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Removing resentment

Due to various things she has done over the last couple of years I resent my wife.

I was hopping I'd get some kind of grand apology for the last major screw up on her part and that that would help me get over it but a genuine unsolicited apology hasn't been offered.

Two years ago I was happily married now I don't know which way is up. This is due to crap shes put me through over the last couple of years. I hate that shes put me in a position where I'm not 100% certain I want to spend the rest of my life with the person I've spent half my life with.

Day to Day married life is currently very good and pleasant but I just can't shack resenting her.

Anyone out there manage to shake off resentment towards their spouse?

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Just out of interest guys...

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What do you look for in a woman/girl and what would put you off a woman/girl? :)

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Would you date someone who didn't have a facebook account?

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Or would you even believe that they didn't?

I feel quite sad to say this but I think not having facebook (or twitter etc) is affecting my chances of finding a partner! I feel sad that some people in this day and age will only see me as a valid or genuine person if I do not have a social media profile (or in my case persona!) to match.

I have yet to date a guy who as not asked to add me on facebook. When I reply I don't have one it seems to arouse a lot of suspicion.

As for the reason I don't have facebook I first temporarily shut it down over 5 years ago when I got admitted into hospital for anorexia after a year I shut it down permanently and have not rejoined since as I realised that only a 'few' of these friends were there for me in reality and these were the ones I wished to put my energies into. I don't knock others for using it but for me personally I feel it doesn't serves a purpose and again I can only talk from personal experience but it only served to distract me and for me to seek false validation from others. My life has been much more fulfiling and healthy since leaving.

So my question is would you ever date/be in a relationship with blank! Someone who does not have an account?

And for those who 'live off the grid' of social media does it affect your relationships or even friendships. Does your partner trust you without being able to stalk you?

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Can you leave the friendzone?

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The title says it all!

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I always feel like I'm making more of an effort with people than vice versa...

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Like asking people to meet up & starting conversations with them asking how their life us going & stuff. I like to gee up people, give them compliments, make sure they are ok & everything. However from my life experience so far it always seems I'm more enthusiastic to interact with other people than they are with me. It kinda feels sad, but I just need to keep going as I know shying away will make things worse. I don't know what else to say :erm:

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What's my next step?

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so here's my story:

i like this girl who's in a couple of my classes...so we see each other at least once a day. in real life, we talk quite a bit. usually she initiates an online conversation with me, but i feel like it's sometimes difficult to keep the conversation going and it's sometimes quite awkward. my friends and her best friend all know about this...but i have no idea if she knows that i'm into her or not.

there's a few signs that i've noticed which shows that she maaaay be interested in me too. for example, at the end of class, sometimes she'd get me to walk with her to her locker, instead of her usual friends. occasionally, when she's walkng with a bunch of friends and sees me, she'd be willing to 'ditch' her friends and come over to chat with me :)

however, once or twice recently when i start an online conversation with her, yes she responses, but they're all very vague and short responses. i can't tell if she's just busy or she's signalling something...

the real question is, how do i know whether she's just being friendly or what? i'm not sure what i should do...i want to ask her out though, but i definitely don't wanna ruin our friendship

i notice that my story does not really give in a lot of detail, so please do ask if you guys have any questions..i'd appreciate if anyone can give me any advice :)

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One-night stand and contraception

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I slept with a guy last night who I met through a friend. We were drunk, but not slaughtered. I've never had a one-night stand before and have minimal sexual experience. Thing is I'm not on birth control, but we did use a condom. As far as I know it didn't split or anything (I assume he'd notice if it had). Do I need to take the morning after pill or would it be a complete waste of time given that there appeared to be nothing wrong with the contraception we used?

He also gave me oral, so do I need to get myself checked for STIs?

Sorry if this post is overly paranoid!

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Whats the difference in someone being cheeky or being cocky give examples ?

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Whats the difference in someone being cheeky or being cocky give examples ?

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Would You Date Someone Who Slept Around 8-9 Years Ago At Uni?

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My cousin is gay, and he happens to have fallen head over heels for a gay older guy (who's 29 and my cousin's 22). There is apparently mutual interest.

The older guy is one of those people who is nice but very flirty. I've met him before and he made me feel v. uncomfortable as a straight man. Not that I am homophobic tho. If I was a girl I would say he seemed a bit fake and creepy, he does stuff like write "xxx" at the end of texts to male friends.

Anyway, one of my work colleagues who is the same age knew him well at university (good friends so no hidden agenda), and he says that he used to be quite a "wild child," sleeping around left right and centre, doing all kinds of drugs, rating guys "out of 10" (he is very good looking) and being mean to those he thought ugly in the LGBT society, and apparently his room at uni was full of giant naked gay posters. And the sort to "pump and dump". He also put some pictures of his ex boyfriends on the hot or not site w/o their permission.

My cousin is not the type to sleep around despite the gay stereotype, and a romantic guy. I have told him this and he says he thinks the older guy has changed as it was about 8 or 9 years ago, but the older guy is still one of those people who is constantly being a bit flirty with guys and though he might not necessarily sleep around any more I feel my cousin could get hurt.

I just dont think someone could be so callous towards partners at uni and then have a personality U turn, he is still so flirty. What should I advise my cousin?

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My friend thinks I'm racist and has fell out with me....

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Hi

Basically me and my friend (who are both girls) were really close but I said something stupid and now she has fallen out with me and is telling everyone I am a racist. :(

She is Somalian and we were having a conversation about her being Somalian and I asked her why Somalian people always have such big foreheads, like it was a genuine question and I didn't mean anything horribly from it, I was just curious.

She has told everyone I am racist and has twisted the story even more to make me sound more racist. She said I said that all Somalians look like the people from the movie coneheads :confused: and that I was calling her the N word.

I'm really very upset and IDK what to do........ :(

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In a bit of a problem with a girl I like, quite a lot.

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I'm in a position with a girl who I've been in a relationship with before, but it ended due to circumstances, we stayed friends through it but we both felt just as friends. We were a great couple, that of which movies predict and I did miss it. However that is quite a while ago, and of recent we have been meeting up a lot more and the connection is suddenly back, I know this girl so well and I can tell she is beginning to fall for me again, I can tell in the way she stares at me when I'm looking away (she doesn't realise I see her). All seems just peachy right.... Problem is: she is with another guy and this obviously sucks but I could live with it knowing she was happy, but I know she isn't. I see them and know I could treat her better, also she agrees, she knows I would do better, she tells me this when she comes round mine late at night and complains about him to me. She has on multiple occasions tried to do sexual things and has brought me to my knees to with temptation. My problem is, I am against cheating and she seems to want to stay in the relationship. What do I do?


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Im 90% sure my wife cheated,plz read and opionate

So my wife works a job that runs 24 hour shifts,,,she does 24 on and 48 off,she genuinley loves her job and i love her very much,,i dont want to get into specifics just incase people she works with may use this site,but the jist of it is that she works with the same partner every shift,shes worked with him for a year,,,now im not used to my woman being gone for a full day so the 24 hr shift thing was a problem for me right away but i know that i need to be bigger than that,,for her so over time i let myselfsettle into an uneasy trust,,she has to take a change of cloths,a towel, ,,pretty much looks like shes goin on vacation wen she leaves for work and this makes dealing with this situation even harder( she works with blood and sick people) so a change of cloths is a must in case she gets bled on or worse,,so anyway,,lately things have gotten tense i have trying to be patient but its hard,so she DLd a gps locator on her phone,completely her idea and her at tempt to set my mind at ease,the problem isnt that i think shes goin somewhere she shldnt tho,,lemme get to the point,we recently had an argument about our teenage daughter and i had called her while she was on shift to ask her to explain something to me,she proceeded to talk to me like i was a dog,or an idiot,she was demeaning and even yelled a few times,,,this whole discusion i later found out happened with her partner sitting next to her in the vehicle,now i dunno about anyone else but imo noone should ever broadcast a marital argument in front of a co worker,especialy one of the opisite sex,,it lets the partner know theres trouble at home and if hes that kinda guy he might take that as a sign to make a move,,,well i,was furious and wen she came home the next morning i confronted her about my suspitions and she couldnt face me,was crying,and if guilt looked like water she was lookin like the ocean,,i asked her " how could you do this to us"? She replied , it just happened ,,i freaked out , lost it,broke some furniture and told her she had beter start explaining,,she sed she thought i was asking about talking to me on the phone the way she did and insisted she didnt do anything " sexual" ,,i told her if she was gona lie she could just leave ,so then she claimed that he had only tried to kiss her and that she pushed him away,,and finaly claimed that absolutly nothing happened,no sex , no kiss,that she only sed that because she thought id make her leave if she didnt admit to something,,dont get me wrong folks imtreat my wife like a princess so its not like she was scared i would hurt her or something,,so anyway in the four hour talk that ensued i told her the only way i could ever move forward with her is that id go out and find myself a one night stand,,she was crushed but told me that if imdid she would accept it and again insisted she didnt do anything with this guy,,now im definetly NOT into haveing sex with anyone outside my mariage,and its not something that im goin tomdo ,its a definet no way cuz thats not me,,but im lost now didmshe agree to let me do that out of guilt because shes guilty or does she relize that i cant move forward with her unless thing are equal ,,crap im just lost on this,any advice wld be great,,,even if you tell me to go take a xanex lol

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I kissed another man

I have been married for 5 years and with my husband for 8 years total. This last week I was taking a friend home. As he and I were sitting in my car chatting while it heated up I kissed him. Not just kissed him, but we climbed into the back seat and I gave him oral. My husband does not know. I am torn on what to do. I love my husband, but between us both working and me also going to school we never see each other. On the off chance we do spend time together we are both too tired to do anything at all. I like the man I hooked up with and I want to see him again.

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Does this text I sent sound odd/like I have issues?

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Boyfriend just text about something and mentioned that he doesn't know what my feelings are, but his feelings are getting stronger for me by the day. I text back saying that 'my feelings are quite strong..to the point where I'm scared of getting too attached in case you change your mind, but that's a risk I'm willing to take'.

He he has mentioned in the past that I don't seem like I care much which is probably why he is wondering about my feelings. Thing is I've just read that text I sent back to myself and wondered if it sounds a bit odd/offensive.. As though I don't trust him or something. What do you think?

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How do I become more confident?

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Hi there. So basically, I'm an introvert. I'm extremely shy and very socially awkward. I'm very bad at making casual conversation, let alone approaching someone in the first place to start one, which is why I find it really hard to make friends. I stutter a lot when I'm nervous. I'm very quiet. I tell myself that I shouldn't care about what other people think of me, but I still can't change myself.

I feel like part of my lack of confidence is due to the fact that my race is a minority in the UK, although English is my first language. I just feel out of place although I've been living here for four years.

In the next academic year I'll be starting my first year of university, and I'm really worried about making new friends. I want to start fresh and be a new, confident person, but even thinking of it makes me feel really uncomfortable and nervous. I would appreciate anybody's help. :(

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Don't know what to do...

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I went out with a girl on Wednesday. We had an amazing time, conversation was great, made her laugh a lot, no awkward silences, couldn't have asked for it to go better. Throughout the entire time I spent with her I kept thinking "She's perfect", but the thing is, she's seeing someone and the worse the ting is that she'll only date guys of her ethnicity/ culture etc. I'm sitting here feeling pretty ****. I literally can't do anything at this point. What should I do...?

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