| Interesting title... So, if im posting here then obviously my marriage isnt exactly that great. Why else do people confide in relative anonymity about some of the most personal parts of their lives? this is a relatively long post as most first posts probably are, please listen and if you feel so inclined, offer feedback. hi, im 34 years old and was previously married for 9 years. that marriage ended with ex-wife cheating on me with a high school boyfriend from long ago. we were terrible together and we both kind of knew it. we constantly fought, verbally and physically. it was terrible. we were mutually aggressive. i would say she was far more aggressive than me. i played my part, im no angel. ultimately, what i learned from that marriage was to know when to get out. man, this is going to get messy. during my separation from exwife, i met my current wife. i fell in love with her because she was everything my ex wasnt. of course i tempered my love with the knowledge that i may be using her as a rebound. i thought a lot about it and im positive that was not the case. i still feel that way. now, i had big problems letting go of previous wife. i had sex with both for a short time. current wife, g/f at the time, obviously was crushed and rejected me. because i am a stupid man, i again made the same mistake. after leaving her in a hotel room on new years night to bang my ex one last time, i decided that all i was doing was just not letting go of something familiar, even if i knew it was damaging. best thing i ever did. unfortunately, i have a 5year old that suffers from the split but i do the best i can. after working through all that, my wife decided to marry me. 2 days after we got married, i went to korea for a year because of military obligations. i tried to do the right things there but i failed. i didnt make it a priority to send her much of anything for valentines day, her bday, ect ect. now, i did send things? but really they were just half ass last minute things with barely any thought in to it and she knew it. i got to come home 6 months in, we both needed that. she ended up becoming pregnant during that time. she spent the last 6 months alone getting bigger and bigger. i finally come home and i had gotten out of the military for the reserves. its the equivalent of losing your job. so i come home, have no job, we have no place to live, and wife is preggers. fast forward to now. still no job [ i have been looking, semi-diligently. i could do better... ] and now we have a newborn here along with a 2 year old and a 5 year old. i have been working on and off for $10/hr cash job. during that time, wifey has to take care of all three. she has no job as she quit her job to go back to school in the next year using my gi bill. i love my wife dearly, she is probably the worst person i know about being clean. shes a terrific mother, honestly. shes a terrible housewife though. she hates to cook, she basically never cooks, and she only does dishes cause of the baby bottles. she does laundry, but only her own. i do any/everything else. since ive been home, she has withdrawn from me almost completely. she isnt intimate with me in anyway. shes constantly fatigued from being up all night with the baby. im guilty cause i dont wake up. i dont hear the baby, i dont fake the sleep or anything else. i told her she should be waking me far more often but she reminds me that my mammary glands are slightly underdeveloped vs hers. obviously she breast feeds. lol. so where were are now in our marriage is that i overcompensate for her lack of intimacy by fawning over her constantly. she basically ignores me most of the day and is annoyed by my presence at times. she doesnt say i love you, she doesnt hug me, she doesnt kiss me unless shes leaving somewhere or to roll over to sleep. some of that is who she is, shes never been super affectionate. im not ok with it but i have been ok with it till now. shes pulled back everything though. we fight over dumb things. at least in this marriage theres no physical or emotional abuse though. pretty much i dont listen. i know this because im realizing she keeps saying "we just talked about this" or some derivative there of. i guess really what i wanted to say is that im a bad husband because i dont listen to my wife, i ignore her when we talk, i ignore her needs to the point where shes considering divorce. honestly, i think she just wants me to grow up. the problem i have is: though i know what i need to do, how do i remember what to do when the time comes. example, i interrupt her talking and go off on completely different tangents. she gets really pissed and tells me that i interrupt her and dont listen. i dont consciously do this on purpose. she says that if i really cared, i would listen. that i dont listen because i dont care about her. i want to disagree but her logic is valid. i do care about her regardless of what she says. i love my wife more than anything in the world and i want to spend every moment i have on this planet with her. i want to win back my friend. i want to be there for her. help. this is probably hard to read. my apologies. i pretty much vomited my thoughts on the keyboard and this half assed stack paragraphs came out. if you manage to read and comprehend this, thank you for your diligence. lol | |||
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Help! Pregnant and Going Through Hell
| Hi TAM forum, I am new here and I am going to lay it all out on the table. I am going to try to write my stats as succintly as possible. I am 34, H: 33, I am 7.5 months pregnant with our first child. We have been together for 8 years and married 6.5. I thought he wanted this baby but apparently he revealed I "forced him" to have this baby. That may explain his sudden movement away from me and the baby at around month 5 that involved him staying out of the house every single day late at work, hanging with friends or with his mom. He has since admitted that he is not in love with me anymore and does not think our marriage will work out. He also says we got married too soon. (He was the one who forced the issue, by the way). He goes from agreeing to a divorce/separation (when I present that as an alternative) to saying I should "wait and see" how things go when the baby arrives to agreeing to a modified separation in which he will live with me and baby just for the baby's sake but otherwise we will lead separate lives. We haven't had sex in over three months bc of some issues I was having in pregnancy despite the fact that we were not precluded from doing so by the doctor. I am so disgusted with him I don't see how we're ever going to have sex again. Amid all this turmoil we finally sold our condo (this was a huge source of stress for our marriage as it was on the market for four months with no offers) and bought a house within the past two weeks (so we can do this modified separation thing). He had previously abandoned me 18 months ago in favour of an EA with his high school ex. I am actually not quite sure it wasn't PA but no proof and he denies that. We also lost a baby when he came back to me after the EA. This makes this current abandonment extra hard because I feel like he thinks it's ok to leave me every couple of years. I feel extra bad bc he destroyed what was supposed to be a happy time for our family midway through the pregnancy. Even if we make it through this pregnancy will always be marred with awful memories. Now we are busy with the condo/house closings and he seems to be excited about fixing up the house. But he told me before he sees it as a real estate transaction (we should make money if we sell it at some time in the future) and that he'd rather pay half for mortgage than for rent (recognizing his support obligations to me and his baby if he does walk away) if he does decide to leave and/or do the modified separation. His issue is that he is emotionally distant and uncaring on regular days ... but at least we had good love life and common goals. But when he is not into me, like now, it is totally obvious bc he totally stops talking to me and disconnects from what holds us together. My issue is that I have general anxiety and due to the abandonment in this marriage (now twice) I have trouble letting things go. If I get upset about something instead of letting it go, I bombard him with a million argumentative texts or call him 20 times in a row (of course he doesn't pick up). I am suspicious and I don't trust that he will always be there for me. In fact, he has (now) made it very clear that abandonment is always an option for him and that he values happiness over marital and parental obligations. (He will always be "there" for our son and support him so that's not the issue, but he always presented himself as a "family values" type of guy). I am at a real loss. I can't really employ DB techniques while pregnant, packing up a condo, closing on real estate deals and being generally scared out of my mind about impending motherhood. I know this is not a lot on info to go on but does anyone think I can save my marriage? He claims to be finally done with me (T: 8 years, M: 6.5) bc I can get pretty "crazy" when I ruminate about things ... not that he ever gives me any comfort in this marriage. But then he's literally planning ways to improve the whole house. I am considering all options including taking anti-anxiety medication after one month of breastfeeding. I really wanted to breastfeed my baby for longer but I don't think I can not take meds at this point bc the anxiety is ruining my life and marriage (he may not be a saint but I also don't do myself any favours by being an anxious mess). I can say he should love me for who I am, but how can anyone love a person like me who goes into fits of sadness and anxiety-fueled rants, arguments and crying? It's not like any other man would find that attractive instead. Despite that part of me, I do have a generally good self esteem. I think I am pretty, I am smart and accomplished (doctorate degree, professional and business executive), and my friends like me a lot. I want to make my marriage work but I am not so sure it's worth it after a second round of abandonment, especially while I'm pregnant. Any advice? I am lost, I just want my marriage and husband back. Should I see what happens when we move into the new house and take control of my anxiety with meds? Or should I just cut my losses, file for divorce and move on with my new life with my son in my new house without him (or on a modified "in house" separation)? :scratchhead::confused::( | |||
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should i end things with ith long term boyfriend?
| Ok so this I'm in desperate need of advice and I'm going to have to tell you guys abit of back story. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this and help me out! Basically I've been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now. I met him when i was 17 and he was a few years older, and he quickly became my first love and the first year and a half that we were together was the best time of my life. But over the past year we have begun to have quite intense arguments very often, and they only seem to be getting worse/more frequent. I feel that this, and the fact that we have both changed as people and in what we want from life and the relationship over the past year, has made me fall out of love with him. I don't really look forward to seeing him anymore, and alot of things about him and his lifestyle really annoy me, because they are the exact opposite to me/my lifestyle. Also I don't see him in a sexually attractive way anymore. I'm finding that we do get on and i can enjoy spending time with him, but only really when we're with other people aswell? This makes me feel that my love for him has faded into friendship... but our incompatibility as a couple make us argue whenever we're on our own together. See this is where I dont know what to do. I know he loves me so much and wants to be with me forever, but i know that he is getting sick of the arguing like me. Im torn between ending things because I think I don't love him anymore, but then when i do get on with him and have a nice time i start to question everything I've been thinking? Another factor in this is the fact that i have just finished my second year at uni, and while I've been there i feel like he has restricted the experience for me. I haven't made many friends at all because i always felt i was only here for 3 years, and the only thing that mattered was my studies because i have the bf at home. The plan for when i graduate is for me to move in with him and commute to study postgrad... and while this plan made me happy for a long time, im starting to feel quite discontented with what i have done and what my future holds. I want to put myself out there more, meet new people, and have the chance to move to a different city for my postgrad, which are all things i couldn't/would have a an extremely hard time doing with my partner. Part of the reasons i am considering ending things is because i want to experience more from life, im only 20 after all. Is this selfish of me? Overall I'm just so torn, because this guy was my first love and i do get on with him, but he just drives me crazy as a boyfriend and i just don't think i love him anymore and i don't think i want to be with him anymore. But i know that as much as i would like us to, i can't see us being friends if i do end things. He wouldnt be able to take it. Anyone who has any adice, words of wisdom, or experiences with something like this please help me out! Sorry about the grammar too, im so tired :( | |||
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unsupportive parents and no help
| My parents are really unsupportive and barely show they care. I'm the only son in the family ( have 4 sisters) but since I was 14 years old I've had to pay for everything I wanted. I brought my own laptop when I was 16 and all my clothes. If I wanted money off my parents I would have to beg them and even then that wouldnt work. I'm 18 years old and my dad barely talks to me and when he does he continuously curses me with swearwords. He comments on every little thing and I've never had a father son relationship with him as throughout my life my dad barely noticed me. My mum is also unsupportive all she ever seems to do is shout at me. My sisters received lower grades than me at gcses and still my parents wernt satisfied with my results . At AS levels I got 2As and 2Bs yet my parents still said it was rubbish. I've had to find work and work many hours and weeks to save up money for things I've wanted and now I'm fed up because it feels like througho ut my life my parents see me as a mistake. Rant over :/ | |||
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Why would this guy delete me from all social networking websites?
| We had a fling just over a year and a half ago now. It shouldn't have happened because he had a girlfriend. I developed feelings for him but we mutually agreed to end it after a while because we knew it wasn't right. His girlfriend never found out but we did stay friends and got in touch every few months or so and asked how each other were doing etc. The last time we spoke was via Facebook message about three weeks ago. It was a pleasant conversation and we said how nice it was that we managed to stay friends after all that happened. Yesterday I noticed he has deleted from his Facebook, unfollowed me on Twitter, and unfollowed me on Instagram. Very strange considering we were on good terms. I can only think his girlfriend found out something and told him to do it, which I understand if this is the case. I saw an Instagram photo of them both in a picture smiling on his account a few hours ago so everything seems okay between them... Hmm... What do you think is going on guys? | |||
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People getting involved in my relationships?
| So, I had a bad time with my ex. It wasn't healthy, and we went through a period of breaking-up and getting back together. Whilst broken up, I slept with someone else. I regret it anyway, totally out of character, but whatever, experiences shape you and all that blah. One of his female friends (well, less of a friend, a housemates girlfriend who came to visit occasionally) started calling me a slut and slag on Facebook, and telling my ex boyfriend that he should never get back with me. I wouldn't have blamed him, but we gave it one more shot. It was too difficult for him to get over, and for the sake of our sanity, I broke it up for good. The girl continued to send me abusive messages over Facebook, so I asked her to back off and focus on her own relationship. This is a girl who admits to her boyfriend hitting her and cheating on her. She has also cheated on him. This was well over six months ago. I now have a new boyfriend who seems to be the perfect match :) I've never been happier. But as soon as we became 'facebook official' she started sending messages through her boyfriends account to my current beau. She tried telling him I was a slut, that I made nasty comments about their relationship, that I mess guys around, and that I was insulting to her. The only comment I ever made about her character was that she deserved better, and it just upset me that she had been so two-faced to me. Luckily, my boyfriend is aware of everything, and understands who she is. Two weeks later, after a night out, we woke up to find messages in his account telling him I'd been contacting my ex, and trying to get back with him. This is all total BS! I would never ruin what I have. This took a lot longer to convince my boyfriend about, but luckily he believed me. This girl has now taken to posting on Facebook and twitter about me, stirring up rumors that aren't even true. What can I do? I'm trying my best to keep my head high, but when someone is continually making vile comments on the internet about you, it's hard to move on with your life. I don't even understand why she hates me so much, I'm no longer with my ex, so why is my life bothering her so much now? | |||
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How to get Mom to detach a little?
| This is like a borderline relationship-family question: I have always been a Mama's girl, so I never had a problem w/ my mom's inability to trust me making adult decisions, but now wedding bells are ringing. My s/o (military) is being stationed most likely in CA, and I intend to go with him and live on base. I've always made responsible decisions and my mom even admitted that, but she still won't let go of the concept of me being her little girl who doesn't need to be married and away from home, because I "don't know what love is." I really love my mom and love being around her, she's my best friend, but I have to start breaking away sometime. How do I get her do trust us to be wise enough to make this decision and start our own lives? | |||
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Does he want to commit or not?
| So long story short. I started dating this guy for around 4 months, we got on great, spoke every day, met up all the time etc etc. Then he started to go a little cold and distant from me, stopped texting so frequently and stopped making plans with me. I asked him outright what was going on between us, he told me he really liked me but was terrified of going into another relationship after his last bad break up and the fact he suffers from severe depression ,he just wasn't in the right place. I call it a day between us and go our seperate ways. However, he still tries to initiate contact and is 'desperate' to be friends. We end up meeting up under the 'friends' pretense which always lead to us hooking up. It hurt me so bad going in circles with him so I told him to cut contact with me until all these feelings blew over. A month passes and he pops up on Facebook. He tells me he really misses me and would love to see me as a friend. I agree to go for coffee with him and a catch up. We end up talking late into the night and I end up staying over. In the morning he goes to the shop, buys me breakfast and makes it. He then spends the whole day giving me so much affection such as cuddling, hand touching, playing with my hair, staring at me, kissing me on the head, public signs of affection.. all things he would never do when we started dating. I end up staying a 2nd night in a row as we are enjoying each others company so much. He asks me to go for dinner with him at the weekend and I'm over the moon. I went on my date with him last night, it didn't go to plan. Ended up starting it off in the pub with his friends, we then broke off with everyone and went to the cinema where I fell asleep haha, then back to his where we sat up talking and other things. The next day I feel a little insecure and gloomy around him. I feel like my insecurities from our past are eating me up, every tiny thing he does like not touching me as much, not texting me when I get home from his etc, I automatically assume he has gone cold again. I don't want to have to bring up the "what are we" conversation AGAIN but I'm not sure what on earth he is doing. I have spent 7 months running in circles and asking him whats going on. He always tells me "I really like you but I'm too scared to commit", is it possible his medication for depression changes his feelings or do you think it's possible he has went from commitment phobe to wanting something more with me in the space of 7 months? Or am I being a total fool? | |||
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Help required to contact friend...
| Hi, this is the situation in a nutshell (I'm keeping this anonymous because the friend in question is also a TSR user): Basically I started exchanging regular messages with another TSR user a few months ago (she contacted me), we got on really well and were planning to meet up this summer - we were messaging at least twice a week then she stopped for a while due to exams. She left a comment on my profile 3 weeks ago to say that she was sorry that she hadn't replied in so long and would reply over the weekend. That was 3 weeks ago and I still haven't heard anything despite sending another message and an email to her Hotmail. I have absolutely no idea why she would suddenly stop messaging me as we were getting on really well, if I had done something to upset her then she would have told me rather than just ignore me so I'm confused as to why I haven't heard anything at all from her. She said previously that I could add her on Facebook but when I've searched for her (I know her name, how old she is and what she looks like) I can't find anyone remotely like her. I don't believe for a second that the girl in question is anyone other than who she says she is, everything she has told me makes perfect sense. I know her date of birth, full name and email address and I know which county she lives in but I don't know how to find another way to contact her even with that information, this is really starting to bug me and I would appreciate any advice...either on how to get hold of her using the information that she gave me or what to do generally. Pre-empting the jokes...I am not a crazy stalker, I just want to know if I'm going to hear from this girl that I've been speaking to for months again and if not then why. Any help appreciated :) | |||
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Can't stand my mate anymore
| Anon as he does read this from time to time. He recently got together with a girl first time in his entire life. He is 28. Before this he hadn't done anything :rolleyes: This has changed him so much. I am normally happy for any of my mates and don't see the big deal. But he has really started to show a weird side. He behaves like he is a Casanova. He looks down on people who are single and insults them for lack of success. He mentions the word gf every single time, to everyone in any situation. She loves him but he goes he is just having fun and boasts how she chased him. Basically I really have an urge to make him realise that he is far from all that. I never normally get affected by my mates in this manner and am normally very happy for them all! Before someone says maybe I feel lonely-I am soon to be engaged to my childhood sweetheart after all these years and generally happy. | |||
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Who is your perfect guy?
| Just saw the perfect girl one and thought I'd make one about guys! So for me (at the mo) +Intelligent +Good sense of humour + Scruffy, curly hair (e.g Ian Somerhalder) +Cheeky +Deep +Gorgeous eyes +Someone who's not afraid to tell me what he thinks +16 or under Posted from TSR Mobile | |||
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Shy girls, do you avoid someone you like??
| Hey, I know it's a pretty long one but I really need to hear what are you, shy girls, doing when you like someone. I mean, would you avoid or even ignore that someone you really like just because of shyness? And give the impression like you kinda hate that guy. This is what this one girl is doing to me even though she seemed happy I approached her at the start and I know I haven't done anything wrong for her to started hating me. I approached this girl because she was the one who actually looked at my way a lot of time.. then got her number three days later and then it started. She won't pick up the phone, she don't know how to talk I suppose. When I try to talk to her she barely speaks but she listens carefully to every word I say. She is finding it hard to make eye contact with me, if she will see me she will make a big turn around to avoid me. I touched her already a few times and she wasn't bothered. Please note that her behaviour didn't change, it has been like that since I know her. One day I also speak to her in front of her friend and that friend was trying to tease me in a way like I like her or vice-versa. And she didn't seem shy when she wasn't alone. She was kinda relaxed. I really got the impression like she has no idea what to say, how to act and that she is socially awkward. She is also not an outgoing person and will hang around only one or two of her best friends (both girls of course). She moved here from another country two years ago and she barely knows anyone here. No guys, no girls, only school-mates. She acts kinda like a robot you know around me. I really like this girl a lot, well actually more than a lot and I can't just let her go like that. Do you think I should just go direct and ask her directly about it? Tell her what I think and feel? What? I have to try something because I don't care if I lose her as a "friend" at the end. She simply can't be my friend, it would cause me too much pain. THANKS A LOT!!! | |||
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Which is worse for a bs
| I'm curious as to what is worse the original betrayal you find out on dday number 1 or the continued betrayal of an underground affair or a false reconciliation? I would think the original betrayal is worse because your often blindsided by the entire affair. I would think once you've had a dday # 1 then you wouldn't be as shocked if a ws did it again or continued the affair. Posted via Mobile Device | |||
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long distance dating
| haven't found much info on this and was wondering whether anyone here could help: I went on what i think was a date with someone a couple of months ago and it seemed to have gone really well. since we study in different countries we haven't been able to meet up since, and he hasn't been in touch a lot either. we are now both back home and I'm not sure whether to ask him out on a 2nd date - I normally wouldn't, but given the circumstances I feel like telling him that I'm back would probably be pretty normal and not really come across as chasing him? more general question: are there any reliable 'signs of interest' when it comes to long distance dating? thank you :) | |||
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same old story
| Here is my tale of woe. I'm hoping it will have some sort of therapeutic benefit, so apologies for the length. Bit of back-story: I'm English and my cheating wife is Japanese. We met in England while we were both studying. We were married for 6 years and together for ten overall. I thought she was the woman I would spend the rest of my life with. Because we were from different countries and because of visas, illness, family concerns etc. there were often times when we apart for long periods of time. I trusted her and she trusted me. We spoke every day and I never had a problem staying faithful and as far as I knew, neither did she. Two years ago, we decided that we would move back to Japan together, as it would be easier for her to get a job and the cost of living was cheaper. My wife returned first and started to prepare for me coming over, getting a job, sorting visa etc. while I moved back to my parents, worked hard and saved money. First warning sign I get is an email from her asking if I would be cool with her going to lunch or out for a drink with a male colleague as 'friends'. I replied that I didn't think it was a great idea and that whoever this dude was, he didn't have friendship on his mind. My wife replies that it wasn't about her and she just wanted to know my opinion as she read it in a magazine. Didn't believe her for a minute, but thought I'd made my point clear. Also if she was thinking of cheating/didn't want to be married to me any more, all she had to do was tell me she wasn't doing my visa and there would be nothing I could do about it. So no problem, right? Wrong, of course. My crazy wife instead lets me move all the way across the world, get rid of half my stuff, quit my job, give up my flat, spend thousands on moving etc. As soon as I get there a month or so later I sense things aren't right. It's just a gut feeling along with her unusually snotty attitude towards me. At first I thought it was because I wasn't working right away and she was working her first full time job, but after a while things got too suspicious (frequent texting to unnamed friends, frequent work leaving parties ((her shop wouldn't have any staff left if she was telling the truth!)) ) I started snooping and found out she was having an affair with a co-worker. I felt like I'd been kicked through a window. I still can't believe that it happened. While not always perfect, we had no issues in our marriage that I could think of at all. Certainly none that couldn't be solved by communication rather than cheating. I was one of the only happily married couples I knew. Friends would use us as an example when talking about successful marriages. My wife couldn't give an adequate reason for why. It might have been easier to accept if I was neglectful, a drunk or wasn't taking care of things in the bedroom; instead I got total drivel like how one time in 2005 when it was 30 odd degrees I wanted the air conditioner on, but the noise was keeping her awake. Because of her actions I don't believe a word she says any longer anyway, so it's something I'm probably never going to get a proper answer to. I gave it some thought, but the sense of betrayal was too great. The person I was in love with would never have done this to me. I went home to England and am all set to divorce. Shortly after leaving, my wife sends me my divorce papers, saying she doesn't want to, I reply, 'Why did you cheat on me then? it makes no sense.' my only reply is an unsatisfactory, 'I know.' | |||
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Are women more offended by the term "Nice guy"
| Everytime I read a post on nice guys, it seems as though women are more offended by this notion. Especially if they are with a nice guy at the moment? Why is that? I find many men accept this term and are more open about their transition from one where women feel that it's more of an attack on them and who they are as a person for choosing one. I don't understand. If you have a nice guy why not be proud? What is it about having a preference for a nice guy that you need to justify your actions for dating one or just defending one period? | |||
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Staring at the closed door and not looking the new one
| Hey guys well another break up thread -__- I'm not sure which stage I'm on but its been 2 months and the things Ive learned and recognized during my healing process quick summary, 1 year relationship The Relationship -I miss the aspect of creating happy memories with him -I miss being safe -I miss the affection Him -never confess his feelings and hasn't opened up -every time we argued he would just shut down -he said he cant make emotional attachments -he said he prefers to be alone -he said we have different views on what a relationship is and regards it as 'SIMPLE' -he said he doesn't like me as much as i liked him Myself -act on mainly emotions, cried many times with or without him -I mainly held the relationship together -I put so much effort into the relationship -i was emotionally drained during the relationship -I wasn't happy for the half of it -I felt needy, insecure dependent on him -I was chasing something that wasnt there in the first place..... There you have it, I know that the relationship wouldnt work for any longer and some peeps say i had a lucky escape. I'm trying to manage my emotions with logic but im struggling because clearly he is moving on and im not (hes dating already) Im mixed with anger and pain and i know no matter how much i think about it im wasting my time. I just hate this feelings guys and I wish it just went away, I know im better than this and deserve better and actual love! would appreciate guys if you can give me tips to on how to tackle this, i can give advice during the beginning stage but im clueless with the middle and ending lol if you know what i mean i think i helped a couple of peeps on this forum with the beginnings of the break up and reading books helped as well but still feel like I'm not over him help guys | |||
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Moving in with boyfriend. Scared to tell parents
| My boyfriend and i have taken the decision to move in together next year after 2 years of long distance (i m at uni, he is not. So he wants to move to my city) We know it is a risk- but then, isnt everything in life? We are aware that living together ruines some peoples relationships, but we are determined not to let that happen to us. I can honestly say i love him more than anything and thinking of living with him and not having to be long distance any more makes me incredibly happy :) a light at the end of the tunnel. He jas told me he feels the same multiple times. We know living together will bring mew challenges to our relationship, but in my eyes i'd rather take the big leap and live together than do more long distance for years The main problem, as i see it, is getting my mum to approve of this. I will only be 20 next year- pretty young to be so committed to someone, i know. My mum will hate the thought of me and my boyfriend living together so young. How do i even tell jer? We are going to start looking at flats in a few months time and i dont want to keep it a secret from her. Falling out with my mum isnt a good idea | |||
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Kills me -missing my ex!
| So basically, I was in a domestic relationship and it was really bad for the last 4/5 months.. I will not go into it.. but I did really really care about him and actually saw a future together with him. I love him so much! We're at the same uni and practically were best friends as well as bf/gf.. Right now we're not in contact at all but I do miss him so much that it kills me. I cry sometimes thinking -what if- or why did he change so much into a completely horrible person and what did I do to deserve all the ****?! :( I just miss how it was for the first year together and although it was an unhealthy relationship towards the end I can not bare to delete all the pictures together on my iPhone or throw away his clothes. It's like my mind telling me to do it but my heart still cares. I know its wrong to even think about any of it, but I can't help it. I woke up this morning thinking he was next to me and felt safe then realized it's all in my head. Should I seek help?? :'( | |||
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Hotel help
| Hey guys, I am planning on staying in a hotel with a (guy) friend of mine. Although I am 18, my parents are still super strict and would never allow me to stay in a hotel with a guy... even though they are allowing me to go away by myself, weird, anyway... if I book a hotel for one, and my guest just shows up and stays with me, do hotels have problems with this? Will we get kicked out or something stupid. Thanks guys | |||
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