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Lanolin For Penis

Over the past few months I gradually started experiencing desensitization in my penis glans. It took forever for me to ejaculate to the point where it was frustrating and tiring. I have a very high sex drive and can get rock-hard erections, but my penis just wasn't feeling very sensitive. I remembered my wife using lanolin on her nipples when breastfeeding to keep them from cracking and drying out. I picked up a tube of pure lanolin from CVS and began applying it to my glans after every shower. It's been about 6 weeks and now my glans feels smoother, softer, and more sensitive than ever. I sometimes wish I still had a foreskin to protect my glans.

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Physically or mentally challenged partners

I have seen lots of wounded warriors and I wondered how people do or would deal with a partner that became physically or mentally disabled. Both physically and emotionally? Marriage is hard enough when 2 people are working together, what happens when 1 becomes unable to help? Can the marriage work out? Is there lots of resentment? Do you go outside of the marriage for physical and emotional support? Or do you pick up and run?

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So confused!

I am new here and I really need some advice. I am 26 and me and my husband have been married for almost5 years now. We have 2 boys one 4 one 11 months. We have had issues in the past but always worked through them. When our second born was 3 weeks old, my husband left me. He had grown distant sometime before and totally shut me out. I found out after he left that he had been talking to another woman whom I did not like considering she had been trying to come between us for years because she was in love with him. When I asked about it he said it wasn't anything other than talking as friends with her. I struggled with our separation and dealing with 2 kids on m own and I went into a depression and struggled with anxiety. I got on medication to help and then a week later found out he slept with her after he left my house from staying and helping me get through the anxiety attacks and stuff. After a while I agreed to work things out and move on. I recently switched jobs and he has been acting like he did before...pushing me away and ignoring me...he says it is because he is stressed with bills and things like that. I have been having old feelings come back about the whole incident with him and this other woman and I don't know how to move forward. I love him and I do forgive him for what has happened, but I don't know if I can get over it. Please help me...I'm having more anxiety recently because of all of this and I don't know what to do.

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Constant texter....

This girl that works in the same building as me was going on a trip to a different provincial park, which I am very familiar with, so a couple of weeks ago before she left I gave her my cell phone number in case she needed extra directions, etc. while she was in the area. She texts me a ton though....I am finding it way too much. While on her trip she will text me what she is doing the whole time...i.e., I have stopped and am taking a coffee break before heading out on the hiway, etc. etc. On Thursday she texted me about a dozen times and yesterday the same...this morning she texted me so I texted her back and said hubby and I are going to be busy today visiting some people so I will talke to you next week at work...she then texted me three times after I sent that. I just ignored her texts because I figure if I don't it will just encourage her. She is back from her trip today so I am hoping it stops.

I was just on facebook and she is a friend and she pm'd about something...

WWYD? Just ignore her texts as often as you can....thank god she does not know where I live because she would probably show up.

I think the fact that I gave her my cell number she probably thinks that we are best friends now or something....

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Jealous father, Catty mother, Am I going straight to H ell for calling bull$hit?

I may be going straight to hell for thinking or interpreting my parents behavior but I am disgusted with both of them after many observations of behavior that is what i would consider to be "off" from what it ought to be.

It seems very apparent to me that my father has been undermining my marriage for many years behind my back when he was discussing things with my wife including recommending to her that she leave me when we had issues that anyone with a lick of interest in our well being and success would have been adamant to stick with it and work it out.

He has also been what I would consider to be overly "fresh" with my wife and MANY other women where I was embarrassed for him.

More recently he was giving me names of divorce lawyers when I mistakenly confided in him that I was having some issues with my wife.

He has always been a control freak and I dont think he wants my wife and I to be supportive of each other because he then cant play his control games as easily.

More disgusting is I think he has some kind of sickness where he wants to be the secret cause of moves of the chessboard of life where he is manipulating outcomes for his own entertainment and sense of self importance.

My mother does not take good care of herself despite my parents being multi-millionaires and my wife does despite us being more modestly secure financially. My wife does take good care of herself. My mother is continuously making catty comments about my wife's choices of looking good while my mother goes into public looking shabby enough to look as if she were nearly broke.

My wife has also taught my daughter self-respect for her appearance and the impression she leave when dressed appropriately for the role of the day such as school, or a conservative event, etc resulting in my daughter being known to be well put together and appropriate.

I'm not looking to sound like an ungrateful azz but my wife and I and daughter have found mostly happiness in our lives while it appears my parents are annoyed by that because neither of them think we should be due to our "errors" made in their eyes.

I tried to discuss some of the more ridiculous comments and actions with them but they absolutely just dont get it so I gave up and blow their seemingly self-serving concerns off now and I have always live my life as I see fit without subjecting my self to their controlling nonsense.

My father always taught me not to take any grief from anyone but that seems to be with the exception of putting up with his shoddy nonsense.

To be fair, my parents and especially my father has been very generous financially and what I believe is emotionally abusive to absolutely everyone he has met at some point in their relationship and very frequently with his loved ones.

My father recently told me I had to force my daughter to unblock her aunt from facebook or he would deduct $2000 per day from my inheritance. I told him to keep it. No one forces my teenage daughter to share any pictures with anyone if she doesnt want to.

I am happily estranged from my parents at this point and never been happier.

Is disappointing parental behavior typical or are mine a special brand of crazy?

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My wife and I have not been intimate in months.

It really started in January. She had gone through another miscarriage. Not her first, or second, or even third. After that, she started sleeping in our guest room, she's been slowly pushing me away, and she just gave up.

Lately, she's been coming around a little. She's gotten in bed with me a few times lately. She won't stay, but its a start. She's more affectionate again, though she won't do anything remotely sexual.

She has told me she misses sex, that she'd "foolishly" (her word) would like to try again, but she also fears pregnancy because she's sure things will end the same. She no longer trusts sex, or birth control because they aren't 100%.

Last night I felt so bad for her, because she told me she's afraid I'll cheat, which I'd never do.

I know what the answers are going to be. Counseling. And she's not open to that, I'll say it now, just to get that said.

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Breaking Bad...

So my wife and I are probably the last two people on the planet that haven't seen this series until just now. I am a pro-cannabis advocate, but I have seen way too much damage caused by meth and other hard drugs and refused to watch it.

Well, one day my wife asked if we could because so many of her friends said it was one of the best series they've ever watched, so I agreed.

I'm hooked. This story is so much more than being about meth. The journey of the hero and his transformation into the anti-hero yet managing to keep some of his "humanity"...Wow.

And the way he becomes "Heisenberg" when he dons "The Hat"...The transformation is tangible in his face and in his demeanor. Great acting...loving the series.

Anyone else enjoy the show?

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Is it unreasonable to expect a few compliments every now and then? Huge blow up...

I won't go through my entire story (though it is on my earlier posts :)), but long story short we have been married 23 years, 2 kids (15 and 12). WE have fought for at least five years about him not being as interested in me and generally leaving me feeling like a roommate.
I have posted other things about the LD/HD issues we face, but the second part of 'not feeling like a roommate) is that he just never really compliments me or says anything that you wouldn't say to a grandmother or aunt. I want compliments and physical affection from him more than anything. I read the book about languages and assessed mine as being those two things - physical touch and affirmation. He blew off the whole concept and said it was cheesy, and that I just needed to accept him for who is is, which is NOT someone who gives out compliments.

After months of not having an opportunity for a date night to ourselves, we finally had one. I bought a special outfit, spent a lot of time getting ready, and was really pumped up about surprising him ( I planned something that I kept a surprise that I thought he would like). He agreed to go, but when we got ready to go that night, I came walking out and not a word was said about how I looked, we went right outside........and when we are pulling out, he looked over at his hobby car and literally said how BEAUTIFUL it was since it had been washed. I told him later how bad it hurt me and he said I was being shallow, immature, and needy. Is it so wrong to want compliments from your spouse?!?!? I can't help it that my love language is affirmation and physical touch.......yet he guilts me into thinking I'm immature for needing that kind of stuff. IS IT IMMATURE?

BTW, I get compliments all of the time from plenty of people - they tell me I am more beautiful now than I ever was.........but I want it from HIM. Not just how I look, but actually looking into my eyes every now and then, telling me how glad he is to be married to me, etc. And YES, I do those things to HIM, but he says it's because it's my style.

I am soooo wondering if we will ever get past this if it has been 5 years. Do I truly need to just accept that it's just him? IS it shallow and immature of me to want that??

Help, please :)

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Must get the papers!!!

She didn't want to clean the kitchen so she told me to do it. So she knows that once I do something it must be 100% or nothing at all. I'm a neat and tidy guy! So not only did I wash the dishes, swept and mopped the floor, wiped the counters and island clean. I also cleaned out the nasty cupboard, cabinets with items we don't use with 2006 year on them and cleaned out the drawers! She came into the kitchen and just cursed me out!!!!! Called me all kind of nasty names!!! She was saying that she wanted me to clean the kitchen (wash the dishes,sweep and wipe down the counters)! Screaming that what I was doing is ***** work! She noticed that I tossed out her opened jar of mayo, tarter sauce and her lemon butter sauce from the cabint along with the other that we don't use! She said that she is going to throw away something of mine. My medicine!! I have HBP and I have to take my meds everyday to control it. Also had surgery recently and
threw away my pain meds 800, 500, and 550mg(hydrocodone, oxcycodone, and ibuprofen!! Trash men have came and gone and I couldn't move to stop them!
cause I was in so much pain! What should I do!!??

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Reconciliation Challanges

Update....Forgive the long post

Currently my wife & I are currently separated (9 weeks +). While the dust has seemed to settle in regards to our discourse and we are living in our own place, it seems we are settling into a place I'm not comfortable with. Due to unresolved problems that has existed in our marriage, I made a bad decision to seek a resolution (EA),outside our marriage. Of course, I am no longer involved with the OW. We do manage to communicate about non-relational topics without too much drama or no drama at all. Occasional we meet up for lunch, but she makes it clear to me that its not date and we pay for our own meals. We just returned from a Paris trip we took together as a family and we both agree it was a happy trip. She's also open to going on other trips together.


Lately, I've been trying to get her to open up to her feelings about reconciling , but each time I attempt to get her to discuss it with me, she refuses to talk about it. I've notice in a couple of our conversation about future plans, she talks about buying a house for "herself and our son" and all her plans moving forward are concentrated on that. She claims that reconciliation is not something she thinking about at this moment because she does not know whether we are going to be together or not. When I ask her where do I fit into her future, she's mummed to discuss it. Of course, I starting to see RED flags and it appears I should be changing my approach to our reconciliation.


One would say I should be pulling the bulk of the weight trying to salvage my marriage since I had the EA, in such case I have been doing that. I have shouldered my responsibility for my past indiscretion and the contributions to our marital problems and she also acknowledges her contribution to our marital problems. But I'm getting mixed messages about her true intent. She doesn't want to divorce (she claims she does not know what she wants), but at the same time, it doesn't appear she taking steps to improve our situation. She does accept some of my affection and gestures, but does not reciprocate any affection in return. This one sided relationship is what made me feel emotionally neglected and I found myself open to accepting OW's attention.


I have learned to openly communicate to my wife about my needs for her attention, but she doesn't seem to make any real effort to do anything about it. Frankly, when I talk to her about it, she get stern with me and tells me to respect her boundaries about discussing our relationship. When she talks like that, I'm befuddled and I begin to ask myself why am I trying if she's not willing to put in any effort herself? It makes no sense to me to be separated for 3-6 months or more trying to reconcile with no real effort to moving forward to reconciling. Being separated that long, one can easy fall into that mindset of living a separate life and never returning.


So far I have been trying to be patience, but my patience is being tested. I know I won't make the mistake of looking outside my marriage to solve my problems, but I do want to move forward in my life; whether its with her or someone else. I want to be married to my wife, but I also want more from my her if we are going to truly reconcile. Am I wrong to think this way. I don't think I should feel selfish in the way I feel because I don't think I'm asking much from her. I'm not asking for us to move back in together now, but to start taking steps moving forward for our future; if we are going to have a future.


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Help to stop drowning feeling please

I wake up in a panic every morning. My day moves on slowly but it moves on. When h calls or texts I get scared. I'm afraid that whatever he is going to say is just going to add to the hurt I'm already going through. I have been implementing the 180 for the past week and not even known it but it hasn't helped with this drowning, can't breath feeling that grabs hold whenever h contacts me or at random times usually in the afternoon and into the evening. I feel like I can't do this, this isn't happening, what if I fail, what if I lose, what if I'm rejected all over again, and it goes down from there.
Took the kids to a farm yesterday with exotic animals and I was happy and the moment I remembered being happy it was snatched from me and I broke down. Walking through the store, I broke down, couldn't get the fear out of my head or heart and couldn't stop crying. What is the deal?!
How can I recognize when it's about to come and stop it before I get pulled so far in I can't function?

I've been married for 14 years, im a student/sahm , two kids 13 & 11. H is having an affair. H says he doesn't love me anymore, that he is done, and wants the divorce that I'm doing all the work for. Was still living with us but moved out supposedly yesterday. We are out of town with family so I can't verify the state of our home yet.
My future doesn't look too bright at this particular moment so that doesn't help. My plans are to move back home to be near my family, try to get my degree and get a good job that will support me and the kids.
When we drove into town I felt like a failure coming home with my tail tucked.
There it goes again, any advice on how to start beating this would be wonderful.
Thank you.

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Learned my husband was feeling suicidal three years ago

I have recently learned my husband was feeling suicidal three/four years ago but he did not act on it and isn't feeling like this any longer. Then he felt like he did not have a purpose and because he has some OCD tendencies he is ashamed of.

Now I am feeling bad whenever we quarrel and I am afraid he could get like this again without telling me. Has any of you been there?

You can tell me if you think this is the wrong board. I ask here because we also have a complicated marriage what makes it more complicated.


He is the kind of person who never talks about his feelings and I am very surprised he suddenly did. I want to be there for him.

We may bicker a lot but I have a lot of respect for him and love him from the deepest of my heart and to learn he has been feeling like this did break my heart.

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Reconciliation Challanges

Update....Forgive the long post

Currently my wife & I are currently separated (9 weeks +). While the dust has seemed to settle in regards to our discourse and we are living in our own place, it seems we are settling into a place I'm not comfortable with. Due to unresolved problems that has existed in our marriage, I made a bad decision to seek a resolution (EA),outside our marriage. Of course, I am no longer involved with the OW. We do manage to communicate about non-relational topics without too much drama or no drama at all. Occasional we meet up for lunch, but she makes it clear to me that its not date and we pay for our own meals. We just returned from a Paris trip we took together as a family and we both agree it was a happy trip. She's also open to going on other trips together.


Lately, I've been trying to get her to open up to her feelings about reconciling , but each time I attempt to get her to discuss it with me, she refuses to talk about it. I've notice in a couple of our conversation about future plans, she talks about buying a house for "herself and our son" and all her plans moving forward are concentrated on that. She claims that reconciliation is not something she thinking about at this moment because she does not know whether we are going to be together or not. When I ask her where do I fit into her future, she's mummed to discuss it. Of course, I starting to see RED flags and it appears I should be changing my approach to our reconciliation.


One would say I should be pulling the bulk of the weight trying to salvage my marriage since I had the EA, in such case I have been doing that. I have shouldered my responsibility for my past indiscretion and the contributions to our marital problems and she also acknowledges her contribution to our marital problems. But I'm getting mixed messages about her true intent. She doesn't want to divorce (she claims she does not know what she wants), but at the same time, it doesn't appear she taking steps to improve our situation. She does accept some of my affection and gestures, but does not reciprocate any affection in return. This one sided relationship is what made me feel emotionally neglected and I found myself open to accepting OW's attention.


I have learned to openly communicate to my wife about my needs for her attention, but she doesn't seem to make any real effort to do anything about it. Frankly, when I talk to her about it, she get stern with me and tells me to respect her boundaries about discussing our relationship. When she talks like that, I'm befuddled and I begin to ask myself why am I trying if she's not willing to put in any effort herself? It makes no sense to me to be separated for 3-6 months or more trying to reconcile with no real effort to moving forward to reconciling. Being separated that long, one can easy fall into that mindset of living a separate life and never returning.


So far I have been trying to be patience, but my patience is being tested. I know I won't make the mistake of looking outside my marriage to solve my problems, but I do want to move forward in my life; whether its with her or someone else. I want to be married to my wife, but I also want more from my her if we are going to truly reconcile. Am I wrong to think this way. I don't think I should feel selfish in the way I feel because I don't think I'm asking much from her. I'm not asking for us to move back in together now, but to start taking steps moving forward for our future; if we are going to have a future.


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wife watches lesbian porn and it's freaking me out

I recently caught my wife watching lesbian porn and when I confronted her about it she swears she is 100% straight.

I don't get it why would a straight girl want to watch naked woman? shouldn't she be watching gay male porn instead?

I mean most women wouldn't be okay with their male partners watching 2 dudes have at each other so why should I be okay with her watching 2 women at each other?

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Physically or mentally challenged partners

I have seen lots of wounded warriors and I wondered how people do or would deal with a partner that became physically or mentally disabled. Both physically and emotionally? Marriage is hard enough when 2 people are working together, what happens when 1 becomes unable to help? Can the marriage work out? Is there lots of resentment? Do you go outside of the marriage for physical and emotional support? Or do you pick up and run?

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So confused!

I am new here and I really need some advice. I am 26 and me and my husband have been married for almost5 years now. We have 2 boys one 4 one 11 months. We have had issues in the past but always worked through them. When our second born was 3 weeks old, my husband left me. He had grown distant sometime before and totally shut me out. I found out after he left that he had been talking to another woman whom I did not like considering she had been trying to come between us for years because she was in love with him. When I asked about it he said it wasn't anything other than talking as friends with her. I struggled with our separation and dealing with 2 kids on m own and I went into a depression and struggled with anxiety. I got on medication to help and then a week later found out he slept with her after he left my house from staying and helping me get through the anxiety attacks and stuff. After a while I agreed to work things out and move on. I recently switched jobs and he has been acting like he did before...pushing me away and ignoring me...he says it is because he is stressed with bills and things like that. I have been having old feelings come back about the whole incident with him and this other woman and I don't know how to move forward. I love him and I do forgive him for what has happened, but I don't know if I can get over it. Please help me...I'm having more anxiety recently because of all of this and I don't know what to do.

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Learned my husband was feeling suicidal three years ago

I have recently learned my husband was feeling suicidal three/four years ago but he did not act on it and isn't feeling like this any longer. Then he felt like he did not have a purpose and because he has some OCD tendencies he is ashamed of.

Now I am feeling bad whenever we quarrel and I am afraid he could get like this again without telling me. Has any of you been there?

You can tell me if you think this is the wrong board. I ask here because we also have a complicated marriage what makes it more complicated.


He is the kind of person who never talks about his feelings and I am very surprised he suddenly did. I want to be there for him.

We may bicker a lot but I have a lot of respect for him and love him from the deepest of my heart and to learn he has been feeling like this did break my heart.

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Constant texter....

This girl that works in the same building as me was going on a trip to a different provincial park, which I am very familiar with, so a couple of weeks ago before she left I gave her my cell phone number in case she needed extra directions, etc. while she was in the area. She texts me a ton though....I am finding it way too much. While on her trip she will text me what she is doing the whole time...i.e., I have stopped and am taking a coffee break before heading out on the hiway, etc. etc. On Thursday she texted me about a dozen times and yesterday the same...this morning she texted me so I texted her back and said hubby and I are going to be busy today visiting some people so I will talke to you next week at work...she then texted me three times after I sent that. I just ignored her texts because I figure if I don't it will just encourage her. She is back from her trip today so I am hoping it stops.

I was just on facebook and she is a friend and she pm'd about something...

WWYD? Just ignore her texts as often as you can....thank god she does not know where I live because she would probably show up.

I think the fact that I gave her my cell number she probably thinks that we are best friends now or something....

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Is it unreasonable to expect a few compliments every now and then? Huge blow up...

I won't go through my entire story (though it is on my earlier posts :)), but long story short we have been married 23 years, 2 kids (15 and 12). WE have fought for at least five years about him not being as interested in me and generally leaving me feeling like a roommate.
I have posted other things about the LD/HD issues we face, but the second part of 'not feeling like a roommate) is that he just never really compliments me or says anything that you wouldn't say to a grandmother or aunt. I want compliments and physical affection from him more than anything. I read the book about languages and assessed mine as being those two things - physical touch and affirmation. He blew off the whole concept and said it was cheesy, and that I just needed to accept him for who is is, which is NOT someone who gives out compliments.

After months of not having an opportunity for a date night to ourselves, we finally had one. I bought a special outfit, spent a lot of time getting ready, and was really pumped up about surprising him ( I planned something that I kept a surprise that I thought he would like). He agreed to go, but when we got ready to go that night, I came walking out and not a word was said about how I looked, we went right outside........and when we are pulling out, he looked over at his hobby car and literally said how BEAUTIFUL it was since it had been washed. I told him later how bad it hurt me and he said I was being shallow, immature, and needy. Is it so wrong to want compliments from your spouse?!?!? I can't help it that my love language is affirmation and physical touch.......yet he guilts me into thinking I'm immature for needing that kind of stuff. IS IT IMMATURE?

BTW, I get compliments all of the time from plenty of people - they tell me I am more beautiful now than I ever was.........but I want it from HIM. Not just how I look, but actually looking into my eyes every now and then, telling me how glad he is to be married to me, etc. And YES, I do those things to HIM, but he says it's because it's my style.

I am soooo wondering if we will ever get past this if it has been 5 years. Do I truly need to just accept that it's just him? IS it shallow and immature of me to want that??

Help, please :)

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My wife and I have not been intimate in months.

It really started in January. She had gone through another miscarriage. Not her first, or second, or even third. After that, she started sleeping in our guest room, she's been slowly pushing me away, and she just gave up.

Lately, she's been coming around a little. She's gotten in bed with me a few times lately. She won't stay, but its a start. She's more affectionate again, though she won't do anything remotely sexual.

She has told me she misses sex, that she'd "foolishly" (her word) would like to try again, but she also fears pregnancy because she's sure things will end the same. She no longer trusts sex, or birth control because they aren't 100%.

Last night I felt so bad for her, because she told me she's afraid I'll cheat, which I'd never do.

I know what the answers are going to be. Counseling. And she's not open to that, I'll say it now, just to get that said.

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Lanolin For Penis

Over the past few months I gradually started experiencing desensitization in my penis glans. It took forever for me to ejaculate to the point where it was frustrating and tiring. I have a very high sex drive and can get rock-hard erections, but my penis just wasn't feeling very sensitive. I remembered my wife using lanolin on her nipples when breastfeeding to keep them from cracking and drying out. I picked up a tube of pure lanolin from CVS and began applying it to my glans after every shower. It's been about 6 weeks and now my glans feels smoother, softer, and more sensitive than ever. I sometimes wish I still had a foreskin to protect my glans.

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Jealous father, Catty mother, Am I going straight to H ell for calling bull$hit?

I may be going straight to hell for thinking or interpreting my parents behavior but I am disgusted with both of them after many observations of behavior that is what i would consider to be "off" from what it ought to be.

It seems very apparent to me that my father has been undermining my marriage for many years behind my back when he was discussing things with my wife including recommending to her that she leave me when we had issues that anyone with a lick of interest in our well being and success would have been adamant to stick with it and work it out.

He has also been what I would consider to be overly "fresh" with my wife and MANY other women where I was embarrassed for him.

More recently he was giving me names of divorce lawyers when I mistakenly confided in him that I was having some issues with my wife.

He has always been a control freak and I dont think he wants my wife and I to be supportive of each other because he then cant play his control games as easily.

More disgusting is I think he has some kind of sickness where he wants to be the secret cause of moves of the chessboard of life where he is manipulating outcomes for his own entertainment and sense of self importance.

My mother does not take good care of herself despite my parents being multi-millionaires and my wife does despite us being more modestly secure financially. My wife does take good care of herself. My mother is continuously making catty comments about my wife's choices of looking good while my mother goes into public looking shabby enough to look as if she were nearly broke.

My wife has also taught my daughter self-respect for her appearance and the impression she leave when dressed appropriately for the role of the day such as school, or a conservative event, etc resulting in my daughter being known to be well put together and appropriate.

I'm not looking to sound like an ungrateful azz but my wife and I and daughter have found mostly happiness in our lives while it appears my parents are annoyed by that because neither of them think we should be due to our "errors" made in their eyes.

I tried to discuss some of the more ridiculous comments and actions with them but they absolutely just dont get it so I gave up and blow their seemingly self-serving concerns off now and I have always live my life as I see fit without subjecting my self to their controlling nonsense.

My father always taught me not to take any grief from anyone but that seems to be with the exception of putting up with his shoddy nonsense.

To be fair, my parents and especially my father has been very generous financially and what I believe is emotionally abusive to absolutely everyone he has met at some point in their relationship and very frequently with his loved ones.

My father recently told me I had to force my daughter to unblock her aunt from facebook or he would deduct $2000 per day from my inheritance. I told him to keep it. No one forces my teenage daughter to share any pictures with anyone if she doesnt want to.

I am happily estranged from my parents at this point and never been happier.

Is disappointing parental behavior typical or are mine a special brand of crazy?

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