I am a Demisexual in a relationship with an asexual....

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I am a Demisexual in a relationship with an asexual....

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• 9 hours ago 9h ago

Though I want to either understand asexuality a bit better or discover whether she may be demisexual like I am.

I only ask this because she wants to take my virginity in the future. Which doesn't to me seem like something that fits asexuality. Is that something that asexuals can want to do? Or is it something that she wants to do just to keep me happy when I may want to do it in the future?

Whenever I see her we are very happy kissing and cuddling and I would not want to change anything :) Though when the time comes when I want to lose my virginity, I want to have a clear idea of what she really is, just so I know what to expect! If it means anything I'm 21 and she's approaching 18

You may question me about me being demisexual as well. Just please don't state that it doesn't exist! :D

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Would this be considered cheating or not?

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Would this be considered cheating or not?

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• 8 hours ago 8h ago

I'm looking for answers here.

Last weekend the now ex-girlfriend went away on a trip and became sexual with one of the girls she had gone on the trip with. I had no knowledge or input on this matter and certainly it wasn't done with my consent of any kind. I came to find out about it through a 3rd party (one of the girls that was on the trip), ex didn't deny it happened but had no intention of telling me.

Anyway I deemed it that she had cheated and kicked both her and her daughter out of the home as I saw no reason to continue with her.

Now some of our friends are saying I acted harshly and should have given her a chance to explain herself as she didn't cheat. She is wanting to get back together but I haven't quite thought much about it as been rather busy.

Thought?

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Males, can you explain to me why he has done this?

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Males, can you explain to me why he has done this?

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• 8 hours ago 8h ago

I met a guy at party, we got on very well, he asked if I had a bf (i did at the time but was planning on breaking up) he said it was a shame because he was interested...
after the party we exchanged numbers and were talking via text for 3 weeks. We met up once, he came to my friend's house and we just talked. He asked me to go to a gig with him and was often suggesting we needed to meet up more, which I always said yes to. He phoned me when he was drunk just to chat, and we were just having a great time getting to know each other.

Then last week after I suggested we meet up he said yeah but never gave me an actual day so we never met, and we continued texting but just less..
He came to a my friend's party which we had both been really excited about, constantly talking about seeing each other there. When he arrived he was rather blunt with me, wouldn't really stick around me for very long..which really upset me, because I didn't understand why.
My friend spoke to him whilst she was rather drunk because I was upset and said something like 'I wouldn't mess her around, she just got out of a long relationship' he said 'I am really bad at all this relationship stuff, I like being single'. (he has said this to me a few times, but also said I really want to have a relationship but also don't...)
I then apologised to him the next day for coming across as angry with him because 'I have feelings for him and didnt know what to do', he said 'That's alright, I don't see you any differently'
but what has sucked is that we have just not talked really, I didn't go to the gig because he never mentioned it again, and I reached out to him with a message the other day and he just stopped replying really quickly...
I have also seen some odd tweets from him about 'it sucks not being able to be with the one you like' and 'maybe I should say something but its hard' which he then deleted...
is he into someone else?
do you think he ever actually liked me or what?

(also just before things kinda went a bit silent between us, I told him that I wasn't very happy and that I have been finding it hard to get enjoyment from life, he was offering me advice and stuff..do you think that really put him off?)

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Trying to work her out

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Trying to work her out

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• 10 hours ago 10h ago

If a girl says things like, 'we like the same things'
nervous initially when I talk to her playing with her hair, and lifting up her 'front' but we see each other every day.
Does this indicate interest?

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Have I made the right decision in getting back with my ex?

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Have I made the right decision in getting back with my ex?

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• 1 minute ago now

Well basically, at the start of sixth form I had no self-confidence, and I used to suck off any guy that gave me the slightest bit of attention. Then along comes H, to start with we're just best friends, then of course that progresses to lovers, and then a full-blown relationship.

This all goes nicely, I get on well with with his family and he's obviously incredibly happy to be with me, for whatever reason. I always felt like he was the 'one for now' and we stayed together for the rest of sixth form, so nearly 18 months. In this time I did think about other guys and often wondered whether I could do better elsewhere (by this point my self-confidence was pretty healthy). But I thought; why rock the boat, uni is coming up and he doesn't want to go long-distance.

The week before uni we were both depressed about the prospect of becoming single, but we broke up anyway. Then I get to uni, and it's wonderful; I make loads of friends and really hit the ground running. After just a week he has a drunken one night stand with my best friend from home (they're both at Liverpool). Needless to say, I'm pissed off and he's terribly guilty.

Two weeks later, he's in town to see family. We meet up, and it's awkward but good to see him. He cries a lot, says he's sorry. He asks me to take him back.

In my time so far at uni I've kissed a couple of boys in clubs, but nothing serious and no major flirting, because I didn't really feel the need to suddenly move on, I just moved on slowly and sensibly.

Last weekend, I went home to see my family and who's home from uni too? My ex. We meet up, and cuddle on the sofa. It's so wonderful and it reminds me of everything I enjoyed about our relationship. So, like a weak fool, I agree to take him back.

Now, he's talking about children and marriage and growing old together. What do I do? I don't want to be tied down, I want to explore and maybe have sex with new people, or at least go on cheap dates. He keeps saying he's in love with me and I feel trapped.

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Does moving to another place cause unhappiness......

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Does moving to another place cause unhappiness......

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• 13 minutes ago 13m ago

Lets say you moved to start again in the city. You were happy first, optimistic, talkative when started uni. You were mostly at uni to do something and to be in a the city.

You started to become more isolated even when you joined groups, clubs. You have nothing in common with the ones at uni and haven't connected with hardly anyone, people avoided you.You were basically working in a negative environment that were suppose to be like minded even though you were positive and happy with yourself. You felt isolated in the house you were living in. Was this because I was in the wrong environment? I know who I am

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Deciding whether my relationship will last?

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Deciding whether my relationship will last?

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• 6 hours ago 6h ago

My girlfriend and me are both third year students at a 'satellite campus' of a larger City based University. I live her locally whereas she is from the other side of the county (about 3-4 hours away).

We have had a few issues including my insecurities about her past, my anxious thinking and me accusing her of cheating, which led to the demise of the relationship the first time.

After a somewhat hectic summer we decided to get back together as we both really loved each other, missed each other. We spent an awful lot of time together over the summer and I see her most days, if not three times a week. We do loads together.

The problem is I am filled with anxiety about the future and what will happen. I don't want this situation to be a case of, we graduate, she goes back home, we drift apart.

We've discussed moving in together or moving closer. Next year I will be doing a Masters course here at my uni (funds permitting), and she is training to be a teacher (hopefully at same uni).

I think we are both very nervous about the future, and the outlook of our relationship, but we've both expressed our concerns and want to do what we can to make it work.

Not so long ago my girlfriend asked me to marry her. I am not sure if this is because she is feeling insecure or wants to cling to me. But I guess we are very much absorbed with each other.

Also at the moment the relationship seems to soak up all of my time and I rarely ever think about work. Which I should do.

Any advice?

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i want to get back at my ex

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i want to get back at my ex

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• 1 Hour Ago 1 hour ago

i was going out with her for almost 2 years but she's been my best friend for 5 years. everything was good until we went to uni, where she screwed me over. Everything i done for her she threw it back in my face and forgot and she was making me jealous. She said I'm not forgetting you completely i still have the pandora , which makes me feel used because i spent alot of money on her. She's proper bitch now and very heartless. She lied to me a lot and broke promises. She's quite stubborn and doesn't realise how much its affected me. All our friends knows but she doesn't. I want to get back and get revenge because she screwed me over twice now. i know its wrong but i want to get back her or atleast realise how much its affected me.

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What does he want?

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What does he want?

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• 31 minutes ago 31m ago

There is a guy from my summer job who I got drunk with one night and got close to, but nothing really happened. Then a mutual friend set us up on a date and we went on a couple of dates at the end of summer.

I'm at uni miles away from home, so we agreed to keep in touch. We text a bit but not that much (he is a massive technophobe!), then I was home for half term and he told me that he couldn't do the long distance thing, but to stay friends because he likes me a lot and see what happens. Then he kissed me.

Neither of us have been in a relationship before and we are in our 20s. He said that he had liked me all summer (so obviously didnt intend to make a move until our friend basically forced us to go out).

Since we agreed to just be friends, he is texting me more than before, still not that much, but he's actually starting conversations now which he never did before!

I am thinking about him too much, not really sure what to do. Any ideas what he is thinking? I'm trying to think good of him, but my friends just say he wants to 'have his cake and eat it'... and that I can do better than him.

If we carry on like this we will be working together next summer and still no clue whats going on lol

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Have I made the right decision?

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Have I made the right decision?

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I want to sleep with this one guy but I know it'll end badly. I really like him, but I'm a virgin and he's a bit of a player. Everyone tells me he likes me, but it'll only end in tears. I keep changing my mind - he's not a bad guy and we get on really well so sometimes I think '**** it I'll just go with the flow and deal with the consequences later' but other times I'm consumed with doubt and I feel crushed when I even see him talking to another girl. I've had enough of this rollercoaster of emotions so I've told him I don't want to get into anything unless I'm reassured he cares about me. He's now telling me I need to stop being silly and just let go and relax. He never understands me as I'm always so conflicted and confused, he seems to think the whole thing is up to me. Is he right? Will I regret causing such a fuss later on and wish I'd just gone for it, as we both want to? I already do, as all I want to do when I see him is just kiss him. I hate being like th is, I wish I could just live in the moment like he does. What shall I do?

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will i get with this girl?

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will i get with this girl?

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yeah so I met this girl at the uni club the other day and she is so hot, then i finally had the courage to go up to her and ask her the way to the tube station. she told me the way but she took a long time over it, and looked into my eyes like really deeply...I think she wanted to ask for something else...have I missed my opportunity to ask her out?????

damn when am i ever going to get out of my shell???? i feel like an absolute idiot :(

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Should I stay friends with the person that outed me?

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Should I stay friends with the person that outed me?

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Last year I came to the realisation that I'm gay but I hadn't come to terms with it due to my upbringing and religion so I hadn't come out to any one but kind of gave up with the pretence that I wasn't. One of my friends worked it out and instead of talking to me about it, outed me at a party to all of my friends. As a consequence I lost some of those friends. She then told some other people at school so before long my whole year knew.
This September I moved to a new school for sixth form and she also changed to the same school. I was hoping changing schools would give me time to come to terms with being gay without people knowing but she told people at my new school.
We've stayed friends although she's constantly rude and homophobic and has no concept of boundaries. I kinda want to stay friends with her but I don't really feel I can deal with it any more as I want time to deal with this on my own and not be constantly insulted about something I'm still insecure about.
What shall I do? Any advice?

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Did what brought you here(TAM) make your marriage stronger?

Did coming here at the worst time in your marriage help or hurt it? Going outside of the marriage looking for opinions or answers help the issue at hand? For me, my answer it has helped. I wish I would have found it sooner.

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Husband and ED

For the past few months when my hubby and i have sex, he has been getting soft during sex and unable to continue as he can not get hard again. Does this mean he is no longer attracted to me?

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Did I Lie?

This may seem trivial but here I go. My wife wanted me to give up working on pc computers on the side so I could focus on the family and get things done around the house a few years back. So I eventually did. Thing is she got more involved in online gaming and eventually addicted to one. This interfered more than my computer repairs. We talked about it but she didn't back off for a long while and still games today but not as intense. During this time and recently I worked on a few computers without her knowing. I figured if she won't back off on her stuff why should I. But my recent one I started feeling convicted about it. So to the point. I left work late the other day and on the way home I dropped off this laptop I worked on at my used to be coworkers house who only lives like 5 minutes from my house. When I got home she mentioned about me being late and I told her I left work late but did not mention dropping off the laptop for the obvious reason. Di d I lie? By not mentioning that? I have decided not to work on anymore computers without her knowledge but should I reveal my passed activities?

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Chronic Gambler and Porn Viewer Husband

I have been married to my husband for 7 years we have 3 kids. My husband is a chronic gambler of the last 6 years and it has consumed all of our finances, his jobs and our marriage is hanging by a threat. I call him and he doesn't answer and that drives me insane, which only confirms he must be in a Casino ( i hate them with all my guts) Recently i discovered he has been watching porn too which i believe is very hurtful and i feel like he's cheating on me emotionally. My marriage is in the rocks due to the gambling and porn. I can't see myself without him, and i think his problems are affecting me emotionally. I am 100% sure he is in love with me, but i am starting to believe love is not enough here. I would love to get divorces but i have 3 kids with him, i don't see my self with any other man nor i see any other man that will be willing to want a serious relationship with me.
Anyone has any advice on my problem, i would greatly appreciate it.

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"R" motivation.

This is the thread to give the reasons WHY you are in reconciliation.:) How honest can you be?;) How many of you can truly say that you are "in love" with your spouse, or .....are there other considerations? WS and BS both welcome.:smthumbup:

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