Need some serious advice - desperately!!

Alright, this is going to be a challenge for you diehards on here, but here goes....I have posted so many other places and talked to so many people, and everyone just shakes their head. My husband of 3+ years, 5+ years in relationship, returned from Afghanistan nearly 9 months ago. We struggled about 4 months prior to his return home, he withdrew, was spending money inexplicably, they were having a rough go of it.....but we eventually gradually came to a place where he was coming home to me and things were ok. I thought. One week before he left there to come home, he asked me where I wanted to go on vacation, said he knew he had been rough on me but shouldn't have been, expressed some guilt over some things he had done (he started smoking, was possibly spending the money on gambling) and basically I just said get out of there safely, we will deal with whatever when you come home. Somewhere between Afghanistan and the US he decided he no longer wished to be married. He wouldn't allow me or any of his family to come to the airport the day he came home, just completely shut down. I know reintegration is difficult, but he was obviously experiencing some ex treme mental issues. He moved in with his mom, wouldn't respond to texts or phone calls, and went into full-on hideout mode. I have seen him about 4 hours since his return in June, not since August, and all he will say is that he just doesn't feel it anymore, his heart isn't in it, he's cried as much as I have but it's best if we just move on. Since we haven't lived in the same space for over 2 years now, I wouldn't expect him to "feel" anything for me. He has redecorated his entire life upon returning home, has a new place to live (which he will not tell anyone where that is), has a different car, has new friends he hangs out with, and possibly has a new relationship with a girl that was deployed with him. I don't have concrete proof of it, but I know enough to know they are closer than any wife would be comfortable with her husband being with another woman. I have had so little contact with him that I don't really know what he is suffering with or doing, he works 6 or 7 days a week and takes classes online, but I have no other insight into his life. Is he out partying, does he date, is he a drinker now? He does not support me in any way, just completely exed me out of his life, and has been nothing short of stone cold cruel to me since his return. It is not just me he has cut himself off from, he doesn't se e or speak to his family much at all, even his grandmother hasn't seen him ( and she calls me on a regular basis, so I know this firsthand). I realize deployment changes people, but this is ridiculous. What is most astounding and confusing is that despite his absolute decision that divorce was the only option for him, he has not yet filed. It has been 9 months I have been sitting here waiting to be served divorce papers, and nothing has happened. I have told him I don't want the divorce, told him I would fight for our marriage, sent him countless messages reminding him of how happy we were together and how much I still cared, all of which I know I shouldn't have done. But I truly felt like he was suffering with some kind of mental issue, still do to a degree, which is why I have treated this with kid gloves, trying to encourage him and tell him that I am here for him. That time has passed. I can no longer allow him to treat me like this. He has shown absolutely no regard for my well-being, for my hurt, for what happens to me, and I have allowed it because I felt as though taking any steps would force the divorce that I don't want. In November, the last time we spoke on the phone, he sounded like his old self for the first time, and when I asked him where he stood on the divorce or what he wanted, he said he was "just trying to figure things out". In January, after essentially bribing him to show up for dinner so that we could discuss things (which he did not show up for), he simply said that he cared about me but his heart wasn't in it anymore, that it was best if we just went our separate ways. I have spoken to his Commander, which he is not aware of, but the military will do nothing about what they consider a civil matter. That leaves me with the only option being to contact or show up at his work, which will no doubt just make me look a fool, like the vindictive wife trying to make her husband look bad. I don't know what to do at this point. I don't want to file for a divorce that I don't want. I don't know what behaviors to change because when we were together, we were both very happy, there wasn't any arguing or issues. I realize fully that this isn't about me, that it is his issue and I need to move forward with me life, but there is this giant gaping hole that I don't know how to navigate around. I've waited faithfully for his return for over 2 years now, this is beyond devastating, and while I have done very well to continue on with my life (about to graduate from school in May, already have a good job lined up, managed to keep my home despite not having any income since he left), I am struggling with what to do, how to proceed from here. I feel as though he has been able to create this new life for himself that has made things as easy on himself as possible, taken the path of least resistance, which has made things ten times as hard for me. He doesn't have to fac e his own guilt or shame at what he's done to me, as long as I stay silently out of the picture, and the minute I start to make noise he holds the divorce paperwork over my head. Please help, anyone. I am so tired of this situation and it's unending pain and frustration. There just is no answers coming, and I don't know how much more I can take. I do okay during the week, when I am busy with school, but the weekends roll around and I am right back down in the dumps, alone and sad and frustrated. I keep praying for an end to this nightmare, but I just don't ever wake up..... Thank you.

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Divorce? How much do we take before we say "enough!"

After reading through posts the last year and considering my own inner conflicts with my marriage I decided to post my story. To be honest, I don't even know where to start! First, my husband and I have known each other since we were both 14. We started dating at 17 and married after I graduated University and started my career at 24. 12 years later, we have 4 beautiful children, now 4, 5, 7 and 9. This is what makes the decision to leave very difficult, plus I still find myself in love with him. My children are my life. My husband started his own company at the age of 19 and I was his main cheerleader (along with his mother... yes, he is a major mommy's boy who was doted on left right and centre. He remained at home until the age of 26 when he and I married. I, on the other hand, am much more independent and have lived "on my own" since I was 19 and going to University. I would describe my husband as self-centred, uncaring toward me and self absorbed. Throughout his life at home he did not lift a finger and had everything done for him. Later, his mother became the office manager of his quickly growing Landscaping company and meddled in our marriage whenever she could. I would bring this to his attention and was told repeatedly to "get over it!". Literally... should have been my first cue, but "I love him". We bought our first home after we married, and yes, his mom would sneak over and do his laundry (I refused to use bleach, she is a bleach queen... she came over to bleach his clothes). Anyway, over the years he finally realized the damage she was doing to our marriage and he rehired the position . (I am omitting a lot of "stories" here....) Anyway, the point is that over 20 years together, my husband is never at home (no, not cheating... working), treats me like I am invisible, comes and goes as he pleases because he has to work, does not ask me out on dates or to go anywhere, constantly on the phone and throws insulting put downs when I try to communicate my feelings. I work full time, I rush home to meet my 4 children off the bus (we do have a live in caregiver, but it is important to me to meet my children off the bus as much as possible), make supper, and spend the rest of my night with my 4 children. I make my husband supper, launder his clothes and do just about everything where the kids are concerned. Usually, my husband arrives home at or just after supper (I add an hour to the time he tells me he will be home after I call him to see when he will be home), hardly cleans up after supper and has a very different approach of helping to put the children to bed than I do (ie. he does not read them stories, but rather puts them in bed as fast as possible and goes to bed himself because he is up at about 5:00 a.m.). I stayed home for 5 years after our second child and, on returning to work, did not even receive flowers or a dinner out. When I told him that it hurt he did not acknowledge the work I put in to our family for 5 years and the sacrifice I made, I was told, "You were the one who wanted to stay home.". Last March, he told me he was not sure he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I called a counsellor and we spent the last year in counselling. He stated he loved me, but he loves his job. He knows he takes me for granted and should show more appreciation. He was told to read a book, "Hold me Tight" which I finished in a week and well, he has not past page 5 today, even though I have told him umpteen times it is important to me that he reads the book. I was then told, "I tried. It is a hard read." He says he does not want a divorce, that he loves me. I am lost, I am in love with my husband, I am not in love with the way he treats me... does this make any sense? I am tired of not being valued. I feel worthless, alone and hopeless. He is not going to change. He puts everything before myself and our 4 precious kids. I want a divorce and told him this today. My fears: money (I make a great salary on my own and am very strong, but I worry about not being able to afford the life our children currently enjoy), hurting my children and well, feeling worthless the rest of my life. I know this is rattling on and I probably have not clearly made any point... there is simply so much .... Trying to be positive and stay positive. Positive approach..

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Disposed

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. He left me on Christmas Eve '12. In the past year, I have come to the conclusion that he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Even knowing this, my despair and devastation is intense. I can't let go. To be completely honest, he is making a fool of me. I have allowed myself to be convinced that this is all my fault, and if I try hard enough I can fix it. The more time I have to think, I understand that his manipulation has influenced me to feel this way. Still, I obsess over how to get him home. I feel like half of me is missing. I would do almost anything to have him home again. Is this textbook for a victim of a narc? I have never been the bottom in a relationship before. Men were very replaceable to me until him. Why is this so HARD?

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Feeling lost

I've been married to my husband for 8 years, together for 19 years. We started dating when I was 20. We now have two children 5 & 8. He says he doesn't love me anymore and he has left us. I don't even know where to start everything is shattering all around me. I've been a stay at home mom and one of my children has autism. I can't breathe and I keep crying and crying. All the lies and cheating and if I can't trust him I have no one I can trust. I guess I need to reach out to someone before I completely lose it. I don't understand how he can do this to us. I never knew him as a selfish man but right now I don't even see him as a man. He makes me feel old and used up. Does this get better? Thank you for listening

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way out of friends drama

I'm here researching bcause my college roommate and now brother in law is trying to fix his marriage. He has been physically abused (she punched him so hard she broke her wrist), they fight constantly...he calls me, I listen. I try not to judge but I know he wants some magic solution that doesn't exist. He knows they should divorce but he's scared. I keep telling him this is a decision he has to make himself....MC failed epically. I called his sister to see if she could help. She was hoping id be the one to tell him to throw her out. Is that valid advice? I don't have to live with the consequences...he does. I keep telling him to tell W exactly what he tells me. Posted via Mobile Device

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can someone help me decide what to do...

about 2 months ago i broke up with my long term boyfriend of 2 and a half years. I really did love him but just felt like I had fallen out of love with him as well as some other issues so I broke up with him. A few weeks ago I met a really sweet guy who I have had at least 8 dates with now but hes very different from my ex boyfriend and I feel he makes less effort with me when we arent seeing eachother. Recently I have had some major family problems and felt like my ex (who has been my best friend even before our relationship) was the only one I could talk to because it was such personal family issues. Therefore I have been getting closer with my ex but just as friends but I know he wants me back. Im in a dilemma because I see my ex as someone I could get back with in the future because i do deep down still love him but i dont see it now. I want to be with the other guy at the moment- however if I do that im scared ill lose my ex's friendship. I dont know what to do, i just know im confused and need some advice!!! Thanks :) xxxxx

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Stay or Go

I've been seeing this girl going on 5 or so months now. I've been in enough relationships to know that we get along great, and have a lot of fun. Our relationship is honest and healthy and I know that there is a lot of potential for great happiness here... unfortunately, we have now come to an impass. I feel like I'm handling this properly but an extra set of ears and eyes would be appreciated. When we began dating it was under the premise that she would be leaving for an important professional opportunity in April. So our relationship was never hugely serious and premised on the fact that we would enjoy the time we had while we could, that we shouldn't waste an opportunity for such a positive connection. Some people never even get that much, right? Our relationship is tons and tons of fun, more than that- we have become close friends. I don't know when it happened, but somewhere along the line our feelings grew fairly intense for one another. She clearly likes me as much as I like her, which makes this particularly difficult for both of us. Her opportunity got pushed back until August which was fine by her because we were having such a good time and she likes the job she has now. It wasn't a big deal for her to wait. Added to this was the opportunity to perhaps end up in the same place at the end of the year which excited us both greatly. Then she got the news, she was given an alternative opportunity to leave in July. The problem is that it is not the job she wanted and if she does not accept, it will be unlikely that she will have another shot with this organization. Worse, she has a week to make the decision. If she accepts this job, she won't be back in the united states until her contract has expired (18+ months). She is very excited and equally dissapointed because it is not the job she wants. I am dissapointed because I might be losing a really good friend and lover. I told her that I would support her in whatever she decides, and that if she chooses to go, that I would cherish the time we had and send her with my blessings. More than anything, I phrased it in such a way so that she is making this decision about HER and not US. The last thing I want is for her to not take the job because of me and regret the decision later. So I'm kind of sitting and waiting until she decides... I don't know what else to do. I love this girl and would hate to see her go. Sometimes everything can be perhaps except for timing... thats enough to do it :(

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Daddy Issues...Any Advice

Ive been in a relationship for about three years now, I love this man with all my heart but Im beginning to realize that my issues with my father are really affecting me. I had my father in my life but the older i grew the more I realized how manipulative he was. In front of us, kids he portrayed my mother in a horrible light. To cut the long story short, having grown up now I realize how unhappy my mother is, she tells me to not marry a man that doesn't allow me to be who I am or a man who is not supportive or cuts me from the world or is abusive and this is all in reaction to what my father does to her. I feel like even though I have a pretty good idea in what I want in a man and I think I have a great man. Im so afraid that I will end up like her and thats one of my worst fears. The second issue is that I am a christian and my boyfriend doesn't believe in God. Now apart from this we are pretty much good together. However, my father keeps telling me stuff like I will end up divorced because of my nature that Im like my mother and if she wasn't with him she would have been divorced too. I need some advice, please help!

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I feel alone.

I hope someone can help. My wife and I are in our third year of marriage now and things seem to be getting rocky. She has been working as a bartender for a little while now and has started to drink more which was no big deal. Well, now she has been going out with her friends three or four times a week. She'll get off at 1 a.m. and not be home until four or later. Now this isn't every week, but still we might only get one or two nights a week together which is nice when it happens. However, if I want to spend any time with her I have to be the one to come to her. If I want a kiss it has to come from me. Sex is down to like one or two times a month. Everytime I try to ask her to spend more time with me or show me more affection it just starts a fight and I get the feeling like she thinks I am being too clingy. Recently, I have tried to pull away from her a little hoping she would try to pull me back but it seems to be just as bad. Last night, I came home from work and she was in the bedroom and I said hey to her but then I just sat out in the kitchen until it was time to go to bed hoping she would ask me to come to lay with her or even ask me what I was doing or anything but I got nothing. It didn't even seem to bother her at all. When I got into bed I tried to talk to her about it and she said I was just trying to start another fight. She says she loves me but I don't feel it. She tells me that I am being ridiculous whenever I say anything and that I am reading into things when there is nothing there or I am being insecure. I don't know what to do. I feel like she is not even attracted to me anymore. Somebody please help!

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newly married and unhappy

I've been married for two months. We're both 30. I got married way too fast, and even though I knew it was too fast and tried to slow down a few times before it happened, I got caught up in the infatuation and got married anyway. I read a line a few threads down about how saying "I do" implies that one can..... and I think it's fair to say that I'm one of those who can't. I hadn't dated for years before meeting my husband, because I suck at relationships. I told him I'm bad at this, and that I've got screwed up emotional perception/regulation problems that would make his life as miserable as mine is, and he stuck around anyway. Any psycho should be so lucky to have someone who wants to love them anyway, right? I lost sight of my better judgment over that, and now we're married. We fought horribly our entire honeymoon. We're talking the kind of fight where one person ends up curled up in the fetal position on the floor while the other finds themselves almost catatonic on a couch from the awfulness of it all. We haven't stopped since. Now I can't remember anything positive at all about this relationship, and I want out. I've told him this. I feel like the marriage has just been terrible for both of us. He's a good person, and he's just as unhappy as I am. I don't feel understood or accepted because he's always reading too much into what I say, or how I say it. (Me: Someday, I'm going to live in a house with a professional grade kitchen. Him: Don't you mean WE are going to live there? Me: I imagine. -FIGHT ENSUES OVER MY USE OF THE WORD IMAGINE or the fact that I smiled the wrong way when I said it. I'm from a family with Asperger's and autism all over the place, and these sorts of semantic/body language/inflection battles just aren't anything I'm equipped to deal with. I say what I mean.) He feels rejected and unloved - and honestly, I'm so beaten down by the constant fighting that he's perfectly justified in feeling that way. I don't even feel like we're friends anym ore, and he's expecting this touchy feely bride even with all the fights. He's said horrible things to me that I can't forget hearing, and I've walked out on him multiple times. We don't have the same ideas of what love should be, and in fact, our needs are in direct opposition to each other. This is a powderkeg, not a relationship! I'm resentful, angry, bitter, and sad; I'd rather just go back to living alone with my damn cats and forget about this whole failed experiment. I've told him that I want out, but he won't just agree that this is a mess and call it quits amicably before things get worse. He wants to fight it out, unsurprisingly, and seems to think that things will just somehow get better at some point. If I'm going to get divorced, he's going to make me do it the hard way. Today, I told him that I'm more than willing to do so unless he goes to counseling with me. He agreed to do so, but not after telling me that I'm only "forcing" him to go to marriage counseling to punish him because he doesn't want a divorce. I'm pretty sure that's a clear sign that counseling isn't going to work anyway, but I don't see that we have any other hope at all. This is a disaster, and I'm really starting to wonder if either of us are going to survive being married to each other at all. It sure seems like one of us is going to drop dead from the pain and suffering any moment now. :( Marriage sucks.

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how do i help my man be happy again?

Hi all I'm hoping you can help me out a little. My husband and I have had a really difficult last few years due to illness, bereavement and financial difficulties. It's been really tough on us both plus we have 2 teenage children to worry about. I have opened up to my H and asked for his support and help dealing with all these issues but he turns off and backs away. We have been together for 19 yrs and married for 14 of those. We have had ups and downs due to him spending far too much time on his computer and not wanting to be social. He usually leaves me and storms off on nights out, starts an argument or has a headache and wants us to leave early. If we are out he doesn't like me to leave his side all night if it's my friends. If it's his friends he's quite happy to leave me there and go off with them ( I'm not bothered by this as I'm very outgoing). He would text me on my nights out with my friends around 10 times to see where I was or what time I would be home, telling me I shouldn't stay out past 2am as I'm a married woman, where as when he was out I would leave him to it. I nipped all this in the bud and explained he would not stop me from going out and the jealousy had to stop. It did to a point where I can deal with it. I know he has insecurity issues but I refuse to give in to them. We worked together and things got better and he stopped the texting. I trust him 100% but I feel he does not trust me even though I have never gave him any reason not to. Anyway last year I lost my job then my Grandad died and my H had his hours cut. Plus I have been plagued with ill health going on 6 yrs. We are struggling so much financially. We both hit low patch and its difficult to remain optimistic. My H has been unbearable to live with,snapping at the kids and me, not talking, not going anywhere, no cuddles, kissing or sex. He's lazy and puts everything off for another day. He's angry and aggressive when I try speaking to him. The calmer I am the more angry he is. I'm no Angel,i get angry and upset too but I tell him how I'm feeling, apologise and hug him. I have asked him to by help in the past as well as the present regarding his anger but he won't have any of it ( he has never been physically violent) he refuses to even see a doctor to be evaluated for depression. I am trying so very hard to hold us together but feel I'm doing it all on my own. He does not want to do any of the things I like to do, like walking, going out with friends, going out to eat. He would rather stay in on his days off and just watch tv all day. Even in the morning he gets up and then is straight on his phone doing God knows what. I asked him here does he think our marriage is going when we don't even spend time together or even go to bed together. He just shrugs then asks me what do I expect him to do. I'm only in my 30's, I spent all my 20's in and out of hospital and now I want to make most of our lives. I want to laugh, be happy go out, have spontaneous sex, act like kids but he does nine of this and hasn't even shown the desire to. What can I do? Is there anything I haven't thought of? Am I doing something wrong? I dunno anymore I just want us to be happy. Thanks for taking the time to listen :-)

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Guys and their lack of boundaries

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Guys: How do you act around the girl you like?

Please keep anonymous as I know the guy goes on here, thank you. :) I was wondering what kind of things you guys do when around the girl you like compared to girls you're just neutral about? Thank you. :)

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Should I run for the hills?

This is soooo complicated but will keep it short....I have known my partner for 8 years. She has always been insecure and demanding but I understood her reasons and loved her unconditionally. The rot started to set in when we moved in together. The idea was to merge both our families under one roof. My two were 16 and 17 at the time and hers was 13. My son & daughter lost their Mum 1 year before. We were seperated but still friends. All living together was my attempt to give them a sense of family again after their loss. My partner had always had problems in accepting my daughter ever since we met. She has always seen her as the 'other woman'. My daughter hardly saw her and couldn't understand why she was disliked. Anyway, after buying the house my patner changed her mind and said she couldn't have another womans kids in her house. My own house sale fell through and it was suggested to mine that they could stay there and I would pay the bills cons idering that they were going to Uni soon. They agreed and that's how we existed for a while. I was very uncomfortable about the whole thing but my partner was very convincing (I've since discovered that she shows the traits of a Sociopath) and made me feel at ease about it. However, soon my contact with my kids became restricted. She didn't like me calling them on the phone or even answering their calls, saying that I could only talk to them on Sundays. Again we argued about this constantly and I tried my best to create a balance. My partner didn't like the fact that I loved my kids and wanted my full attention 24/7. Because of this she began sending my daughter nasty text messages out of the blue and yet my daughter has always been nice and polite with her. This behaviour escalated and to cut a very long story short, my partners other grown up children no longer speak to her and her daughter that lives with us has now left and gone to live with her dad for the same reasons. They all feel sorry for me and this has made the situation worse. Finally, it got too much and I left on Boxing Day and moved back into my other house. My partner has been a nervous wreck and considered suicide but has come out the other side and now says she has completely changed. has apologised for everything she has done to me and my family, realises she has been unfair and selfish and has had an epiphany, saying she understands and will never be like that ever again. She has been crying on the phone and on my doorstep saying she loves me and wants a clean slate. My friends and even her own daughter say I would be stupid to go back but I am starting to feel for her. My question is this; do I believe her and things will be much better for everyone? Can a leopard change it's spots? Will my kids ever talk to me again if I give her the benefit of the doubt or should I follow my head and run a mile? The people that know her think she's wonderful but to close family she is di fferent, having no empathy for anyone's feelings - yet now she says she understands that and knows that she is driven by her insecurities. Can it work or will it be shortlived? I am stressed out with not knowing what to do for the best as I can't imagine a future without her in it as we have done so much together, despite being so difficult to live with. My fear is that Xmas, Birthdays etc for my family will still be traumatic as everyone is walking on eggshells. Can she really change her mindset to repair all of that or am I being hoodwinked again?

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When you hear or read the words "Asian Girl"...

What comes to mind? I'm just interested, and slightly curious.

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I need advice

Basically i have a small infatuation with my housemate, the only problem im not the type of person he goes for Can anyone give me advice on how to get over him

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Can someone help me understand this guy's behavior?

Basically there's this guy who I see around town and have lots of mutual friends with but had never spoken to. I started to realise I was attracted to him on NYE when he served me at the bar he works at. He served me a couple of other times after then but I couldn't bring myself to say anything to him and he barely looked at me and always looked down when he served me. He also goes to this rock club night that I go to and I've seen him looking at me there. Finally on Valentine's Day I went to the bar and when he was serving someone else he kept looking over at me and finally started a conversation with me. He asked how I was etc and started talking about his shift then asked me if I would be at the rock club night which was the next day, which I was. Well the club night came and through out the night he didn't speak to me at all. There were a couple of times when he sat near me (e.g on the same sofa) but I had people around me so we couldn't speak. Finally I went out and found him in a group of people, one of them I knew, and tried to join the group. But the whole time he didn't look at me once! It was like I wasn't even there. A short while later he was sat opposite me and we had a bit of awkward eye contact then he finally said Hello and waved at me enthusiastically as if he had only just seen me, which he obviously had ages ago. He was also pretty drunk at this point. For the huge portion of the night I was talking to my male friend so I'm not sure if he got the wrong idea or something. Now he is quite a shy guy (I stalked his fb and saw he said he's shy and can't talk to girls he's interested in) so a couple of days later I decide to add him on facebook as I thought conversation might be easier there. After he accepted me I send him a short message. We have what I feel is a good back and fourth conversation over the week. He would always send long, enthusiastic messages asking me about myself and telling me about himself. Basically getting to know each other. He would also always apologise for replying late and explaining that how late his shifts are. Even after I ended the convo once without asking follow up questions he still replied asking more questions about me and so on. He asked me again if I would be at the rock night which would take place the following weekend. I said yes and he seemed happy about that. He didn't reply to my last message but I didn't mind as the club night was the following day and I knew I'd see him there and I thought after the communication it would be easier for us to speak. But the night came and this time he didn't speak to me at all. I was disappointed again and I came home drunk and sent him a message apologising for not saying Hi because I was being shy and also I started feeling sick later in the night. I also also said that I hope he had a great night. He never replied to that message and this was a week ago now. Another thing which I'm not sure makes a difference or not is that he has a friend who's been very interested in me. Actually 3 of his friends have expressed interest in me but 2 have asked me out a lot and not really left me alone. But only 1 of them would have maybe told him about it. This guy hasn't contacted me recently though so I think he may have moved on. I saw a girl comment on his page thanking him for a gift or something so I think he may be dating someone now. I'm not sure if this would make a difference to the guy I like. Can someone give me insight to is he acting like this and why he just stopped replying? Is there any way I can salvage this situation with him?

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Dating a boy more than 2 years younger?

So there's this boy I really like... But I'm 17 and he's 14 (nearly 15). If it were to go anywhere, would people think it was weird? He is mature for his age, if I don't know better I'd say he was the same age as me. I know that age gap is nothing in older people but it does seem to matter when your our age... Honest opinions please?

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Bye

See you guys later ;) http://www.ppiclaimback.co.uk/x/ppi-...FYbHtAod7SsASw

Put the internet to work for you. via Personal Recipe 2629979

The secret to desire

Well she doesn't really give away the secret but there are a lot of good points. It is a good overview of themes she covers in her book which I believe is an interesting read. Cuddle up with your honey and have a watch: http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_pere...ationship.html Posted via Mobile Device So for some reason the above link doesn't work. Type Ester Perel in the search box or mating in captivity.

Put the internet to work for you. via Personal Recipe 2629979