Girlfriend may have cheated

My girlfriend and I has been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. I feel everything is going great, however she told me recently that one of her friends had asked her to accompany him to a black tie function and she accepted. I had some reservation at first, but I told her it's fine if she wants to go.

The function took place last week, however she told me that after the function, they decided to head for the club after. Once it got a bit late, I tried calling her numerous times, however she didn't pick up my calls and eventually I suspected that the phone was turned off. Eventually, I managed to get through the next morning, and she told me that she had a bit too much too drink and her cellphone's battery died and couldn't pick up my call that.
I tried to ask her what she was up to during the night, however she just mentioned that they were just up for some dancing and did nothing more. She was pretty vague about what she was doing.

I have an uneasy feeling that she might have done a lot more. Do you guys think that I am being too overly concerned, or should I confront her about it?

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Was it just cheating or was it an affair?

I just found out that my bf of 4 years has been cheating on me for the last 2, with the same girl. I've read Facebook messages and texts between them making plans to meet up- their favorite place seems to be the mall parking lot, but apparently if he's working in the area of her job he goes over when she's on break to hook up. Sometimes they use her parents house, which is literally 4 houses away from where we live together, and yes, he's even had her in our home. Him and this girl grew up together and had a lot of mutual friends. I actually met her last summer at a birthday party. One of the texts I found was him giving her a heads up that he was going to be out with them that night. He introduced me and she even kissed me on the cheek when we left. I'm thinking that this is more than just sex because its been going on for so long, but in their messages all they really talk about is hooking up. They talk a little bit about work and stuff sometimes but no mention of any feelings or anything. He's always saying he can't wait to *beep* her again and all the things he wants to do with her. There was one where he texted her because he saw her walking into a store and he was asking where she was going all dressed up looking good, and asked if she was going on a date since her bf was away. Is that slight jealousy on his part? If she's just a side piece for sex why would he care if she sees other guys? He asks her to send him pics if he can't see her that day. Sometimes they act sarcastic with each other like he'll say 'what's up loser' but sometimes he texts her 'hey sexy'. He's told her a bunch of times she has the best mouth ever. Oh I almost forgot after talking to one of his friends I found out that they kind of dated or whatever, 'were talking' for a few months about 7 or 8 years ago. I just want to know what the connection is between them. I wonder if on some level that they don't even seem to realize, if they want to be tog ether because they're just so involved but as I said they don't talk about feelings or anything really. So can this just be sex or are they having an affair they might not even know about?

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I've fallen in love with the chinese woman who takes my order

Just hear me out. I don't have much....any success with women and I've pretty much given up.

One thing I really enjoy doing is getting take-aways (I'm not fat by the way so don't bring that up) and usually I get chinese. Honestly getting take-aways is the equivalent of me having a ****ing party.

But the woman who takes my orders is so kind to me and she finally recognised who I am and says my address before I need to. Egg Fried Rice with Sweet & Sour Pork (no veg).

She's actually caring unlike most girls who are only after your social status, looks and money!
I feel like going to the store, telling her it's me and confess how I feel.

Should I do this??

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Would it put you off a girl if she had sex with you after a couple of dates?

I have a very high sex drive so find it hard not to initiate sex with guys I date quite early on? Would this put you off a girl if you actually liked her.

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Fun first dates?

So in a couple of weeks I'll be going on a first date. The question is what can we do? Something fun & unique. Anyone got any ideas?
If it helps I'm 21 he's 30.
I was thinking possibly of ice skating, even though that slightly terrifies me haha.

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I am attracted to a homeless girl. Where should I take this?

This is random, I know, but I have been helping out at a homeless shelter and I met this one girl who seems really "with it" considering what she's going through. Anyway, I had the chance to talk to her and she's a nice girl, but not just that, but she scrubs up well. I am not saying that because she's homeless she is automatically unattractive, but you don't always see many attractive homeless people. She is polish and i was jokingly using my app on my phone to talk to her in her language (without much success). she can speak english okay, but her accent is quite strong and broken, obviously. Anyway, I don't know what is going on in her life, but I kind of feel attracted to her. I don't even know how to go about this situation.

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Did she do anything wrong?

Hi,

I met a girl in August and she was lovely. I spent with her the most amazing two months, and although it was short I was no doubt in love with her. She left me last month, however, to go back to her ex-boyfriend. This destroyed me. I'm still a wreck. I'm not getting over it and going crazy.

I want to hate her, but she says it's not love if I do that, and that I'm trying to hurt her on purpose. This is not true, I don't want to hurt her. But I know that it does hurt her if I hate her, but that's not what I do it. I just feel so liberated when I tell her how much she's hurt me. I can't help it. But then I hate myself for my selfishness. I don't know if, in writing this, I'm just looking for someone to take my side and to tell me that I've been hurt, and that it's ok for me to not go out of my way to ensure she's not hurt. I know this sounds selfish, and it is, but I go insane otherwise, it just builds up inside me and I feel so cheated and helpless. I just want someone to tell me she did wrong to me.

But I don't even know if she did. She has every right to go back to her ex-boyfriend. But it doesn't stop it from killing me. I think I'd have been better if she'd stopped with me and gone back to him later, when I was a bit better, then again I know this is selfish of me.

It's probably important, though, to note that she was with her ex-boyfriend for two years, me for two months. But we spent so much of the two months together, I feel it's unfair to say "two months is nothing".

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Christmas present after a few dates?

I've been on 4/5 dates over the last couple of months with a girl at uni who I really like. Probably would have been more but she's been busy with her dissertation. So far just kissing but I think it will go further.

I was thinking of getting her a little christmas present (tops £10)... what do you guys reckon? My only concern is that she probably won't get me anything and I don't want to make her feel awkward!

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Would it be strange to turn up at a party alone?

Don't know if this is the right place but wanted to be anon.

Basically, went to a house party a few nights ago and really clicked with someone who invited me to another house party. I asked if I could bring a friend and she said sure. However, my friend who I asked immediately is sick.. and I haven't been able to find a replacement (you really wouldn't think it was that hard to get someone to go to a party :confused:). Everyone is sick/has work to do/ already has plans for tonight. I kind of still want to go though... but i dunno if it'd be socially unacceptable to turn up by myself. I will know about three people who are going. If I was at home I would just go because I know my dad wouldn't mind driving me home (he stays up till 2am anyway) and also my confidence seems to be knocked a bit since starting uni. At uni and I'm also a bit freaked out gettin a cab back by myself (I'm female btw). What do you all think?

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Help. If I end up a 'good friend' one more time......

Ok thismight be abit vague because although I can't see them being on here-if anyone that directly knows about this sees it they will likely know this is me and I'd rather they didn't. Hence the anonymous posting :P Simply put no matter what I do I seem to end up great friends with girls but.that.is.all. For example recently I liked a girl and had been holding back because I knew she still had a boyfriend that she had been trying to break up with for awhile. Thats sorted now but doing the 'right' thing I still haven't done anything really in the past week other than be a little more flirty here and there it just seems....... wrong to try and get with someone who's just broken up with someone and it's not been that easy from what I gather. However clearly she's past that as she's fine to be onto one night stands it seems. Now that's none of my business really even if it does bug me-jealousy;probably but....I can get over that). So what do I do. I'd prefer it if we could still be friends even if it doesn't go the way I'd like but I don't think I can just sit in the background getting ever more firmly 'friendzoned' any longer. Realistically there's one last week left so I could just wait till after xmas (a month to clear my head) and if I still like her do something or I could just try and make a move before then or at least have how I feel known.... (compared to other people I know at uni i've known her for quite a while now aswell as I didn't know anyone here when I started so....) any advice?

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Please answer, why did my guy friend say this...

I like this guy, I showed it to my guy friend. Later, I asked my guy friend if he is good looking. My guy friend said he is better looking than him. I don't think the guy I like is better looking than my guy friend. Why did he say that?

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dont know wether to tell her or not

hi im in year 11 and there is this girl i really like and im so scared of telling her because she may not like me, shes always hanging out with this boy probably just close mates but i get the impression that she does like me as in every lesson where in she is always looking at me and also i just donjt know whether to tell her

after may were leaving for study leave and she isnt staying in the same sixth form so shes going what shall i do

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What are your definite no's and must's in a potential bf/gf?,

As the title says...

What are the things you are and aren't willing to tolerate in a potential bf/gf? And what are the must have attributes?

Will be interesting to see how strict I am, compared to everyone else...

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BREAK UP wiht my Girl Friend- Need Suggestions

HI All,
I am having a Girl Friend. Now i have decided to break up with her. I have explained to her about my issues in text. We have been in touch for the past six months. But then, after explaining to her she refuses to break up with me. I do not know how to break up with her. I need to valuable suggestions to break with her. Thanks you in advance.

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Is it possible to life a happy life without ever having a girlfriend or wife ?

Say, a man cannot get a female in his life and never have girlfriends, would it be possible to live with out for your entire life?

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Asking a friend to put in a "good word"

Ok so a last girl added me on facebook (i had met her like 3 weeks previously through a mutal friend) the mutual friend mentioned that i dance Salsa and since then we've been on and off talking on facebook (she has 2 jobs and is in her 2nd year of her law degree)

I asked her out for drinks the other day (not as a date, to get to know her better, she said "maybe")

Either way, i'm wondering whether getting the mutal friend to put in a good word for me would be a good idea?

This girl isn't normally the kinda of girl i go for (i don't normally go for Indian girls (not being racist or discrimitory, i've just not grown up around them before uni so ... ))

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Considering a break up

I'm 21, I met him 4 years ago. We've been together nearly 2 years, 10 months of which was long distance when I studied abroad.

Since I got back to England I've felt like he loves the sound of his own voice a bit too much. Like he doesn't even consider that I might already know what he's telling me, or whether he told me exactly the same thing a week ago. I know he doesn't mean to do it, but it as if he gets a subconscious kick from it, like he thinks he sounds clever and enjoys the feeling that I'll find it really interesting. We used to have really great discussions, but now I feel like it barely even matters what I say, he just likes whatever's going on in his own mind.

His group of friends(who I used to hang round with a bit) all play TF2(an fps), and I gave it a go a few years back but gave up after a while because I wasn't really enjoying it. They have all this banter about their internet memes and quotes from funny youtube gaming videos, which they repeat so many times to each other, and have such a big laugh about it. They seem to bond through this, when there is no real substance to it, and I feel inferior when I'm with 2 or more of them at a time.

Throughout our relationship small annoyances like this have been minor issues compared to how happy we've been, even when I was abroad. Lately it's started getting to me more because I feel like he just wants someone to make him feel like he's an acceptable partner and it doesn't matter that it's me. Like I'm just something here to boost his ego and go along with whatever he wants. I find myself trying to be more like he wants me to be, and then I feel bad like I'm letting him manipulate me into something I wouldn't be otherwise.

The problem is that I get annoyed at him and I don't know whether it's because he is not listening to me and being socially weird, or I'm perceiving it wrong. It doesn't help that other things are stressing me out, but it feels like the relationship is beginning to take too much effort from me, and just making me feel rubbish in return. I've forgotten what made me like him so much in the first place, but the idea of breaking up is really painful. I don't know whether It's worth holding on or whether it's going to keep making me feel bad. I don't know whether the Christmas holidays away from him will help, or whether I'll just feel rubbish all Christmas about him. Sometimes other people's perspectives help me see situations better, so do you think this is something we can get through or something that will just keep going downhill?

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Facebook fight has been escalated

Someone on my course sent another girl a nasty image calling her really disgusting names, saying how she owed her money and she would fight her for it if she didn't get it, saying she had stuff on her and would tell everyone and making threats like that and about 80% of the message was aggressive swearing. So the girl who received the message printscreened it and uploaded it to facebook just to show what she had received. People commented saying 'what the **** is wrong with her' 'how pathetic' 'good thing I wasn't there, it wouldn't have ended nicely' 'she's so scary, i wouldn't be surprised if she actually murdered you' just stuff like that. I commented and just said 'whats her problem?' because from what I can tell the girl who received the message had been helping the girl with her work all this year and then said enough is enough because she had been doing it ALL and they had a shouting match in college.

Anyway, now the girl has gone to college saying how we're all bullying and that she's reported it to the police. I'm really worried because I've literally done nothing. I commented on the photo and got involved which I shouldn't have, but I've never said a word against this girl and I've actually stood up to her before, but I'm so worried. I don't want to get involved with the police and it to go on a perm record or something when I've done nothing illegal

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Flirting question?

So, I hope this makes sense because it's really confusing me...

Right, if you flirt with someone is it a conscious or subconscious decision? You see, I was at the pub with a friend of mine who I like and we were just talking and I didn't actually realise it at the time but I was playing with my hair quite a bit (which is apparently pretty flirty) but I didn't realise that I was doing it. Does anyone actually consciously think, I'm going to play with hair as a means of preening myself as a means of flirting or you just do it (not just playing with hair but other flirty behaviour)?

Personally I don't see how playing with your hair is flirty but I've read it somewhere....

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boyfriends xmas card?!

hey i know this will sound pointless and unimportant compared to other questions on here, but i 'd like to ask what sort of thing i should put in my boyfriends christmas card? we've been going out for 2 months (3 on the 5th of jan :D ) but we've been best friends for 3 years. Should i write something extra in it? i guess i should, but i really dont know what! even though i know him really well, i dont want to put a really long message or something really cheesy since we've only actually been dating for 2 months. A joke would be good but i dont know what! any ideas?
thanks in advance :)

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Hideout festival 2014

Hi,

So me and my pals had booked to go to the hideout festival in 2014 but they've dropped out for different reasons.

Is it weird to go alone?

Was wondering if anyone else was going to the festival?

(probably sound a little creepy and clingy)

But was wondering if they would mind me socializing with them?

Thanks

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I kissed a girl...

I'm a lesbian and I don't know how to come out at school. Any ideas? I know that there may be different ways of doing in the UK than the USA, by if anyone has any ideas, I really need to hear them.

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Ladies...Your thoughts?

There's this girl I like, and been thinking of asking her if she wants to go on a date.
I've known her three months, got to know her more over the last month and half, and we get on together. We've had quite a few conversations together (nothing deep), and she's always friendly and fun.
I'm just not 100% sure how I'm meant to read it- is she just being friendly, or do you think she might like me as well?

A few things:

- I sat away from her once, a few rows in front, and she got up and left her seat, moved by jacket and some books out the way, and sat next to me.

- We were at a party (not together, people we both knew), and my knife broke (there wasn't any spares left), so she offered me hers since she finished.

- She asked for my number, but she kind of had a practical reason for wanting it.

- She's liked a couple of random Facebook comments I made at least 5/6 years ago, way before the like function was even invented, and way before I added her (month or so so ago).

- Asked me for a lift.


I dunno, what do you think?
Cheers :)

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Why is she acting like this?

Ok, so there is a girl that I met at Uni who I got on really well with and I liked her but waited 2 years to tell her. I asked her if she was seeing anyone and her response was "Yeah, I' am. Are you?" to which I said back "No, you probably know why I asked now - still friends, yeah? To which she said "Of course!" Everything was fine for about a week and then she blocked me on Facebook wasn't retuning texts. I asked her what was wrong... to which she said she didn't want to give me false hope.
I seen her in town (a month later) unplanned - she smiled and started walking towards me. I just smiled politely back and walked on. I then seen her again in town a month after that and when I passed her she was literally shaking, but she didn't look round at me. Five minutes later we saw each other on either side of the traffic lights - she looked like she was stressed and panicked. (I know I shouldn't have probably done this... but the next day I sent her a text asking her if everything was ok - she hasn't responded) Why is she acting like this - I don't understand?

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help, falling for the impossible again...

I'm a straight girl, who always seems to fall for gay guys. And it's always after I'm in too deep that I find out that they are gay. My two most recents for example, after 2 years of heartbreak with one guy life moves on and although he still holds a place in my heart I barely see him anymore and I managed to move on. I see the most amazing cute guy, not your typical good looking just normal but cute and an amazing personality that I both relate to, yet constantly suprises me.

The feelings I have for this guy is stronger than anything I felt with previous crushes. I find out pretty quickly that he is gay. And although I try not to like him I just don't seem to be able to stop. I even dream about him for goodness sake. The worst and best thing is, I am becoming increasingly closer friends with him, he approached me not the other way round. And we can't help but see each other verrrry often due to our schedules. I want to continue being friends with him yet at the same time can't stop thinking about him. It's been a long time now and I think it is more than an infatuation. I think he may have recently suspected how I feel. I saw a vague tweet along the lines of "oh help a girl has a crush on me" yet he hasn't acted any different around me so I could be wrong. Is there something wrong with me ? That I always seem to fall for gay guys? I'mnot deluded in anyway about him ever having feelings for me, it's just such a mess. Im 17 by the way. Any advice would be very welcome.

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