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When does a secret imply that someone likes you?

So, there's a girl in my university group. We've known each other for just over a year now, and she's a really sweet and kind of shy person in general to talk to.

As of easter onwards, we started becoming really close, going out everywhere together, and the level of secrets that she would tell me took another step... There's always been a sense of relationship potential between the two of us, and it has been like that for a while.

During the summer, she went back home, and we didn't see each other for a few months, I figured this could've been a situation that would've hurt any relationship potential we had, so I kind of accepted that I fell for her at an inopportune time and moved on.

Since we came back to start our current year of university, as of last months, we literally picked back up where we left off... But the extremity of the things she'ld tell me took another step up over the last few days. She's been making several implications of her liking me, and the only thing that is holding me back from sitting down in the park or at a restaurant and admitting my feelings for her is what I could potentially lose in telling her.

One thing that has increased throughout time has been the severity of secrets she would tell me... I mean, if you're a male and a female literally tells you that "She swallows" among other things... That's surely pointing out the elephant in the room, right?

What I'm trying to ask is... How deep would a female go into her secrets before it's obvious that she likes you?

Obviously, small secrets such as: "Oh, I suffer from this" or "I'm not a virgin" are no big deal, almost anyone knows that of their friends.

I guess this is pointed at females... What kind of secrets would you only tell someone you liked? I really want to sit down and admit my feelings for her, I've genuinely loved her for about half a year, but I'm just scared of the repercussions of rejection. (I've been there before, and I can handle it... It just devastates the friendship we had before-hand, and nothing is the same again.)

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PoF?

So I haven't made a profile for Plenty of Fish, but I think I should join a dating site, and PoF is free. I just wanna ask if any of you guys have been on it before? Did you find someone? Is it just full of ned/chavs who wear too much make up, or is there any rocker chicks?
- Cheers

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Is there something seriously wrong with me?

So I have begun to wonder if I should seek some sort of counselling for this problem, or whether I'm being stupid.

I have a lot going for me, a loving family, lots of friends and I'm currently studying abroad as part of my degree. I have no reason to be unhappy or lonely or anything.

People tend to think I am very innocent, but I have a horrible problem. I can't stop bringing completely random guys back for sex.

In three months since I've been away, it's now happened twice (three if you count the one I kicked out when I came to my senses). Maybe that's not a huge number but it's after promising myself that it would never happen again. I have no reason to. It makes me miserable and I don't know how to cope with the shame and regret. But I've brought it on myself and even after the first time I did it again.

Obviously it only happens after I've been drinking but I turn into a completely different person who is sex obsessed and just vile really. I don't get any pleasure out of it (mainly because I cant remember it) and I end up despising myself for weeks on end. Then when I just about forget about it, I go and do it again.

What is wrong with me, how do i stop being such a slut? It's not what I want to be and I've never felt so low. I tried to completely cut out drinking but there's always a birthday, or some sort of celebration where I'll go out, get too drunk too quick because people are buying rounds and that's when it happens, I can never remember any of it until I wake up in the morning with someone there.

I guess my friends would tell me to stop behaving like this if they knew, but no one ever finds out as I always say they just walked me back. I can't bare to tell anyone because even my closest friends probably wouldn't believe it.

Please help, before I fork out 100s of pounds for a professional...

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Have you ever fallen in love with a celebrity?

Since watching Prisoners 2 days a go i really can't get over how perfect Jake Gyllinhaal was. He is 14 years older than me, has a gf and lives in LA so i know i have zero chance with him. I can't stop looking at his photos and i feel jealous of his gf. Is this common behaviour for an 18 yr old girl? How do i get over him :(

P.s ive never had a bf

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When a guy asks u to sit on his lap

What's the meaning behind it?!

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Princess for Haloween?

First things first, I'm not trolling, gay, etc whatever you want to call it, this is a real genuine question.

So watching a film about prom with my girlfriend the other night, has resulted in me having a strong urge to dress up as a princess for haloween. Don't know why, I just really want to know what it's like to wear such a dress and stuff.
I've never done anything like this before, so I was wondering how I could tell my girlfriend I want to dress up for haloween? Any tips?

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Unlikeable girls

In your opinions, do you think there are some traits which are universally unattractive in women (and men), platonically and romantically?

I've always had a hard time making and keeping friends, I can do the small talk bit but the friendship never gets past the first ten minutes and the people often forget me very quickly and stop recognising me (on purpose maybe?). It's the same with men - I think I'm good at the small talk bit, but it rarely gets beyond that. If someone is interested in me, it usually lasts less than a month and they just start blanking me, their way of telling me they're not interested I guess. On occasion I have made the first move, so if I have a good chat with a guy, I might text and ask if they had a good night etc, maybe ask to hang out, but I get consistently blanked. Eventually, every guy I've ever liked has just stopped talking to me.

Is it me or them?

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Trying to be friendly to my ex but he's hostile?

Hi guys,

I'm in my final year of gcses and there's this guy in my class. We had a romance about two years when we drifted apart and gradually went back to being strangers with a few awkward talks here and there. Our friends still tease us about each other and all so we both make sarcastic comments about it. Anyway, I'm not going to our school sixth form so I decided that we might as well be good mates in our final year so I don't go feeling bad about anything. For the past month or so, I've been trying so hard to be friendly and strike up a random conversation but he just raises his eyebrows or says a one word answer. I really don't know what to do.
What's up with him???

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Must let this guy go but i can't?

I had feelings for this guy 2 years ago and now he's been playing with my feeling ever since. All I have to do is look at him and feelings come back so quickly. I'm going to be leaving the school next september but I just want to get over him... How do I do that?

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I'm an idiot and I'm going to ruin my life if I'm not careful

I have a wonderful partner that I adore, he's funny and clever and thoughful and we have a beautiful son together. He's done nothing wrong, and I feel like the biggest cow on the planet because I've developed a stupid, juvenile crush on a guy on my course. It's ridiculous, I feel like a love-struck teenager - I'm making excuses to run into him, over-analysing every look and word he sends my way and thinking about him FAR too much. It's making me feel guilty around my partner - he's not an idiot, he knows something is up, but he would be absolutely devastated to think I had feelings for someone else so I can't tell him. I really don't want to cause problems in my relationship over this.

Anyone have any hints about making this go away?

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Can't work him out :(

I was seeing this guy for about a year (sleeping together for around 5 months). I loved him but reasons meant we couldn't see each other no more. We didn't fall out or argue, but I told him exactly how he felt and how much he meant to me.

We didn't speak for about 15 months and then I saw him two weeks ago. We exchanged numbers again and spent the night together. The whole week that continued, he texted me constantly and it felt like old times again. Then on Monday he never spoke to me. We spoke Tuesday and briefly yesterday, but things seemed distant. I really don't know what to make of things. He stopped the conversation that he started yest after about 5 texts, but texted me in the evening asking where he could buy something lol

I really want to speak to him but I feel awkward starting the conversation when I don't know if he wants to talk to me. Shall I just leave him to get back to me?

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So a couple days ago I got this stunners number

A couple of days ago a random interaction with a girl in a shopping center ended with me getting her number , i'm a bit clueless as to if she likes me or not because I was just having fun in the moment but she was extreeeeemely hot im talking straight 9/10 .

This is generally where I **** up so I just thought if anyone could give me advice as to how to start texting her , or what kind of approach I should take with texting her it would be grand.

Theres also something pretty bad I'm guilty of , when she asked me how old I was I told her I was 22 , which also turned out to be how old she is ... Im 17 :rofl: . But before you judge know that I look , and most importantly act a lot older than I am . I constantly get told how people would never think im 17 , how much confidence I have and how well I am doing for myself , so I doubt this will become a problem unless I make it one .

Im not really looking to get in a relationship with this girl , where of course it would be a major problem but I just want to take her out and get to know her really , so if anyone has any tips it'd be awesome !

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Are my body measurements too big or...?

35-27.5-44 and I'm 16 :confused:

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Why is it wrong to be attracted to someone because they are wealthy (goldigger label)

Why is it generally viewed as "goldigging" if someone is attracted to someone because they are wealthy.

I mean this attraction could be seen as more endearing than being attracted to someone for there looks.
For example: You don't choose how you look it is a genetic lottery.
- though can be improved with styling, make up etc

But one may have gained wealth through hard work, smart investments, business etc and someone can be attracted to that.

-though yes someone can be "born rich".

But if indeed they have achieved this wealth through hard work etc why is it so wrong for someone to be attracted to that?

This video really got me thinking about it:
Just annoyed because it is usually women who are labelled as golddiggers..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0iyeUcFKRv4

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Have you ever been 'the other woman'?

How did you find it? Did the guy break up with his girlfriend for you?

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Are my body measurements too big or...?

I'm 16 years old and I measured my self today, my measurements are 35-27.5-44 >.< I knew my hips were wide before, but I didn't know they were THAT wide, so yeah, are the measurements too weird? :confused:

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Am I Weird?

I think I will ever get a boyfriend.
It's like I never fancy anyone. The idea of getting intimate with a boy scares me a bit. I'm 18 and have never had a boyfriend. I've been asked out by boys a really like, but for some reason I can't ever seem to let myself take it to the next level. Even with people I think I might love. I can't really distinguish between love and friendship. My best friend is a guy who I see a lot. He's pretty much the perfect guy for me looks wise and personality wise but when he asked me out I said no. I had no reason to. It was nothing to do with him, it was all me. But that's such a cliché phrase so I don't feel he believed me. I see him all the time so I didn't really see the point of him being my boyfriend as I see him all the time.
All my friends are talking about boys that they like and are having sex etc. and I'm just here like I don't like anyone. They think I'm just being really secretive but I just don't see the point of a boyfriend. I guess I'm quite an emotionally passive person and I don't know if I will ever feel something strong for someone. I'm not playing hard to get or anything and I don't have high standards. I'm just not interested. Is this normal? I don't want to go to university as that frigid bitch. But i think I am

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Feeling low about the past

I've been looking at facebook pages of people from my old school. They all look amazing, all the girls have make-up and look gorgeous, all of their pictures are of clubs with their thousands of friends, and loads of others are with their boyfriend/girlfriend.
I just feel like they've moved so far forward with their life, friends, social life, looks, happiness, all (or most at least) are at uni so they've pretty much got everything.

I feel like i look awful, never dated, and because of confidence issues i don't have many friends. I like the ones i do have, and i do go out sometimes, but i don't feel the need to take pictures of everything i do and post them online.

I need to move forward, starting with my looks. I need to learn how to put on make-up (i wear foundation and blusher but that's natural), stop feeling sorry for myself and be confident, and be a better person.

Does anyone have any advice, or has anyone felt this way?

Thanks

School was where i got so many issues with confidence, shyness, depression etc, so it just feels worse too as it's like they've moved forward and damaged me for their amusement and as a result i've been left behind. Just looking at those pictures gave me a panic attack as it took me back to how i felt before. Arghh, i need to change. And now!

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How can I get to know this guy who works in Tesco? (I think I am in love with him)

There is this really cute guy who works in my local Tesco, I don't know him or anyone who knows him so it is a little hard for me to do anything about it. I go to this Tesco every lunch as it is right next to my college, sometimes he is there and sometimes he isn't (he is there about 10% of the time).

I have never had a boyfriend as I am not very good with members of the opposite sex. But I have had a crush on him for so long (just over a year now) that I think I may actually be in love with him.

I am in my last year of college (hopefully going to uni next September), and want to do something about my situation, even if it is just to get over him. I have only actually ever been served by him once in tesco and he was lovely, which made the situation worse.

Does anyone have any advice about what I can do? Should I just get over it? I am a extremely introverted person, so I don't think I would ever be able to just go up to him. I don't want to 'ask him out' as such, but I just want to get to know him.

Thanks

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Lost the spark

I'm just so confused about my relationship right now. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for one and a half years now, and have generally had a really good, strong, and loving relationship. However, recently I feel like since I've been at Uni, I just don't feel as strongly about him as I did before. I still love him, I know that much, but sex just isn't appealing as it once was and just feels a bit like routine. I also have suffered with pretty bad anxiety recently and get into a negative spiral of doubts, working myself up into a state and convincing myself I should just end it, when that isn't what I want.

I still get excited about speaking to him on the phone and seeing him in person. He knows that I've been having doubts recently about the relationship and doesn't feel any of them himself - he loves me very much and wants to be with me.

Sometimes it feels more like we're best friends than anything else. I'm not sure if we've reached the companionship stage of the relationship, where love matures and deepens, or whether I've simply lost interest for him.

I don't want to leave him as he's such a massive part of my life and means so much to me. I also wouldn't feel like we've given a proper 'go' of it yet, him being at home and me being at uni. I'm still attracted to him sexually, I often daydream about us having sex and sexual fantasies. But I'm concious of the fact that he seems to feel extremely strongly for me and I don't know if I feel as strongly for him.

I guess what I'm asking is; should I give it a little while longer, make more of an effort during sex, and keep up the relationship? People say that love comes and goes during couples, and I do still love him, just not as much as I have in the past, I think. He truly understands me and is the most loving, supportive and sweet guy I could ask for, with many amazing qualities.

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weird behaviour

I've been working with this guy for over 6 months now, we flirted a little when I first started but he then started seeing someone so that stopped and he was just friendly. One day recently he started flirting a little again but ever since he has been really cold and distant. I've asked him what's wrong and what have I done, he just said it's just the way i am and something like it's not normally this complicated to make friends? (even though we normally get on fine) so confused and don't know where to go with it- I want to sort it seeing as we work together but he just won't open up!

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What am I doing that is making me a man-repller? I never used to be?

It's really weird, this time last year you'd be hearing people say 'Anna* how do you get guys so easily?' Not only am I not getting guys easily, I'm scaring of guys who are at first interested. My history is I have only been single one month in 3 years before this July. The last relationship I have was unhealthy and has been described as abusive. So I'm in quite a vulnerable place.

It wasn't too bad at home, as I had a couple of 'guyfriends' who had crushes on me for a while and made their attractions known once I became single. However, I'm at uni nearly been here for a month and I've only made out with one guy. I wasn't even attracted to this guy, but I felt bad for rejecting him and really miss cuddles.

Something nearly happened on the weekend, but from speakin on fb chat today I missed his invitation to go back to his room. This chat with this guy went from him being really flirty at the beginning, to him seeming to be in 'run away mode' by the end. I think i did come across very keen. I had a bad day and really wanted a hug. But yeah I thought with most guys confidence and knowing what you want is a turn on?

I went to uni for a bit last year before suspending so I know it's not just because I'm not going out clubbing, I didn't then either and it still wasn't a problem.

It wasn't really bothering me until the fb chat incidence tonight (and also I think I made another guy run away the day before too. )I'm really trying to focus on making friends at the moment and find my feet at uni. However, my friends who are girls are either in relationships or are getting a lot of attention so it's really highlighting the lack of interest I'm getting. Plus I REALLY miss cuddles and stuff. So yeah people what's your thoughts on how a once 'man magnet' is now repelling guys?

*I'm not looking for another relationship. However, if a nice asked me on a date I do feel ready for that and would take things verrry slowly. My ideal situation would to be just to find a guy who wanted cuddles/making out like me but wouldn't expect anything sexual.

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3 years without sex, I feel i am missing out

So basically to cut a super long story short, as i've gotten older I've started getting more and more difficulty when it comes to girls, and at around 18 i stopped getting any (I'm 21 now). I was a child prodigy and i started having a major breakdown of some kind (too long to explain) but it basically destroyed a lot of my confidence, and I went from happy popular dude to a bit of a mental wreak...

The problem is the more my mind developed the more different I became from people. It is a blessing in a way because i have gifts and skills and a lot of intelligence but my intelligence has been tainted and twisted by this horrible experience I've had and it has perverted it into some kind of mental instability. The problems have separated me from people because I feel like I can't connect to anyone. I feel alone even though I have friends all around me. Nobody would suspect i feel this way cause I hide it so well.

My mind has just made it impossible for me to try to approach a girl in a club for instance because I'd have absolutely no bloody idea what to say. Part of what makes me intelligent is how I can think very fast, and the best way i can describe this is thinking in parallel processes, so to put it simply, when It comes to talking to a girl, my mind fires up thinking of all these possible scenarios, things to say, possible rejections, is this appropriate? what if she has a boyfriend? is she going to even be interested and a gazillion things just firing constantly and there's absolutely no way to stop this, but I really want to because it's ruining my chances of meeting anyone.

I've been told i'm a goodlooking guy, i can't judge male attractiveness so I personally don't know but i've heard it said a few times and sometimes girls mention it but because my luck with girls has been so bad, it literally means my personality is ****ed, super ****ed, because i ruined my chances as soon as i start speaking every time for 3 years!. its just the fact I find it so hard to find common ground with people that I guess I never know what to say and choke. do any of you know what i can do to stop this? i've tried getting drunk but that makes things way worse. I just want to be able to live a normal life, go out, get laid and all that jazz but I just can't, it's like I'm not allowed to or something -_- because I carry the weight of this ****ing overthinking grey-matter computational engine everywhere with me and it wont ever shut up and let me have fun without calculating or over analyzing everything

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Should girls make the first move as often as guys?

I reckon absolutely yes, personally it'd make me more desirable than the other way around :blush: Guys are human too so its not like they aren't afraid of potential rejection/embarrassment & can just get it over it easily.

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How can I stop being so jealous of my friend?

One of my best friends recently got a new job which meant she's had to move away. She has (mostly) been enjoying it and i'm so proud of her, however i'm also incredibly jealous.

It's quite far from where we live so her parents bought her a car, and she's already made better friends in a couple of months than I have at any stage in my life. When she tells me about her job it is lovely to hear but makes me feel so inadequate. All i've got is a ****ty part time job and a degree which i'm struggling to complete. I'm graduating next year and job prospects are looking bleak, certainly nothing as good as what she has. It just feels like she's a much better person than me.

I feel awful for thinking like this because we're rather close and she always confides in me about everything. How she was bricking it about not making friends, her old ones forgetting about her, that sort of thing. I know she'd much rather be back here than out there... so why am I feeling like this?

Anon cos I think she's on here :ninja:

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Does any fantasise about getting their ex back?

As we are still friends I keep imagining that when he walks through my door I'll be dressed up really sexily for him and he won't be able to resist me, we'll have sex and he'll then realise what he is missing out on!! I just want this to materialise so I have been trying to think of reasons to invite him over. Is this normal? I want him sooo much.

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Same House

When you are entering a divorce but still in the same house how do you cope with your feelings? When I look at my wife I want to be near her but I can't. I think about her being with someone else some day, I can't control that either but it's painful to think about. I fall asleep often times downstairs on the couch but end up in bed at some point to get a few hours of comfortable sleep. Also I always wonder if things will change but it's painful to go from trying to move forward and thinking about the what if's.

My atty advised me not to move out until the legalities are in order concerning support etc.

How do you cope day to day with these feelings while in the early stages of a D and still under the same roof?

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Penis question for the women

This has probably been covered before, but I sifted through as many posts as I could, and didn't see anything, so...

Reading another thread here about what you women think about your husband's penis got me thinking.

My wife and I have a decent sex life (as in, the sex is usually great, but it's not all that often. 2-4 times a month, really... anyway...)

I am (apparently) on the higher end of average. Nothing that any woman would "wow" over, and nothing that would get laughed at. Nice shape (I think), nothing different or out of the ordinary. Basically, really nothing that I can think of that would make it seem undesirable, if that makes sense.

Now, she has never shown any "interest" in my junk. It doesn't seem to do anything for her, in terms of turning her on. She also doesn't have an aversion to it, mind you. She plays with it, touches it, I get a BJ 9 out of 10 times we have sex, and so forth. But it's more like it's part of the entire act, and not because she loves it. I don't know how to explain this properly, but when she plays with it, it certainly isn't her going through the motions, and she appears quite into it. Though it's not because she loves MY penis, know what I mean?

Obviously I KNOW not all women get turned on by the sight of a man's junk, so I don't take it personally.

However, given that she is relatively experienced, and when we do have sex, she knows what she's doing (and is good at it!), I am wondering if she views mine as simply "good enough" or "unremarkable, but not bad"?

I hear a lot of you women tell us guys that penis size really doesn't matter, and I DO believe that (in general, of course, there are always exceptions), however I also firmly believe that, at least visually, it DOES matter. Would this be correct?

As in, bigger IS better, in terms of looking at it, playing with it, feeling it - outside of PIV.

Obviously, most of us guys have enough to satisfy most women with PIV. We all know that.

However, it occurred to me that my wife (with her relatively high experience compared to mine) has likely "had" more remarkable penises than mine, lol! And therefore, mine (being pretty average and non-descript) might not appeal to her as much as one or more of those have.

It goes both ways, I know, so don't jump on me for that! Most of us have had partners who had bodies, or body parts, that we found more attractive than our SO's, that's a given. Of course, this doesn't mean we're not attracted or can't be turned on by our partners! It just means that they don't have, for example, the boobs that one of our exes had, or whatever.

So my long-winded question is, with this other thread about how some of you women seem to worship your partner's penises, what, if anything, would be the reason(s) for you who don't? Is it just that you're not into the esthetics of a penis? Is it just a tool? (no pun intended!) Is it that your partner's penis is just average or unremarkable compared to one you've seen in the past? Or is it that you've been spoiled with the "perfect penis" at some point in your past, and your partner's can't hold a candle?

For the record, I am fine with not being "perfect", or not comparing to someone in her past, in the penis department. I have nothing to be ashamed of "down there", and it does the job just fine! I'm honestly just curious as to what some of you REALLY feel about your partner's junk!

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Hoping I'm just being paranoid

I'm struggling with my gut these days thinking that something may be going on with my wife and a possible EA. I found one time that she was sending messages to an old college male friend that to me was inappropriate. I confronted her at the time and asked that it stop. She said that it would and said that it was nothing. Now going forward I notice that she never has her facebook up and I don't know the password. Also, we got new cell phones with the capability to sync or personal emails to our phones, which is great. So I got mine up right away, but she doesn't do it. I asked her why and she said that she can't get it to work. So I asked to help her but she wouldn't give me her yahoo account password and just fought me that it doesn't work and that she doesn't even use her personal email at all. So I started to get a little paranoid and looked at her internet history and found that she is using her yahoo email quite a bit and seeing that their ar e messages read and messages sent. That is all that I know, I have no idea how to get into her yahoo, but I feel that something just isn't right in my gut. I am also going to be out of town for several days starting in November and taking the kids with me. I've asked her several times what she is going to do, but she just keeps saying, oh nothing. But I have a feeling that she might have something planned. Am I just being paranoid?

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