seems like our relationship has been going down hill for the past couple months...we only have sex like maybe a couple times a month...he says its because he's just not always in the mood for sex...I feel like he doesn't feel like sex with me...I did something that I'm not proud of last night and looked through his phone. I found a few things that he never mentioned to me...one was a text conversation between him and a female that he has hooked up with in the past...she asked him if he is in a relationship and he told her no. Then she asked if he was interested in casual sex with her and he said yes. Does that mean he has full intention of being with her and hiding it from me? I have always told him that he can sleep with women if he needs to, but he always said he would never hide it from me...We have talked about finding a women that would be interested in being with both of us at the same time...Its not something that is easy to come across but we haven't tried enough to say we really gave it a chance! We are together most of the time so I know that he's not out sleeping around all the time, but its hard to believe that he only wants sex once a month! He also has a profile on a bunch of gay and straight dating/hook up sites...It doesn't look like he is very active on them, but why is such a secret!? I don't know what to do. I love him so much and i do believe he loves me, but i just am not sure if i can completely trust him or not.
What do you think? Any suggestions are appreciated!
Thanks!




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Is he cheating??

Hi guys I have a dilemma for you and I would like your advice. To make a long story short, my husband and I have been married for about 2 months and we are on vacation here in India. He is Indian btw, anyway we went up to the hills the other day and we were looking for a room and we saw a young girl around 18 and he asked her about a room and she was like ok I will show you MY HUSBAND around and that I ME can stay there and she and my husband will go and look for the room and for me to rest. But I was like no I want to come because I need the exercise

Anyway the next day we went walking and we met into the 18 year old girls brother and he and my husband were talking and stuff and then they wanted to go back up to the hills where they live with his 18 year old sister that girl that showed us around the other day. So my husband was like come with us but me I was like no baby I want to stay here. And he was like you sure and I was like yes. So that was around 6:30pm in the evening and he came back around 9pm that night. When he came back, he seemed different or strange. I couldn't put my finger on it. Almost distant like his mind was somewhere else and I was like you ok? And he was like Yes. But it was just words because his face and just his ora seemed different. Like his mind was somewhere else. Anyway that night we went to bed and do you know the very next morning he got up and went straight back up them hills? He said he tried waking me up to come with him I think I remember him pushing me but I was tired. Anyway when I finally got up I realized that he was not there at 9:30am and so I called him and asked him, where are you? And he was kind of stumbling like well you know dear I tried waking you up to come with me. I'm like come with you where? Where are you? And he said that he is at Aunties house. Auntie is the 18 year old girls mother that he calls Auntie. So I was like what the hell is so important up in those hills that you wake up early in the morning to go back up there from last night? So he was trying to give excuses. And so I said, You know what, stay there, I'm leaving and going back to America. And he kept trying to explain but I hung up the phone on him

Let me tell you that those hills from where we are staying is at least 30 minutes away from our hotel, that guy got to my hotel room in literally like 10 minutes. I really don't know how he did that. But he grabbed the internet stick away from me to stop me from calling the airlines. And I was like I don't know what is so important that you leave early in the morning to go back up to those hills. So I asked him, are you having sex with somebody up there or with that 18 year old girl. And he said no, I swear and that he just loves going up there because Auntie is Punjabi just like him and the part of INdia that we are in is for foreigners and not Indians from Punjab.

Anyway ever since that day May 6, 2013 when he came in that night, he seemed different. Now let me tell you something else. He does take me up there with him everytime he goes up there. But I sense this 18 year old girl is too friendly with him. Right in front of me. BUT in all sincerity, she is friendly with all the guys and foreigners there. But he just met this girl the other day and calls her his sister. And that I am crazy and nasty. He says here is India once you say someone is your sister, they don't even think of anything sexual like that. He says that my mind is very dirty. It's not that my mind is dirty, It's just that I know men. Then she's gonna tell me that I must trust him Also right in front of me, she asks me for his skype Id, and at first I was like ok but then I asked her why and she was like WHY NOT HE IS MY BROTHER. So at that time my husband was high on marijuana it is legal to smoke it there and he said to her, the reason why is because she don't trust me and I was like that is not true and she was like ok alright it is ok no fighting.

Also ever since that day May 6, 2013 those people in the hills act like they own my husband. The mother he calls Auntie, that 18 year old girl and the brother. Constantly calling him and if he does not go because I don't feel comfortable with him going up to the hills to be around that 18 year old girl, then those people get angry WHY. Perfect example is when he was leaving the hills because I told him to stay that and I'm going back to America, The Auntie mother woman said why are you going and he said because my wife and she said SO. And then he said, I'm sorry I got to go. These people don't respect me. What the hell is going on. And now last night there was the brothers birthday party and we did not go and they kept calling him like crazy and he said that he is not going and I heard him in the bathroom talking to the 18 year old girl lets call her Priya and it looked like he was trying to explain and then it seemed like she might have hung up the phone because next thing you know he stopped saying Priya Priya and then all of a sudden he started saying Auntie and was explaining to Auntie.

After he got off the phone, he said to me, WE ARE GOING TO THAT PARTY. And I said," No I am not going. And he started yelling and then all of a sudden he said," GO BACK HOME TO AMERICA AND I WILL SEND YOU ONE PAPER AND YOU SIGN IT FOR A DIVORCE and I was like WHAT? HE WAS LIKE BOOK YOUR TICKET NOW. I started crying and was like ok I will and I will leave you alone but as I was crying I said you are very ungrateful and what goes around will come around. So as I was booking my ticket he stopped me and said that he loved me and that not to go. He was angry. That was yesterday. Do you know all day today this man's mind is somewhere else. Looking into the ceiling, blank stares into the wall. What the hell is going on? His mind does not seem to be here with me at all. I ask him are you ok what's wrong and he keeps telling me nothing. Nothing. Keep in mind that I've done alot of things for this man. His family abandoned him. When he was in trouble nobody was there for him but me. I 've helped him out with money. How can he put his attention on people he just met a week ago and he has known me for 3 years?What the hell is going on guys can you please tell me and also tell me what do you think I should do thanks. I really need all your replies. Thanks




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Want divorce-feel obligated

Hello.
I am an almost 24 year old american female married to a 31 year old native-to-vietnam male.
We have been married just under 5 months together almost 3.5 years.
When we started dating, he just moved here from Russia and I just quit doing drugs and have since been sober. We had a tumultuous relationship from the start, with huge blowups and breakups regularly. He would often restrain me, sometimes I pushed back. If he didn't answer his phone I would search campus for him. I was jealous of one of his female co-workers. I had no other friends and only now am in contact with a female high school friend.
I was living on campus and then moved home.
We had sex 7 months in. It was an accident on his part because he didn't think it would go in easily. He was a virgin, I was not. The next morning we were having an issue with him restraining me and I took his penis and proceeded to have sex with him against his slight protests in retaliation. Since then the only instance of non-desired sex was a couple months into the marriage when he got mad at me for telling him that he had physically forced me into a chair, threw my diary, threw his glasses at me for making a face, threw a chair, then told me to look up divorce papers (I had never before considered divorce). I had decided to go through with the divorce. That same night had sex without resisting even though I didn't want to, and was unresponsive.
About a year into the relationship, I broke up with him. He came to see me and I slapped him when he tried to kiss me. He then pushed me down the hall towards a down-going flight of stairs.
About six months later, we were driving to his apartment, and I felt so overwhelmingly that I wanted to get away from him that I considered getting out of the car at a red light. When we got there I ran away. He pursued. I climbed over the backyard fence of a residence with the aid of a chair and he followed. He brought me back near the apartment. Something I said angered him and he slapped me very hard. I was calm and compliant for at least the rest of the night.
About 14 months ago on his birthday his friends decided to have an impromptu birthday dinner for him. He and I had celebrated his birthday the night before, and I already had plans to help a mutual friend learn how to drive. He answered my call when I had finished, didn't invite me and hurriedly got off. I was advised to wait for him to call me. He did not call me. I called him for 5 days and he never responded. I was in agony, sobbing at my internship. We ended up meeting at church through an acquaintance.
We moved in together 10 months ago and got married just under 5 months ago.
The next incident after marriage involved something, us having sex, him leaving without a word, me being upset and walking off, him looking for me and me returning 20 minutes later. After that we discussed that I was unhappy and divorce might be best.
I realize that unhappiness is not a reason for divorce and that happiness comes from the person.
He left only to return to sleep on the couch that night and then left again the next day to give me space. When he returned that evening, I told him I wanted divorce. He said he didn't and asked if we could give our marriage another chance. I agreed. He wouldn't go to counseling with me after we got married but before this when we were having other issues, said he would during this, but then wouldn't again afterwards.
One month later, three nights ago, we had another incident. We were on the couch after work, watching a movie. I noticed he was sleeping and was tired and tried to get up to go take a nap on the bed and he held me down and restrained me. I think I told him what I wanted to do. He wanted me to kiss him so that he would let me go but the way he was doing it made me uncomfortable. He thinks that that is me overreacting and that it is his right to restrain me whenever he wants. He has told my mom that sometimes he does things or frustrates me to teach me lessons, and said that I needed to be trained. I got away and went to the bedroom. He followed me and pinned me down, restraining me to the bed. I tried to get away and he again wanted me to kiss him but I wouldn't. He was trying to kiss me and I was turning my head repeatedly to avoid him. Eventually, I punched, or hit him with my fist, on the back five times. He was on top of me. Then, I did the same, twice, to his head. Then, I bit his lip. He still didn't let me go and was trying to kiss me. Eventually he stopped but was still restraining me. I apologized 20 minutes later but he did not. I felt so bad about hitting him that I started to think about suicide and look up methods online. The next day, after being prompted by a co-worker, I told him that he can't restrain me. He said he can. Last night I told him I want a divorce after talking to someone at work who thinks he is abusive and that my future would be negatively affected by having him in it.
Also, throughout the relationship there have been a couple periods where I was upset about the relationship and felt hopeless and that suicide would be easier than breaking up with him and would imagine ways of killing myself with my car, and when I would drive home from school I would be thinking about actually driving my car off the highway overpass.
Do you think counseling could save this marriage? My mother went through emotional and physical abuse with my father and I don't want to. I feel I made a mistake and want out, but not having tried counseling, and he said he would last night, I feel obligated to try, but son't want to and have no motivation or investment in the relationship. I feel like I haven't grown since I quit drugs, and don't know what's out there. I helped him improve his English and his green card came in the mail this week. Id we divorce, I would still be financially responsible for him.
Thank you.




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Interested or a tease?

So this cute girl I know lately has been complimenting how I look all the time. Also she has been around me more often and we have made a lot of eye contact lately if that means anything. So is this girl being a tease or is she interested in me. Thank you for your thoughts.




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How long before 'I love you' IF you knew the person before dating?

Do people fall in love faster with someone they knew before getting together?
If you have personal experiences, how long did you know them and how long before saying it?




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Would you die for your bf/gf/person you're in love with?

Simple question really :)




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im obsessed. please help. need tips!

Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost 7 weeks now.

At first he liked me a lot, would want to see me every day, text me constantly/get annoyed if i didnt reply quickly, be jealous if i hung out with friends etc.

Now he seems to have calmed down and Im being really irrational. Im convincing myself he doesnt like/doesnt want to see me.

We havent stayed at each others house now for almost 2 weeks and he doesnt even seem bothered- like before he used to kick up a fuss, whereas now when i say id like to see him, he isnt as interested.

Im getting really obsessed in that Im thinking about him none stop, but not in a ''aww im so infatuated'' way but more in a really depressed obsessed way.

The same thing happened with my ex- it got to the point where I didnt enjoy the relationship because my head was so fulfilled with him and the thought he would break up with me/cheat on me.

I really dont know how to relax. I have hobbies, a job, other friends but nothing matters apart from him. I dont want to be like this, its making me really unhappy. In the first few weeks of our relationship I was happy because he seemed interested and I wasnt totally involved. But now everything else is boring and my life seems to be centreing around him!

Please help me, its driving me mad. Ive been so depressed today because he hasnt text me as much as he normally would/hasnt asked to see me, even when i offered and normally hed jump at the chance.

How can i stop being so obsessed in my head?




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I've been put in a strange situation and I don't know what to do?

I've had my eye on this girl since we were 14 but I never did anything because A. I'm a ***** and B. I've always understood that she wasn't after a boyfriend. Now we're 18 and she's known I've liked her for pretty much the whole time but we are really good friends. About a month ago I'd finally plucked up the courage to ask her out to go to see a comedian with tickets I got for my birthday but that same day she told me she had a boyfriend from outside of school which obviously surprised me (as per what I said earlier) and made me think that all my chances were over. But now ever since then she has been giving me a lot of the signs of her being interested, especillay last night which was our 6th form leavers ball, which she has never done before, even publicly on Facebook, which her boyfriend can surely see, which is the last thing I would do e.g. her profile picture is of me with my arm around her that we had taken at the ball. She has been saying things like "I'm only really with him because he's hot, he's quite boring really, he doesn't make me laugh like you do" I don't how much she meant that and it was at the beginning of the relationship so she might have warmed to him a bit more since then.

I don't really understand what's going on or what I should do and I was wondering if someone here could help me? I still want to ask her out but I really value our friendship and I don't want to ruin what we do have




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Is it an addiction or not caring?

Hi everyone,
I don't know if this is a common topic or not, but I'm struggling to understand whether or not my husband has a sexual addiction or not. We've been married two years, and while dating lived separately. For the first 3 months of dating, I was unaware of how much he was looking at porn and webcams. I discovered this while using his computer one day and told him I did not like the webcams at all, and asked if he could restrict it to just porn since that wasn't live. He agreed.

Of course, fast forward months later I find out that he never stopped and only continued more frequently. . . This sort of continued on, except each time I became more upset. We got married, lived together and I thought that things were alright. How easy could it be to hide that sort of thing, right? Wrong. When I took showers, left the house for a break from the kids, took naps, ect. he 9 out of 10 times took that chance to look at porn and webcams.

It did come to a point where I would begin to cry and told him how much it hurt me that he couldn't respect my feelings on it. He says he understands and he loves me and doesn't mean to hurt me, he "doesn't know" why he looks at it. This has been going on for two years now and we are living separately. To make matters worse, we both found out that my sister is doing underwear modeling and he has even been looking at her photos!

I discovered this three times and the third time I told him, "no excuse, that's a boundary you don't cross, if you do this one more time I can't take it!" because I can't. This is ruining my self-esteem and making me very worried and paranoid about if he's being honest. And the second he had internet access, he was looking up porn and my sister!

So what is this? He says now that he's trying everything to earn my trust and he can't live without me. That he wants to make things work. Is this him just not caring? He still answers that "he doesn't know" and he doesn't see the big deal with porn-- however if it wasn't a big deal, wouldn't it not be a big deal to just stop? I was recovering from a C-section and unable to have sex with him, but there have been times when he's too tired to have sex with me and I don't go off the deep end about it.

To make things more confusing, we're now going to marriage counseling and it has been only the first session, but the counselor told me to not monitor or check, or anything, on his internet usage. This has been going on for two years as a repetitive problem-- "this will leave the door open for him to look at porn, but (my husbands name), you need to respect her and not look at porn." But, my husband hasn't done that once... should this be treated as an addiction therefore keep the monitoring in place and actively fought against, or what?

I've seen recovering porn addicts saying that they keep monitors and filters and everything else on their computers, ect. because they do not want to slip up and they want to build trust with their spouse. I'm very confused about all of this. The issue is not with the content of porn, it's that my husband has blatantly disregarded my feelings and apologized, ran after me upset and told me he screwed up and wants to change, then gone right back to porn.

Help, opinions, anything?
I'd like to point out, bold, and highlight: He still says he doesn't see why I'm so upset about porn, however I've told him clearly that especially with the webcams, he's lied about it so many times that it now feels as if he's cheating on me with it. It really has escalated to that point of hurt. It seems he's expecting me to just forget or give up?




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Guys: how can I be the perfect girlfriend?

How can I be the perfect girl for my boyfriend? What are the Dos and Donts? What do you guys find annoying in a girlfriend?
Also I want to do something really nice for him any ideas?




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I'm going to have a breakdown

I just feel panicy as I have no money, i'm unhappy at university and just want to leave, I don't feel I want to do this with my life, its all too much sacrifice for nothing in return, the money, the being poor, the prospects of not having a job when I graduate, the months of dedicated work I put into it, the being spoken to like ****. I've spent today applying for jobs but I know I wont get a call from any of them. I don't have friends really. I just want to go and hide and have a simpler life, go back to a-levels as it was so much easier and see my family. I see people with normal 9-5 jobs and they seem so much happier than what I am. I know this is just a mess of **** I've wrote and i'm sorry.




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I told him I was lonely...

I feel a million miles apart from my partner. I miss him, I miss the friendship we used to have, I miss going out on dates and being intimate.

So today, rather than get upset with him about never spending time together, I did as he asked and I told him how I am feeling.

I told him that I feel like there is so much distance between us, that Id like to feel closeness with him again... I told him that all this distance between us has made me feel frustrated and lonely... and being 8 months pregnant I really need him right now...

His response was" We are working on it"....

We are in counseling... I am assuming he means that's how we are working on it..

In the meantime, I feel really bad... alone... overwhelmed and even frustrated.

I was hoping he would maybe respond with a way for us to spend some time together.. He is always working and I am always working or have the kids while he is working.

I don't want to argue with him...And I don't want to beg for his attention.. I told him what I need...

I just want to feel better than I am right now...

I don't have a huge support system... Any ideas for me..




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End of my marriage

It appears my marriage is now over. We have had issues for a long time, unfortunately I didn't recongnize them until after I had an affair. I think that perhaps we may have been able to work it out, however with the additional stress of the man I cheated with having both my husband and myself charged with a criminal offence, my husband is no longer willing to try to work it out.
I understand why our marriage is ending, however that doesn't make it hurt any less. We will have to sell our house, a house we both love, and I am extremely sad about that too. I'm scared to death of starting all over again, and I don't know how to handle this.
Any thoughts or advice are appreciated.




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ED issues when I initiate.

My husband & I are both confused & frustrated. We have been married for almost 20 years, have 3 kids & have had a huge turn around in our marriage in the past two years. We married young & had some really hard times over the years until we finally went away together for a vacation without our kids. From that point on our marriage totally changed (for the better). It's like we never knew each other until that point & since then it has been really great. But, we (well he) is having an issue sometimes. I have finally connected it to that when I push or initiate sex he has a hard time getting & keeping an erection. It upsets him because he really wants it & it really upsets me because I do feel rejected. Other times when he initiates everything is great, so I'm wondering if it is some kind of mental block or something. He does have high blood pressure (controlled with meds).

I'm just wondering if this could be happening because to be honest I have always been LD & he was always HD (hope I'm using those right) until two years ago. He was ALWAYS the pursuer in the bedroom, I preferred not having sex at all. Now that my kids are much older, I'm way more relaxed & things have changed on my end drastically when it comes to sex. I mentioned this to him (we were talking about the issue) & he agreed that maybe it is, he doesn't know. Any thoughts?




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Guys: do you like posh girls?

I happen to be quite well-off and as a result I'm one of those people who gets called a "rah" all the time (serious question). I have a soft spot for guys who aren't "rahs" themselves (I find working class boys, for instance, often rugged and manly) but my friends say guys don't like to date girls better off than them, especially if they seem like the stereotype. I'm not stuck up but is this true? Would you find the following traits unattractive?

  • Always travelling everywhere/doing voluntourism
  • Speaking with a posh accent
  • Playing mostly stereotypical upper class sports like lacrosse etc.
  • Being highly educated and opinionated
  • Having a double barrelled name
  • Dressing in stuff like Abercrombie and Fitch/Jack Wills
  • Running loads of events for charity
  • Not worrying about money (but not flaunting it either)




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Two years out and still just coping...whats wrong with me?

Nearly 2 years since 1st Dday(for second A) and 10 wks since 2nd Dday(1st affair 20 years ago that I never knew about). In between lots of great reconciliation and rebuilding and falling in love again. Husband remorseful, understanding the depths of hurt he caused, grateful for a second and third chance and the depths of love I have for him. However...while most of my days are good, optimistic, living for the love we create day by day, there are still times when I feel this huge pool of anger, resentment and sense of loss overwhelm me, causing me to look at him with (lets be honest) distaste and disrespect. I dwell on the negative characteristics of his personality and values that led him to choose the selfish and cowardly alternative to simply approaching me and communicating his unhappiness and needs. I wonder over and over again how much of my life was a waste while I lived under false impressions of who my husband was and what my marriage was in truth. I resent that my husband could have worked with me to improve our marriage and allow me to grow into the better person, a more loving wife by being honest but choose deception and lies, thus thwarting any improvement for either of us. I still grieve for the loss of my dream to be his "beloved". At times, I feel valueless and unprotected because of his choices that affected my life so greatly. He is trying, but finds it hard to be there when I need to talk or question...possibly because of the feelings they generate in himself when forced to face my hurt. I want, deserve the passion and excitement he took from me and gave to another...so much so that sometimes I even wonder how it would be to have an affair myself! While I would never do it because I know first hand how destructive it would be, I still fantasize about it...
So, how do I move on...how do I take all the lessons learned and the pain felt and transform it forever into a doubtfree and loving marriage, full of respect and trust? All I want is for the bitterness and sadness to disappear once and for all.




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Experimented with drugs at a young age help!!!

Im just turned 18 and I mixed with the wrong crowd and got involved with drugs at a very young age. From 14 up until 16 I kind of got a reputation for myself. I slept with around 16 guys during this time some of them being A LOT older than me..

I'm kinda over it now, I've changed, got a boyfriend, working hard at school, new friends and finishing my a levels and off to UNI to study biochemistry :)

my boyfriend is very naive and has no idea of this party life people out there are living, if i told him he would NEVER UNDERSTAND. I have been with 2 years and he doesn't know how many guys I slept with or how often I took drugs and other bad things I did... Do I tell him?
Im thinking it would just put him off me so much and he would never get over it
i don't want to loose him

can I just leave the past in the past? Or am I really wrong for doing this




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Shy guy

There's something about this guy.
He doesn't talk much at all. I managed to get him to open up a little more, he mentioned studying music production and wanting to become a rapper, so he can't be all that shy right?
I know conversations should come naturally but he is really quiet.

How do I approach this?




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What should i do?

Hi, basically my problem is that, 2 years ago whilst at university, i met this girl, she was in my classes, so we saw alot of eachother and just like that we got on really well, i really liked her and from the signs she showed, i think she liked me. But me being kinda shy i held out on askin her out, i just wanted to wait for the right time.

So 2 years go by like that, we talk with each other, text each other. Then i made up my mind that i would ask her out, i planned to make this day valentines day. So like 2 weeks before this day, i see her and ask her how things were going, and thats where she dropped it, she stated that she had been on a night out with her boyfreind, when she said those words my heart just sank. So i asked her more about him, trying as hard as i can to hold back my feelings, she told me that she had been with him for 2 years. I wanted to tell her my true feelings for her, but i just couldnt, and i think she kind of new how i felt about her.


Now since then i hardly ever talk to her and try to ignore her as much as i can, but i still love her, and i just cant get over her, it feel like ive been betrayed or is it just me, i dont know what to do anymore.




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