instead of dating whilst living at separate addresses? What happens, does the love grow, or does it become stale and unexciting as you get to know details of their habits.
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what happens to a relationship when the couple live with one another?
Bad Situation after Zante
Okay I have a girlfriend and we are deeply in love and i know i would never cheat on her, but I went to Zante and on the second from last night me and my pals were hitting up some beers and shots next thing you know I have cleared my bank account the next day and woken up legally married to some chick, she has just added me on facebook and we are both young and clueless about how this has happened. How do i break the news to my girlfriend that I am now married.
Please help me out guys i mean my parents are going to kill me, I don't think i even got a honeymoon.
I have asked my friends but they cant seem to contain themselves and just laugh hysterically about the situation. its all getting me rather down i don't want a wife. hoping its all some sort of sick joke.
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Guys, why?
Guys, why do you claim to love a girl but continue to hurt her by doing the same wrong things over and over? Why is it that you only realise your lost after a few months once she has gone? :(
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He asked if I'd like to marry him?
I met my boyfriend online and we've been together for just 3 months. He's 5 years older than me(I'm 25) and often talks about marriage and having kids but usually makes a joke of it. I do feel like I see a future with him and he says the same.
The other night we were watching 'Don't tell the bride' and he said 'Do you want to marry me?' I was shocked and said 'I don't know it's too soon to be thinking about that' and he seemed a little disappointed! Do you think he was digging? Or just joking? I know he doesn't mean 'Right now'...
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Nothing Wrong With Having 2 Girlfriends!
I have a long term gf, usual story, nothing too interesting for you, pretty, good personality, we are there for each other etc etc etc.
I have a girl on the side, who knows I have a main gf, but we very rarely talk about her, and me and this girl mess about, see each other and its kinda nice, no strings attached. I like her because shes proper stunning, with an almost perfect body (shes a dancer and she told me shes a model but I couldnt be asked to research that). And she likes me because I have a decent (i suppose) car, I take her out, make her laugh.
I think its pretty good, obviously the main one does not and will not ever know. But why does she need to? Im NOT neglecting her in any way, I still see her, talk or text every day etc. Infact I would go as far as saying Im probably better to both of them than most guys are to their girls.
I have been attacked by my female friends and accused of being this, that and whatever - just ruining my image by spreading negative s*** about me.
But I just do not understand why people are making a stupid deal out of this? No one is going to get hurt because the main one will not find out.
PLEASE remember NO-ONE is getting hurt, so why the problem? In this situation there are 3 happy people and 0 unhappy people, no one is getting hurt.
And to the mods, I want to talk about my relationships because I cant discuss these things with my friends because you dont talk about these things in my social circle. Its nice I have a voice here to put my frustrations. I believe I am a decent person.
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Girls....and Guys too if you can help shed light
Ok basically I've been with my boyfriend over two years and it's been no smooth ride due to different things.
However about 6 months ago a girl started posting on his Facebook wall using pet names names and loads of x's and stuff. She lives in a difference country/part of the UK
I asked him who she was and he said it's a girl he met online years ago and used to flirt with. Obviously this made me weary I trusted him and believed him when he said that there had been no flirting since we have been together. So it was pretty much left like that. But the last few months the wall posts and pet names have started again, although from what I can see of what he replies he isn't reciprocating.
What's making me weary is that he likes every photo she uploads to Facebook, so it's making think maybe there's more going on it private message.
Does it sound like I have something to worry about or am I just over thinking?
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any idea how to know?
Anyone have any idea how to know, if your ex gf still have feeling for you or not, when she cut off all possible contact (blocking my fb, phone, new address and no friend in common)?
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Could someone help me?
Before I write this I just want to say I have nothing against Americans.
I am a 19 year old girl and I went 4 dates with an American. He is studying in England.
I want to know if this is because he's American or if it's just the way he is. Ever since I gave him my number he's been slightly over bearing as in texting me the most cringiest text messages ever.
When I was on the date with him he was VERY over complimentary as in telling me how awesome I am and how great he thinks I am, to the point where I had to tell him to stop because it was making me feel really uncomfortable. He even asked me if he could ''make-out'' with me and he was like you should come to America with me, we will all love you over there, especially my friends, they love British chicks :o.
Whenever I say a word that he hasn't heard he asks me to repeat it because apparently my British accent is adorable and hilarious
Am I the weird one for finding it so uncomfortable? I've been with British guys who are slightly clingy but this is just on a whole other level.
I kind of feel he only likes me because of where I am from......anyone have any experience of dating Americans? I know I can't really generalise but I'm just wondering if it has anything to do with him being American as I know they are known to be kind of over the top and stuff.
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Defamation over social media
Sorry, I know that this isn't the right forum but I didn't know where else I could post anonymously.
Anyway, about a week ago I had a debate with someone over twitter. It was quite a tame debate, it wasn't really abusive but when I thought he was getting to the point where he could lose control I ended the communication and thought nothing of it.
Fast forward five days and I see his profile come up again while looking at other people's thoughts on the issue. I clicked onto his profile and there have been several pictures uploaded, of my face, with text that implies I'm well...a sexual deviant.
I've reported it but I'm so upset. I like to think of myself as a moral person and I didn't think that from a debate on twitter I'd be accused of the things I have been, along with my picture being used. All allegations are completely untrue and although I don't think he meant them seriously (just to offend me), they are serious and have affected me quite a bit this evening. I don't know the individual aside from our brief exchange five days ago.
It has been up for several days now. I'm not sure how many other people have seen them as I use the photo on other social media accounts. I cannot bear people thinking I am what he has suggested I am.
I've reported it but is there anything else I can do? I'm really upset by it.
Thank you in advance :).
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How to deal with being stood up?
Ive been stood up by a guy I genuinely liked and Ive been stood up by a friend multiple times. In the heat of the moment, Id think about going home and have myself a little cry but somehow, each time Ive ended up with pizza instead. :o
Has it ever happened to you? How do you deal with it? Especially when you're looking fine as ****
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Completely lost about infidelity
Hey forum, this is my first post. I've dug around a little and this seems like a great place for advice. I apologize for what is probably going to be a long post, but I need to talk to someone about this.
I'm a husband who's wife was unfaithful. I discovered about 5 months ago that my wife (together 10 years, married just over 1 year) had been talking to and seeing another man for about 5 weeks. Their relationship was primarily "Emotional" with some physical contact (kissing) - based on what she has said and what I could verify on details. I caught it quick, but I am confident that if they were not having sex, it was just a matter of time.
We had just found out that our first born child was on the way when this all started. We had a very strong friendship and marriage, so I was absolutely floored when everything came to light. She began acting a little different and something just didn't sit right, so I did some digging and discovered their text string and phone call records that started almost the day she found out she was pregnant. WTF???
This information while helpful in unfolding what happened, was also very damaging and heartbreaking to learn. She discussed things with him that were very passionate and intimate (she even referred to us having sex as her cheating on him). Definitely my first question I can't wrap my mind around - what would possess a woman in a good marriage and home who just found out she is pregnant to cheat on her husband with a complete loser???
Fast forward, we stayed separated for a few months and she has since moved back in so i can be there for the final months of the pregnancy. We have completed a paternity test to verify that i am the father. We have been trying to work things out (she is really working hard), but I just can't put as much effort in after knowing what she did to our marriage. Just being honest here...
Since this all happened, I have been confused and beside myself on everything. I really DON'T KNOW what I want to do with our Marriage. Our marriage and friendship was very strong and people say that if your marriage is strong you can work through it, but how strong is a 1 year old marriage that ends up like this, especially given the circumstances???
I am not the emotional type or the person who finds hope in random things - just being honest. This has and will eat away at me for a very very long time. I can't look at her or feel for her the same. The hurt is just too deep.
Our child will be born in a few months and my whole life I have wanted nothing more than to bring my child/children into a great family life. I came from a divorced home and I never wanted to bring my children into this. My intuition tells me to stay together for the child which I am willing to do, even believing I will feel miserable being with her.
I am so confused on what to do or what is the best direction to go. I have no idea how I would be a single father and no desire to start my life over, but can't find the desire to stay with my wife after she did this during such an early and important point in our lives. Just seems like there is no way out. Just need to talk to someone about it. Anyone have anything for me?
I'm a husband who's wife was unfaithful. I discovered about 5 months ago that my wife (together 10 years, married just over 1 year) had been talking to and seeing another man for about 5 weeks. Their relationship was primarily "Emotional" with some physical contact (kissing) - based on what she has said and what I could verify on details. I caught it quick, but I am confident that if they were not having sex, it was just a matter of time.
We had just found out that our first born child was on the way when this all started. We had a very strong friendship and marriage, so I was absolutely floored when everything came to light. She began acting a little different and something just didn't sit right, so I did some digging and discovered their text string and phone call records that started almost the day she found out she was pregnant. WTF???
This information while helpful in unfolding what happened, was also very damaging and heartbreaking to learn. She discussed things with him that were very passionate and intimate (she even referred to us having sex as her cheating on him). Definitely my first question I can't wrap my mind around - what would possess a woman in a good marriage and home who just found out she is pregnant to cheat on her husband with a complete loser???
Fast forward, we stayed separated for a few months and she has since moved back in so i can be there for the final months of the pregnancy. We have completed a paternity test to verify that i am the father. We have been trying to work things out (she is really working hard), but I just can't put as much effort in after knowing what she did to our marriage. Just being honest here...
Since this all happened, I have been confused and beside myself on everything. I really DON'T KNOW what I want to do with our Marriage. Our marriage and friendship was very strong and people say that if your marriage is strong you can work through it, but how strong is a 1 year old marriage that ends up like this, especially given the circumstances???
I am not the emotional type or the person who finds hope in random things - just being honest. This has and will eat away at me for a very very long time. I can't look at her or feel for her the same. The hurt is just too deep.
Our child will be born in a few months and my whole life I have wanted nothing more than to bring my child/children into a great family life. I came from a divorced home and I never wanted to bring my children into this. My intuition tells me to stay together for the child which I am willing to do, even believing I will feel miserable being with her.
I am so confused on what to do or what is the best direction to go. I have no idea how I would be a single father and no desire to start my life over, but can't find the desire to stay with my wife after she did this during such an early and important point in our lives. Just seems like there is no way out. Just need to talk to someone about it. Anyone have anything for me?
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Number of orgasms
I have a question about the number of orgasms other women typically have in one sex session. In talking to a few friends (although most of my friends won't say much about their sex lives) I've noticed that I am unusual because I can have a lot of orgasms, and fairly easily.
I felt almost embarrassed admitting it to them, but I usually have 3 or 4 every single time we have sex, and often more than that. They were astounded, and thought I was making it up.
So, I wonder if this is typical?
I almost never have orgasms from intercourse (unless I am on top and he's rubbing my clit at the same time) but I can easily have them from oral sex and his fingers rubbing there. I have had over 10 in one sex session before.
Is anyone else like this?
I think it's one of the reasons I want sex so often.
I am curious to see what others have to say.
My H likes to think he's a stud in bed, and he is very good, but I think I am just lucky, or something.
I felt almost embarrassed admitting it to them, but I usually have 3 or 4 every single time we have sex, and often more than that. They were astounded, and thought I was making it up.
So, I wonder if this is typical?
I almost never have orgasms from intercourse (unless I am on top and he's rubbing my clit at the same time) but I can easily have them from oral sex and his fingers rubbing there. I have had over 10 in one sex session before.
Is anyone else like this?
I think it's one of the reasons I want sex so often.
I am curious to see what others have to say.
My H likes to think he's a stud in bed, and he is very good, but I think I am just lucky, or something.
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Most favorite/least favorite words
What are your favorite and least favorite words?
Favorites: shenanigans, skullduggery, catawumpus
Least favorites: slacks, moist.
Favorites: shenanigans, skullduggery, catawumpus
Least favorites: slacks, moist.
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Finding the strength to leave. In tears.
"A person who is profoundly unhappy in a marriage is also depriving his or her partner of the experience of being wholly loved and accepted, rather than endured." - Joyce Maynard
This is the quote that is getting me through this morning. Dealing with everything, knowing my husband is so unhappy, affair or not. Knowing that I am the one "being endured" and deprived of being wholly loved.
This is the quote which might just give me the courage to leave. All along, I have wanted our family to stay together. I have wanted our children to have a stable and loving life, with parents who stay together. I have worked so hard to try to make this happen. But my husband destroyed that dream the minute his thoughts and passion went to another woman. He is the one who destroyed our family, not me. I have struggled with trying to be the one to pick up the pieces of the marriage which I didn't break. I have tried my best during this reconciliation, which has turned out to be false. I have tried to be the wife I needed to be because I LOVE him despite it all, and I love our family so much. I feel shattered and destroyed. I'm tired of wanting to know his whereabouts 24/7. Tired of all the secrecy.
I deserve to be wholly loved, and my kids deserve happy parents.
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This is the quote that is getting me through this morning. Dealing with everything, knowing my husband is so unhappy, affair or not. Knowing that I am the one "being endured" and deprived of being wholly loved.
This is the quote which might just give me the courage to leave. All along, I have wanted our family to stay together. I have wanted our children to have a stable and loving life, with parents who stay together. I have worked so hard to try to make this happen. But my husband destroyed that dream the minute his thoughts and passion went to another woman. He is the one who destroyed our family, not me. I have struggled with trying to be the one to pick up the pieces of the marriage which I didn't break. I have tried my best during this reconciliation, which has turned out to be false. I have tried to be the wife I needed to be because I LOVE him despite it all, and I love our family so much. I feel shattered and destroyed. I'm tired of wanting to know his whereabouts 24/7. Tired of all the secrecy.
I deserve to be wholly loved, and my kids deserve happy parents.
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Leg cramps during sex?
I haven 't ever seen this posted and wonder if anyone else has ever experienced this problem and what they did about it?
We will be in the middle of consummating our sex when H will feel a leg cramp coming on. Sometimes I can help him work it out but often it is so painful it completely takes over and negates any pleasure we feel
from our orgasms.
We have tried different positions but so many can be effected by this...about the only one that doesn't induce a cramp is me on top which is not either of our favorites.
It doesn't happen every time but I would say 1 out of 4 times making both of us overly wary every time we begin..not conducive to the experience!
We are aware that his age(63), dehydration or overwork can be a factor. And there is not alot of help for this medically.
Has anyone experienced this or have any suggestions?
We will be in the middle of consummating our sex when H will feel a leg cramp coming on. Sometimes I can help him work it out but often it is so painful it completely takes over and negates any pleasure we feel
from our orgasms.
We have tried different positions but so many can be effected by this...about the only one that doesn't induce a cramp is me on top which is not either of our favorites.
It doesn't happen every time but I would say 1 out of 4 times making both of us overly wary every time we begin..not conducive to the experience!
We are aware that his age(63), dehydration or overwork can be a factor. And there is not alot of help for this medically.
Has anyone experienced this or have any suggestions?
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I have a Dilemma
Well, I have a friend who is currently resitting for her final examinations (mathematics and science) and she doesn't seem to be really serious about it.
She asked me to help her out and I told her that she is going to have to go 100% with me. Since we don't live in the same area I told her I could help her via texts but we still meet on Wednesdays.
The first week started off bumpy and she kept on procrastinating and telling me that helping her via text doesn't work and she needs a face to face meet. I told her for time being that we should just make 'lemons with lemonade', for that reason I use images and videos to broaden things up.
Last week there was no communication with her and later told me her mom was sick, I told her okay she should nurse her mom but study whenever she can, she didn't.
There's 10 weeks left until she writes and I still have to teach her Pre-calculus, Calculus, Trigonometry, Euclidean Geometry, Statistics, Chemistry and others.
I get that she has a life outside school but whenever I tell her to work harder so that she can get into university/college she tells me that I keep pushing her and I don't think she likes it but when it comes to resitting for examinations, shouldn't I push her? Should I just let her be and help her whenever she asks me (which she only does when we meet on Wednesdays)? Should I not give her assignments and tasks to complete?
I also have to study a lot of stuff - I have a life too.
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I think I just messed up/relapsed
quick back story--
walk away wife last fall
i dated while going through divorce and till about a month ago same girl
wife had dates but no bf
i get cancer
while im in recovery wife stops by often and we get along
one of those days she says if i am ever single again i should ask her out
a couple of weeks ago she hugs and kisses me on the mouth
she admits last week that she has wanted to "jump my bones"
i am non chalant about it she doesnt seem truly interested im R so i dont say much
tonight she texts that she needs to come over to talk she tells me some random items then gets real emotional and tells me she started dating a guy she ran into about a week ago that she went to college with
after she leaves i send texts kids have already met him but when i was dating for six months she flipped out when the gf met the kids after 2 1/2 months
she sayys she is sorry
i ask for what, for making you upset she says
then i feel a trigger--anger like i felt last fall when she gave me the ILYBINILWY
then my daughter tells me neither of the kids had baths at her house--tues to friday-- i text her asking if true--she said busy week they need baths
this is the second time in 3 weeks she has neglected to bathe them over her three day visitation
i go off said you suck, dont come over tomorrow (for sons birthday) and show up on time to get them sunday
im so angry and want to get back to where i was when i didnt care....help?
walk away wife last fall
i dated while going through divorce and till about a month ago same girl
wife had dates but no bf
i get cancer
while im in recovery wife stops by often and we get along
one of those days she says if i am ever single again i should ask her out
a couple of weeks ago she hugs and kisses me on the mouth
she admits last week that she has wanted to "jump my bones"
i am non chalant about it she doesnt seem truly interested im R so i dont say much
tonight she texts that she needs to come over to talk she tells me some random items then gets real emotional and tells me she started dating a guy she ran into about a week ago that she went to college with
after she leaves i send texts kids have already met him but when i was dating for six months she flipped out when the gf met the kids after 2 1/2 months
she sayys she is sorry
i ask for what, for making you upset she says
then i feel a trigger--anger like i felt last fall when she gave me the ILYBINILWY
then my daughter tells me neither of the kids had baths at her house--tues to friday-- i text her asking if true--she said busy week they need baths
this is the second time in 3 weeks she has neglected to bathe them over her three day visitation
i go off said you suck, dont come over tomorrow (for sons birthday) and show up on time to get them sunday
im so angry and want to get back to where i was when i didnt care....help?
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