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I'm new to the forum, and hope that I can get some good and sound advice?
Ok, so my husband and I have been together for almost 10 years (next week) and been married for 6 years. We have 2 beautiful girls and he has a son from his previous marriage.
So I have 2 problems, and please be honest if I'm expecting too much?
My first issue is the fact that when his son visits (which is only twice a year due to long distance), I get completely ignored. I understand as I have my own children, that he missed his son and that he wants to spend time with him. But that shouldn't mean that I get ignored, should it?
His son got here 4 days ago, since then we haven't had 1 decent conversation. My husband is self-employed he can come and go as he pleases, so now that his son his here they go for walks (with my girls as well), and he takes them places. This he never does with our children when his son is not here. In fact, he completely ignores them! So this happens for about a week, and the he gets irritated and leaves all the kids at home (with the nanny) while he goes out to work, or play golf or hang out with his friends.
I've tried to speak to him, but then he attacks me and says that I have an issue with his son, which I don't, my issue is with him. So I eventually stopped saying anything, I just get up and go and sit in my bedroom and read.
The second thing, is that we have no emotion in our marriage at all. I had braces fitted on my teeth 5 months ago, and even since before then he doesn't want to kiss me, properly. He's even stopped kissing good bye in the mornings and hello in the evenings, only if I kiss him, will he kiss me back. He doesn't hold my hand, doesn't hug me, can't get away from me fast enough. Our intimate life is so boring, he only wants it when he wants it, when I try - I get the cold shoulder. It has always got to be in the bedroom, doing the same thing over and over again.
When I try and speak to him about it, he upset and blames me, says I'm at fault and why don't I run off and find another man who can satisfy me. There is no talking to this man. When I suggest marriage counselling, he says there is nothing wrong with our marriage. When I suggest marriage counselling for just me because obviously I'm at fault here, he says there is nothing wrong with me, and it's just wastes money.
So what do I do?
I'm new to the forum, and hope that I can get some good and sound advice?
Ok, so my husband and I have been together for almost 10 years (next week) and been married for 6 years. We have 2 beautiful girls and he has a son from his previous marriage.
So I have 2 problems, and please be honest if I'm expecting too much?
My first issue is the fact that when his son visits (which is only twice a year due to long distance), I get completely ignored. I understand as I have my own children, that he missed his son and that he wants to spend time with him. But that shouldn't mean that I get ignored, should it?
His son got here 4 days ago, since then we haven't had 1 decent conversation. My husband is self-employed he can come and go as he pleases, so now that his son his here they go for walks (with my girls as well), and he takes them places. This he never does with our children when his son is not here. In fact, he completely ignores them! So this happens for about a week, and the he gets irritated and leaves all the kids at home (with the nanny) while he goes out to work, or play golf or hang out with his friends.
I've tried to speak to him, but then he attacks me and says that I have an issue with his son, which I don't, my issue is with him. So I eventually stopped saying anything, I just get up and go and sit in my bedroom and read.
The second thing, is that we have no emotion in our marriage at all. I had braces fitted on my teeth 5 months ago, and even since before then he doesn't want to kiss me, properly. He's even stopped kissing good bye in the mornings and hello in the evenings, only if I kiss him, will he kiss me back. He doesn't hold my hand, doesn't hug me, can't get away from me fast enough. Our intimate life is so boring, he only wants it when he wants it, when I try - I get the cold shoulder. It has always got to be in the bedroom, doing the same thing over and over again.
When I try and speak to him about it, he upset and blames me, says I'm at fault and why don't I run off and find another man who can satisfy me. There is no talking to this man. When I suggest marriage counselling, he says there is nothing wrong with our marriage. When I suggest marriage counselling for just me because obviously I'm at fault here, he says there is nothing wrong with me, and it's just wastes money.
So what do I do?
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