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Is their a difference between a sexy girl and beautiful girl like if i seen a girl with colorful eyes i would call her beautiful and i wont be sexually attractive to her as much as a hot women. If i seen a girl with a body then i would be sexually attractive to her much more.
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Hi,
I'm a mature PhD student who also works part-time. I'm from a country where being gay is not acceptable, I'm 27 now and I find it really hard to be because, living in the UK, I feel like I've missed out a lot, and I'm finding it really hard to find a partner.
Until I was 23 I hated every single day of my life. I wasn't myself and I didn't want anyone in the world to know who I was. I hated myself every single day. When I was a student, I felt lonely, misunderstood, in the wrong place… I didn't go out, I hardly had any friends, and most of my friends were friends with me because they felt sorry for me. I put on a mask, I was hating life. When I came out, my best mate was making me even more self-conscious by trying to work me out and find the right label for me. When I came to England, for the first time in my life, I felt like I was in an accepting environment. I felt like I could be who I was, without people judging me. But then I was already 23. I had missed my years as a student. I had missed the years in which it is socially acceptable to experiment, to go partying, to get absolutely rat-arsed. Now I feel like I missed the chance of my life. I missed the most precious years of my life. Those years, when people forgive you for being insensible. When people say 'He/she is just a kid'. When people almost expect you to misbehave. I feel that now, at my age, in my job, people frown upon people who behave the way I behave (or the way I'd like to behave).Most people my age have a partner (or have had at least one serious partner in their life). I'm just behaving like a 19 year old who is still trying to find themselves. That's because, in a way, I'm still that 19 year old. And I wish I really could that 19 year old again (or rather: for once).I feel like I just chucked the most important years of my life. The years in which I could try to find out who I am. The years in which there were other people who felt the way I felt (and still feel). I feel like everyone is settled now (apart from me), and it's just ridiculous to feel the insecurity that I'm still feeling every day. I feel like people my age (especially people in England, who grew up in an accepting and supportive society) can't really understand the way I feel, still, at my age.
Sorry about this rant. I'm not really sure what I was trying to achieve with this post. Just needed to get things off my chest.
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I just don't understand. I'm a kind-hearted, caring, funny and an ambitious person who would try their best to make somebody happy. Yet, the person is the complete opposite.
All of my relationships has resulted to me leaving, because I had enough of them abusing my emotions and treating me wrongly.
The experiences just makes me feel ugly and resentful to relationships. It came to a point where I convinced myself that I will never be treated right or loved by anybody and therefore, I gave up on the idea of settling down with somebody special.
I have also been severely bullied in the past, which also contributes to my anxiety and trust issues.
I opened up in my past relationships and at the end, they either betray or neglect me.
Even when I try to make friends, they do the same thing and that's why I am not too keen on friendship. So, I don't know how I am going to manage in university.
I'm afraid of taking chances, because of the past experiences and I just isolated myself from everybody.
I don't think I can give my heart to somebody.
Do you think there's something wrong with me?
(Please, be mature with your responses)
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Well, I've always been a very fragile person. Low self-esteem, no self-respect, and so on... I never really enjoyed being me, which is sad. I'm an 18 year-old boy, by the way.
But, almost 1 year ago, I met the most wonderful person. He was a Muslim (yes, he was Muslim and gay) - and we met virtually. I had always been a bit reluctant when it came to 'long-distance relationships' so I tried to avoid falling for him as much as I could. Thing is, he didn't give up. I played hard to get, but eventually, I gave in. He made me feel like I was the most important thing on Earth - And life, suddenly, became nice.
After a while, he cheated on me, something which took me a while to forgive, but I managed to because my love for him was too intense. I cried a lot about it, I called him many names, but he had this strange ability to manipulate me, almost as if he used my own vulnerabilities as weapons against me.
Although I forgave him, I never really forgot, and that made me doubt the veracity of his words, so I began to pressure him by saying we had to see each other - I insisted a lot and he came to visit me. I had no idea what happiness was until he came - And I doubt I'll ever feel that sort of happiness ever again. We talked, we laughed, we made love, it was all perfect, felt like a dream, to be honest.
The real problem appeared when he went back. He was no longer the same man... He was distant, and cold, and I started to question myself: ''What have I done? It has to be my fault! I ruined everything!'' I thought all this because I was a virgin, therefore I had no experience.
He wouldn't answer my questions anymore, he pretended to care about my feelings and he'd say he was busy all the time. He couldn't make time for me anymore! I was destroyed, my best friend, my 'soul-mate' was losing interest in me and I couldn't accept that.
I cried a lot, and he confessed that he couldn't be gay. He said: ''I'm sorry, but I can't do this. My priority has to be my family. I know I promised you many things, and I'm sorry for that, but I'm with a girl now, who my family approves, and I'm truly happy now - This feels right... I'm Religious now, Allah forgives me.''
I couldn't believe my eyes. I asked: ''If you knew we would never be together, then why did you promise me so many things? Why did you give me false hope? That's not fair, that's painful, that's not something a Religious man would do.''
I can't understand how this happened, I'm devastated, lost, hopeless, tired of trusting people, I'm so very exhausted of breathing, eating is an obligation... I'm done with all of it, to be honest.
How could someone hurt me like this? How could someone lie so much? He blocked me everywhere, I never heard from him again ever since that day.
Help me, please. How can a man who loves men, ever find happiness with a woman? He could be bi, I know, but his favorite pass-time was to show his ***** online in exchange of the same thing from others... So men are what he feels attracted to.
How can I fix myself after something like this? I curse the day I met him everyday, but that doesn't really help.
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As opposed to the 'What makes a girl attractive' thread :H
I personally really love shoulders for some reason! so nice shoulders means automatic attractiveness for me
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I was just wondering; I've never considered myself attractive or anything but I've been called handsome quite a lot so I just wondered if girls saw a difference between handsome and hot? Is handsome just a nice way of saying not as attractive as others?
Also, what about a guy is it that attracts you?
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Well, I've always been a very fragile person. Low self-esteem, no self-respect, and so on... I never really enjoyed being me, which is sad. I'm an 18 year-old boy, by the way.
But, almost 1 year ago, I met the most wonderful person. He was a Muslim (yes, he was Muslim and gay) - and we met virtually. I had always been a bit reluctant when it came to 'long-distance relationships' so I tried to avoid falling for him as much as I could. Thing is, he didn't give up. I played hard to get, but eventually, I gave in. He made me feel like I was the most important thing on Earth - And life, suddenly, became nice.
After a while, he cheated on me, something which took me a while to forgive, but I managed to because my love for him was too intense. I cried a lot about it, I called him many names, but he had this strange ability to manipulate me, almost as if he used my own vulnerabilities as weapons against me.
Although I forgave him, I never really forgot, and that made me doubt the veracity of his words, so I began to pressure him by saying we had to see each other - I insisted a lot and he came to visit me. I had no idea what happiness was until he came - And I doubt I'll ever feel that sort of happiness ever again. We talked, we laughed, we made love, it was all perfect, felt like a dream, to be honest.
The real problem appeared when he went back. He was no longer the same man... He was distant, and cold, and I started to question myself: ''What have I done? It has to be my fault! I ruined everything!'' I thought all this because I was a virgin, therefore I had no experience.
He wouldn't answer my questions anymore, he pretended to care about my feelings and he'd say he was busy all the time. He couldn't make time for me anymore! I was destroyed, my best friend, my 'soul-mate' was losing interest in me and I couldn't accept that.
I cried a lot, and he confessed that he couldn't be gay. He said: ''I'm sorry, but I can't do this. My priority has to be my family. I know I promised you many things, and I'm sorry for that, but I'm with a girl now, who my family approves, and I'm truly happy now - This feels right... I'm Religious now, Allah forgives me.''
I couldn't believe my eyes. I asked: ''If you knew we would never be together, then why did you promise me so many things? Why did you give me false hope? That's not fair, that's painful, that's not something a Religious man would do.''
I can't understand how this happened, I'm devastated, lost, hopeless, tired of trusting people, I'm so very exhausted of breathing, eating is an obligation... I'm done with all of it, to be honest.
How could someone hurt me like this? How could someone lie so much? He blocked me everywhere, I never heard from him again ever since that day.
Help me, please. How can a man who loves men, ever find happiness with a woman? He could be bi, I know, but his favorite pass-time was to show his ***** online in exchange of the same thing from others... So men are what he feels attracted to.
How can I fix myself after something like this? I curse the day I met him everyday, but that doesn't really help.
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