He wants some space...

I have posted in another forum with regards DH, we have been having some problems, mainly he lied about a friendship with another woman, and im paranoid and not handling it well. He says that he does love me (and yes he is still ''in love'' with me) and he cares about me but hes not sure he wants to be with me any more. He moved in with me straight from his parents, he has never lived alone or anywhere else, and is now saying he wants some space and his own independence. He is willing to come to marriage counselling with me as he says he would like to save our marriage and maybe get back together again, but he doesnt know what he wants right now and how he feels and is hoping some time alone will give him some perspective and help him decide how he feels and what he wants. Wether it be back with me or not. He says he feels guilty for all the crap hes done and im just adding to it cos he knows im hurting. Its sometimes like hes contradicting himself, the other night he said he cant imagine his life without me in it, then hes saying he doesnt know what he wants and might decide not to be with me! im confused as hell and hurting even more! were consider ing a trial seperation to allow him that space, and at the moment i think if he stays it will finish us off. Im devastated but im willing to try for the sake of my marriage. I think were both hurting and confused so maybe some space would be a positive thing? please help? :scratchhead:

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