Getting over a break up

Hiya

Broke up with boyfriend a few days ago, wasn't a nice one and there's still a lot up in the air. He was pretty bad to me for three years, I think I must have just clung on to him being the one so I stayed all this time, so I'm having to spend some time forgiving myself too.

Does anyone have any break up tips? I'm fed up of feeling sad and feeling like half of me has been ripped apart. I want to get my life back. What things would you recommend to help deal with this and not fall into the forever alone thinking trap?

Thanks :)
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diversity?

Hey girls, just been thinking, would you go out with a Sikh dude with a turban but trimmed beard? Is it down to personal preference or something to do with religion lol. Thanks.

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Bedtime for teens on weekends?

Do yours have a set time? My step son is a freshman and shares a room with his younger brother. Usually we get the younger kids in bed by 8:30 and let teen stay up reading in his room until he falls asleep.
Lately he's been complaining and saying he wants to stay up and not have to be in his room. We like to have some down time to talk and watch things that we wouldn't with him around.
We are usually tired and want to have some privacy and quiet.
We told him he could stay up if he goes in the basement which isn't finished. Part has carpet and futon and TV. Think that's fair? He told us it's a horrible idea.
They stay up as long as they want at their moms on weekends. All he does is read or play his iPod so I don't know why he needs to be up with us.
We don't want a TV in our room and don't want to move DVD and wii in there because then kids couldn't use it.
Any ideas and what are your rules?

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Cheated like an idiot... now what?

So I'm sure this has all been heard before, and that there's inevitably going to be some name-calling (deservedly!).

I have been with my girlfriend for just over three years. The first six months or so was great -- I would say I was in love. But in the latter stages of that year, and since, niggles have developed, and I'm certain that whilst I love and care for her, but am not in love with her any more.

At this point I suppose you're wondering why I'm still in this relationship. She is immensely vulnerable, some may say damaged, due to her upbringing. Out of her control, and she knows of the things she does, but they will continue to happen. I can't easily leave her without breaking her heart and making her issues worse.

On the other hand, the following (if she ever found out) would do just that anyway.

About a year into our relationship, on a drunken night out, I kissed a friend with whom I had past history. I told my girlfriend immediately though guilt, but I did lie and say that she kissed me and I was too drunk. Say what you will, but I knew that would hurt her less than her knowing the truth. As much as it benefitted me personally, she was better off not knowing I initiated it.

After a few months, it was clear that she had forgiven me for that mistake and that we were going to be okay relationship-wise.

However, I was still unhappy and unable to leave (I still am). Today I happened to meet up with that friend with history, and we had sex. I initiated it. I am a huge cheater, and I'm not asking for any relief of my guilt in that regard: I deserve it and I'm happy to pay the price for what I did.

What I do need help with is two-fold. I am clearly going to have to leave my girlfriend because it is unfair to her.

Do I tell her that I slept with a friend, knowing that it would immensely hurt her? Would it be better to end the relationship without her knowing what happened, being truthful in the other aspects of how I have become unhappy in this relationship?

I can guarantee that without me telling her, she would never know. So do I potentially ruin her sense of confidence with guys by being honest, or be dishonest and allow her to move on properly?

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He "technically" Cheated

I am currently deployed, and when I hit port all of my husbands text messages popped up on his ipad that he let me use for deployment. He had been sending dirty texts, making dirty videos, dirty facetimeing, and talking with an ex girl friend who lives on the other side of the country. After more research, I found that he had made a craigslist account, started interacting on some of those porn sights, and things like that all to get some kind of a connection because I was gone. I saw all these emails when I made him give me all of his account information. I am so hurt, and I never ever thought he would ever do anything like this. I am a Christian woman and I believe in forgiveness and I am against divorce, but I cannot trust him at all. I left and he became another person. He also bought a $1300 gun without asking me, and we do not have fire arms in the house. I am just so angry, hurt, and betrayed. I don't even want to come home from deployment. I don't know why he would hurt me like this, and I don't know how we can ever recover. Help!!!

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Reformed WS

What made you see the light. I can not talk for others, but I promise not to judge or get mad. I'm just trying to see why serial cheaters stop cheating.
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Feeling Disconnected from my wife

Lately I've been feeling less connected to my wife. She's had some issues with depression for the last few months but she's doing much better now.

A few months ago she was getting angry at me all the time and we would fight about so many things. During each of our fights I feel like it was always me trying to find a solution to the problem but she would always go to the extreme negative and say that maybe we should just get a divorce. This happened numerous times and I told her how much it upset me so she eventually stopped saying that word every time. I should mention that this would happen when the topic was something I was upset about. When she was upset she wouldn't bring up divorce but would want the situation changed.

When we argue now I feel like the situation is similar but not as severe. Again if I bring up something I'm unhappy about she will either deny it or start guilting me by saying that she's terrible and I don't like her anymore. Sometimes I just don't want to deal with that so I just let the argument die and start doing something else.

I almost feel like this is her being passive aggressive and trying to control the situation in another way. It also happens with cleaning….. She is generally a messy person and I end up doing the majority of the cleaning. Many times I will do it when she's sleeping or not home. Even after I spend all this time cleaning when she decides to clean something, even if it's for 5-10 minutes she always calls me to help her with it. It's as if she can't stand doing work while I'm not helping her.


This is just some background I'm giving that I think is relevant because now I just don't feel like being close to her very much or even having sex very often. I almost feel like I've checked out of the marriage in a way. She knows it too, sometimes she says it seems like I don't like her anymore. I wouldn't go as far as saying that, but I definitely don't feel that magic we once had.

There's so much more that's happened that I don't want to get into but I just don't know how to go from here. I can't stand being the only one willing to work on things. Even today we were getting ready so I could go to an appointment I asked her if she could hurry up and leave right away. She just kept at the same pace and then was about to eat when I was ready to go out the door. I ended up missing it and I was upset because she didn't take me seriously. She said it was my fault that she doesn't take me seriously and that I shouldn't give her attitude.

I don't really know where to go from here. I feel like she takes me for granted now. I want our marriage to get better but I don't feel like putting much effort towards making it better because it's always me trying to do it. And now my lack of effort is making her care less as well, I'm not sure where things are going anymore.

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Cried myself to sleep over my ex gf, i want to see her but i don't want her back??

I don't know how to describe what i feel like because i don't even know how i fee myself. My emotions are so up and down it is unbelievable. Basically my girlfriend broke up with me last week, it's been a full 7 days and i've been through every emotion you can imagine.

Me and my girlfriend are both 20 and had been together for a year and a month, at the start it was perfection, we went to Paris after 2 months. We went to Egypt after 4 months of going out like we was in a fairytale dreamland. But after Egypt things started getting rocky, we started arguing alot more etc, not to seriously though but it was quite frequent maybe once every couple weeks. Fast forward to now and things had got out of control, my girlfriend had dumped me on average of once a week for the past 2 months. One time it was because i was late to a meeting with a priest we were seeing as she wanted us to become celibate in line with her Catholic beliefs (we had been in a sexual relationship before that). I apologized i pleaded but she had decided already before i arrived to dump me with the priest, she dumped me in front of the priest cold heartedly. We ended up getting back together after she admitted she overreacted and after i apologized again and again for being late . Other times have been because i asked her if she could cook me a meal because every time she comes to my place i cook for her and i can't go to hers as we are at University and her halls don't allow guys. I just asked like saying it would be nice if she could spontaneously do that, she then got angry saying why should she cook in my house and then dumped me, we got back together the next day tho. After the priest thing i even asked her why does she keep dumping me to then apologize later and she got angry saying i was trying to say she didn't have a reason to dump me and then she proceeded to dump me again. We reconciled though.

In this situation we were just talking and she told me if i don't earn more than her by the time it's time to get married she will leave me and never marry me. I disagreed and thought it was shallow, after her saying that i was pretty annoyed and she wanted us to cuddle as normal and i just wasn't in the mood. She then got angry and dumped me, it had go to the point where it was so up and down that i just agreed and didn't plead with her. She left and blocked me on facebook and deleted
me, blocked me on whatsapp and blocked my number.

First day, i was happy/relieved like it's for the best kinda thing. That feeling has progressed into feeling hurt about the way she just dumped me and blocked me. Then sadness but throughout all these emotions i have never felt like i want our relationship back. Last night i cried myself to sleep looking at old videos of us together, not ashamed to say that. I didn't watch them wishing we could be happy again though, i wasn't feeling like i want her back at all. It was more like i wasn't coping with the lack of contact. Last night i was pretty adament that i was going to go to her house and just turn up outside one day so i could see her. I could jus imagine myself crying as soon as i see her and telling her i can't deal with not speaking to her.

But the thing is i don't want her back as a girlfriend. So i am so CONFUSED, i don't actually want to go there with flowers begging for our relationship back. So if i don't want our relationship why would i consider going to see her? I don't even know, yesterday i just felt like not being able to talk to her was too much like i just wanted to maybe talk to her about how we both felt. Should i do this though? As i don't want her back should i just leave it as turning up at her house when i don't even want a relationship with her again is kinda over the top. I've woken up today feeling less like i want to go to her house now but i don't know if that feeling will resurface. When she ended it she said we should have no contact until we come back to university after the christmas holudays so basically January 28th, she said then maybe we can try and be friends after that. So should i just respect that and wait til Jan 28th to see how i feel then. I dunno tho i also feel shocked th at she hasn't called aswell, i'm so used to her coming to her senses after dumping me that this time it's been hard to take. It's not like i even want her to call and tell me sorry because i don't want the relationship anymore but i think that has made me sad also. I am truly messed up about this man, someone help.

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Very irritated by gay uncle

My uncle, who is old and has children and is an evangelical Christian, has recently come out of the closet and said he's gay. That's absolutely fine, I'm happy for him if that's what he wants.

But I've found that all he seems to want to do is talk about gay stuff, and how he feels about his own coming out and his own experience. And he's changed in ways that I really don't like, his sense of appropriateness and decorum is altered for the worse, he says things that are really too much information.

I was at a pre-Christmas lunch thingy yesterday (or today, as it would be in London... I'm in Sydney atm). I didn't hear the end of it for hours and hours, and he never once asked how I'm doing or how my law studies are coming along etc or how I'm finding being back in Oz for the holidays

Perhaps it irritates me more because I'm gay and have been for years now, I just think it should be one small part of your personality. I know he's still new to all this, but freakin hell, I don't really want to hear about every aspect of his gayness. I dare say, he has the zealotry of the convert, and probably the same enthusiasm as when he became a born-again Christian.

Has anyone else had this experience with people who are newly come out of the closet?

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Holiday Date Rape Song!

You have probably heard this song, Baby It's Cold Outside, and you maybe or maybe not have actually dissected the lyrics to see that it is totally date-rapey.

But the thing is, this song is originally from a movie, and in the movie, a couple sing this song to each other and it *IS* totally rapey. At points, he blocks the door so she can't leave! He also grabs her arm, shoves her down on the couch, and other rapey things.

BUT...if you actually watch through to 2:29, there is another couple singing the song, only a woman is being rapey to the GUY and she is actually way more aggressive about it than the man in the first part of the video.

So if the rape goes both ways, is it more fun?

(totally joking and I am not making fun of date rape...but this video is pretty enlightening when it is understood that the song goes both ways)

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Baby it's cold outside - YouTube

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Christmas Love Story

A couple were Christmas shopping.

The shopping centre was packed - as the wife walked through one of the malls she was surprised when she looked around to find that her husband was nowhere to be seen.



She was quite upset because they had a lot to do. She became so worried that she called him on her mobile phone to ask him where he was.



In a quiet voice he said,



"Do you remember the jewellers we went into about five years ago, where you fell in love with that diamond necklace that we couldn't afford,

and I told you that I would get it for you one day?"



The wife choked up and started to cry and said,



"Yes, I do remember that shop."


He replied,

"Well, I'm in the pub next door."

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My 4th Xmas without mom

I had been lurking around for a little while and this is my first thread. So please try not to be too harsh.
A little background info- I am 18 years old male and my dad is 46.

My story

We were a typical happy family, as far as I can remember. My earliest memory is mom and dad dancing slowly while my maternal granpa played the piano, if I remember correctly during Christmas. They looked so happy. Christmas was my favorite day of the year. I got so many gifts, helped mom and dad wrap up gifts for others and write "happy xmas. Love Mr & Mrs xxxx and Joshua" in my scrawny handwriting. Everyone would get together and hug me and tried to shower me with kisses, especially my granma and my aunts while I would try to squirm away.

Dad worked fulltime and mom stayed at home. As years went by, dad took upon more of the household chores while mom played truant. I would come home from school and the house would be empty. When I asked mom where she went, she would say her friend needed help and she had to go. When dad asked the same question, she would get angry, pack her clothes and be gone for days. This went on for about a year. Dad went from being dad to my roomie. We would divide chores among ourselves. Dad was, and still is a horrible cook. So I started cooking but only when he decide to double my allowance:D. It was nothing like the gormet meals mom used to cook for us but atleast we didn't end up in ICU.

It was my 14th bday. I was really hoping mom would be there as she left just 2 days ago. It was not to be. My grandparents and dad organised the party. My friends kept asking where my mom was and saying their moms never missed their bdays. Those were the longest 2 hours of my life. I just wanted to be left alone. Suddenly granma took my hand and I started following her. I don't know when I got into her car, when I reached her place. I only remember myself holding her tight and crying and her telling me 'everything would be ok' and crying herself.

2 days later granma dropped me at my home. I didn't understand why she didn't want to come in until I saw mom's car I the driveway. I was filled with so much hatred at the sight of her car. I wanted to smash all the windows and set it on fire. I wanted to scream at her. I wanted an answer to what was more important then my bday for her. I unlocked the front door with my key and entered. Inside was a warzone. For the only time in my life I saw dad mad with rage. Mom was her usual screaming self. They were so busy fighting they didn't notice me. Mom was going on and on about how she had given 15 years of her life to him and that he had failed her. How she feels happy and alive with Eric, how he is a better man and would be a better father for me. She kept threatening my dad she would take me away and never let him meet me again if he didn't agree to her terms. I went up to my room, got my baseball bat, went to her car and smashed everything that could be smashed. Mom heard the ruckus and running out of the house followed by dad. She stared at the car for a little and then started screaming at me that how Eric would use her car now in this condition etc etc. I walked away from her without saying anything. She followed me and grabbed my arm screaming don't you dare walk away from your mother. I turned, looked straight into her eyes and said 'my mom is dead'. She let go of my arm like it burned her, went limp, fell on the ground and started wailing. I left her wailing on our front porch.

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Job loss...

All,

Here's my original thread that a posted a few weeks ago.
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-...aught-him.html

Background: Husband of 16 years is cheating, we have no kids. I confronted him and he's still doing it.

I have since hired a divorce attorney and am going the property settlement agreement route. As far as I'm concerned we have been separated since November 16, 2013. The PSA has not been sent out yet. We are living separately in the same house. He is in the basement and I'm upstairs. He comes and goes as he pleases and is not contributing to any household bills.

I don't know for sure, but I think he got fired today. It's a cycle with him. He's great at getting jobs, but not maintaining.

If he in fact did get fired will his job loss affect me moving forward with the divorce?

Thanks!

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Boys. OMG wat. Help.

So... I will admit I"m slightly weird, I'm fairly antisocial and I'm an introvert. I pretty happy being that way, it's never bothered me.

I went on an exchange to another country a couple of months ago and the foreign students came to visit us in England. When they got back to their country I got a message from one of the foreign boys, just saying "hi! How are you?" sort of thing (I assumed he sent it to everyone).

And we started talking. And he's really nice to talk to and I really like him.

(He also said to me that he didn't actually message all of the English students, just me.)

The thing is... He's literally worse at making conversations than I am. Yet he always starts the conversation, although I seem to be doing all the talking. Sometimes he's really talkative too.

My problem, I guess, is that I think I really like him. I'm not a ridiculous fantasist and I know he's really far away so it's not like I'm expecting to get married next week or something drastic.

I just can't tell where I stand with him.

It's so confusing!

To be honest I'm not entirely sure what exactly I'm asking. But I suppose:
1. Are boys normally this hot and cold?
2. Is it me?
3. Am I just being a drama queen?

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Post Divorce relationships-- How do you know?

So, I am not yet divorced. I think about 50 days or so, but when my wife gave me the ILYBINILWY speech, not long after I started reaching out to people I probably should have kept in touch with. When I was married I let old friends go and focused on family.

Anyway, one of those people was a sometimes close friend from college. Turns out she is a single mom of a 10 year old boy and also a teacher about 3 blocks frommy house.

We never had anything romantic in college-- she actuallly dated one of my roomates in high school and for awhile in college, and that is how we met. I did remember her quite fondly as she is a sweet girl. She gave me a great book of poems when I graduated with a really nice note in it about my future.

She put a new pic on FB and I sent her a message, she messaged back that she was glad to hear I am back in the area, I said we should meet up, we went out last Friday. Things really clicked.

She has a ton of the same interests as I do--interests that are important to me and that I have let go from my life in a lot of ways. Interests that not alot of my friends or people I know care alot about. She is really pretty and very very kind. My wife was more of a taker so I went the better part of the last decade kind of begging for any affection, or even just thoughtfulness.

My issue is that she is not my wife. My wife has not moved out yet, so maybe it is just being around her. I dont know. I do not want to rush anything with the new girl but I feel myself retreating in a way that i dont really get. I think it is b/c of something superficial, that she is physicallly not my wife. Not really sure how to deal with this. The new girl is nothing but supportive and we laugh and relax and talk. I do not know if I can take it to the next level, and she has not pushed it. A big part of me wants that but i am not fully committed to her right now.

Is the ILYBINILWY (Oct 31)/pending divorce the reason for this? I feel like it is definitely affecting my ability to move here.

Ok, I know it is too soon. I am going to get that a lot here. Id love to believe that she is not a rebound-- she is someone I have known for nearly 20 years and always cared about. She is not in a situation where she would smother me-- she has her boy and her own things going on (she has 3 nights a week where the boy stays with his dad and i will have my kids 3-4 nights a week).

Total rant. I do NOT want to talk to her about it, or at least not too in depth. I enjoy our time together and dont want to add some sort of awkward weight to the positive, happy vibe we seem to have when together.

Thanks for listening....

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Next step, advice?

I have concerns about my marriage, surviving whatever this is. As of lately, we have been in limbo, so to speak, we haven't had sex in 3 months and I have thrown out the word divorce. We have been together 4 years, married 2. We are having intimacy issues, as well as control and communication issues. I admit that through the course of our 2 year marriage it has been rocky from the start. My husband proposed (married 4 months later) when he found out his mother was terminally ill with cancer, bc he wanted to be able to tell her he was going to be okay. Though not the proposal every girl dreams of, but it was bittersweet and I will always cherish that. When we were planning the wedding my husband made it clear that we were to do it here he wanted etc. I have a large family and he doesn't. I gave up having both of my great grandparents come and I will always regret not being able to have her there. I am super close with my family and my husband has never had the relationship with his family members until after his mother's passing. We moved up 2 weeks before the wedding and moved in with his sister and her family and their newborn baby 2 months. We never went on a honeymoon and never had the "honey moon phase." I will admit that maybe I have been a little bitter about that ever since. Moving when he wanted. Getting married so fast. Though these were choices I "chose" also, because I wanted him to be happy, especially after losing his mother.

I've became very depressed and lonely here in Seattle & only get to see my family once a yr, bc he wants to spend holidays w/ his family, and my husband told me I needed to get therapy or medication. So I did. I went to a therapist who told me that my husband was a little controlling and stopped seeing her. I tried multiple types of medications and my hormones were all over the place. He has always blamed it on a "sickness" that I have. That if I wasn't depressed then I would love it here. Though it's been two years of fighting and being homesick. I feel like I haven't found my niche here. This isn't news to him at all. He says that its only because I'm depressed. And I've come to the realization that maybe doing something life changing AFTER something life changing was the worst decision we could make.

We have always had issues from the bedroom, though when my husband and I were dating we never really had sex. And I thought for the longest time that it was sweet because all he wanted to do was cuddle and be affectionate. I am an extremely affectionate person, I show my "love" through making love. I love cuddling and all that jazz, but on a larger scale I have a high drive and need to have sex, I have been to therapy and have come to find that certain childhood experiences have led me to this sort of thinking or wanting to only show or feel love through sex, not that I don't love cuddling or hugging and doing non-physical things but this is just the thing that has come to make sense for me. He says that he loves when we do and loves that I have a high drive, though he feels bad when I try to initiate because he turns me down because he's not in the mood. I get it. For a while I was okay with it. I was okay with once a month and taking care of business on my own.

I stopped trying to initiate any intimacy to avoid my feelings or self-esteem from getting hurt. I will wait for him to initiate because he has told me that he doesn't like when I do, because he doesn't want to turn me down. He will then only initiate it when I mention that it's been a month. Then I start feeling like the only reason he does want to have sex is because I say something. I've mentioned that maybe it is something medical and even when we were dating he said he'd go to the doctor and just see, which he hasnt until recently when i dropped the D word and results came back as Low-Testosterone. So now its gotten to the point where I cringe watching a love scene on a movie or show. We don't make out and usually that's when I know he's initiating sex is when he does try to make out. It used to be fun and surprising at first. But now its awkward and I feel like I'm learning to kiss or learning how he kisses for the first time. And it definitely kills the mood. My self-esteem has tethered during this and I used to be more outgoing in the bedroom.

I will say he has been in the last month been trying. Though now my issue is. I feel like I have given so much of myself for 2 years without anything in return, that now I am ready for something more. My sex drive has deteriorated and I have not been in the mood at all. But how do you want someone who has shown you in the past they don't want you. Apart of me is ready for divorce and a part of me is scared and doesn't want to lose him, because we do have some sort of connection. I just don't want to deal with this for years. Do I just bite my tongue and let him keep trying. Or do I let it go. It saddens me bc we are both withholding love we could be getting but where do I start to be intimate again and have it feel natural.

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Can i be upset at my disabled friend ?

I may be being a complete drama queen and over reacting but ive been a bit upset that my best friend forgot my birthday.

My friend is wheelchair bound and suffers from numerous health problems after contracting MRSA about 5 years ago. I have always tried to support her the best I can, I come back from uni specifically to see her, I phone her constantly I go round and spend time with her when nobody else can be bothered. I buy her gifts and im always there for her. Ive stayed in and missed parties ive been desperate to go to when nobody else will so she doesn't feel left out. I don't expect her to be grateful for what I do or say thank you as I do it because I care about her and want to but im feeling a bit down that I feel like I get nothing in return from her.

Last week I arranged to come see her at a certain time so she could meet my boyfriend, when I got to her flat she wasn't in and when I called she said she would be 15 minutes. We stood outside in the cold waiting for her for 2 hours then left she then got in a mood with me that I hadn't waited longer. She buys presents and without sounding rude arse licks other people who cant be bothered with her but occasionally grace her with their presence yet never does anything for me. She calls this girl whose seen her 4 times this whole year her bestie and says how much she loves her etc when she just expects me to come see her every week and help look after her.

What has really upset me is that it was my 21st birthday on Wednesday I don't expect her to remember it but I did tell her on Monday what I was doing for my birthday, I didn't receive a text or anything at all. She was posting all over facebook how happy she was to be seeing one of these girls she calls her best friend and on facebook all day so its not like she didn't know it was my 21st. She text me today telling me to buy food for a Christmas lunch she is holding (something ill never be paid back for but it is expected)

I love her to bits but im just feeling a bit used. I just don't know what to do as I said she is sick and wheelchair bound so I don't want to hurt her feeligns but im feeling very used and not appreciated.

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Am confused about why this guy I like is acting towards me this way?

There's this guy I like in one of my classes and I really have no idea if he thinks I'm ok or really doesn't like me. He's really good friends with a friend of mine who's also in my class and when she asked him what he thinks of the other girls in the class he said that he thought I was really pretty and nice but shy, and that he wanted to compliment my hair when I got it cut but didn't want to lead me on because my friend told him that he leads people on a lot once yet he complimented this other girl in my class on how nice her jumper looked the other day. He's a very confident peoples person but for some reason whenever I try to talk to him or say something to him, he hardly ever replys or acknowledges I've said anything (except for one occasion recently when we both went out to get lunch with my friend and we laughed and joked around a bit) yet for everyone else he's super friendly and chatty and a lways initiates conversation. I sat next to him the other day and he practically blanked me the entire lesson and chatted to the guy next to him. I just don't get why he's acting like this as I've not done anything terrible to him, it irritates me that he acts so differently around me for some reason.

Can someone please help me understand why he's behaving like this?

(also i'm not sure if this is relevant or not but he told my friend that he likes this other girl but its really complicated because she has a boyfriend/likes someone else)

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She likes me but I dont like her

There's this girl at work and we had a bit of a thing going in a couple of months ago, we used to go to her apartment afterwards to hang out we also used to text. But the thing is with this girl is that she's a flirt and plays around with guys not just me a lot of other guys. But she does it a lot more with me. So the thing is that she's having a party next week and someone asked me if i was going that girl was there to and I said if im invited and she said everyone is. She then text me saying " I better be there". I did like her before but now I dont. But I dont want to let her down and I now she will be a some what annoyed if Im not there. Because she keeps asking me. Anyway I dont like her so how can I let her down gently. There is more to this story but id rather keep it short and I am sure she does like me.

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My best friends has turned on me

I was quite close with this guy and we've known each other for 2 years from work. We did used to hang out a lot and talk. But now i have been really busy with work and uni and havent made time to hang out. So I told him and he went on a bitch fit saying oh "you cant make time for me and I have done so much for you". He is also very very clingy and texts me constantly. I have a feeling his is also a bit gay as he was saying that I dont care about him or anything. He also hates the fact if I talk to any of my other friends or any girls and then he stops talking to me wtf. Now we had a huge argument and he was saying the above. I tbh have had enough and to him to get on his bike because it is too much and he is really acting gay. So since the argument he texts me swearing at me and now he takes the piss out of me too. He also mocks me on other people facebook so I can see as I dont have him as a friend. Tbh we were really good mates but i'd neve r think it would end up so messed up like this. So what can I do ? Have any of your good mates done this. Who can I talk to now ? I have school/college friends but they work. I suppose we could make time to hang out ? What can I do

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lol boycott american women

accidentally discovered this blog

http://boycottamericanwomen.blogspot.co.uk/

who wants to start one for british women

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Breaking up with girlfriend

Hey guys, well as you can the title of this thread, I'm going to break up with my girlfriend.
We've been dating for 3 months and well things got from bad to worse, the first month was perfect and I couldn't have wished for more, but now that she has gone to uni its as if she's changed into a totally different person. She doesn't talk to me like the way she did and well we both haven't simply got time for each other. Plus she's been so snappy for the past 2 months and i cannot take much more of it. She won't tell me what's wrong and she is very insecure person. She refuses to tell me if something is up and well I'm tired of it. She treats me like a prick and tomorrow i am going to go over her house to break up. I have the feeling she's cheated on me but i cannot make that assumption since I have no proof. What makes me say this? well she still talks to her Ex bf and always makes excuses to see him, she talks to loads of different people over the internet and always says **** like 'i really want to kiss you' this only happened the other day when we had a big argument bu t now I'm certain she probably does it on a regular.
So basically the reason why I am writing this post is because I want to know if I am making the right decision. (She;s a year older than me I'm doing my A2's and she's at uni). We haven't you know...done it in about 2 months and my friends say she's acting suspicious, well now I just want a clean break up. I don't know if i should remain friends because like i said she doesn't like to let go of people out of her life (so in my mind she basically strings loads of people). I just need tips on how to do so with a very insecure, troubled girl. I just don't want to break up whilst she's in this depression of hers, I don't know if i should wait and support her but why should I when she won't even tell her own boyfriend if she's having problems? but i can't find it in my heart to forgive her for the way she's treated me over the past 2 months, She was my first and well i did fall for her in a very short amount of time because she liked me for months prior (whilst she was seeing her ex) and when i asked her why she broke up with her ex she didn't want to talk about it. I cannot hold it in any longer and i need to concentrate on my A2's. Suggestions would be appreciated on how to deal with this in an appropriate way.

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Getting out of the friendzone

Is it even possible? Have you managed to do so, and if you did, how did you go about it?

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Your preferred/most successful environment to meet the opposite gender

Let's do a poll. Out of all the potential environments you can meet the opposite sex, which one has been most successful for you/which one do you prefer?

Some people prefer to meet potential partners online, some prefer to meet in bars and clubs while drunk, while others it's the daytime in the street, and some only through friends or social circles.

Please see the options in the poll and vote. Feel free to comment in this thread as to your own particular experiences.

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