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Hello admin! I've been posting this thread lately

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/sex-mar...e-massage.html

and i want to offer a url link of conducting a prostate massage to couples that wanted to do it can i do it?

but the problem is that the instructional video of how to conduct a prostate massage is from a porn-site i don't want to get banned for posting the link.

Thats why i will offer the link to couples who PM me and ask for the video. To prevent exposure within the forum.

Can i still giving out the link via PM's even though the link is from a porn site (since for some weird reason the instructional video had been posted there).

Role play for couples (any ideas?)

i'm thinking of doing some roleplay with my partner but not sure what and how to proceed

list of ideas at the moment:

employer - job applicant
(an interview that gone from needy to desperate)

doctor - nurse
(a body check that had gone terribly wrong)

a plumber - sex-starved housewife
(you got the picture)

and............. i run out of ideas!

any input will be appreciated thankyou!:smthumbup::D:p

My wife is only ok with dirty talk if its through texting

Ok new here....little background..im a rough around the edges kind of a man. I work in the oil industry and kinda a redneck roughneck.. So obviously I have salty language however I can be soft and sweet and romantic I had a discussion with my wife of 6 years ( we are both 40 and have known each other since high school) were she informed me that I was to ” vulgar” when discussing sex ..then 2 or three days later she sends me some of the most explicit text I have ever read ...later I asked whats the deal she replied that texting dirty is ok just not ok in person ....anyone else find this odd.. Btw im HD she's LD
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Consequences of Divorce

been reading this site Why Men are not eager to get Married Today

and one of the comments just makes me depressed:(

The following is a true story and a possible
outcome for those young men who father children in a Western Nation. Rather
than “don’t marry,” the author is advocating “don’t marry, and don’t father.” Those
who do are one female whim away from emotional ruin and slavery. I found this on another website.



The man who wrote the article is now in his
mid forties. If you want to offer some solutions or help to him, please do so.



A life not worth
living

It has been
seven years since my wife move 500 miles away with my almost three year old son
one day when I was at work; and my 500 mile trips to try to reconcile our
family eventually proved futile.



Our marriage lasted almost ten years. We waited seven years
to have our first child. Our son was completely planned, welcomed and cherished.
I was a doting and loving father and I spent every day and weekend with my son.

After the divorce, the courts allowed me to see my son three
weekends per month from 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM. That is only 6.66% of the total
time available in the month. I was allowed one phone call per week. The courts
allowed his mother to keep him 500 miles away; I had to travel 500 miles to see
him. I was ordered to pay his mother $1500 per month. No consideration was
taken for my travel expenses.

Most importantly, no consideration was given for
my son’s rights to have his father in his life the same amount of time as
before. Not three weekends per month only in the daytime, but every day and
night and weekend. I was a very affectionate, loving and responsible father and
absolutely doted over my son. I was stripped of my fathership and made a
visitor in his life. He was stripped of his father.

Within two months my son behaved like a stranger to me.
Within four months he was actively hostile towards me. After traveling 500
miles to see him, his mother would not show up with him. His mother was
alienating him from me.

Within seven months I lost my job. After being a victim of a
terrible wife and a corrupt court system, I realized the situation was
hopeless; I walked away.

Even though she destroyed most of the relationship between
my son and I, I am the one being blamed for abandonment.

I thought I could begin a new life; but seven years later
the pain remains. My pain over missing my son; the pain over how my son must feel;
the pain over the disadvantages that my son has. Pain over a career that has
been trashed. Pain over huge child support debts that can never be repaid. Pain
over a life where I will never be able to have any sort of financial security
or retirement. Pain over the fact that I will never know my grandchildren. Pain
over excruciating loneliness.

The worst times are weekends and holidays. Weekends and
holidays were mine and my son’s best times together. When I see fathers with
sons I feel an overwhelming sadness: a sadness of what has been lost; what is
not; and what could have been.

Also I am permanently changed. No amount of therapy,
psychotropic drugs, or a new woman and child can remove the hollowness inside
me. I notice the effect when I am around people. I used to be happy and
fulfilled; now I am empty and depressed, and people notice it and they don’t
want to be around me. It is impossible for me to smile and I get no pleasure
from anything; not even eating. I have no present and no future.

Am I a loser?

I was an example of someone who raised themselves from
nothing to something though hard work. I put myself through college; earned a
scholarship, and worked many crappy jobs before I finally landed a good one.
Through thrift, I managed to save a tidy nest egg. I never had any problems
with the law. But because my wife became unhappily married, I have been
criminalized, even though I tried to keep the marriage together.

Now I don’t have a car, I don’t have a drivers license, I
don’t have a girl friend, and I live in a small and ****ty room. I earn a fifth
of what I earned before. I have a very difficult time holding a job because of
depression.

I am a Christian; so I am afraid of committing suicide.
Nevertheless, I often research suicide to see if there is some justification
for it; some way to do it, without going to hell. I want out of my life; I
would not want to wish my life on my worst enemy. It is a life that is not
worth living.

I pray every day for some guidance and purpose of what I am
supposed to do; I don’t get any answers.

Where did I go wrong? Was it the wrong choice of a woman?

My wife was very religious and a virgin when we
met. She never smoked a cigarette or drank alcohol in her life. She was the
most family-oriented person I had ever met. I would never have thought she
would have chosen divorce. And if she chose divorce, I would have thought she
would have wanted a father in her son’s life. But she changed. Why did she
change? I don’t know but I think because of cultural influences.

Why do I write this? For pity?

No. I write this to give young men an idea of what they are
facing when they father children in the USA or any other country that imitates
the American court system. When the divorce happens, and it is more likely to
happen then not, you will be destroyed emotionally and financially. Your
children will suffer. The more responsible, the more loving, the more
family-oriented you are, the more you will be destroyed.

Marriage and family is sacred and the greatest gift a man
can have. Unfortunately, in the USA, marriage and family have been perverted
beyond repair.

For young men, the worst thing you could do is to have
children in the USA. For parents of boys, the worst thing you could do is to
pressure your sons into having children in the USA. Don’t think it cannot
happen to you or your sons.

Is there a solution? Yes.

Emigration. Make your
money in the states and emigrate out when you are financially able. Then marry
and have children in a family-friendly nation and a nation with fairer divorce
laws. This is a solution that won’t completely remove the risk of divorce; but
will reduce it.

As a man in the USA you have nothing to look forward to.
Only the ignorant or the masochistic would think of fathering children there.
In the USA fathers are like tightrope walkers without netting. Don’t do it.

You have been warned by someone wandering in hell who lives
a life not worth living.

Information and
statistics:

Half of all American
marriages end in divorce.



Divorce is
initiated by the woman in 75% of all cases.



Presumption
of guilt is on the man. If the woman makes any type of emotional or physical abuse
claim, the man will be removed from his home and children.



Nine out of ten times the children are given to the woman,
no matter how good the man is.

If you fall behind in child support $2500, your passport is
denied.

If you fall behind in child support $2500, you drivers
license is revoked.

If you are behind on child support payments, you can go to
jail.

If you have a history of falling behind on payments, you can
be placed in prison.

Because you are in jail does not mean child support payments
stop; on the contrary, child support payments continue and arrears continue to
build.

In many states, interest is added to arrears at the rate of
10 percent per year.

There is no statute of limitations for child support payments.

If you lose your job and get a lesser paying job, the child
support agencies will do their best to try to keep the payments the same.

Non-custodial parents (men) are around three times as likely
to commit suicide then the rest of the male population, and in the USA the general
male population is around five times more likely to commit suicide then females.

Men are not entitled to a lawyer in a failure to pay child
support court hearing.

On any given day, 50,000 men are in jail or prison for child
support arrears.

Employers frown on wage garnishment; it is more work for
them and they are less likely to hire a divorced man and more likely to exploit
one because they know he is desperate.

As your children are stripped away from you and the
relationship severed, you will be accused of abandoning your children.

States get
matching funds from the federal government for every support order they issue;
therefore there is a built-in economic incentive against family reconciliation
and against shared custody and an economic incentive for divorce and sole
physical custody.



If you have arrears, a child support lien will be placed on
your credit report which comes up on background checks rendering you much less
employable.

Any type of depression or despondency is used against the
man to further remove him from his children, causing yet more depression and despondency.

Ever wonder why there are so many homeless men? Do your own
street interviews. Ask random homeless men if they ever went through a divorce
or the child support system.

A man with children in the USA is like a tightrope walker
without netting: the risk-reward profile is life or death.

Man
sentenced to 20 years in prison for failure to pay child support.

link:GlennSacks.com » Blog Archive

this is like a nightmare no wonder people has becoming resentful of marriage since it can use it for screwing each other spouse (men were screwed mostly) mentally, physically and financially. No one should deserve a divorce like this (even though i advocate divorce if its abusive, out of love, etc)

p.s i m not sure am i posting this in the right section if so please move it to the right place

Depressed wife, needy husband

I have major depression and my husband doesn't know how to handle it, and it's making everything harder.

I was diagnosed with depression years ago and struggled with it off and on, but nothing near as bad as the last 6 months or so have been. We had our first child almost a year ago so that probably contributed to it... but I'm getting to a breaking point. The worst part about this recent bout of depression is that the *utter* sexual aversion I have towards my husband... or anyone, really; we had a fairly healthy sex life before, but now I'm pretty much disgusted by it. It wasn't immediately after the baby, either... it was maybe 4-6 months afterwards; no changes on my husband's part or anything. Pretty much I was just suddenly totally grossed out by sex. I don't even want to be touched. I've never been a very touchy-feely person, but I think because my husband rarely touches me in non-sexual ways, I'm afraid to be touched at all. When I started seeing a therapist, I wasn't surprised at all that he asked me if I'd been sexually abused in the past as that's how I'm reacting now, but I haven't.

Understandably, my husband feels abandoned, lonely and rejected. He "understands" what I'm going through, sort of, but he just doesn't know how to handle it. I give him sex or whatever when he needs it physically but we both know I'm just going through the motions. He misses the intimacy and I don't blame him at all.

And he tells me all the time. He's constantly telling me he loves me, he misses me, he wants to hold me, etc. He's very physical and touchy. All of this makes me feel worse and drives me away... I guess because I feel inadequate. What am I supposed to say when he says he misses me? I don't miss him! I wish I did, but I just want space. He knows I can't stand being touched but he does it anyway.

I'm working on finding medication and in therapy but this will be a very long road for me. We're looking into couples therapy whenever we're able to afford it... but what's the right thing to do? It seems lose-lose... either I let him express those things, which still doesn't accomplish much, and feel guilty because I can't satisfy him, or he suffers in silence and doesn't even get to say how he feels. He wants to help, but he's suffering too, and the only thing that "helps" me is for him to leave me alone, which makes him miserable... what do you do???

I dont trust my husband with money gambling.

Hi. This is the first time for me. My husband is a drinker and gambler. We have a row and he either drinks himself silly or he goes off in a huff. I find him in a Casino. He dont like work and relies on my pension mostly, unless he gets some work. He bets in betting shops as well. I put money in his bank when he said he wanted security as I had kicked him out before.He promised he would never touch it but of course he has been gambling that as well. I went through his pockets and found a lot of the
money and he was angry. I put the money back in my bank whilst he was sleeping in the day. He went and got a job where he said he might have to stay there at night because of the shifts! He asked me to pick him up at midnight 1 evening and gave me some money I had lent him for cigarettes. He said he had been paid. I didnt trust him and again had a look in his jacket. Again he had a lot of money. I asked him when he got up how much did he earn and he was so angry and accused me of looking in his jacket. Yes I was wrong but how can I ever trust him. He lies so much.I asked him where did he get this money from and he said Cocaine.I kicked him out.Dont know if he lied or not as it was the 1st time he had said this.

Study investigates what women really want

Study Investigates What Women Really Want | Yahoo! Health

And no doubt, our own sample of TAM females will want something else entirely. ;)

Good dating sites?

So, does anyone know of any dating sites out there where you can meet people like the ones here on TAM? :scratchhead: If I go into another relationship, I want someone who is serious about relationships, I see men on here (married, of course!) who go above and beyond to make their relationships work. I never imagined there were actually men out there who would take an active role in trying to connect and improve, like reading books, getting therapy, etc. I tried Match.com and eHarmony the last time I found myself single, and those were just...eh. I was hoping maybe someone knows of a really good network somewhere. Where do the newly single men and women from here head off to?

What about the ring?

What are you gals doing with the ring? I have a 1ct. ring that was purchased for $5k....in 2006. I dk what to do with it? I doubt that after all these years they are going to let him keep it. I've been married 5 years. Some websites suggest turning it into something new.

Sexless help from a Movie?

Somehow I missed this when it was in theaters. It will be out on DVD shortly in a few days.

The movie is about a sexless marriage, or that is what I am told. I have not seen it. But it sounds like it could be used as a wake up tool for those who are stuck in a sexless marriage. Watch it with your spouse and see if that is the route they want to take with the marriage.

If anybody has seen it please post more about it. If it worth trying or not. It is called Hope Springs. Hope I am not violating the T.O.S.

Women hate me because I love my husband?

My husband and I have been married for two years. He is eleven years older than me.
For me, my husband is the best and i really admire him. Hes very cute, loving and very affectionate towards me. And hes really handsome :)
When hes home I spend almost my time with him doing things together.
We always go out together, be it shopping or for walks. Every Saturday my husband and I go for church service.
He has a twitter account because hes well known so he needs to be in touch with all his followers but I am not on twitter or instagram. I just have a facebook.
I like to hug my husband or cuddle him, sometimes in public and all my antics annoys a group of women a lot.
These women were my husband's ex wife's friends. They were a group and his ex had this stylist business in which all these women were working and they all had hired professional stylists and photographers to keep them looking dainty and up to date for their followers on instagram/twitter/facebook.

i find them making snide comments on me and once they called me a stupid 1950's wife because I made my husband sober from his substance abuse and issues.
After he was completely healthy he realized he was in the wrong company, as they supported all his wrong actions for the sake of having contacts and accordingly he filed for divorce and it ended. That day my husband got into an argument with one of them who tried sucking up to him but he pushed them off.

They say how can one person sit at home worshiping her husband instead of having a life. I have a best friend from college and shes a lot better than these freaks.
And my main focus is my family and my husband. He needs me. I want to make a great person which apparently these women cant do.
My 5 year old stepdaughter keeps me busy as she has school, helping her with her school work, taking her out etc.
They also called me wife of a druggie ***** as my husband was a sexually very adventurous even during his first marriage and did drugs before we met.

What is their problem? My husband told me to ignore them if we encounter them.
Are they jealous? How can they be so immature when these ladies are older than me by a decade!?

Is it natural to stay faithful?

Sometimes staying faithful to a woman is hard because of urges. How do you overcome these? I don't know if I want to not have these urges, they are so powerful. Is the old Indian saying true about the two wolves, and the one you feed winning?

It's pretty obvious that infidelity is a bane to society at-large and at home. It creates the potential for conflict. Yet isn't that what life is about, conflict... coming together and breaking apart? So is it that we are supposed to follow our natural instincts or is it better to follow the rules of society?

In many cases the ones being hurt by infidelity are commiting it themselves to some extent, because it's in their nature. Society is simply seeking to cover the hurt up. So... how does one become an ubermensch and overcomes these urges and forego the whole moral dilemma?

Porn for women

Home decor shows..

the kind where men are jack of all trades..camera zooms in on their butts..and they are always
the hero no matter the job..
that my friends is women porn..

little vodka tonight..
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Need to float a bedroom idea and see how it sounds...

So, hi... I haven't been as active here in a while and I attribute saving my marriage to Married Man Sex Life, back in April or thereabouts I turned around a marriage that was on the path to divorce, I think at this point the marriage is in decent shape, and most of our issues are a result of difficulties with things external to the family. The sex life is okay, frequency is at twice a week, the bigger concern for me is quality. In general, things are gradually improving....

So anyway, tomorrow and Saturday we have the kids out of the house and one day or the other there will be sex.

Okay one more piece of background. My wife has had anxiety issues possibly stemming from a car accident she had when she was 13 (before we met)... She has been taking efexor, and our MC felt the efexor was part of the problem so she's been tapering off. The dose is so low now she could probably stop any time, but the holiday season is usually a source of family strain and I think she's hanging on to that security blanket of the tiny 1/4 pill of effexor until that passes....

Anyway, the sex is usually her getting oral sex until orgasm then she wants missionary or doggie style. It's nice, but I've come to realize that I feel like the physical feeling of it all no matter what, but feeling an emotional connection seems to come from who is stroking who - I want to feel her stroking me, whether that's from receiving oral, her stroking me or her on top. That's when I feel like she's into it, like she's expressing desire for me.

So my idea is I want to take turns with oral sex. Maybe with a fixed time limit, like 5 minutes per turn or something. And she has to give before she can receive. Maybe even tell her she has to show me how she wants me to give it to her, like fast or slow - or whatever... I'm hoping that it'd also get her mentally anticipating the enjoyment she'll get when it's her turn to receive.

I'd like to also add that if she gets me close I'll tell her and then her turn goes all the way.

I'd like to follow with the same thing on the intercourse, I pick the first position then she picks the next, but I might do all this one step at a time and maybe save that for another time.

I've never really made her wait so I'm thinking I'd like to hear some suggestions about making that particular leap. At this point I tend to handle things by saying how I want to do it, and she either takes it or makes her own suggestion.

Well I'll leave it at that for now and see what you all have to say about it.

I'm

Talk about birth control

Neither my wife-to-be or myself have had any partners before. I do not want to have children for at least the first two years of our marriage, and I am guessing she would agree (the "talk" hasn't come up yet).

Having researched many birth control methods, I like the idea of the copper IUD. No hormones, don't have to get it each time (as with the case of barrier methods), and just remove it and you are soon back to your (fertile) self. I am a bit leery though, because as people often say ...if something is too good to be true, it probably is.

Is there any issue with someone who has never given childbirth getting an IUD? How painful (if at all) is the insertion procedure? Also, is there any correlation between the copper IUD (paragard) and sterility/infertility? We want to have children later, but not now.

My main question is, how do I suggest the idea of a copper IUD to my wife? This may be easier after we get married...but considering we have never talked about sex at all (and won't until we are married)...I am a bit nervous regarding the thought of talking about it with her. Yes, a bit prudish, but it is what it is...

Any other suggestions are welcome as well.

Help, I just cheated on my wife

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Sex with husband?

My husband is being very h0rny towards me these days. Hes always been sexy towards me but nowadays its getting a bit too much..
There are times when I just want to snuggle up to him and rest my head on his chest but he will be unzipping my clothes and feeling me all over.. I tried to tell him that i just want to be with him but he doesnt listen. He pins me to bed and does it till he can.
Hes large and too much sex results in my thighs getting bruised and sometimes i can barely walk. And I am petite while hes very tall and a bit on muscular side. He is very good looking but keeps saying i am very cute and lovely.

If i am cooking, he ll come and fondle me intimately. And we end up kissing. Same at restaurants. He sits real close to me and he always keeps his face really close to me.

We married two years ago. We are 11 years apart in age, hes thirty four and i am twenty three. He has a 5 year old whose custody he has.
I told him my feelings, but he was hurt.. He told me I don't find him desirable. I had to make puddings for him and have sex with him to make him normal again.

Is it related to his past? He was on substances for 8 years, was a player and had a bad materialistic first marriage. I pressured him into medication and rehabilitation for substances so hes off it now and committed to me.
I dont want to push him away because he might get hurt and thats the last thing I want to do.

What should i do?

Vegas = New Guy needs advice

Hello all,

Been reading the board and glad there is somewhere to take my mind of what I been going through. My thoughts are with all of you during the holiday season. Please forgive me as I paraphrase my story...

My wife recently told me she wanted a divorce and was moving out tomorrow. I am the husband that neglected his wife. Although she tried to tell me her desires, I still failed to do my part. Well, she finally had enough. To many failed promises on my part. I really had my chances!

Our history was about 8 years, we have his/hers/ours which comes the trouble of a blended family. I work out of town and with her busy schedule comes little time for us to build on our relationship. We just kind of did our on thing for awhile now. She is a photographer which almost takes up all her weekends.

As many people have stated, begging will only make matters worst so I quit. I began to immediately do the 180. Since then I have received a couple of text, one saying she was transferring money, two do I know how to fix tv (stupid), three she signed the lease on new house but wanted to stay until after xmas now not to upset kids. Then she posted this comment on her fb page "What if absence makes the heart grow fonder of the absence?" WTF does this mean?

Through all of this, she is still spending money out of our account which I put all my pay checks in while she has a nest egg in her business account.

Her father called me today and talked to me a little. She compares him and I all the time so its never gonna work to my favor if she knows I talked to him. She says we are both *******s, controlling, etc. He said he didn't give a **** what she thought and it was OK to talk so I did. His message was that his daughter was a lot like his wife and that if I still cared that I should fight for her! I told him she was the one that said she didn't love me anymore and that she was moving out-maybe you should be talking to her and not me about staying committed. He said keep fighting for our marriage and the kids!


Where I need help is:

A. She said she was moving out tomorrow, now its after
Christmas- Is this a sign she is willing to give it more time?

B. What should I do about the money spending- Cake and eat it too?

C. Father-n-Law advice

D. What if the 180 is bad for a woman that I neglected, seems I'm doing exactly what I was doing all wrong in the beginning....

I feel so foolish, she is my world, and honestly it wouldn't have took much to keep her. My self pride, hurt, and ignorance got the best of me! Part of me just wants to run to Vegas and forget about this all, I feel I have no hope anymore so its time move on!!

Thanks for all the support!

I'm 36 years old, and just realized

I'm almost 36 years old and just realized that all I ever really wanted to be was a wife and mother. I have had career desires as a child to be sure, but the most overwhelming and desired position I wanted in life was to be a full time stay at home mom. No job has ever held my attention. I have a hard time CARING about anybody's business or company. I care about my kids and my husband and my home. Is that so wrong? I know in theory that it's not, but gosh society has a way of making a lady feel so worthless...

My husband grew up with his mom being the main figure and provider of the family. She ruled and made the decisions. She was a school teacher in their native country. His dad did odd jobs and never really had a career. He's passive and easy going and lets MIL make all the decisions.

I guess my husband expects me to be a powerful, do-it-all superwoman type. Mind you, hubby's mom did have a housekeeper back in the days (part of that culture) so she didn't really do it all come to think of it. But for some reason my husband wants me to find FULL TIME high paying work and basically keep up with the Jones'.

This is not what I want at all. I want a simpler life. I want to be here for my family, and to nuture and take care of him. I wish my husband knew just how much better his life could be if he would just get on board.

Oh, and I work part-time and dh want to control all the money. Well tell me this: Why would I go to work a job, when I would rather be at home tending my family, come home, cook, clean, do laundry and then hand him my paycheque? What is in it for me????

Sorry, but I just had to vent...

Not sure what to do.

I have been married now for 10 years to what I thought was a wonderful and caring woman. One year ago my step-grandson moved into our home because he was having problems dealing with being picked on by his siblings all the time. Anyway, now that he is living in our home he does not have to pay rent, does not have to do any house chores, and basically does little to nothing except play video games in his room all day if he is not sleeping. My wife seems to think that asking him to help out around the house is just being disrespectful and mean on my part. She says that he is a good boy and that he deserves respect and that to ask him to do anything is going to hurt his feelings. My step-grandson is 20 years old, and he has lived a sheltered life with his mother, so he is not very good socially, and is very immature for his age. The problem here is that my wife has been accusing me of being very insensitive and mean to him because I will at times tell my wife that I wish that he would help out around the house more. I have also talked to my step-grandson about this one on one and in a way as not to upset him. Soon after we talk is when my wife usually starts accusing me of being disrespectful and mean to the boy. At this point my wife and I are still together, and I keep trying to work things out with her to at least meet me half way on getting my step-grandson to help out in exchange for room and board. My wife still insists that he does not need to earn his keep, and will then be very defensive of him saying things that are really not true at all about me. I feel that if this issue does not improve at some point that our marriage is going to suffer greatly which I do not want to happen. I am at a loss as to how to handle this situation except to possibly leave or separate from my wife for a while. It does seem obvious to me that she values my step-grandson's company more that she values her own husband's wants, needs, and feelings. I feel like I'm ignored most of the time anyway when the two of them are together. Someone please help! I need advice quick.

am i one of those crazy weird girls?

my best friend (a guy) and i have a history.
I asked to go on a brak over summer, as i wasnt sure about us. In that time I met another guy and started to see him... turned out all he wanted was sex, then left...

I started to fall for my friend again, who had previously been showing signs he still waned me... but i was shy, i didnt say anything because i was just biding my time and making sure i really did ...well....love him... so then i decided to tell him, but unfortunately we never got to meet up in the pace we planned as there were phone issues on his end, so i thought id tell him the next day.

unfortunately, that night- after 6 months of him not meeting anyone interesting, he meets a new girl and begins texting her, meeting up etc... I finally told him how i felt, and he was like "erm, sorry too late." I was distraught, he is my best friend so i see him a lot... i dont want to witness him with someone else, i dislike the poor girl already even though shes done nothing to me.

help

Should I ditch my friends

I got thrown out of university after only one term and have been unemployed (though not claiming benefits since). One of my siblings died shortly after leaving uni which has absolutely devastated our family. My unemployment situation has caused a lot of problems in my family. My 'friends' mum tried spreading rumours that I was gay even after I said his cousin was hot. When I said I was unemployed he seemed to take great delight and relish out of it. He now has a job as a developer and when someone said are you gonna tell me about it he just said no and looked pissed off. We have been friends maybe since year five they don't seem to care about my siblings death or the fact I am unemployed and are pretty rubbish friends.

Sexually dominant girlfriend and fetish dangers

My girlfriend and I are very adventurous sexually speaking and for the most part I enjoy it. We tend to go through phases of trying things we've watched online and lately she has got into CBT. For those that don't know what that entails, she basically likes to punch and kick me in the balls. Whilst part of me finds it exhilarating, the pain is far too intense for me to really enjoy it. I've been letting her do it anyway, because she really seems to enjoy the feeling of power and superiority it gives her, but I'm starting to get worried about the possible long term damage it might be doing. Recently I've experienced dull aches in my lower abdomen and a feeling like I need to pee all the time. This is obviously pretty worrying, so I'm going to ask her to stop this particular fetish. Anyway, my question is whether whatever damage has been done will heal on it's own, or do I need to see my GP? (I rather avoid the embarrassment if at all possible). Thanks.

She used to think the world of me...

hi all, relationship issue here..

had a casual 2 month relationship (april-june) and when we got back to uni again(september), told her i still liked her, and she said she wanted to be friends, which was ok i guess until now really..


just found out fromher old roomate she used to think the world of me.. as in on fb she showed me what she'd said while we were together ' i really miss him' ' i wish we were an actual couple' ' really want to spend more time together' etc.. with her roomie saying 'she used to think the world of you'

*and for the record didn't do anything like cheat on her or anything horrible like that-

anyway to all girls out there...:confused:

have you ever really liked someone, as in wished you were bf/gf and then later on wanted to be friends.. the real question i'm asking is does it ever go away like it's apparently done here, confused as hell here>< any advice appreciated, cheers all xx

Where did you meet your girlfriend/boyfriend?

Hi all!
So lately I've been missing the companionship a relationship brings to the table, and would like to meet someone. Contrary to what my username might suggest, I don't enjoy picking up girls in clubs/bar/parties and from experience it doesn't usually last.
I'm curious as to where everyone met their loved ones; was it in a social club, through a friend, or maybe at uni?
I'd really like some help with this one guys, help a singleton would ya?

Boyfriend and drugs: huge mistake?

I know no one can tell me whether I want to be with him or not but it would be nice to have some outside opinions.

I finished with my boyfriend last night and can't help but feel like I've made a huge mistake.

Everything was absolutely perfect but we kept hitting a sticky point: the fact that he takes drugs.

A couple of months into the relationship before it was serious, I told him we were going to have to stop seeing each other because I didn't want to be with someone who takes drugs. He said that he couldn't understand why I felt so strongly about it, but that he wouldn't take anything ever again to be with me. So we stayed together.

A year down the line, he's not stopped taking them and tried to hide it from me. I ignored it for a while but deep down I know I'm never going to marry someone who takes drugs so why continue in the relationship?

I just feel like if someone's still smoking weed almost every night and occassionally taking pills/coke when they're 23 then they're never going to stop. So anyway we had a huge argument about it, he called me a control freak and i ended it despite huge protest from him saying how could I end something so perfect over something so unimportant.

I've spent the last 24 hours resisting temptation to text him. Now the things he said when we were breaking up are going round and round in my head, like why is it such a big deal to me? It's not really affecting me in any way, I just don't like that he does it.

Is it stupid to end an almost perfect relationship over occasional drug use?

how can I make him forgive me?

A few months ago a guy added me on tsr(I'm a girl) and to begin with I was rude and angry with him but he kept talking and eventually we became really good friends
Exchanged numbers texted a lot and that
And eventually he told me he had a girl I felt really sad
(For all the people that are going to tell me off for this I know its not right but I didn't do it on purpose)
4-5 months into our friendship I was really attached to him and he knew that
Had a crush really
We had a big problem cuz of me and I can not explain that here because that would give away who I am
And it was my fault I do realise that
But the thing is ever since then he won't talk to me
He has ignored my texts, bbms, emails, tsr pms
Everything
I've tried to apologise in every way I can and I really am sorry for what happened but he just wouldn't talk to me
I tried to accept this and move on but it really isn't happening
Is their any way I could possibly get him to forgive me? Or even plain and simple tell me that he doesn't wanna talk? Because I really can not take it anymore
I know this is stupid if its just someone over the internet but then we did have an amazing understanding and got on really well and I just miss having him in my life
Any suggestions?

Asking a guy out....

I met this guy at work and I would really like to get to know him better. We've had conversations about what we're studying, where we're from etc etc and he seems like a really nice and genuine guy, much better then the douchebags I usually go for.

This is a two part question really;

1- he split up with his gf of a year a few months ago and sounds over it but he lives with her in a student house with other people. Should I make a move and try and get to know him better? Lead onto a possible blooming romance?

2- how on earth do I ask him out? I have never been the one to do the chasing before, especially with a lack of alcohol in my system!! I don't want to mess things up, embarrass myself etc.

any advice?

husband left me with a 2month old baby

quick background my husband and I have been together 9 years and married a year.

We have always had a great relationship, friends,good sex life, lots of affection etc.
We both agreed to try for a baby back in jan and I fell preganant very quickly.

H begain to become distant a few months before our baby was due and I saw the signs, would leave phone on silent, lost loads of weight, working out etc.

a week before our baby was due I found out he was having an ea with a co-worker. baby was born and he agreed to come back and cut all contact with her. When baby was 8 weeks old he decided he couldnt do it anymore feelings had changed ily but nilwy any more.

This left me heartbroken. I found ut the girls name, contact mutual friends, her parents and his parents yesterday and some work colleagues as I found out they were still seeing each other.

I did sleep with my husband a few times stupid I know. But before I found out they were seeing each other but we were seperated ( he moved in with parents) we were getting on I was trying to do 180 and he seemed to want to be around me more texting, cooking dinner, asking about what I was doing etc.

Last night things got bad, he reacted badly about me contacted her family etc. He now says he wants nothing more to do with me.

How do I handle this. Deep down I still love him so much even after all he has done. His behaviour is so out of character he was always the perfect husband, loving attentive, so excited about the birth of the baby and we have never had any issues before. Im pretty sure that there relationship hasnt become physical yet but they have kissed.

Im so lost

Accusations of cheating

I would really appreciate some help. This question is regarding my parents, not myself. My parents have been married for almost 27 years and they have been happy for the most part. My father is 51 and my mother is 50. Recently, my parents have really started to argue almost constantly.

Last night my father returned from a business meeting around 7:00 pm and my mother started yelling at him at the top of her lungs asking him where he was and who he was with. Apparently she has his email address and was looking through his emails and found one from a female customer that asked him where the meeting was going to be today. My mother knew that he had a meeting to go to with multiple customers and that is why she started snooping. She started calling him a cheating pig and she truly believes that every woman in the workplace is a ****.

They have these types of fights regularly (at least once per week). This time my mother went too far. She called the wife of the man that he was going to a meeting with and asked her if she knew who her husband and my father was with (the woman that emailed my dad). The husband of the lady that she called is my dad's biggest customer and after his wife called him he became infuriated. (Apparently she found his business card and his wife manages his office). At this point my dad might lose his job and he plans of divorcing my mom. (He told me after I was awoken to them fighting at 3:00 am. We took a drive and he basically broke down to me insisting that he didn't cheat and he didn't know why my mom was doing this).

I should also note that I have two younger sisters (12 and 15) living in the house with us and it's not right that they have to hear this. Also, my mother is extremely overprotective of all of us. When I was in high school she would follow us (me and my friend that picked me up) on our way to school everyday. She would also follow me to the park and yell out the window when I met with my friends telling us that we better not be using drugs or she would call the police (none of us even used drugs).

Lastly, my father has been hospitalized before because her accusations and arguing almost gave him a stroke. She is constantly going through his phone and emails (even though she has never found proof of him cheating), she will go through all of our bedrooms and look for imaginary drugs and alcohol that she thinks were hiding, and she has cancelled everyone's cell phone (besides mine, I have my own plan that I pay for). This has really gotten insane and is starting to effect me psychologically.

Is there anything that I can do to stop this? I'm moving out in a month and the only reason I have stayed at home until 21 is because I was worried that she might hurt my father or my little sisters. My dad plans on divorcing her, and I would like to know how I can have the girls taken from her. She is unemployed and has no skills, she could not provide for my sisters if her life depended on it. She has no one to turn to because her insanity drove all her friends away and her own family wants nothing to do with her.

What can I do? Any help? I really would be hurt if something happened to any of my family members because of her insanity.

Envy and jealous of my own wife!

I envy my wife because she turned into a worship leader of our church, and i'm the guitar player. Now i'm jealous because everybody see her singing, her ministry and i just play guitar. I dont know what to do anymore, don't know if i talk to my pastor (maybe he can thing wrong things about me). I have strong issues with low self esteem, that's why i envy her.
WHat do you think i can do instead of praying to GOd help me with this problem?

Know what I want, but hesitate to destroy kids

I've been married for 7 1/2 years. We rushed into getting married because of ongoing custody issues with his ex-wife (we were living together, but he couldn't have the kids and me at the house at the same time. I got tired of leaving every weekend for a hotel or out of town, so we "eloped" to the court house). While the 7 years haven't all been bad, the bad outweighs the good. About 3 months into the marriage, I went on an out of town trip, and found a chat session with another woman, which consisted of an exchange of nude pictures as well as the last line with directions to our house. He insisted she didn't come over, and I chose to move past it for the sake of the kids.

Fast forward a few years, and we did get full custody of the kids (mother lives out of the state - hasn't seen them in over 2 years, and only a couple times a year before that). I have caught him having conversations with other women multiple times. But, as I am the one to support the kids (at this point, I believe them to be my own in my heart), I've never been able to end it. Over the last 6 months to a year, it has gotten worse. I am now paying 90% of the bills, and almost everything related to the kids. I don't know where all his money goes (we keep our finances extremely separate), but he is always broke. He comes home late every night (gym trips take upwards of 3 hours) and does next to nothing to help around the house. I am responsible for all things related to the kids, the house, bills, everything.

I am almost positive he is yet again with someone else, but honestly do not care enough to bother checking. We mostly sleep in separate rooms, unless he has an "urge", and comes into our bedroom. If I have any health issues, I still don't get any support or help. But, I have never been able to adopt the kids, so I know that legally I have no rights over them. If we were to divorce, I have no hope of getting any type of custody, and I know that he will not support them or be there for them the way they need and deserve. I keep counting down the years until they are out of high school (5 more to go) and I can escape. It feels like a prison sentence at this point - with no hope of parole. But, I know that I can never leave my kids. However, I am so unhappy all the time, I also don't know how much longer I can continue. Any happiness I have occurs when its just me and the kids or if I'm away for work. I can feel myself getting depressed when he walks in the door. Weekends are intolerable if there are no sports or activities for the kids, because I don't want to be around him. At the same time, we rarely fight, and almost live as cold roommates. It's not healthy and not the relationship example I want for the kids, but not disruptive either.

What options do I have?

Finding a girlfriend on facebook?

Is it possible to find a girlfriend on facebook?

I want to find a girlfriend online. I have had a look on a few dating websites (e.g. Plentyoffish) and they don't really appeal to me. Most of the girls on there are not the most attractive looks-wise (no offence to anyone who happens to be on there) and it is hard to tell if they are genuine or fake profiles.

At least with facebook profiles are much more likely to be genuine, but facebook seems to be more geared towards staying in touch with people you already know as opposed to meeting new people, which is a problem.

Do I have a chance with this girl now? What do I do next?

I really like this girl at university. She, and a lot of our common friends know as well. The thing is, we have only known each other for three weeks and have not had much one-on-one interaction since we all live together and so it's normally interaction in a group, even when we go out together.
Anyway, I decided that I was going to tell her how I felt yesterday and told that to her roommate who is a good friend of mine. Her roommate then went and told her that I'm probably going to tell her I like her today.
Anyway, I met her roommate in the night to talk about this. She said that her reply to that had been 'I don't not like him, but I can't reciprocate at this point because I don't know him well enough'.
So what should I do? Try to get to know her better? How?

How to get her?

I saw a pretty girl in the club last night. She is so hot that I really want to buy her a drink, but I am not a brave man to do that. So what can I do when next time I saw another hot girl? I don't want to be a coward anymore...

Boy likes girl likes boy back but that's it....

So I like this boy in my dorm, and I know for a fact that he likes me. He asked me for my number and we've texting everyday for like 3-4 weeks. They're definitely flirty texts, and calls me sweetie or cutie sometimes and says the sweetest things and I tell him so, etc. We're both pretty busy, but we'll do homework together or stay up late talking. We make "plans" but they never happen. He has a bunch of movies that he wants me to watch and so we're supposed to have a movie night, but he's never asked me when I'm free or suggested hanging out outside of the dorm at all. But I'll ask him what he's doing sometimes and he'll be hanging out with friends... It's so obvious that we like each other but hy won't he ask me out on a date?

I found that I'm a bisexual recently...

I had a girlfriend now, but my best dude said he love me so much last week, and I unexpectedly did not refuse him then...I'm so confused now. Could anybody tell me what should I do?

My brother want to win a girl's heart what can he do?

My bother is a shy boy, he don't know how to chat or make a conversation with other girls. But now he fall in love with a girl that set next to him, she always help my brother when he needs help and try to chat with him. Although my brother want to reply her question and have a nice chat with her, but he is too shy to do it. He want to let her know he is care about and want to win her heart:$, what can he do? :)

small talk

Hi, everyone. I'm an Asian. My teacher told me that people in English-speaking countries usually make small talks wherever they are, such as a bus stop, a movie theater(especially when people are waiting in line), a bookstore...etc. Could you please tell me what kind of topics you usually make when it comes to a small talk? Thanks!:)

Long Distance Relationships At University

So basically I wanted to know if any long distance relationships work at uni , Ive been with my girlfriend for a year and when we start uni in September it will be almost 2 years. We've been through a lot and have a strong relationship but im really worried about uni. We're both from London but plan to go uni outside of London. Any tips?

Please help - Rel'p with neice ended by her mother not invited to my Birthday party

I have been a mentor to a young girl for 10 years, since she was 4. We are the best of friends. (It's an Australian equivalent to Big Brother/Big Sister). My relationship with her mother has always been challenging ~ she is very reactive & emotional, flies off the handle, takes things personally, very intense. I made the decision NOT to invite her to my 50th birthday party. For once, I was thinking about me....my rationalization was that I needed to be able to relax at my own party and when...

Absolutely Floored!!!

Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that one day...44 years later...that someone from my past would ask, "Are you by any chance (insert first name w/maiden name) from (state)?" But, it happened a few days ago and shortly after I replied, I began to think about this person's name. I didn't recognize their last name, so I jogged my memory upon their first name. A few minutes later I'm like, OMG! in realizing there was only ONE possibility who this person might be. Sure enough,...

She has a very "colourful" past.

Hi everyone, I met K, who was 20 at the time while working in a shopping centre, she was with another guy who was emotionally abusive and was depressed and a drug addict. I grew attracted to K and her for me and after a few months she left him for me, our first date was Christmas Day 2011, there was a lot of tension between us from the start and our relationship progressed quickly and after 2 months she moved in with me after losing her place in the house she was renting with friends. This...

Devyn Rose "Pieces" Music Video

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I want to know if there is still future for us

I know her for 3 and a half years. She is very beautiful and successful, may be way out of my lead. We had a close relation for about a year and a half, emotionally and sexually. The last 2 years we had no sex, no closeness, but we still continue to be friends. We haven't broke up, we just changed the status of our relationship, actually she changed. For a half of year she had some health problems and we could not have sex. But then we continued our life without sex. These 2 years we talk every day, we see each other as often as before,but we have no sex, no kissing, no touching. She say i'm the closest person to her and she misses me even when she don't see me for 1 or 2 days. She's gelous when see other ladies.
Recently i found out that during these 2 years she had two secret sexual relations of about 3 months with 2 guys. She told me that. She was very scared that i will leave her after that. She don't see those guys anymore. She do not really care...

Please help - Rel'p with neice ended by her mother not invited to my Birthday party

I have been a mentor to a young girl for 10 years, since she was 4. We are the best of friends. (It's an Australian equivalent to Big Brother/Big Sister). My relationship with her mother has always been challenging ~ she is very reactive & emotional, flies off the handle, takes things personally, very intense. I made the decision NOT to invite her to my 50th birthday party. For once, I was thinking about me....my rationalization was that I needed to be able to relax at my own party and when...

Absolutely Floored!!!

Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined that one day...44 years later...that someone from my past would ask, "Are you by any chance (insert first name w/maiden name) from (state)?" But, it happened a few days ago and shortly after I replied, I began to think about this person's name. I didn't recognize their last name, so I jogged my memory upon their first name. A few minutes later I'm like, OMG! in realizing there was only ONE possibility who this person might be. Sure enough,...

She has a very "colourful" past.

Hi everyone, I met K, who was 20 at the time while working in a shopping centre, she was with another guy who was emotionally abusive and was depressed and a drug addict. I grew attracted to K and her for me and after a few months she left him for me, our first date was Christmas Day 2011, there was a lot of tension between us from the start and our relationship progressed quickly and after 2 months she moved in with me after losing her place in the house she was renting with friends. This...

Game, Signals, or Genuinely Apathetic?

So I met this girl about 2 months ago at a volunteering thing for a race, through a mutual friend. I broke the ice, got her number, and things were going great.

I texted her the day after and we went to a few soccer practices and games...Thats how I got her number, I needed girls for my coed soccer team, and she played so I invited her.

After about 2 weeks, I started flirting a good bit, and she reciprocated equally. She would initiate conversations, and we talked for many hours, many days of the week. In about 3 weeks she had come over for an unofficial date, just hanging out. We watched a movie, and cuddled a little. A good night. We had another unofficial date about a week later with alcohol, movie, talking, and a whole lot of snuggling. We had our first kiss that night.

After that night I texted her for about a period of 4 weeks, and had not one response. Strange after such a great night... After a month, I heard from her. She said she had been grounded....Im not sure if I buy it. Why would she just stop all that chemistry after seeing what we had? I know she had just as much fun as I.

Now when I text her, she barely responds, and if she does, its maybe one time. She never initiates conversation and is very distant. She isnt busy with friends, but is busy with work. I know I was a big part of her social life when we were dating, so why would she throw that away?

I've pretty much moved on, but I'd love to salvage the relationship if it makes any sense to do so...depends on why she's acting this way

We have a ton in common, and are very compatible. I'd hate to see it go to waste.

How can I convince my girlfriend to poop less?

Every morning like clockwork when my girlfriend and i get out of bed, goes to the bathroom to take her dump before heading off to work and then it seems like right after we eat dinner she does the same thing predictably.

Unfortunately this is REALLY a turn-off for me as the smell is pretty nasty after she does her business.

She takes a dump twice a day and I tell her that she ought to find a way to only have to go once every two days as that would be much better for me to deal with.

She gets defensive and upset when i mention this but i am totally convinced that it isn't really necessary for her to have a bowel movement twice a day and that her mind is playing tricks on her.

I think t she would be fine if instead she went twice each week or even once per week which i could deal with a lot more easily.

Thoughts?



Any suggestions on how to convince my GF to poop less often?

Do i make a move at the christmas party...with her ex there!?

So i'll try not drag this out too much but there's this girl at my work who I've liked for the last 7-8 months and with the Christmas party this Saturday i'm hoping to make my feelings known.....

The background - So I got to know this girl at work and we exchanged numbers....a little while later we admitted we liked each other a few months. We had 1 kiss back in the summer but it never went any further because basically the timing was all wrong for her as she had only been single for a few months so I left it there.
Now we kept in touch (although we work for the same company, we work in different ends of a rather big office) and there was always an odd flash here and there that she still had a soft spot for me and recently it seems she may be interested again. I say this because she walks passed my desk everyday and everyday she says a nice 'good morning' when she comes in and a nice 'see you later' when she goes home, both are said with a nice little smile on her face. You're probs thinking this doesn't mean anything, but honestly she's a fairly shy quiet girl (most of the time) so for her to say this, it's actually quite a big thing.
Also when it looks like i'm having a tough day at my desk she always sends an e-mail checking that i'm okay which nice and actually give me a little cheesy grin.
So last week I got rather drunk one night when i was actually off work unwell (i wasn't sick but i had to take a few days off for anther reason) and I texted her saying something like 'Heeeey!' and she came back and asked if I felt any better and being drunk I completely ignored her question......and I asked her if she loved me (I hear the sigh's but don't worry!), luckily for she found it quite funny and thought i was just in an odd mood. She wouldn't answer me because i didn't answer her question. Anyways this went back and fourth a few times and because i was close to passing out I told her I loved her instead and said good night! She came back that with 'you really are in a strange mood tonight aren't you!?' Christ knows how she didn't work out I was drunk but by this time I had passed out and was fast asleep. Next morning I had the 'oh jesus i didn't really say that did i....oh yes i did' thoughts come in to my head but I thought i'd just leave it there and not respond to her last message.
So a few hours later I was shocked to find that she actually messaged me and asked me how I was feeling. I counted my lucky stars that I hadn't completely blown it and we carried on texting for the next few days up until last weekend. It seemed like we were back to how we was in the summer and I was thinking that maybe something was about to happen.

But there's a couple of issues.

1. Like I said this was before the weekend but since then she's gone a little quiet. The weekend there was no contact and i thought i should maybe give her a little break waited until I saw her in work on monday before communicating with her. She didn't seem her normal self yesterday so I thought i'd be the one to ask if she was okay and sent her an e-mail. She came back with an unhappy face but she said that she was okay. I told her that I didn't believe her (in a joking kind of way) and she didn't respond. I thought maybe that she was message me in the evening by nothing came through. The next day (today) she seemed like she was back to normal and offered to make me a cup of tea to which I accepted! I asked her if she had cheered up and she said that she did feel better to which i said 'see i didn't think you were your normal self!'. She just turned around and said that she was tired as she walked away smiling.
She made me another tea in the afternoon but i dunno she just seemed a bit different these past few days and that maybe she is slightly less interested if i'm honest.

2. My second problem is that her ex works for my company and he is also going to the Christmas party. Now he's actually a nice guy, not exactly a friend of mine but nevertheless a decent bloke who I speak to maybe once or twice a day in passing. Now I think he may want her back but i'm 99% sure the feeling is not mutual. I know she cares about him as she was with him for 5 years but she mentioned to me last week that she was slightly worried about the Christmas party and she hinted to me that it was basically because he was going to be there.
Now I go out quite a lot with my work pals but for some reason me and this girl have never been out at the same time where we were both drinking (one time I was driving and had to leave early and another time where i was drinking and she was driving which was when we kissed) and for once we'll be in the same place where drink will be flowing. My work pals (one who is my best mate) reckons something will happen between us at the Xmas party. In fact she told me last week that she was very much looking forward to seeing me in my tux which gave me a little bit of confidence.


So the Xmas Party is Saturday and there's a big part of me that hopes that I just get 1 opportunity to in a way say to her how I feel. If I don't get this opportunity then I can see this rumbling on longer and longer because we are both very shy people. With a few drinks inside me, i transform into a very confident person and usually says exactly how feel!

So guys, i just need some advise!? As it's Christmas (well nearly!), should I just go for it and see what happens or should I pass because the ex will be there and it may be slightly awkward for her? I'm sure there is something there and she is such a lovely, beautiful person. :)

Decisions decisions!

Practically living together

I started dating my current girlfriend back in March. This is my first serious relationship in 7 years; my last was in college. I've had flings, hookups, and the like in the interim. I'm 29, she's 26.

About a month ago, my roommate moved out and I've decided to live alone. Now that my roommate is gone, she's over ALL the time. I'm talking 6-7 nights a week. A lot of her stuff is at my place. I don't mind it when she's over, we have a great time for the most part. However, sometimes, I just want some "me" time. She's having a hard time understanding that. (Apparently many women don't understand this concept).

So in the past few days it's led to some pretty nasty fights. She interprets my "me" time as "You don't want me around" or "You don't love me". I've explained to her that I do love her, it's just that I've been single for 7 years and I'm adjusting to her being over all the time. I tell her I'm not ready to live with her yet. That eventually I will, but it's going to take some time.

Any other thoughts on what we should do? We want to make this work.

What if????

I have a post on another thread but it does not have the details of everything that happened but here is a brief summary.

I caught my wife sexting a relative and a good friend of mine. The friend lives in canada along with most of mine and her family members. I seen her sexting after she came back from a two months vacation in canada to be with her family that she didnt see for a long time. This happened over a year ago. Now believe me when I say after finding out I didnt just scorch the earth but I put multiple black holes in the milkey way and not all at once but multiple times over the past year. All sides of the family were on edge because of what I was putting everyone through. She has shown that she would put up with everything that I do and that she really wants to make this work.

Now I have accepted the fact that she had an EA with him and also that she was sexting him but one thing that cannot still get out of my mind is whether there was a PA during those two months she was in canada. She has denied any PA but I simply cannot trust her because she has lied multiple times through out this whole ordeal and only confessed to things I had hard evidence of. I know for a fact that she would never admit to this because I know that she knows if she ever admits to it that would end our relationship and everyone in this universe would also know about it.

She has givin into all my demands and is trying to be a perfect wife. Since I don't have any evidence of PA I feel that I should try to move on but the question "what IF she did?" Keeps haunting me and I don't know what to do.

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so last night I was a little disappointed again as fiance said or promised to give me a treat aka oral but alas again he didnt come through..I didnt say anything but he knew i was a little upset..well I said i wanted a treat like you promised and he said tomorrow night if Im not to tired meaning him not to tired..well this morning he is acting weird and distant he said I was mad at him..told him Im not mad at all..he said Ill give you a treat tonight if I dont fall asleep..Im worried he is not into me anymore..he promised thses so called treats but never doees it..Our sex life seems to have dropped of and Im worried..also frustrated...how to I fix this?

I think my relationship is dying...

I am terrified because I think my relationship is in the process of dying, and I don't know how to stop it. I can't afford MC right now. I may be losing my job.

Two months ago I wouldn't have written this, but these past months have been horrid. Few days have gone by without a crisis between us. He is really stressed out about work, really unhappy, so that's part of it. But he brings all that home and is also extremely controlling in, as someone here said, an unhealthy way. He's always controlling, but I think the work stress has made him worse.

At first I tried to talk through our crises, to work them out, but that infuriated him and he would run away (or actually drive away) for hours. I sought advice here, and people suggested I stop talking when he was clearly getting upset. So I did (I was surprisingly successful at that because I had so many opportunities to practice in short succession). So he hasn't had to run away anymore and things have been surface calmer (still many problems, I just don't engage anymore).

The problem is this: I'm feeling over the course of this that my heart is dying in my chest. I am exerting extreme control over my emotions to stay surface calm and not provoke him. Often I am choking down a lot of pain and frustration. I have little mantras in my head "Say nothing... say nothing" that I chant silently when trying to control myself.

I feel unsupported and unloved. I feel my needs are not being met. He can roll his eyes and tear into me about the way I'm cooking dinner but I can't tell him that he's making me feel disrespected. He can have a temper tantrum and throw something against a wall near my head, but I can't tell him how that makes me feel without provoking a worse temper tantrum. He can refuse to listen to my work crisis after I spent considerable time listening to his the night before (just before he blew up and threw something in the vicinity of my head).

The thing is... I think he's oblivious, actually. Right after blowing up about dinner he reverts to normal, and while I'm struggling to control my frustration at him he has forgotten about it. Right after throwing something near my head, he asked if I wanted to watch the TV news. Right after refusing to listen to me about my work crisis, he asked if I wanted to watch a funny video he had just seen.

I don't get it. The only thing I do know is that I'm really hurting, can't talk about it without him blowing up, and am starting to feel ... well nothing except a desire for self preservation. Tonight as I struggled to calm down and sleep after him refusing to listen to my work problem, I found myself reciting a new mantra: "I might lose my job... I might lose my job..." as in... I better not make him too angry because I don't want him to leave me because I need the combined income just now. :(

This is terrible. I feel horrible and ashamed about that mantra - but it's honestly what popped into my head...

I know he's going through a hard time, and I'm supposed to be strong for him. I need to be the better person, but it's killing something in me. Will that something grow again if... when... his stressors go away? I don't know.

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This is a recurring family issue that just puts everybody in a bad position...

My brother is an angry person, mostly at himself but he takes it out on everyone else. He's always got the need to manipulate situations for control and/or attention. About every 7-10 months or so, one of his adult tantrums (he's too cowardly to be truly violent... that I know) is focused on my husband and I, mostly my husband bc its a male/jealousy/can't take it out on the little sister thing.--Yes, he has more tantrums but he directs them elsewhere too.

He and I have a long history of not getting along, mostly him towards me-I'm generally non-confrontational. He's 9 yrs older and it took me until post-college to recognize the emotionally abusive cycle. He would get angry about something, then he would later play the protector, fun big brother role to make up for it. He can really switch on the lughead charm.

I tried to cut him out, especially after making death threats toward my husband some 7 yrs ago. I refused to talk to him or be in the same place... including family holidays. He enjoys that, he shows up wherever he wants unashamed of his behavior, and while I only refuse to act like everything's ok, he spreads it out as though I'm stuck up and I don't want to be a part of the family, that I don't care enough to be around and he does (which is easy enough when you don't have a job tying up your time)

Unfortunately this doesnt work because it's not just him and me. In the middle are my parents and my 2 nephews and niece (now 8,9, 10) who stay with them. I love my parents and the kids very much and I love to spend time with them. However, my parents refuse to be the types that give up on their child or to refuse family from their home. They have also relied on my brother for babysitting, as they both work.

So the new cycle is that when things are calm, we see my family more often, we get more involved in the kids lives (we're the only ones that they can have conversations with. They've got a lot of issues stemming from their mother and foster care, and my parents aren't the greatest at communicating/expressing feeling) We start developing a better relationship, and he gets jealous. Meanwhile, his relationship with them is deteriorating bc they're getting older and recognizing his anger and the oldest is beginning to ask about his drug use (he's been a pothead for yrs) So he finds something to be mad about, throws a tantrum so we don't come around as much, and therefore gets to strut around my parents house (we all don't live far from each other, them especially) claiming that we're never around, we don't know how to raise kids, we dont care as much about the family.

This last time, after we had the kids overnight and talked with them a bunch, he takes one thing out of the conversations that WE said and then gives my parents an earful, then sends my husband a text that there's a new rule, he's not allowed to be by the kids by himself, and that he better stay away for his own safety.

Of course I talked w my dad (the peacemaker) that this is a cycle, and that I know he can't control his 37 yr old, but that when this happens, I don't feel welcome at his home and can't come over. He knows my brother's an *******, but refuses to become "that parent"

So, we are all at a loss of what to do about my brother while still retaining a sense of dignity...:scratchhead:

Any advice? What would you do? Have you had a situation like mine?:confused:

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We've been married for almost 2 years, and we rushed in to a relationship and then marriage very quickly. Things were great for a while, and then we started having really serious problems.

For one thing, I've always had a problem with drinking. At times I managed to keep it relatively under control, but I'm an alcoholic. She sort of just excused that for a while, but eventually it got on her nerves.

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I hate messy spaces, I feel really anxious when my house is dirty, I get highly agitated, it's just really bad for me. So I started constantly nagging her about housework she had agreed on doing, really getting overly pushy about it and rather mean. I threatened divorce repeatedly and said that I shouldn't have to be responsible for all of the work, that we needed to each do our part. This would cause huge fights where lots of other issue would get brought up and eventually... I became abusive. Not punching or beating sort of thing (I'm not attempting to minimize, just clarify), but I grabbed her inappropriately or shoved her on multiple occasions. This would happen, then I would apologize and she would say that it was fine and it would all be ok. Time would pass and it wouldn't happen for a while, but then again it would.

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I've started AA (I really do want to quit drinking), I'm going to see the therapist (same one as the couples counselling) on my own, and we have more counselling appointments coming up. I'm willing to do just about anything to save the marriage.
Suddenly she's started saying she thinks that maybe our personalities are just incompatible and that we bring out the worst in each other. I don't think that's true. I think I have a terribly destructive anger problem and I need help. She says "You're also bipolar and what if you can never get it under control". I'm willing to go to whatever length I need to. I know I may need a change in medication,or even to go to a program of some sort to help people who are abusive and want to stop.

Sometimes she says she's willing to save it, then sometimes she says she's not sure.

Separation is impossible for us for financial reasons, and also because her family is very conservative religious and would badger her about it and she would have to tell them why. Once that happens I will be outcast from her family and never permitted to be be involved again, and she's very involved with her family. It would be a deal breaker for both of us.

To add another element she began talking to an ex of hers online that she hadn't spoken to in a few years. The conversations became inappropriate, I found out about it and asked for her to stop talking to him because she obviously still had some feelings for him and that wasn't healthy for us.
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I'm really uncomfortable with her continuing contact since she already broke trust and initiated the inappropriate conversations. She says that he used to be one of her best friends and he's helped her through things and she needs support, and that my wanting her to not contact him is me attempting to control her. She has lots of guy friends online and in real life, and none of that bothers me or has ever bothered me.

I don't know what to do. I want to save this, but I know I really was the one who caused it to be broken.

She says it doesn't matter what she's done because I was abusive. I tell her that I know how awful that was and that I will never do it again and am actively getting help specifically for that issue, but that when something comes up and I say "This is bad, come on don't do that" it isn't good to say "You did bad things, I get to do my bad things now".

She says she's willing to try most of the time. It's just whenever I bring up something negative on her end she immediately switches to "Maybe this is just too broken".
We both admit that we really love each other, that we're very attracted to each other, we still even have sex regularly throughout this.

Is a marriage ever just too broken to fix if both parties are willing to try?

I'm so confused and scared. I really want to not only get help and get better, but save this at the same time.

I know this is long and sort of disjointed, I just wanted to try to get all these thoughts down.

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Hi this is my 2nd thread...I deleted 1st...a quick storyline...together 13yrs married 4, son approx 1.5yrs. Were about 30 yrs old together since h.s. in early Aug I got the ILYBINILWY speech...n that were changing as people...Red flag in my book. She also has had other red flags weight loss phone secrecy, etc. It seemed okafter the talk however, I was suspecting a EA.

In late Oct she told me that we were done....Same type of story. We've changed as people. I'm not "in love" etc. Upon checking phone records I noticed that right before both talks she texts a gentleman from her work for a extremely long time. 6hrs, 7.5hrs. Anyways, after a week of space based on the 180 routine. She reconciled with me. (There was no move out or anything just mostly no emotion from her during the week period) also during that week she was a master phone guardian and was texting this guy from work daily...very limited in messages though (6-10/day) a week after the reconcile, she was telling me that her mom was sleeping over as she needed a,ride to work in the am. I smelled bulli**** and I caught her going out w/o her telling me. (I work nights) anyways the gentleman that she was texting picked her up n they went to another coworkers house to hang wit 1-3 other coworkers. I know this is true. when I came home from work at approx 4am she was sleeping on our couch (the date is now currently our wedding anniversary to add salt on the wound) I set flowers up and I went to kiss her n tell her happy anniversary before I went to sleep. She reeked of alcohol. I woke her up and I said happy anniversary n kissed her. She started kissing me very passionately n sloppy. I started rubbing her around n told her let's go in the bedroom before our son wakes up...she kept telling me no we can't but still kissing me the same I asked again n she said she cant right now. I asked why.she looked me dead in the eyes and told me that (verbatim), "NO, WE CAN'T RIGHT NOW....*MY NAME* WILL BE HOME FROM WORK SOON." then she gave me a kiss n closed her eyes again. At that point I knew it was a PA she was so drunk she mistook me for the OM. Also, 3 days before our second talk she was at a Halloween party with the coworkers n he was also there. I ended up getting mad n picked her up at almost 415 am from this party.

After she mentioned the we can't have sex cuz I'm coming home thing I installed a program on her cell that sends me all records of everything done on it. And the very next day she received a text from his that stated,

" Have fun at work! I hope youre not disappointed with me..i just feel morally terrible about the situation."

I'VE been trying to analyze that message for almost a month now. Keep in mind it was technically our anniversary. While she was out, I texted her happy anniversary at 12 and a anniversary cheesy photo around 1am. I also made a fb post as well. I think that my wife tried to advance on the OM but he turned her down due to my texts he was most likely reading. I poked at it talkin to wife but she's being stonewall Jackson.... Obviously. She doesn't know about me knowing about the phone records or the text I read. Like I stated earlier its been almost a month and there has been no-contact on the phone between them. Also, since the night I caught her out (anniversary am) her attitude towards me completely 180ed...always saying I love u etc, things she used to never do. I think that its because she's remorseful and she also feels rejected from the OM. From a home standpoint, its 10x better but, because of the information I know it feels fake.

Next Fri I know where the OM will be. I'm debating confronting him about it. Based on his text.. it seems like he may be more likely to crack. My problem is idk if I should just not do anything at this point as I strongly believe whatever it was it is over....or should I confront him n get the info. Im terrified that if I expose my wifes lie that well divorce n I'll lose my son. I'm debating staying unhappy to live a life with my son. If my wife would just come out n tell me the truth, I would push it aside n move on. The fact that she's trying to sweep it under the rug is the part leaving me angry upset n irritable on the inside.

At this point what am I suppose to do and what do u think in reguards to the text message he sent. Please help me.

As far as my opinion I believe that my wife was in a EA wit the coworker....they screwed around at the Halloween party n most likely had sex as well. He probably led her on which in turn caused her to tell me we were through. The second time they hung out (the night I caught her sneaking out) he refused her n probably told her he thought it was a one night stand. The rejection has caused her to 180 at me emotionally because she feels remorseful as well as rejected at the same time.

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