Advice for Prom

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Advice for Prom

• 17 hours ago 17h ago

Hello guys. I need a bit of help.
1. I'm trying to develop me social interactions, especially with girls, over sixth form. Over time I made a dew acquaintances with some girls. If I see them at the prom, is it nice to tell that they look beautiful, or will it looks creepy, consider that I only know them as acquaintances.
2. If I ask to take a picture with them, shall I put my arm around their shoulder? or waist?

Thanks a lot guys for answering my 2 questions. =) Sorry I I come across a weird, I'm just trying to build up confidence.

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shaved or unshaved?

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shaved or unshaved?

• 16 hours ago 16h ago

So you know your downstairs area, your unmentionables, yeah. Shaved or unshaved?

I'm 18 and I know all my friends shave down there, but its hard for me. I can't see what I'm doing and I'm too uncoordinated to do it right.

Would a girl not having a shaved vagina be a big turn off? I can understand for a one night stand, it may be a huge deal. But say you had been dating a girl for a few months and actually liked her, would it affect your relationship dramatically?

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predicting another rejection

Just read the thread "I'm just going to say it", and almost burst out laughing, not because it's funny, sorry, it just sounds verbatim from me I wonder if I woke up in the middle of the night, created another handle, and posted it.

The night before last--rejected, can't remember the reason. (and before that, it was a bunch of attempts with oral, "bear-scare" and short PIV that left me wanting to work on getting a little more :()

Last night--rejected, H said he had a very busy day and was tired. This was 9:30 pm (translation: very early in our time frame). I smiled and came up with the idea of lighting 2 small candles (we had never done that before, I do have perfume, lingeries, toys, gathering dust in the top drawer). Got in bed and H said "tomorrow you would stay with your Mom so I can rest" (my new "routine" of staying with my Mom after work on Sat). It's called "discussing daily plan" in our lingo, no need to pay attention to ambiance or other trivial stuff.

I blew out the candles and tried to sleep. Probably 1-2 hrs passed and could not. Ended up again going to the other room and made some self-action. Gotta sleep because today is a working day.

This morning I announced I would go to Mother's house, spend afternoon with her, have dinner with her, then come home. H was predictably surprised and said I should take the kid with me and stay there. I just said no that is my plan.

I know 100% even if I come home instead of staying with Mom I would still get rejected tonight, but I will be cool about this because it's my right to try. If I want to get H into bed, no one can tell me to just stay in another house. I will talk with Mom and keep her company until after dinner. The current state of my physiology is so messed up I can barely think. Let me reiterate: I asked my ob/gyn before if there's a pill to kill libido and he stared at me like I was a pterodactyl. I tried.

Talking to myself here mostly, sorry, it's alone the same line of the "hate" thread

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It's not her, it's me :(

My gf never wears sandals, flip flop or open toe shoes because she finds her feet unattractive. It took her about 7 months into the relationship to even take off her socks in bed. Before that, she even wore socks with lingerie. The thing is, I actually liked that she did these things because I've always been insanely attracted to pretty feet. If she doesn't have them and doesn't want to expose them, fine with me! When I initially saw them, I must admit, I found them unattractive as she did. Nowadays she goes barefoot around the house and I just never look "down there". Why? I got turned off the few times I did look. It's no fun avoiding to look at your gf's feet. I'm all about increasing my attraction to her, not the other way around.

Away, last summer she came over my place wearing a pretty dress and, yes, FLIP FLOPS. I couldn't believe it. She said she didn't care anymore, she has the feet she has and that's' that. She knew I didn't like it and became very upset and hurt. She verbally spazed' out on me but never wore them again. Fast forward a year later (last week). She bought some open toe shoes and said she wanted to wear them to this event we are attending in 3 weeks.:scratchhead: I honestly felt she wanted to start an argument or something. I told her I didn't care for the shoes. She said angrily, "It's not the shoes you don't like, it's my feet! If I was so and so and was wearing them, you'd love it".:mad: She went on and on and we haven't really talked in the last few days. We generally get along great. I love her much. Should I just try to let go and avoid looking down in public as I do in private?

I shamefully admit that my ego is involved in this as well as I like how good she looks when we're in public but now she wants to start showing the feet I guess. :(I do have a sort of foot fetish because I always look at women's feet if they're exposed. My ex-wife had (has) pretty feet and I initiated sex plenty of time just from looking at them. Any advice would be appreciated.

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Wives are 7 times more likely to take back their cheating husband

I read that wives are 7 times more likely to take back their cheating husband than the other way around.

If true, how do you explain it?

This is my theory:

To be biologically successful you have to reproduce. Traits that caused people to have kids and raise them until they became fertile adults were selected for.

Before DNA women knew who their biological kids were and men didn't.

Women wanted a stable good provider to increase the chance that their children would survive. The reason that she didn't want her mate to fool around with another woman is that he might give the OW scarce resources and thereby decrease the chance of her kid's survival.

The sex act itself with the OW wasn't that important. Kids he had with the OW could starve.

Men wanted to use the fruits of their labor to ensure the survival of their own kids, not some OMs kids. That's why a faithful mate and the act of sex were important to men.

The DNA of men who had no problem feeding some OM's kid wasn't passed along.

In reconciliation:

The WH was offering his resources to ensure the survival of his wife's kids (she knows they are hers).

The WW was asking her husband to support kids that may not be his given her record.

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Almost done!

Sorry, I have not posted lately, but I got busy with school, kids, etc.

Our mandatory mediation was Monday. It went really well I think. The STBX asked for three weekends a month to spend with the boys, which I agreed to. His schedule won't really allow him time to see them during the week, so this will work out. I also agreed that if he finds time during the week he may come and take them out for dinner or something once a week.

Support is (of course) where it all got iffy. His lawyer tried to basically get him off without paying anything, and the mediator even laughed that right out of the room. I went in my business professional clothing and tried to have a positive attitude. The mediator informed my husband that if I went before a judge I would probably walk away with more than what I was asking for. (this was not some attempt to "break" him or take all the money, he will have my kids on weekends he needs to be able to have money also). All in all, I think the papers will be ready next week or at least by June 1st to sign. I am a little excited!

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Any girls actually prefer small penises?

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Any girls actually prefer small penises?

• 1 Hour Ago 1 hour ago

Whilst there are plenty of guys who prefer small breasts to big ones, I've never heard any girls saying that they prefer smaller penises to big ones. Is it basically a universal opinion that bigger = better when it comes to penis size?

Btw just to clarify, when I say "small penis" I'm talking below average, but not really tiny... so 4-5 inches erect as opposed to 4 inches and below.

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People are nicer to my good looking friends

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People are nicer to my good looking friends

• 56 minutes ago 56m ago

Have a problem, everytime I go out and I am with my attractive mates, they get all of the attention from men and women. So often, I find that I end up making more effort then I ought to, in order to get included in the conversation.

Very often, what would happen - this is particularly true with women, they would give them eye contact and generally be more attentive. If I try to talk to them , by joining the discussion, they will basically ignore me and make it a point not to give me eye contact until they are put in a position where my friend figures out what is going on and tries to get me involved.

I am getting really fed up with this, because I am finding it is now happening all of the time, when I am ordering drinks at the bar, when people interact with us as a group (I often end up getting excluded, as they are fighting to get to know the people they are attracted to better)

If I don't go out with my attractive mates, I am pretty much treated as though I am invisible.

Has anyone else experienced this, if so, how can you create more of a presence and prevent this from happening?

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Need thoughts from those who have been there

It's on the eve of my temporary/final divorce hearing. My divorce hearing will by this Monday, May 19 and I am so overwhelmed with great grief and sadness. I was the one who filed for divorce, a divorce I did not want with my heart; but at the time I felt no other way. I'm so overwhelmed with sorrow and grief as I did and do truly love my wife. We were practically newlyweds, only being married for four months and I'm still scratching my head as to why she wouldn't even try after professing how she loved me and couldn't imagine life without me. No, there was no infidelity on my part anyway; but don't ask me if there was on her part as I don't have a clue to that. There was no physical abuse, drug abuse or anything like that. I'm looking for comments from both sides. Those who wanted divorce and those who didn't want it as to whether both parties feel this overwhelming grief during divorce. Please keep me in your prayers for Monday, May 19 as I need them. I would hope for a marriage miracle, but I've not had much evidence in miracles happening.

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Are you dishonest?

I just finished a chapter in Love Busters which covered dishonesty in marriage.

Now I'm not talking about boldfaced lies, like hiding an AP or an addiction...but the little white lies that the author says we make to mainly protect ourselves.

Are there areas in which you struggled being honest with your spouse?

I have usually been dishonest about my needs and wants...as I struggled with codependency already. My wife when we first got married, however, was a hothead, and I buried my feelings, tired of disrespectful judgement. My lack of honesty hurt me and also decreased my wife's trust in me because she new I was hiding things from her.

What say you?

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Karma is the law of moral causation

Quote:

In this world nothing happens to a person that he does not for some reason or other deserve.

Quote:

"We are the heirs of our own actions."

Do you believe in the tenant of karma? If so, do you have examples, positive or negative, of karma relating to your life?

I am truly curious about this. I hear people say "Karma will come back on that person", and usually it is said with a negative connotation.

As for myself, I think the law of moral causation has merit. We get what we give. Sometimes it just takes a while for it to happen.

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Cant get hard with her.

Ok so my GF ang I were separated for two years while she tried on several different pairs of boots.

She found they weren't as sexy as her old pair of shoes (11 years), and called me up and wanted to try again and so we gave it a try....

First night was over the moon... Great sex.

Next night, lots of hot and heavy foreplay and then at the exact moment of penetration everything goes LIMP...nothing...no boner...shrinkage!

Shocking...never happened before... Lots of discussion followed.I'm embarrassed. She's second guessing the decision to try again.

Next night, same thing... At the moment of peek excitement LIMP...

Week goes by and we try again... I come home and the lights are low...candles are on...sexy nighty etc etc, BIG HARD ****...successful intercourse.... Relief it worked!!!

Week goes by and just tonight we dine...drink, light candles , get naked and at the moment of glory...LIMP...

WTF... Am I not in love? Does she not " do it for me" anymore...
What is my Di*k telling me that my brain dosent get???

See my other threads for the back story...

Seriously, I am looking for what's buried in my brain that is telling my organs to bail out...

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Unsure of my marriage

This is my second marriage and been with him for 4 yrs now. We meet in high school but never a couple and lost contact for many years until 5 years ago. Things at first was going really nice and we went out, but in the last two years it is like I am trap in a nightmare. I knew he has rheumatoid arthritis but he will not get any help at all. He completely refuse any help and all I hear day in and day out is that he is in so much pain (which I do get very much). He also stays in bed most of the time and we never get to go out and enjoy life. He always says he is dying and 85% of the time gets my two oldest kids (from 1st marriage) to do everything for him. I even suggest him finding a Part time job to one get him out of the house, help with the finances (especially to pay his child support), and to be somewhat active. However, nothing works. The only time he feels good is during Hunting Season then it is back to him being hurting and in bed again. Also, he has a major habit being right all the time even when he is wrong (never apologize for making a mistake), has to win in every single game and says he is master of that game, don't listens to my suggestion and goes for his suggestions only making me feel like my input doesn't matter, doesn't tell his mother to back off, and most of all stop dreaming about the future when he is not helping out financially to achieve the goals.

Like I said, I feel like I am in a nightmare with him. I just want him to help financially, get some medical help, back his mom off our life, start treating me like my suggestions are important and letting some of the suggestions into plans, and start living without all these dreams that financially one person cannot achieve alone with one income (mine). I just don't know what to do and I am about to tell him I want a divorce.

Can someone help in advice

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I think my fiance may be a transsexual, need advice

Ok I need help and I'm hoping that someone here can provide me with some. I've been dating my fiance for 7 months and we've been engaged for 3. In the past, she has never let me get close to her sexually. She said that she wants a man who is with her for who she is and not just for sex. I have respected her on this and I have tried to control my urges to have sex with her.

She got drunk last weekend and told me she was ready to have sex with me. I had not been drinking so I made sure that she knew what she wanted to do and she said yes, she was ready. The entire ordeal was very weird for me since she had so many stipulations for the sex. First of all, she wanted the lights to be off. I contested this and told her that I wanted to see her beautiful body but she said she was not comfortable with having the lights on. Second of all, she only wanted to have sex doggy style. That was fine with me at first because that is my favorite position. That's where things started to get very weird.

I was having sex with her doggy style and I reached around and found something that felt like it didn't belong. If I had to guess, I would say that it was an erect penis. I only touched it for a quick second before she slapped my hand and told me to keep them on her thighs. I thought is was strange but I didn't question her since I enjoyed it.

Lastly, she wanted to have sex with me with a strap on dildo. First of all, I didn't even see her come in with a dildo even though she said she had one. I had never did something like that before but I bent over and let her do it to me so she could be happy. I do have to say that it was one of the most painful experiences in my life. I'm not exaggerating but it was very painful. After it was over, she made me lie in the bed while she went to shower. There was no cuddling or hugging.

I've tried talking to her about what happened but she gets upset with me. She also told me that she doesn't want to have sex again until we are married (date is set for July 5th). I've talked to my brother about this and he said that she may be a trans sexual. This is the first time that I've dealt with someone like this so I really don't know what to do. If we are going to get married, I don't want her hiding a big secret like this. If she would just open up to me, maybe I can accept her for who she is. Does anyone have any experience with this or can point me in the right direction on what to do? I really love her and I don't want to lost her but after what happened, she seems like a different person to me now.

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Does your spouse say anything if you run errands at night?

Hello everyone! I hope everyone finds this in best of heath.

So today I was getting some work done at Panera bread and these ladies were sitting next to me discussing their relationship problems. Anyway so at first I was trying not to eavesdrop but once the discussion got interesting I could not help it (did not get much done though, but that is my own fault).

In summary lady#1 was saying that she wishes her husband was more I guess for lack of a better word gentlemanly. She wanted him to open the doors for her, carry groceries up, show affection when they went out with friends but apparently more importantly she did not feel like he worried about her?Apparently he let her go to the grocery store at midnight to get something and she thought that he should have volunteered to go instead.

Lady#2 I guess was more on the there is nothing wrong with lady#1's husband letting her go to the store at night because the store is close enough. She also said that she would not want her spouse to tell her what to do.

Just to point it out I live in a very small city. We don't even have our own police station they come from the next city. So it is relatively safe here.

Lady#3 basically just said that her husband does all of the things lady#1 wanted her husband to do because she "trained" her husband right.

So what does everyone think? I guess with time things have changed. In the past a husband might have insisted upon going to the store to save his damsel in distress. Do women still expect that from their SO?

On the other hand with women progressing farther than ever in professional life and home life being more of a 50/50 should women still expect that kind of luxury?

Personally I lived by myself a long time before I met FH so I see no problem with going to the store by myself at night. There have been numerous times when FH was cooking and wanted me to go to the store and grab something really quick and I did not think much of it except that better him cooking than me haha!

Opinions?

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How is it????

I'm just devastated. How is it that a spouse can go from telling you how they love you and you're the love of their life, then a month later; have an online dating profile professing that they are single and within just weeks go out with a man before you ever move out of the house? Then within days of you moving out of house, post pictures of the guy on FB with flirting comments and also pictures of him in your house? How can a person go from one extreme to another so quickly? First she started putting me down, picking me apart, being condescending to me and just treating the man she professed her love too just four months previously in marriage. How can someone move on so quickly without grieving a loss? A little background. We married, bought a house within a week and then I got laid off so I was wallowing in self pity trying to pick myself up and find work, which I did do by the way. Then she opened a fake facebook and I suppose she was trying to get m e to cheat. Instead, I replied that I was married and would never want anyone to think poorly of me. Then I talked to a family member about how poorly I was being treated by her and how I saw her 20 year old son acting and how I felt he had no discipline or ambition and was concerned for him. She finds out and would not even talk about the issues of what I had spoke to a family member about. She said it broke her heart and she wanted a divorce. She then ignored me and made it to the point at home that I was afraid she would do something crazy. I was in a state of emotional turmoil and already beaten down mental by her condescending treatment that I filed for a divorce that I didn't want and moved out just to gain some peace and be able to get myself back together.

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Not feeling important to him

Love is like the wind- you can't see it but you can feel it. Most of the time, I don't feel it. I want to, but it's not there. Something changed. I am not as important to him. We care about each other but I want to distance myself so it doesn't hurt me as much. He is so preoccupied with someone else or doing something else. It makes me jealous and hurts my heart and makes me feel vulnerable all at once. I feel like I need him but he does not need me. I don't want to need him. I want my heart to stop hurting. It hurts knowing that he would fine without me. I don't know why he is still with me. His a good person- a lot better than myself. I feel so alone when I am with him. I don't feel as alone when he is gone, even though I miss him.

He thinks of other people when he goes to a store. He buys people things out of the kindness of his heart, even though they do not ask for anything. It would be nice if he thought of me half as much as everyone else. I cannot remember something that he bought me just because he thought of me. He pays when we go out to eat and buys cigarettes and thinks*that enough. Don't get me wrong, I am grateful and always try to thank him, but it doesn't make me feel special. What he does for me are things he would do for a stranger. He does not do personal things for me like he does for everyone else in his life. If I mention this to him, he calls me selfish and makes me feel terrible for thinking and feeling the way that I do and I can't help the way I feel about it because it hurts me. I am not sure if it is supposed to hurt me but it does and I feel like something is wrong with me. He used to make me feel special, but I cant remember the last time I felt special to him.*

I would do anything for him and I think he would do a lot for me. He did not get me anything for my birthday this year, or last year. He has made me cry a couple years in a row because I didn't even get a card from him. He bought me a necklace online for Christmas last year. He ordered the day before Christmas and has it shipped overnight. I wore it everyday after he gave it to me but I was reminded that I was just a last minute thought (even though he will never admit it). It didn't cost half as much as what he got his mother or even his nephew. He spent so much time shopping for the perfect gifts for them well before Christmas. He couldn't even afford the perfect gifts for them so I gave him a credit card. It was around Christmas that he had become occupied with a new remote control truck. He was spending a lot of money on the truck because new parts kept breaking. Shortly after Christmas he was needing money to get by for the week until he got paid so I made up a lie and t old him that something was wrong with the necklace and it was uncomfortable to wear and that he should return it. It made me sad watching him send it back but he didn't seem to hesitate. I thought I was doing him a favor so the refund would be in his bank account within a day or two. Turns out, he put the necklace on the credit card I let him use. It makes me feel worthless to know that I wasn't a priority to him. He means so much to me and I think that is why it hurts me. I can't even move on and forget it. Every birthday and every Christmas will always be reminded of how unimportant I am to him.*

We have been together for 7 years. Been engaged for the past 5 years. No children, but i want a family. He has such a good personality and makes friends all of the time. I am more of an introvert. My only friends are the people that i work with but i never hang out with them outside of work.*

He gets upset anytime I bring these situations up and tells me that I need to stop living in the past.*Is there something wrong with me or is it all in my head?

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Getting over bi-polar girlfriend

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Getting over bi-polar girlfriend

• 14 hours ago 14h ago

Anyone with bi-polar please help shed light on this situation.

I was seeing this girl for a while, about 3 months, and it was so amazing, so beautiful honestly I'd never been happier. We would have a great time, and come back to mine and have sex and it started off like that but I really started developing deep feelings for her, which for the most part I think were reciprocated.

She told me she had in the past been bi-polar and had medication to tame it. But that she was better now; I experienced the complete opposite...

She had this one time I went to see her and she was completely inaffectionate, she refused to kiss or touch me. I was so confused because just the other day she was in my bed with me I wondered what changed. I asked her and she got so emotional, telling me she couldn't deal with me right now and wanted to be friends and wasn't ready for a relationship. I was completely heartbroken, she was like a different person all of a sudden. and I tried to ask what happened, she stormed out screaming and crying, I tried to reassure her it's okay and asked to take her home because it was late and dangerous but she refused pushing me away.

I sent her a message saying that if she ever wanted to see me again she'd better explain what she did; she was very apologetic, she really begged me to forgive her and for another chance, she asked to see me. She came over and we made up, had sex again and I thought it was fine. She would look into my eyes deeply like she was really into me and it made me start to feel for her even more, I forgave her for what she did but I was confused.

We dated more and for about 2 weeks after this everything was fine, having regular sex, intimacy, she was just fine however a few days ago she randomly stopped responding to my messages. I was worried as she'd said she'd been feeling down. I called her and she was crying, apparently something happened with her family, and she did the same whole "I'm not ready for a boyfriend, i can't be a good girlfriend to you" "lets be friends" thing. I was soooo heartbroken you don't even understand because I really started to feel for this girl and I know something isn't right with her in the head because of the way she was just crying and saying the most ridiculous things, it was even somewhat scary this flip from being completely into me and having sex with me and telling me she wanted to be with me to this.

All my friends tell me to leave her because she is crazy, I can't help but admit I am deeply in love with her even though it's only been 3 months, i can't stop thinking about her but I can't keep having my heart broken and broken over and over. I sent her a text saying I wanted to leave her, and she immediately called me, crying, being so emotional, she really was just insanely depressed and I don't understand what's happening to her.

I'm thinking of cutting her out, i can't take the pain too much and I love her so much, yet she just hurts me soo badly, please tell me what I can do to get over her. I can't put up with this anymore, it's sooo bloody painful it really is.

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Don't know anything about girls' bodies - what's wrong with me!

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Don't know anything about girls' bodies - what's wrong with me!

• 12 hours ago 12h ago

I feel clueless about the female anatomy. Today, I referred to what I now know as cleavage as "boob line", since I didn't know what else to call it. I thought cleavage was just breasts, but apparently not.

I didn't know that vaginas had two different holes until a little while ago.
I didn't know what a clitoris was until the other day.

I still don't know how much hair girls grow - they talk about shaving and waxing, but then I hear boys say "girls don't grow hair on their bodies / on their faces".

Oh and I only found out a couple of days ago what a hickey was, though that's not a girls only thing.

I'm not too bothered that I don't know these things, it's not like I'm losing anything by being a little ignorant, but it's embarrassing when I realise I didn't know something like this with my friends.

Any advice? And how do I not know these things?!

Thanks :S

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