I met a wonderful and kind hearted guy last autumn when I was 4 months pregnant and we have been together for 10 months now. The father of my baby bailed on me and pretty much left me on my own so I was in my lowest when I met my now boyfriend. He has 2 kids (3 and 5, shared custody) from a previous relationship that lasted 10 years. He caught her cheating on him so to cut the long story short, she moved out and he was left with the house. The ex liked to spend and shop and was not so smart about finances. They took loans together in the past which she is now been refusing to pay. I dont even understand much what was the loan about but suffice to say he is in big debt because of it. He also built a business about 2 years ago and invested all his savings in it which has been up and down since. Sometimes he has customers, sometimes he doesn't so his income pretty much relies on whether or not he gets a call from a customer that needs his service that day. H e used to have a high paying job in that same field in the past but he said he hates a 9 to 5 job so much, therefore he quit and built his own company but then it takes time to gain customers and when he has no customers, it bothers and worries me alot and I know it makes him sad too. He was talking about applying for welfare to help pay his mortgage or selling his house in case he goes completely bankrupt.
It's been pretty depressing to me cuz I am the type who likes to save and always been mindful about the future since I grew up poor and do not wish to live in scarcity again. Now that I have a 5 month old daughter of my own, I feel like I owe it to her to give her the best possible future. I am not looking for someone filthy rich, just someone with a steady job/income. We do not live together yet but have plans to buy a house together in 2 to 3 years and even began talking about the future together and the possibility of marrying one day. We both dont want any more kids.
Now I am beginning to really doubt my choice if still wanna continue so a few days ago, I asked him to give me some time and space to think about things and he was obviously very confused and hurt and been bugging me to meet him and talk it out but I don't wanna hurt him more by saying it has something to do with his financial situation. Tell me, am I asking too much for wanting a better future for my baby? It just sucks that I finally met a wonderful man who loves and accepts me and my baby but then I also have to be realistic and think about her future at the same time. Should I continue or just move on? So confused and helpless. :confused:
Thanks in advance.
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It's been pretty depressing to me cuz I am the type who likes to save and always been mindful about the future since I grew up poor and do not wish to live in scarcity again. Now that I have a 5 month old daughter of my own, I feel like I owe it to her to give her the best possible future. I am not looking for someone filthy rich, just someone with a steady job/income. We do not live together yet but have plans to buy a house together in 2 to 3 years and even began talking about the future together and the possibility of marrying one day. We both dont want any more kids.
Now I am beginning to really doubt my choice if still wanna continue so a few days ago, I asked him to give me some time and space to think about things and he was obviously very confused and hurt and been bugging me to meet him and talk it out but I don't wanna hurt him more by saying it has something to do with his financial situation. Tell me, am I asking too much for wanting a better future for my baby? It just sucks that I finally met a wonderful man who loves and accepts me and my baby but then I also have to be realistic and think about her future at the same time. Should I continue or just move on? So confused and helpless. :confused:
Thanks in advance.
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