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H caught checking out my friends boobs!

I confronted him about it and after a lot of denying it, he said well this is not an excuse but when ur not gettin it at home ur eyes start to wonder...now that i think of it, thats so hurtful. Has anyone ever experienced this? Does H have wondering eyes. Is it normal? Men, do u guys do this a lot? Check out other women? Butts, boobs? Should i be very upset over what he said? Even though it isnt a lie its not like hes not getting it at all, we do it 4-6 times a month! Is that horrible?
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How short tempared are you

For me the thought of a thought is enough to give me an instant erection. Im still a virgin and I'd often find myself erect most of the time while sitting and having a conversation with my girlfriend. Even in class when feeling sleepy or in bed before I could fall asleep. Is it normal or im the one who is just far too dirty minded?:confused:




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the girls next door are watching porn at max volume

i can even hear it from my room. what should i do now?




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How to have a one night stand? Experiences?

Can I just ask everyone, I have never had a ONS and I would like to. I'm a guy and I have got with girls in clubs - got their number and dated etc. But right now I don't want a relationship and I have no idea how to get a friend with benefits as most of my female friends aren't like that or are in relationships + it would just be weird.

So to guys and girls: what experiences have you had in a ONS, any weird stories or anything go wrong, how exactly does it happen?

And crucially, if I wanted to take a girl home who I had pulled in a club, how would I make that extra leap?

Please don't neg me for this




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PM me, looking for some friends :)...

I'm currently in a situation in my life where I don't have any friends around at all and I'm not quite sure what I can really do about it so I did what most people do and resort to the internet, ha... It'd just be nice if I can chat to some new people :). Thanks for any replies/PMs.




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Friends with benefits situation

I'm currently in a friends with benefits situation with my ex. As ive never had a friends with benefits situation, im unsure what it consists of other than sex.

We've been doing the following:
- Cuddling before and after sex
- Holding hands in public
- He's been taking me out to eat and paying

It just feels like we're back in a relationship, although I could be completely wrong and these are just normal things you do in a FWB situation, im just unsure.

If anyone could give me a possible list of "dos" and "donts" that would be great.

Thanks in advance (:




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I like her but she had a boyfriend how do i break them up?

Ok so there is this girl i really like. I don't believe in destiny but shes the girl of my dreams and i seriously cant believe we are not together. The thing is she has a boyfriend of 9 months and ive being doing all i can to make her fall for me. I think its working she become a lot more physically flirty she said we should go out sometime and I was like we actually should and she then said naa forget it I have a BF. I haven't seen he BF before because he is older then me that's the only disadvantage i have girls would rather go for older guys than guys their age.

I don't know how much better looking I am than he is. If he is more attractive than me then I have no chance but for now im still trying to court her. Hopefully im successful. Does anyone have any tips? And should i flat out tell her that I care about her a lot and I will protect her , that i like her.




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Not sure whether I can pursue this friendship - would it be emotionally cheating?

Been with my boyfriend almost two years, and about a year met a guy through my work. Me + this guy are both trying to break into a similar industry, and are both starting to get somewhere with it. We have talked occasionally via email, but didn't actually meet face to face, just the two of us until last week.

Basically, I told my boyfriend about an event I was really excited about going to and instead of offering to potentially come with me, he said he might be travelling at that point (he travels with his passion/hobby), so couldn't say yes. I was disappointed but this happens sometimes. I then mentioned the same event in the passing to my friend (in a just discussing what we're getting upto sort of way) and he immediately asked if he could with me. I was a bit thrown off, but said okay.

Now a few days before I met my male friend at this event, me and my boyfriend started having a political discussion and I was telling him my thoughts/feelings on a particular issue. Not in an obnoxious 'My opinion is the only one that matters' sort of way, as can often happen - just that it's something I'm interested in, and like to discuss occasionally. I said there was an event coming up connected with this and he said 'no I don't think I'd be comfortable coming, because I'm not sure I believe in all that.' Then he said 'I don't think we should talk about this topic right now' and 'it could just lead to a fight'. This would be understandable if we had fallen out over it before, but we never have - and I love to hear his points of view even though I know they can be different from my own. It makes things exciting! Anyway...when he said that stuff, I felt deflated and shut down by him. Although in the end, he would come with me anyway (just to appease me no doubt).

Cue the night that I was meeting my friend at the event my boyfriend didn't commit to - turned out boyfriend wasn't travelling after all, so could've come. I told him he was quite welcome to join us, but he declined the offer. Once I met my male friend, we got talking about all sorts including politics and discovered we have very similar views - and of course, on cue, he said he'd be really interested in coming to the event I had mentioned. I feel a great sense of familiarity with this guy - not the butterflies/spark I get with my boyfriend, but just enjoy having stuff in common. Sometimes I wish my boyfriend would be more up for doing things with me, but then I got to thinking - what's the point in making my boyfriend come to things he has no interest in? Surely if this new friend expresses interest in particular events it should be okay to do things with him sometimes?




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Inter-racial relationships

I slept with a friend of mine once a few months back and then he asked me out for a proper date which was really lovely it was only a quick coffee that was supposed to last an hour or two but it ended up being something like 6 hours. Anyway i've been seeing him for a couple of months now but the problem is i come from an indian family and i hate lying to my parents about what i'm doing. I know i'm a lot older now so relationships become more serious more quickly and i've never been in a proper one before. My parents really want me to be with a 'nice indian boy' yes very cliched haha. The guy is white and i like him i just think our worlds are too different to be serious like i won't be allowed to invite him round for dinner or sleep over at his even though we're both adults. I feel like i won't be able to give him the kind of relationship he wants even though i want it just because of my limited freedom. I don't know what to do should i break it o ff with him before we become exclusive? Or come clean to my parents just to hear them to tell me to break it off because i can't keep sneaking around?




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Unsure about this guy...

Sorry that its really long!


Right... To cut a long story short I met this guy on a night out, talked he got my number ( over a year ago ) we text for a while he asked me on a date I kept putting it off with exams and stuff then over summer last year we went on a date it was a good date. Conversation never went dry.
Text afterwards for a bit then he suggested another date I was unsure he came on a bit too strong like in texts "/ so I kept putting it off.
Then on we rarely text and phoned. About 6 months ago he phoned and suggested friends with benefits, I'm really not that type of girl and I told him that. Of course he didn't take that too well I suggested we talk about it because I really liked him but with being with other guys in the last that were jerks I was really wary I explained this all to him he didn't text back "/
Months later I got a text asking how I was conversation was flowing well, Hadnt spoke to him in months so I text him and we were catching up for a while. Then he stopped replying I text him again obviously weeks apart no reply "/ has that 'boat sailed'? As they say :L
do I leave it? I think there actually could have been potential




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Am I expecting too much? Feel like relationship is going to the dogs...

I am currently 9 months into a relationship with I would have to say is a terrific girl. I am 42 with 2 special needs boys from my previous 20 yr marriage. My oldest is severely disabled and stays in a 24/7 care facility. My youngest is mild and lives with me 50% of the time. She is 35 and has no kids but has 2 Dobermans and was married for 11 years.

She is a really wonderful attractive lady! We enjoy many of the same things to an extent. She is low maintenance and leads a fairly simple life. She doesnt make a lot of money which is fine cause I am not real wealthy either but do make a decent living. She has a great personality and loves me and takes care of me like no one I could have ever imagined. She is a quiet but pleasant girl that doesnt have to be the center of attention which mirrors my personality. Sex is great and never an issue! The worst thing about her is, she is a major homebody. I am not.

We have actually only been on about 8 actual dates our entire relationship. It seems like every time I ask her to do something there is always an issue. She can never do anything thru the week because her dogs has been penned up while she has been at work so she has to be with them cause they cant be trusted alone. I get my son every other weekend so we only have 2 Saturday nights a month to go out. However she has bad Endometriosis so her time falls on one of those weekends and she doesnt have the energy to go do anything. Which is fine I understand that. Once in a great while when we do go out to dinner and a little shopping we always have a great time! I have just never been one to sit around the house and doubt I ever will be. We dont live together and have our own houses to take care so yes that does take time.

Even though I honestly feel she would be a great wife, I am just not sure her qualities would be enough to keep me happy. I feel like her dogs get the best part of her and me and my sons will always get whats left over. Not sure whether to stick it out for awhile or end it and move on. Life is too short to let life pass me by. But I dont want to make a mistake either. Any advice??? She is aware of my concerns.




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22 years married, last 4+ years sexless - help

So here it is, wife's been in individual therapy for awhile, I figure she hopefully be working on issues around her sexual inhibitions (not wanting sex at all).
We have been having issues for quite some time and I finally told her that we need couples therapy. The only way that she would agree was to start doing couples with her therapist. So we've been going for a couple months now and working through some of our issues then this week we just started to discuss the lack of physical intimacy issue. Come to find out this is the first time her therapist heard about this issue! I was floored. It's been 4+ years now with no physical intimacy at all. It's obvious to me now that we have had issues for most of our marriage (22 years).
In our discussions, my wife has some sexual trauma from childhood. She wants to work on this but some of the issues for me is that our sex life was never 'good' and always on her terms. She has said that 'sex is not love' and 'i could live without sex'.
So in my mind, I want a better sex life, one that my wife actually wants to participate in. What I am worried about is that we 'may' get back to our mediocre sex life, but that is not what I need anymore. When and how does one tell your partner that the lack of physical intimacy is a deal breaker without hurting feelings?
And is lack of physical intimacy a legitimate reason to leave a 'fairly' good marriage otherwise?




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Will this do?

Exam season is starting now and I got a crush on one my friends. I figured that this may bother me during exams so I thought of an efficient (I hope anyway) way to get over her. I was thinking just ask her if she sees our relationship ever going further. What I'm thinking is that if/when she says no, will that help me get over her or make things worse? I guess I am asking if anyone has had experience in this type of situation.




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Not going anywhere..unsure what to do

Hey

So I meet a guy about 6 months ago on a night out when I was at home and he was through visiting someone. He made the first move etc asked for my number but I never got round to giving him it as had to get a taxi. Any way I added him on facebook and private messaged him just asking if he had had a good night and usual chit chat and this has now being going on for nearly 6 months. We message each other back maybe once or twice a week but its never going anywhere if that makes sense?!

He hasnt asked for my number again, hasnt asked me out and it is always just general chit chat. Nothing sleazy, just like I am chatting with a friend. Sometimes I think he isnt interested and is just being polite by messaging back, so a few times ive messaged him back but without anything that he can reply to and he still messages back.

So I think what im looking for is to know whether people think that he is just being polite, just messaging cause he is bored or I dunno cause surely if he liked me he would have asked me out by now?!

We do stay a fair distance apart when at uni but when im home which is a fair bit its not too far, so I dont know if that factors into things.
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My insecurities are ruining my relationship

Recently I started becoming incredibly insecure. I've been with my boyfriend for a year this month but we started having problems due to my extreme insecurities. I started gaining weight shortly after we begun going out due to health reasons that didn't allow me to work out and made me quit cheerleading.

I was always a very active and was never overweight. I'm 5'7 and currently the biggest I've been in my life (size 12) and my boyfriend won't stop bringing up the weight issue even though he can see I've been trying so hard to lose those extra 30lbs. I keep a diary of what I eat using an app on my phone, I ran the London Marathon but my weight keeps fluctuating. I put weight back on the minute I stop working out for lets say a week. I just lose and gain, lose and gain.

I've been so frustrated with this process that my self esteem has vanished. I used to be the girl who would wear tiny shorts and have her tummy out and now I'm the girl who hides behind layers and layers of fabric. My boyfriend keeps asking me why I'm not losing weight... He is discreet and subtle with his suggestions but I can't help it but get more and more insecure about my body. He might say that he still loves me no matter what, but this is not what I hear. Every time we see a good looking girl I just instantly turn depressed. I never go out anymore because I don't drink due to all the calories and I feel ashamed of myself being surrounded by girls looking amazing.

Every time my boyfriend talks about other girls I now get incredibly jealous and whenever he goes out I just get more more insecure. I know he wouldn't cheat on me and I trust him it's more about the fact that I'm not confident any more. We've been arguing a lot lately and all of the arguments are caused by my own insecurities. It's like I cannot help myself. I used to be the girl that would never get jealous or insecure and now a bin has more confidence than I do. All of his friends are good looking and especially the girls. Every time we're on his facebook I see all the girls in bikinis popping up on his dash and it just kills me little by little. It hurts so much I'd rather be single even though I love him to bits. I've heard his flatmates talking once about me getting fat and how he should break up with me. When I'm not with him I get so depressed I think I should just give up on our relationship because of all of my insecurities getting in the way. Help!




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How do I get to know him?

He works upstairs so I never see him and there's no excuse for me to go up there lol. I only saw him at the end of the day when we just looked at each other (it was kinda intense) and said hello.

Any excuse/way I can talk to him ?!




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Will i find it hard making friends with a face like mine?

Hi, these aren't best photos but I can't be bothered to have a shower and this is what you would see should you see me.


http://i.imgur.com/m1Wyy2w.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/W2EzUm8.jpg

Evidently, I'm ugly (ish). Will I find it difficult making friends with this kind of face because I know you guys only befriend people who have a very specific kind of face. Unfortunately, this face isn't mine. This upsets me greatly. The idea of staying alone for the rest of my life makes me cry slightly.

I'm posting these photos on here because I don't know anyone so what have I got to lose. Embarrassment? Haha don't you worry about me.

I need to lose more weight. That's the solution for many problems isn't it? You know, if you're depressed, then lose weight! If you're unhappy, then lose weight.

So I shall 'lose weight' until my face becomes a bit more easy on the eye. However, it will never be a face that is welcome among friends or people.

Sometimes, we have to accept these things, don't we?




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H caught checking out my friends boobs!

I confronted him about it and after a lot of denying it, he said well this is not an excuse but when ur not gettin it at home ur eyes start to wonder...now that i think of it, thats so hurtful. Has anyone ever experienced this? Does H have wondering eyes. Is it normal? Men, do u guys do this a lot? Check out other women? Butts, boobs? Should i be very upset over what he said? Even though it isnt a lie its not like hes not getting it at all, we do it 4-6 times a month! Is that horrible?
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So confused: gender/sexuality/friendship/romance

Anon - I know people on here and really aren't that comfortable with my identity :(

I don't really expect many people to reply to this and it's almost certain to come across as close to incoherent babbling, but I just need an outlet at the moment.

Let's start with the bits I'm (relatively) sure of. I'm an 18 year old male in London. I'm also bisexual, but haven't "come out" as such so everyone assumes I'm hetero as I've never said otherwise and don't 'look' gay. Although like many bisexuals I am more often attracted to people of one gender than another (in this case, females) I certainly experience romantic attraction to both.

My main problem is when it comes to friendship really. I really do not get the stereotypical male friendships. The whole "Lad" culture is just totally crass. I think the worst thing is the idea that men can't share anything personal with one-another. Anything to do with emotions, thoughts etc is classified as either "boring" or, most commonly, "gay". I can get along with other guys no problem, but any real friendship is another matter as there's just so many aspects I don't care for in the slightest and so many things important to me that other men seem to simply not care about. When it comes to clubbing, or ogling after 'fit' girls or whatever I'll actively avoid the situation - perhaps partly a product of my Catholic upbringing, but one-night stands and such have no appeal to me. Relationships - wonderful, but just sex on it's own doesn't do much for me.

What I really want is the kind of friendships women have. I'm aware that I'm massively generalising here, but it seems at least from where I'm standing that this is the case. I don't care what the person's actual gender is, but everything about the normal female-female relationship seems to be what I want. Having a friend you can actually talk to properly about anything, without being dismissed as "gay" or having a sexual interest assumed. Girly nights in. Everything. I'm really not a sex-orientated person like most guys, but the fact I'm male precludes me from friendship or at least means I have to have a different kind of friendship.

Heck, I'm more than not being sex-orientated, it's just the least important thing ever to me. I don't masturbate. I've not masturbated once in my life. It's not that I have a moral issue with it, I don't see one in the slightest, it's just totally meh to me. I know that's pretty abnormal, but it's the truth. I've tried watching porn just to prove to myself that I'm normal, but no matter what type it is, gay, lesbian, mixed, I just don't care about it. I do experience sexual attraction, but only to real people, and only when I actually know them. It's like I'm attracted to personality rather than gender or indeed anything physical, but that doesn't mean I'm against sex - I think it's good, but it's just a part of a relationship rather than what defines it.

Although it may not sound like it, personally I'm comfortable with who I am. I don't feel like I'm a woman really or anything, although I don't feel "manly" either. What I'm really really uncomfortable with is how society reacts to who I am, and the way I'm treated for it. It's not that I wish I was the other gender/sex: it's more that I HATE gender altogether. I hate living up to stereotypes. I feel like a square with a choice of rectangular wholes - although I can fit into some but not all different groups, I'm not really a part of any of them. But I don't want to be a rectangle, either. I want the entire ****ing wall to fall down and leave me and everyone else to be individuals, but it's never going to happen, not in this world anyway. Being like this is making me really unhappy, although I think I'm worse at the moment party due to exam stress. I feel like I'd be happier if I was someone else, but I either can't or don't want to be someone else. I wouldn't necessarily say I want to change, but I feel like I'd be so so so much happier if I'd been born gay rather than bi, or even if I was born as a woman. But I can't become gay - I'll always like women, and that makes things harder. I've thought about lying - coming out as gay, pretending I don't like women, embracing a more stereotypical gay lifestyle. But it's not fair on me, or anyone else. Although I'd love to have a platonic friendship with women, I'm kidding myself if I say that it's not possible entirely because I'm assumed to be straight and women don't want those kind of friendships with a straight guy - I would have the potential to be attracted to them and **** things up. The only other way I'd feel happy is if I'd been born female, but I couldn't really transition. I don't know how my family would react, but I doubt it'd be positive and I love them, I couldn't dream of losing them. My mum is the only person I'd told about my sexuality, and the response really didn't help me - she t hinks it's probably just a phase, and that I can't really know my sexuality as I'm "too young" (I was 17 when I told her I think, may have been 18). Partly because she's "never noticed me looking at guys" :mad: . I don't want to think of how she'd react if I was trans - and I don't think I am really. I feel like I'm confused and that I'm kidding myself. I don't feel comfortable anywhere. I don't want to insult trans people or anything by trying to be something I'm not, as I don't feel like a woman. I'm just not the man I'm expected to be, and I really really hate it.




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Are there any TV shows with a good female role model?

I am very strict on what I allow my daughter to watch/read/play etc. Truth is I won't let her watch most shows today, especially ones aimed at girls, most are quite vile.

Recently she was about to watch a TV show she found on Netflix and the first scene was some woman giving a guy oral. Joy.

So I immediately turned it off and told her she was not allowed to watch it. I most certainly won't allow her to watch shows like Jersey Shore. Sadly the vast amount of TV that has women in it usually has them in the role of plaything or mostly useless character. There is a show called "Girls" that my daughter has told me she wants to watch but being the premise is:

Quote:

A comedy about the experiences of a group of girls in their early 20's.
Which basically means watching girls get involved in all manners of hedonism and debauchery.

Luckily, I did buy my daughter some old stuff like I love lucy, father knows best, leave it to beaver, lots of older stuff and she loves them all.

But are there any shows today that have women in a positive role and doesn't involved lots of sex and stuff? Thanks!




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What are your views on drugs and alcohol?

What do you think of each? When I say drugs, I mean weed, since it's the most common. Which do you prefer and why?


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my boyfriend loses his erection JUST before sex?!

yeah so, he loses his erection just before sex .. he can easily get an erection no problem, it even just happens sometimes when we're only kissing or something harmless .. he can ejaculate fine also because this happens fine during foreplay & oral etc .. we're both 19 and have been friends for about 7 years and have been together for a while also .. so he hasn't got any reason to be nervous, i suppose? is it perhaps performance anxiety?! could it be the condom? could he be allergic to latex? or is the condom maybe too small? once the condom goes on its just all down hill from there .. i know this really gets to him because he goes really quiet after it happens and gets really embarrassed, which is understandable really .. but he knows it doesn't bother me, and i still love him which he knows .. at first i thought it was me but i know he finds me attractive and that he loves me & that he really wants to but it just doesn't happen after that condom goes on and just before we are about to have sex .. thats it, goodbye erection!
so, has anyone ever experienced this personally or has their partner? what did you/they do? should we see the doctor? and is there anything we should try before we go as extreme as visiting the doc?
i'd really appreciate any info/advice ..
thanks guys xx




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I gave him my landline...

There is a guy that comes in my work and I've posted about him before, well I finally plucked up the courage to give him my number. The thing is, I left my mobile phone at home and I don't know the number off by heart so I wrote down my land line as I didn't want to miss the opportunity and he doesn't come in that often. He said he would call but he hasn't yet, I have it to him yesterday lunch time. Is this why he hasn't called? I feel really embarrassed.
By the way he does show interest in me and told someone that he likes me. Also he seems like a confident guy so I don't think he's shy to call. Would you be put off if a girl have you her land line? :(




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