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About a month ago I got into a relationship with a girl (yes, I'm a girl, moving on..). I've had relationships with guys before but this is my first one with a girl so I'm very new to this. She, however, came out as a lesbian a year ago. So we're only a month in and I'm already feeling like she's not interested and distant, and it worries me because this early on we should both be excited and keen to see each other. She won't text back in the middle of conversations (especially when I bring up meeting up) and she will never initiate the conversation. In person at school she will walk straight past me if I'm with my friends and won't say hi or anything! I find it really strange, we're meant to be in a relationship?! Essentially, if I want to see her I have to seek her out and initiate everything. When we're alone together it feels normal and she's affectionate and sweet and I feel really happy. But as soon as I'm away from her the doubts creep in and I worry that s he doesn't really like me at all. Especially when I don't get any indication of obvious interest or affection 90% of the time. It just feels like I'm putting in all the work and it's making me seem really clingy and needy and desperate for attention/affection. I got out of a relationship with a guy about 6 months ago, who basically showed me little affection and kept deciding he couldn't commit etc. and I'm worried it's making me paranoid here and desperate for lots of affection and proof that she's actually interested and not just stringing me along. But the facts are that she doesn't text me first (which I know is stupid but it is an indication of wanting to talk to someone) and she just doesn't give me attention or show she cares! I know it's only a month in and I sound like I'm trying to make it very serious very early but I shouldn't be feeling this so early on surely!! Today I went to wish her good luck for something and I put my hands around her in a low hug and she j ust said "your hands are cold" and physically removed them from her waist. My friends think I'm being paranoid, but I just feel so ignored and like my efforts to show her how much I like her are being wasted on someone who doesn't feel the same way. I really want this to work but I'm really struggling to see how such a one sided relationship could. I am a strong believer in if someone wants to be a part of your life they will make an obvious effort to do so. I know how ranty and clingy I must sound but it's something that's really been playing on my mind and upsetting me and I'm just not sure how to go about this.
Sorry for babbling, just need some friendly advice on what I can do if anything!

How can I explain to her how I'm feeling?
Am I pushing her away by being too keen and affectionate?
How can I get her to show me more affection (I cannot express how stoic this girl can be sometimes I'm not just desperate for love!)?
Is the relationship doomed considering its early days and I'm already having doubts?



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Why am I still thinking about my crush ?

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I used to like this girl and we got on well at uni, then I asked her to hang out in the SC but she wouldnt. We still spoke as friends, so I got her number and she gave minimal responses, so now she's began to ignore me, so I took that as a hint and left her alone, I wont talk to her only if I need to. she still blushes if someone mentions my name and she isnt shy. I am wanting to move on, but it frustrates me that I keep thinking about her, Im like I need to grow some balls and move on but she's still in my mind.

I also have a really really big stressfull day at work to im not looking foward to that.

So how can I move on ?

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I find Asian guys (Indian/Pakistani) attractive but they don't like black girls!

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I'm a girl of predominantly African descent. The thing is I don't resemble that part of my family very much. I've been told that I look Asian as I have straight hair, a European nose etc. As a result, I've had a lot of Indian/Pakistani guys approach me and tell me that they find me attractive etc. The thing is that once they find out I'm mostly black they back away slowly. I do have white heritage too, as my grandfather is Ukrainian which accounts for my general appearance.

I find guys of these groups to be extremely attractive and even though we may share the same religious beliefs, the guy is always upset by the revelation of my heritage... Why?

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What does this mean

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There's a guy who does look at me from now and then.. He never spoke to mee until oone day I had to do a practical with him.. He looked shy.. He spoke to me and tried to find excuses to talk to me. . The day after I could tell he was looki ng at me but he never speaks to me. . He does flirt with another girl though. .

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What should I do next?

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I feel unbelievably awful... It is hard to explain. I feel like I need help but I always try to cope with everything myself. This year was one of the most challenging years of my life. I graduated from a top uni and worked at a horrible job for the past year. I was looking for graduate jobs but with no luck so far. It turned out that people who I trusted the most and supported in the past make me feel awful all the time... I have a girlfriend and we live together but what happens at home I can't even describe. I feel like I don't know what to do and where to go.


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Strange that he's not yet switched from pants to boxers?

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My boyfriend still wears pants rather than boxers. When I asked him why he didn't wear boxers he said he'd worn pants as a kid and had never got round to switching to boxers. Is this not unusual? When's the normal age for moving to boxers?

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Artificial Insemination

Could someone knowledgeable point to medical literature that could shed light on the following problem? A guy I know intercepted some communication that appeared to suggest that his child wasn't conceived when and how he thought (the timing did appear suspicious). Yet a mail-in DNA test proved his paternity. Barring sloppiness at the lab (the test was non-legal, but the same company does paternity tests for court cases), could his woman have somehow conceived artificially without his knowledge?

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Problems in marriage, WAW - Question for women

We hear often about WAW's. The husbands are apparently shocked when their wife says she wants a divorce. Yet she will say that she has been telling him for years about the problems she has and how unhappy she is. But he just has tuned her out.

The below quote was posted by a guy here on TAM.
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That is my point. He isn't paying attention because his wife is talking to him like a woman.

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Because their wife is not being CLEAR IN A MANNER UNDERSTOOD BY A MAN IT IS OOOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEEER UNLESS IT GETS FIXED PRONTO.
I would like to hear from women how clear they have been about the issues.

Can you give some examples of things you have asked for and how you stated it.

And did you threaten to leave? If you did, did it help?

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Sick of seeing women sexually harrassed on my commute to university

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So, I commute to university by train each day and pretty much everyday, I see women being harassed essentially (unwanted groping (she told him to leave her alone and she would not) inappropriate and actually pretty disgusting comments). It is always younger women being harassed by vile old men. I have to say I feel thoroughly ashamed with my gender (really it is the middle aged and old at fault from what I see) who need to understand that no means no. I have intervened a couple of times but I honestly find it so hard not to just punch the disgusting middle aged and old men In the face and let them know how it feels to be attacked. I am thinking of just recording the sexual harassment and sending it off to the police. I used to think naively that sexual assault and abuse was something of the past or at least reduced but commuting has really opened my eyes to the awful things women are made to suffer and it is not right.

TL;DR young women are being harassed by pervy old men and this needs to stop. People need to realise just how many sexual assaults are carried out by old losers on younger victims.

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When does being flirtatious become problematic?

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I am quite a flirt, and upon entering numerous committed relationships I have often found myself out of my comfort zone. Especially considering that I was speaking to a past romantic interest and offering my number and her saving it as "12 inch big D". Now, I am very honest to my partner about what I get up to and who I talk to, and she's quite understanding noting that it was my flirtatious tendencies that originally got her attention. So, my questions are, where do you draw the line? When does jealousy come into play? When does casual flirting/banter become something that can cause tensions within a committed couple?

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Desperately need advice

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Hi,

so i met a girl in a nandos and we got chatting. she started getting very frisky, who am i to stop her. So we went back to her place, which looked strangely familiar. She took of my clothes and grabbed a large stick. i then think she probed me. She then flew off in a spaceship

What do i do?????????

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Christian boy and hijab girl

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I'm casually wondering what a christian boy view would be if he saw a girl with a hijab on

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A woman will be the last thing on my list.

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It just hit me after seeing a post on Fb

In I am Legend, Will and his dog were by themselves and survived 3 days, 1 day after a he's with a woman, he dies.


In King Kong, he's king of the jungle and no one disrespects him,
1 day after he's with a woman, he almost get's killed by 3 dinos and falls off a 102-story skyscraper.

http://ift.tt/1x4xLi3

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Hiding my solid snake in the gym?

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I've always been a super horny lad and I recently started going gym at school and loads of my female friends are there and they wear yoga pants and i often get very aroused

im embarassed somebody might see, how do i hide it?

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Would you date someone who had the same name as a family member?

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Like an immediate family member? Or would it put you off a bit?

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Where to meet people?

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Had a rough break up recently and realised I have no social life. I have no one to text, call, hang out with etc. Was wondering where I could go to meet new people, whether it's in person or online or whatever. I'm a Pakistani female, aged 17. If you need more information about me, feel free to ask.

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Need serious help... 2 girls like me?!?!

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I've never had to deal with this before. Girl A knows I like her but Girl B has started to come onto me and started cuddling me whilst playing truth or dare... I just don't know what to do?!?

I've been out with Girl B before but it didn't work out, Girl A I've never been out with before and shes completely different to B.

Honestly, what should I do? I feel bad :erm:

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