Just been bored of recent.... no one to chat with anymore, anyone that cares to be a friend should let me know.
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Girls if you were interested would you go up to the guy ?
I like a girl and ive known her for a couple weeks now and last week we got close and it was mainly me going up to her and talking she seems decent, and ive seen some 'signs' of interest she keeps on looking at me and smiling at even when we dont talk, she seems comfortable when we do talk even when her friends are there.
However she dosent come and talk to me, so im confused surely she should come up to me, the other day I didnt talk to her because I wanted her to come to me, so she kept looking and smiling but never came up to me.
Surely if she was interested she would come up to me, I dont understand if a girl was to like a guy wouldnt you go up to him ??
Should I leave it ?? Anyway ive came home now for the holidays for a week so I wont see her, which is frustrating as I wanted to know where I am with this girl. She's not on social media
PS I think she's shy but, for a guy how else would I know if she's interested.
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Worth waiting for the 'one'?
I am a virgin, and used to feel like i should wait till i find someone to love before loosing my virginisty.
now i am near 2nd year of uni and just feel like having some fun, i get with guys on nights out and thats pretty much it but i am always so close to just sleeping with them. i feel like when i find the 'one' they will probably not be a virgin anyway, and surely it would be better if i had some experience at least ;)
any thoughts?
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Is this a date?
I am meeting a lady friend for lunch tomorrow. I haven't seen her for about a month and asked her if she wanted to go for lunch tomorrow to catch up. She said yes.
Is this just two friends hanging out or a date?
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Age is just a number?
Hello TSR community,
I have a 'friend', a 20year old university student. To cut the long story short, on his way back from campus (he lives in town), he met a girl on the bus. She sat next to him even though there were many empty seats on the bus. He started talking to her and they got on really well. After roughly 10 minutes of chatting away on the top of a double decker empty bus, he began to feel sexually attracted to her and sexually aroused, she started to show signs that she was attracted to him. They way she would talk and lean into him and put her hands on his shoulders. During the conversation he found out she was 13!! He couldn't believe it but he didn't feel like it mattered, she seemed mature for her age, so he invited her to his place. To cut the long story short, they had sex - it was her first time. On the same night, after they had sex, she dressed dup and went home because he parents would be worried. Again that same night my friend gets a call from her mum! Shouting down the pho ne threatening him to stay away from her daughter and calling him some sort of sicko? Since then my friend has tried to contact the girl and get that exact same bus everyday but I didn't see her and her number had been changed! My 'friend' cant get her out of his mind - he feels like he really likes her and wants to take care of her, they really got on well. Her mother seemed really annoyed because she said she knew he was older and that its disgusting. But what the hell? Age is just a ****ing number? Anyway 1 week later I saw her again and she ignored me. She said that I am too 'old' for me. I told her it could be our little secret because I know that society will frown upon it but she still disagreed.
Sorry this sounds more like a rant than anything else. What should he do? He cant stop thinking about her???
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Homophobic family. advice?
Here's a little background info: I'm 18, male and have applied to medical school. Looks like i'll be taking a gap year though :/ I'm also gay. I've known about it for years now, and having desperately tried to deny, I've now started to come to terms with my sexuality.There are three problems however:
1) Society: - I'm not popular enough to be gay. Sounds stupid right? I find it hard to make meaningful friendships with people. I'm not an introvert or anything and love socialising but I guess people just don't like my personality. I don't want to be stigmatised by people before they even get to know me.
2) Gay culture: - I'm not good looking. I'm confident that if I put the work in at the gym I can get a decent body, but at the end of the day my face ruins all that hard work. Gay society is notoriously shallow and I would be relegated to the lowest rung of the gay societal ladder.
3) Family: - They are incredibly homophobic. They would disown me in a heartbeat if they knew. I'm only 18 and can't support myself financially. University isn't cheap either and med school is 5-6 years long. Student loans/part time job would keep me ticking over but I wouldn't get a proper wage until i'm 24/25. I'm also muslim and needless to say homosexuality and Islam don't mix well.
I was born in the UK and my parents have lived in London ever since they were kids. I have my roots in the middle east and look distinctively middle eastern i.e. brown skin, dark hair, dark eyes etc. Most gay guys it would seem have a preference against this colour combination. I'm not saying they are racist! but most guys seem to prefer white guys only.
I'm really worried about my future. I have to make a decision between my family and my own happiness. Of course one day I'd love to settle down and have a family, but given my apparent weaknesses a male specimen (i'm short 5ft 9, ugly face, skin colour?) this seems unlikely. It's a catch-22 situation I'm in: no matter which option I take, I end up a loser.
Advice?
which option would you choose?
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21yo virgin. Think something's wrong with me...
First off, I'm a girl, 21, and have never had a relationship. Not even a few dates with someone. And I think something's wrong me, not physically, I know I'm not bad looking, I just can't really get my head around it. I'll try and keep this brief:
At school I was definitely a late bloomer. Until about 16 I looked like a child, I was really tiny and cute. What's more I felt like a child, I didn't have the teenage yearnings of boyfriends, drinking etc. I was just happy having friends and family. Yes I had celebrity childish crushes, but I never fancied anyone in school or anything. So this early, innocent experience of boys a lot of girls have, completely passed me.
At 18 I started clubbing, and kissing random guys on nights out. I ended up doing this often on nights out because I thought that was the done thing. I weren't bothered about keeping phone numbers or persuing anything further. It was just a bit of drunken fun. I was completely happy being single.
This kissing business continued for about a year, but I soon turned off it. Mainly because a close friend of mine ended up with a nasty case of glandular fever and I thought it wasn't worth kissing random strangers I don't give a toss about for that. So I no longer kiss guys on nights out.
Outside of clubbing, I just don't meet guys. My course is about 95% girls, all of my friends are girls. So I only ever meet guys when clubbing. Nowadays if I see a guy I like out clubbing, (which is actually rare, I don't feel attracted to many people) I tend just to have a dance and get their number. But the next day I feel cripplingly awkward about the whole thing. The idea of it all just makes me feel uncomfortable, as if it's wrong, and I just end up not replying. I feel like the fact that I've been picked up on a night out, and purely because of my looks (the only characteristic one can go by on a night out) is just wrong. It makes me feel uncomfortable and unhappy with myself.
I suppose I have weird feelings about sex and relationships. One side of me loves the idea, and yearns for a boyfriend, and now I'm 21 I do really feel like something's missing in my life. But this other side of me always runs away when the possibility arises, I always find an excuse that seems really viable to not date the guy at the time. It's usually a flaw I find in their person so I don't have to feel guilty about the whole thing. And when I do agree to not pursue anything further, I feel such a sense of relief.
I just don't think this is normal, can anyone relate to this? I feel like such a weirdo (for want of a better word!) over this.
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Why do people fall out of love?
My ex broke up with me recently. We were together for 3.5 years and we were living together. The reason is that he doesn't see a future with me, doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. Doesn't want to be in a relationship at all.
This was all so shocking considering we're saving up to buy a house, we spoke about the future and we spent every day together for our entire relationship.
He still says I am the best person he has ever met, I'm beautiful/sexy, I'm the kindest person he's ever known, I'm fun. He still loves spending time with me, and we still currently spend most evenings together watching films or going out for dinner, but as friends. He says the time he spends with me is the best part of his day. He says I was an amazing girlfriend and my next boyfriend will be the luckiest guy in the world.
So what did I do wrong in the relationship?! Why am I not good enough? Obviously I'm taking this personally that he doesn't want me in a relationship way but he's still spending every day with me and says I'm the highlight of his day!
What should I take from this as my lesson for my next relationship? I'm feeling so insecure that the apparently 'amazing' person I am isn't enough for him, and that I'll never be good enough for anyone. Because I was 100% myself with him and I thought he loved me for it.
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an affair with an older woman has become complicated as hell
So about 8 weeks ago I was at an older friends birthday night out and I met this woman... my first thought was wow she's so hot along with my friends... now ill make it clear I'm not an amazing looking guy or at least I don't think so anyway.. anyway that night we spent a good few hours chatting over drinks (she was on water I was on alcohol) and we had a good laugh and at the time I thought that was it nothing more was ever gonna come of it as she was a few years older than me (I'm 22 she's 30) she's been in a relationship for 12 years had 2 kids and I was also in a relationship with my girlfriend having a 2 year old son (not mine) I've been with her almost a year... but then she messaged me and we started chatting and a but of flirting happened and we met up one night for some awesome sex and it was amazing.. but to be honest we both thought that would be it however we carried on chatting and now around 8 weeks on we've started feeling a lot for each other... I could almost say I'm falling in love with her but I wouldn't want her to know that incase it became to much.. We both love our partners but aren't really in love with them and my relationship had gone to **** over the last 4 months or so... she's had a rocky relationship with her other half too as he cheated on her and she did it back to him about a year later which I can't blame her for.. tbh his the luckiest sod on the planet for keeping such an amazing woman after that because she is amazing but I feel jealous of her boyfriend because he gets to spend the time with her I want and we both miss each other when we're not with each other... Our time together is very limited as she was caught by her bf texting each other so we have to be careful but we have amazing sex and it's not just the sex I love talking to her and iv already said if something was to happen between us she wouldn't be on her own I would support her 100 % (I have a pretty good job and I'm paid well for it s o money isn't an issue) but more than that morally support her too I would happily give up everything I have at the moment to be with her but I don't know if she ever could because of her kids... she feels guilty about what would happen to her 2 girls if things went sour with her bf and she is one of those women that would rather make everyone else happy instead of herself because she feels it's the right thing to do.. I understand that of course but I feel were perfect for each other and I want something more and I think she does too but what do I do next? If anybody got some experience in this sort of situation a bit of experience and knowledge would help a lot thanks x
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How do you feel when some "sees" your message on facebook but doesn't respond?
I'm sure you've had this before, basically when you ask someone a question on Fb and they just See it but don't respond.
I mean if they are busy can't they just say "I'm busy right now, I'll answer later" or something? Otherwise It's just a blatant "I don't like you, b*gger off" to me.
Nothing really affects me badly apart from this but I just feel really awful when this happens. How do you feel and what do you do when this happens to you?
Usually I give em 2 days then I unfriend them and don't really talk to them ever again on facebook. Pretty selfish but I can't help it.
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Satisfy Feelings Without Relationship
I met a guy online over a year ago, and we became best friends. After about 9 months we both confessed we have feelings for each other, but for multiple reasons don't want to go into an ldr. Is there anything we can do to satisfy our feelings without being in a relationship?
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Feeling trapped
So I'm coming to the end of my first year at university, and I'm feeling like I havnt really enjoyed my first year.
In September when I started, I got into a nice group of people in my course, as people stopped going to lectures, only two of them were left, and as time went on I realised that they're incredibly boring and bitchy about their flat mates... It's getting to the point where I hate when I have to meet up with them even though they don't go to many lectures now anyway, but I feel like at the end of the second term I'm in too deep.
The first term was all good because I have a close group of friends from my block and a few from other halls, but in the second term they all started to spend a lot of time with other groups from societies and their course friends, so I find myself just sitting in my room doing nothing on my own, I've always been an outdoor person so spending this amount of time makes me so stressed out, I've tried going on walks and cycles but being alone a lot stresses me out aswell. I just want to have a normal life again with other groups of friends but not joining societies screwed me for that one... When I lived at home I had quite a few groups of friends so never experienced this feeling!!
I don't feel like I can talk to anyone at uni because I don't want to annoy them with my problems or anyone at home because whenever they ask how uni is going I just say it's fine, I would hate to go back knowing my parents are aware that I'm not enjoying it anymore, they'd just worry and I feel like it's my problem to solve.
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Virgin but..
I am a virgin and get with guys on nights out, sometimes they come back and we do things but not have sex.
i fell like i should just do it as i used to think i would regret a one night stand but now at a point in my life where i am happy with who i am and confident, and feel like a bit of fun.
i think before it might have been my peers who gave me the idea i would regret it and if i brought a guy back would give me that disappointing look.
a relationship wouldn't be a good thing at the moment as i will be away for a year on placement.
what do you think?
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Im a boy and like to have web cam sex; normal?
Hi,
Basically im 18 and when im horny I go to random sites where I try to find girls to have webcam sex... I prefer this rather than watching porn for some reason. I mean I have a levels which is stressfull too so this might be a reason (to get my mind off ? :S ). Im a guy who believes in love and believe virginity should be lost during love ( I haven't lost it yet alothough I have been naked on webcam). When im in love I am able to stop this behaviour (as I did for my first love). Girls what do you think ?
Cheers
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