I have love addiction problems, can't stop staring at women.

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I have love addiction problems, can't stop staring at women.

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• 4 hours ago 4h ago

Hi.


Got a massive problem. I'm 23 and male with a lot of sexual shame. I seem to have a lot of love addiction problems and especially a strong need of approval from beautiful women. I'm still a virgin and seriously considering paying for it. I feel a lot of shame in wanting to ask women out and sleep with them because everyone thinks i'm a nerd who will never deserve a woman or love

I can't get past secondary school and all the negative **** that happened to me. I'm working on forgiving all the people who ruined that experience for me. It's easy at times and hard during others.

There's a girl i work with who i think likes me, she's really hot and all the guys in the office fancy her but i'm not sure if i have the guts to ask her out because everyone thinks they're so much better than me and that i'm not worthy of her love. We've spent a bit of time with each other at work and i think i'm falling for her. I don't really know what to do.

Our job requires a lot of guts and i can do that but when it comes to women, then i just can't do it. I'm considering seeing a sex therapist because it's extremely abnormal for a young, healthy male like myself to be having this much trouble with my sexuality. I feel like i do not deserve to have somebody who will love me.

I spend every day constantly trying to prove myself to other people that i'm worthy of love. Its so exhausting because everyone seems like i bother them with my presence or something.

What can i do??

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Girl I like in a bad relationshiip

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Girl I like in a bad relationshiip

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Hi

So as the title states I'm in a bit of a predicament. I've been texting this girl for about 6 months now. For about two months of them I didn't know she had a boyfriend and we spoke quite intimately (sexting and phone sex) I then fine out she has a boyfriend, she lied to me saying she was single for months. She said her reasons for doing so is because her boyfriend didnt make her feel liked and I did and she liked that. We almost met a few times.

We then decide to be friends but it doesn't work, we end up being more, this happens a few times and she says she prefers me to her boyfriend but "it's hard because she's been in a relationship with him for 5 years"

She's perseistently lied to me about things to make me dislike her in an attempt to make me go off her but I don't, I'm always thinking about her and love talking to her and want to meet her despite all this but a part of me wants to get out of there because of what she's done.

She says now she only likes me as a friend but my gut tells me that's not the case and she says "she doesn't know until we meet".

She's sent me pics that she shouldn't of and blames me for their relationship being a mess. Is it my place to tell him all that's happened and what the hell do I do because I like her more than I should.

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Anonymous POLL - Would you cheat on your partner if you had a GOOD reason?

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Anonymous POLL - Would you cheat on your partner if you had a GOOD reason?

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The reason could be anything... I couldn't care less...

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Dating ... Islam

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Dating ... Islam

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Out of curiosity why is dating haram in islam..mlike what if u date but dnt do any 'haram' things

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legal impairment: Consent for marriage but no consent for intimacy

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legal impairment: Consent for marriage but no consent for intimacy

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• 12 hours ago 12h ago

i read somewhere you are legal to marry in England at the age of 16/17 min

shouldnt there be consent for sex at 13

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Simran1996 im in love with you.

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Simran1996 im in love with you.

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Simran i am completely in love with you, there is nothing i want more to be inside of you. Your presence is so heart warming and everything you say is perfect. You dont know how beautiful you are, yes you are fiesty but that only makes you sexier. That red devilish hair makes me want to sin all over. Please be with me forever simran.

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Chemical or Chemistry Issues?

Hey Folks,

I havent posted on here in a while, but I have before on some issues i've been having in the past.

One of the current issues is sex in my marriage. We have been married 17 years(im 38 and she is 40), two kids. We never really had a "wild" sex life or anything. Even when we were newly married, we would have sex a few times a month.

Anyway, i've been more vocal about things in my marriage that have been aggrivating me and there has been some improvement in that area from my wife. But, the sex part, is kind of sliding downhill. She is becoming more interested and I am becoming even less interested. She is definately thin/pretty/etc and I am in good "used" condition - but not as athletic/etc as she is.

Anyway, for years I've been able to gloss over things that have driven me crazy, and only recently started to discuss those things (over the last year) and there has been improvement.

But, the sex stuff, much harder for me to gloss over and play nice, when i really kinda don't want to play?

So i started exploring some other options, like my BP medication I was on. we changed that, no real difference. Then I started going down other roads. My dr. gave me a viagra prescription - gah! i took 1/2 of a pill once, a few weeks ago. maybe noticed some difference? then had a testosterone test recently and it came back with a reading of 283 and they say normal range was 300-650. So he gave me a prescription for androgel.

Now....comes the real dilema. I don't think i have any "LowT" symptoms. Maybe reduced sex drive and an "iffy stiffy" but nothing else. I wonder if we are just not a good chemistry match anymore? I don't like the way she kisses and just the whole interaction seems a bit more forced than it should be....so I am weighing....do I take this Androgel stuff that I really don't think I need to see if I can chemically induce "sexy fun" or....well...i don't know what the "or" is. We did some couples counsling earlier this year, i've thought about leaving for other reasons, but those two 10 year old kids we have....I'd really like to not upset them. My father says, wait 8 more years or 6, kids will be older - then it might be different?

Basically, my main issue now is do I add this powerful chemical into the mix (androgel) to try to compensate for what may really be waning/falling-out-of attraction in my marriage? :scratchhead:

any thoughts would be appreciated

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Are you hopeful of any future marriages/relationships?

Has your divorce made you a cynic?

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Would you give this woman another chance?

I would love to know how you would see my situation with my ex. I feel so torn.

Here's what happened:

1. We had a very rough long distance marriage (me in Vancouver, and her in San Jose) that lasted 2 years before I ended it with her. The main problem was that she continually, angrily resisted moving to Vancouver to be with me, even though that was our plan.

2. About a year into it, thanks to advice that I got from this great forum (thanks guys!), I tried being more firm and setting clearer expectations and boundaries. This had mixed results.

3. I began suspecting that she was being unfaithful, and I got paranoid about it. I couldn't afford a PI but I did some digital sleuthing I don't feel good about having done that, by the way. I remember feeling that I wished I would find something incriminating, because this would give me an honorable way to bow out. (Sick, I know.) I found the following:

a. She had quite a few encounters, and many conversations, with a guy (let's call him "Guy A"). There was a text from her to a friend of hers saying "I'm in love with Guy A, what do I do?". I know she went to his house for dinner several times. I know that at least once, she stayed over at his place - this was after a music festival, possibly with her cousin also being there. Also, she changed his name on her phone contact list.

b. Another guy ("Guy B") is an older gentleman, a mentor of hers that I have known about forever but, unlike Guy A, I didn't suspect anything. She tried to arrange to meet Guy B in two foreign places (one where she went for a wedding and another for work). She also sent him a very... intimate picture, after he requested it, and a very suggestive text that basically was an invitation fondle her, um, above-the-waist intimate parts. I don't think they actually got together or did anything.

c. She said to various people that she was not in love anymore, doubtful about the marriage, didn't want to live where I lived, etc. She also talked about how she had to make a 'decision', i.e., a decision about whether to leave me or not.

4. When I found all of this I thought long and hard about it all, and finally decided I had to put an end to it. After seeing what I saw, I was certain it would be mutual. I packed all her things into boxes and booked myself a roundtrip, same day flight to end it. Much to my surprise, she tried very hard to talk me out of it. For each thing that I mentioned I knew about or saw, she said there was an explanation - e.g. she didn't mean it, she was confused, etc., let's work on it, etc. I told her I made my decision, and the best I could do was think about it for a few days. She tried to get me stay overnight but I wouldn't.

5. Fast forward 9 months. It looks like our breakup genuinely was a traumatic and life-changing event for her.

a. She has sent letters, flowers, gifts etc. For the first few months it was continuous but I didn't reply or respond and so it quieted down. She flew up 3 times to try to talk me out of it.

b. She says she was wrong about not wanting to live here, she was torn and confused etc., trying to please both me and her family, which she now sees was a mistake (for context - she works for her family business in San Jose). She says if I take her back she will immediately move here to be with me, and forever will live anywhere I want.

c. She has been in therapy, working with 3 therapists, working on herself and the issues that she now says she sees drove her to behave badly. She also has taken up meditation and kundalini yoga, which she says has changed her profoundly.

d. Finally she said she was coming up here and she would really like to meet with me and talk. I relented and saw her 3 times, to hear her out. I tried very hard to gauge whether she is being genuine and whether I can trust her. I have to say that she seems to really have had a personal transformation of sorts. She was listening, and empathetic, and seemed genuinely remorseful. She asked again and again for me to give her a chance. I initially said no and then I said I could think it over and I need a week or so.

e. It's been a week. I am really torn. I still love her but I am deeply afraid that if I give her this chance, things will be the same as before, except that somehow I will now be trapped.

6. I should add that in addition to our problems that I've brought to this forum, we had many great times together, excellent chemistry, and shared interests, and she generally has a lovely personality.

I feel guilty and I love her, and I care about keeping my commitments especially in this context. If somehow we could get past our incredibly rough start, and be happy together, that would be a dream for me. But the odds seem to be badly against it working out, and I really don't want to go through the heartache and disappointment and guilt of breaking up again.

Would you give this woman a chance?

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I'm jaded

Divorce was finalized in December after he cheated on me several times. Unfortunately it left me cynical towards relationships. I'm now that bitter b*tch that I used to look down on. I'll be out in public and see a happy couple and think "He's probably cheating on her." I attempted to go out on a date in May and the whole time we talked I was thinking about whether he had skeletons in his closet or not. I'm messed up and tired of being bitter and angry. I used to be the most trusting person but now I'm scared to death. I'd like to get married again and have someone but I'm terrified. I hear stories from men who cheat and their wives don't know which made me realize that it's a lot more common than I think. How can I ever trust again? I can't live this way and don't want to be that hateful old woman who doesn't have anybody. I need help. How do I heal and learn to have faith in people again?

And yes, I'm aware that I'm only 26 and have a long life ahead of me. Doesn't make it any easier and "you're only 26" will turn into 36 then 46....life is too short. Is this something I'll get over or am I ruined?

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How long would you stay with this man?

Women, how long would you stay with a husband:
1. Is in his 4th bankruptcy which is about to be dismissed and the house will be taken.
2. Even though he works full time, has not had enough money the past two weeks to buy groceries.
3. Had utilities cutoff twice due to non payment.
4. Only one car he uses to drive to work and you have no transportation to shop, see friends, etc.
5. 74 years old but in his defense looks to be in his fifties.
6. Is overweight.
7. Does not have a drug or alcohol problem
8. Very little time spent together.
9. Always need to use some of your money to buy groceries.
10. Owes you thousands of dollars borrowed years ago.
11. Bank account is overdrawn until July 31 payday.
12. No evidence or signs of an affair.

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The Current State of CWI

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When did you take off your ring?

Assuming one was worn, when did you finally take it off?

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Staying friends with a girl when you still have feelings for her?

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Staying friends with a girl when you still have feelings for her?

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I met an amazing girl who was on my course in October in uni. We shared the same classes etc. We started talked and became friends. I thought she was great. I then asked her if she had a boyfriend. She said she did. I was disappointed because I really liked her. I then dropped the topic and didn't talk my feelings to her.

Anyway, a few months went by and we became more closer friends. We talked all the time. Then I felt my feelings beginning to develop again for her.

Just a little bit of background info about her boyfriend. He lives in another country. They have been together for the last 4years. It's a long distance relationship. She told her mum about him in September but her mum didn't like him and she told her to stop talking to him. She did stop talking to the guy, but then started talking again as she realised she really loves him. Obviously her family doesn't know she is talking to him now.
She has met the guy only once which was in September. The first time she met him, she was in her country, at a concert, and he came over and have her a piece of paper with his number on it. Anyway that's a bit of context for that.

Also her plan is to tell her family about him again in 2 years (when she finishes university). She believes she can convince them.

I indirectly told her about my feelings for her and she said:
She said u know I have a boyfriend, I love him very much. Etc.
That I shouldn't be selfish.
I said I'm sorry.

Anyway, then I said to her I don't want to ruin our friendship.
And then she said:

We can't be friends. And that I should delete her from Facebook.

After a few times of me apologising, she said that she is thinking of me, and that she doesn't want to see me sad

I said to her don't worry I won't be sad. I just want to be friends with u, I'm sorry etc.

Then she eventually she ok. She said don't talk about love etc. And that she loves her boyfriend very much.

I said yes ok I won't. Then I asked her are u angry with me? She said no, she is very sad.

Anyway the next day I messaged her again and apologised again.

She replied ok thank you.

Ok now we are talking again as normal.

I still have feelings for her, but I can't tell her about it again. I don't want to ruin our friendship.

So I just wanted some of your views on this.

I know some of you will say I am silly for still being friends with her. I know people say you can't be friends with someone you have feelings for but I don't know.

I don't know what to do. Unrequited love is the worst feeling ever.

It's currently the summer holidays so I haven't seen her for 2 months and I won't see her until October.

I know she loves somebody else and I should accept that but I am always thinking about her.

I really don't know what to do.

I could really use some constructive advice.

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How safe is craigslist?

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How safe is craigslist?

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Hey i'm a bi guy and looking for other guys to have casual sex encounters. I just wanted to know is the whole idea safe? Would love your opinion guys

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Doing Life With Those You Love

I recently introduced our child to one of my passions as a child, roller skating. What a joy!!! We went to the rink, Mother and Son singing, laughing, cutting up, dancing, being silly and teaching him to skate. And in just two days he is extending compassion to other fallen skaters, or skaters who are struggling...unexpected blessing and swells my heart with joy! Dad had to work today, but we are all going next week... FUN!!

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Wanted to crawl under the bed and die

This is just a vent, but maybe some ladies or fellows with wives will understand where I am coming from.

I just had a baby 2 months ago. I love being a mother and it has been a relatively easy adjustment for me. He is time consuming and a lot of my time is spent nursing, but I am off of work right now so that has helped a ton.

Tonight my mother, who lives in a different country, asked for a picture of me and my son. Of course, my husband snaps a photo of me holding our son and sends it to her. Well, I grabbed the phone and looked at the photo. My mouth dropped.

Who is that woman? OMG. I was horrified. Just two years ago when I met my husband, I looked so good. I have always taken really good care of myself, make up, nice hair, nice clothes. There I was, no make up, hair in a bun, frumpy night gown.

Anyway, as the title says, I wanted to crawl under the bed and die. I cried. In fact, writing this out I am still tearing up thinking about how bad I look. Am I the only one who has felt this way after kids?

I have to start trying to look better for myself. I just have no energy left by the time I take care of the baby, cook, clean, etc. Please tell me somebody relates to this!:(

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What would you do if someone proposed to you in public after six months?

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What would you do if someone proposed to you in public after six months?

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And when I say in public I mean he/she made a big thing about it in a restaurant or something. What would you do?

Bonus question- What if it'd only been a month?

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