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If you had a son, what would you do in this situation?

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Hello,first time I'm posting here,I don't know if this is in the correct section(mods feel free to move).

I don't have any children,I'm just wondering your action on this scenario.(I'm not willing to discuss whether drugs should be legal or not or if they are correct or not,that's not the goal of this thread.For the purpose of this thread consider that drugs are bad.)

Imagine yourself having a son(it doesn't matter the gender).
If me as a father don't support any kind of drugs,do not use them and do not want to see my child using them,what would you do in my shoes to keep my child away from this path?

My first reaction was 'don't let him hang out with bad influences'.Even that being true, still,I don't want to grow up a retard.
He should be able to see the world with his own eyes and thinking with his head,always analyzing things.Having his own opinion for things and not letting other people's opinions affect his thoughts. Never believe things he see on internet, or in this forum (for example),always questioning whether something is true or not,(if not then searching for the truth)but most importantly, thinking.

Always this child will have to study.This guy will be so smart that will probably be the smartest of the whole school.No.The whole country.

But still,what are the fundamental things I should be teaching that let him be open minded about the world but still aware of which things are good for him and which aren't?

The point is:I want an answer that tells me how to grow him in a way that when someone asks him if he wants weed,he says 'NO' not because I kept telling him that that's not good for him but because he could figure that with his own open mind.

You may argue'yo, if he has an open mind then he should consider weed'.
We are considering weed is bad for this thread.

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GUYS: One Night Stand. I need your help

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I had a one night stand last weekend with a guy i know through mutual friends. He seemed really into me and it was good, except we were both too drunk to be honest. He was all over me the next morning too and said he wanted to stay for a bit but I had to leave because I was busy that day.

I was a bit of a bitch to him that night to be honest. Just taking the piss as a defence kind of thing I guess, I keep my guard up so I don't get hurt. He took it well though I think he knew I was joking.

I don't want a relationship but I'd like to see him again. He hasn't text me, should I text him?

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Long distance crush with no hope; what do I do?

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Basically I'm crushiing on a guy two hours away from me and HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!! A long-term and seemingly happy one. Long story short, it is a hopeless case. We randomly text each other sometimes but cannot take things to the next level (i don't necessarily mean romantic involvement but like moving from 'just friends' to 'close friends'). I value his friendship a lot and have no intention of ruining it. What do I do? :S

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Help

Please help me with all your opinions please. I am seriously thinking about divorce with a 2 year old.
This situation is thus, I fell in love with someone who claimed to be taking care of his elderly father while working at a gallery part- time. This is where I met him. I too never really held on long to a full time position also spending most of my time in the arts. Still, I always taught art and worked on some type of "project" show or curatorial project.
We moved into together and I fell pregnant. The only house we could afford was 45 min from his part time job. Of course he complained and raged when he came home, very different from living in his father's million dollar townhouse blocks from the gallery. As it was he went for a promotion at work and was in consequence pushed out for embarrassing the director, his mother was the former director who I never met, god rest her soul. So his part time job was lost, 25k which we barely could live on. His father was writing him checks from the house but before the house sold, literally he and I would scrounge around for food , while I was pregnant and when we had a new born baby. I was humiliated. So, I frantically found him jobs and he applied to a place around where we use to live and got it, but I am not sure it was a real job because he lost it four months later. Before that though, I sensed the insecurity of the job and applied to a job and yes got it, thank god. I make 40k par t time but it is not enough to rent an apartment where we live. I need 40k more. Luckily his father's townhouse sold and his dad gave us gifts of cash of 13 k increments. I do not have wealthy parents, if someone gives you a huge check, my instinct is to save that, put away for college, travel etc. put of course it went to monthly come. Check after check came and went to my horror. Still, no job. I send him jobs, I built him a website, I did his cover letters, and he got interviews but no score.
Our daughter is now two. I am drowning taking care of applications, work, and bills. He takes care of our daughter when she is home and that is not an easy job, I know, but if I can find a job at home with an infant, why not him? He manipulates the past and says he contributed much and conveniently doesn't remember the horrors of living out in the country, pregnant, alone, poor and with him. I resent working while he stays at home with our daughter. I resent I do not have time to draw. I resent his manipulation and excuses and lies and lack of ambition. I know it is depressing to go to interviews and flunk them but what can you do? One has to keep going. We were suppose to grow together, but he is not growing. Things have become very toxic between us. Very. I asked him for a divorce but of course where can he go? His father is now with his brother. Why doesn't he ask his father for money and move out? I accept the big task of raising our daughter alone. I can do it,..I think. .. But the fighting around our daughter every weekend I am home and only want peace I am faced by a large, bitter and angry man... He is driving me crazy..please help. How to file for divorce if he won't leave? I am not cruel. I hope god gives him a job so he can find his own place and be a man his daughter can respect. He is 51. I am 37.Surely he must have more ability than I to be independent?

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Ten Year Anniversary is coming soon

This is a letter to some old friends and new friends on TAM. :)

In June, my husband and I will have been married for ten years. It has been a very happy ten years, and I am very happy that we have found each other and married each other. I am looking forward to another forty happy years or more if we can live that long! :)

I just read an article a few days ago. It says that if you want a successful marriage, there are two secrets. Find a good person to get married and you be a good person.

For a good marriage, there are no secrets. You are two good people. You are loyal to each other. You respect each other. You focus on each other's good qualities. You do things to make each other happy. You forgive each other freely when you make mistakes. You spend a lot of time together. Financially and emotionally you are balanced. And you are committed to each other. When there is temptation or wrong desire, you apply wisdom in your life and stay away from temptation and stop your wrong desire.

Help for Couples and Parents | Family Help

There is this website, it has lots of articles about running a marriage. I visit this website a lot and I learn a lot from this website. If you want wisdom, you can search it there!

May everyone have a happy marriage and a happy life! :)

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wife cant let go of other man or make a decision to stay or separate

My wife is involved in an affair that has lasted almost a year. I found this out in dec. She denied the physical at first but then 2 weeks later I found it to be true. She says the physical part is over but they still communicate. I've asked for her to be open with me about what they are disscussing but she had not. I'm changing in my behaviour and actions, because I see where I was lacking. Now 4 months from dday we're sleeping separately no sex, and very little affection. She seems to be in a fog as to what she wants. Wether to work on or marriage or split up. We've got 2 kids and have been married 11years. I'm at my wits end as to what to do. We're both doing counselling and I have made serious progress. I never considered or marriage that bad and she agrees with me on that. She seems consumed with him and if the sex has truly stopped than it seems this is now an emotional affair, what do I do

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Online Dating - first meeting

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I'm curious what peoples experiences are when they meet someone for the first time from dating sites.

Meeting friends from the internet is different, with potential relationships you need physical attraction and an emotional connection.

Have you had any problems like 1) they looked different to their pictures 2) one of you was under impressed with the other 3) you had a connection in texts but not in person etc

And guys, if you did meet up with someone and you were underwhelmed by their appearance, what would/did you do?


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my ex took all my friends

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im in the first year of sixth form and i recently broke up with my girlfriend and we had a mutual friendship group and now that we have broken up, all my old friends have basically ditched me and sided with her and they dont really speak to me any more, and im sort of left with no one, i hate going to the common room now because its awkward seeing them and seeing my ex with guys i dont know how to cope?

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Really like this guy...but I want to get over him.

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I met him while I was on holiday (4yrs ago) he lives in the netherlands and ever since we've always chatted online but recently we just text each other. Last summer, we chatting as usual (late night convo) and he suddenly just asked me if I like him. I said no even though I do....

I asked him the same question and he said yes. Awkward I know... Anyways I didn't speak him for ages after that but recently we've started talking again and it's like that night didn't happen.

I do like him but I don't want a relationship at this point in my life and I don't want to lead him on. But I still like talking to him. It's harder to put into words than I thought...

I just really want to get over him and make life easy again....pls help!

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WHO issues statement regarding Roundup...

We grow organic and haven't used Roundup in over ten years as a lot of the material we have researched convinced us long ago that glyphosate (Roundup) is harmful to the environment and is generally not good to use for a myriad of reasons that I won't go into at the moment, but this is bit of a big deal. The World Health Organization is issuing their own findings by stating that Roundup is potentially carcinogenic....

WHO says widely used herbicide likely carcinogenic - MarketWatch

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Messages gone wrong

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There's a really dicky guy and he calls me a skank and threatens me that he's
Post our txt messages on ever social media sit bc I rejected him what do I do?

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liked a photo on my housemates page by accident, stalker much ?!? :( bleh

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so i was looking through some of my housemates photos and i accidently liked a photo. we're not friends on fb but i was being my typical nosy self (idiot i know), and was looking through pictures. my hand must have accidently liked a photo when i was swiping. i unliked it within a ten seconds or so.

in general if u unlike something on fb they other person wont see the notification but if they are logged onto fb on their laptop/phone the notification will reamin on their page until they refresh. this really (really!!) unfortunately means that my housemate , and one of his friends who goes to our collge will see my 'like'...... and i dont know what to do. i feel so embarassed and mortified but i dont see anything i can do... apart from waiting itll he comes back up for colelge next week. what should i do? pretend i didnt do it? i have a feeling ill just go red with embarassment. i dont even know how i should react to him now because, before hand when we first got to know ech other he was always kind of afwkward and woudl sometimes ignore me or avoid me..... and i dont want things to be awkward now, cos we've only recently started to get along better, like he'd wouldnt give vague one word answers or ignore me completely when i ask how his day was etc. i dont know what to do :( any ideas?

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If you could cheat and get away with it

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would you? have you?

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She said it

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A couple months ago I posted on here that I told my girlfriend that I loved her but she felt she couldn't say it back at the time (probably because it was too early [2/3 months]). Well she has now told me that she loves me too and has said it a couple times now.

I made this thread to say thanks to the TSR users for telling me to hang in there, also to help anyone else out there that may be going through the same or similar problem.

It's also a bit more of an upbeat thread which makes a change from some of the others you see here in the "relationship" forums.

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Keeping spark alive

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How do you keep the relationship going and alive after 5 months?

Just a general question.

And what is your advice for long term relationships?

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When a girl says 'you are going to have to work to get me' what does this mean?

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A girl i've being seeing for a week, we did stuff the first time we met but she told me that was a one off and i'm going to have to 'work to get her'? What does she mean by this, what should I do?

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