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I'm self conscious about my breasts

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I'm 18 years old, and have 36D breasts. In a bra, they look quite nice, but out of one they're awful; they're quite "saggy", and the areola is large and only just darker than my natural skin colour. Although I've been intimate with people before, I've only once taken my bra off, and that was in the dark. I'm overweight at 5ft 4" and a dress size 14-16 (I don't know my weight), but I'm trying to address it. I do suffer with depression, but I'm on medication. Does the aesthetic look of the breast matter that much to men, or not? Any answers would be great :(

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Insecure after being cheated on previously!

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My ex cheated on me and I broke up immediately. Since then I'm extremely insecure when it comes to relationships. I've been with an amazing girl since.

I know not every girl cheats! But I can't help thinking my new GF will end up cheating on me too, leaving me helpless all over again!

What can I do to overcome this insecurity? Its so bad that my mood changes whenever I know she's going on a night out without me, coz I feel like she'll get extremely drunk and pull/sleep with strangers!

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Less than a day...

And I already miss him. This is worse than when we first separated 6 years ago. 6 years ago I believed he didn't love me anymore, but now I know a part of him still does, but not a big enough part to get back together. This hurts so much.
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How to take my mind off my boyfriend?

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I know the title may sound harsh but hear me out.

My boyfriend and I recently decided to spend some time apart and not text each other as we believe we're spending too much time together and too much time texting each other, which has been putting a strain on things as we often don't know what to say anymore most of the time.

What I want to know is, how do I stop thinking about him as, much though I love him, not being able to be with him or text him is really getting me down.

The main problem is, even before I met him, I didn't have any friends, so I'm on my own all the time when I'm not in class, so I don't exactly have anyone to hang out with to take my mind off things.

Please help. It's really getting me down and I have no idea what to do!

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in a relationship but exchange a glance with someone of the opposite sex...

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General question - anyone who's in a relationship... When you're out and about and exchange *more than* a glance with a hot member of the opposite (or same I guess - don't mean to exclude) sex - does it make you question things at any level? Or would you say it shouldn't effect a strong relationship?

I, a straight male with a gf of 3 years, would say I get looks from girls who are sexually more attractive than my gf. The grass is always greener and all that, but I can't shake the feeling, sometimes for a few hours, that at that moment i'd have liked to be single so I could pursue said girl... Thoughts?

I guess I'm gonna get slammed for this, but that would confirm something for me, so bring it on either way

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Need some advice from you lovely lot

Hey guys n gal

I've been recommended this board so please treat a newbie nice :) I am based in the UK so am not sure if the law is different between other countries but felt it important to state that.

Anyway, 3 1/2 months ago, after near 15 years together and near 10 years married, my wife hit me with a bombshell that she no longer loves me and wants to separate. She had spoken to her family and friends about her reasons but never the most important person... me..

I have my reasons why she says she has fallen out of love with me and if anyone would like to know I can put them down.

There is no one else involved.

Since February 10th, she has turned into a complete and utter lier and the things she has come out with to both friends and her solicitor are simply untrue and soul destroying.

Anyway, the question is, She walked out with the children without me knowing all within 30 minutes for no good reason.

We moved to the house before we were married, I put in £30k of my own money as way of deposit and it is ONLY my name on the deeds and ONLY my name on the mortgage.

I have always maintained that she is due some money either if I buy her out or if I sell the home.

I have today received a land registry act that basically means that she has a financial interest on the house.

She does not pay anything towards the house since she left on March 17th. This includes all the ongoing matrimonial bills that I am still paying. She is refusing to pay any maintenance for either the house or the 2 children. We split the children 4/3 days per week but she has them for an extra night each week hence why she got awarded the tax credits.

My question is, can she force me to sell the house? I know she is due a lump sum but as I can hardly afford to live here by myself as she is not paying any money towards the upkeep, this is the childrens security, their home that they know and love, their school is just round the corner as are their family and friends. Would the court take that into consideration or would the court just say tough... it needs to be sold?

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Why am I so bothered about my break up?!

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I'm 17 and she's 16, we broke up 3 months ago after being together for 11 months. It was going downhill for a while and it was pretty obvious we were heading for a break up, but it was still horrible when it happened (she ended it).

For a month or so afterwards it was bad but it got better to the point where I thought I was completely over it, but over the last few days it's come back and I keep thinking about her and everything that happened again. It probably doesn't help that I still see her around college every day.

I obviously liked her a lot, and I think I loved her (although I'm not sure now) but I specifically remember thinking "I can't see us staying together forever", so why is it still bothering me so long afterwards?

I've been reading through old messages (pathetic I know) and we seemed so happy and in love back then.

- we lost our virginity to each other
- she was my first girlfriend
- she has a new boyfriend and I see them together a lot
- we occasionally talk when we bump into each other

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Is my husband in love with his friend?

I have been with my husband for 8 years.

My husband has an online friend that he seems to care about very deeply but he has never actually met her in person. He left the screen open to his chat log with her, I read a message he had sent to her.

HIM:OH f**k it, I love you. Stay well and don't respond, I'd be so embarrassed though forgive me if I'm wrong but I think you feel the same way about me. drunken self says f**k my embarrassment, I love you and I'll love you forever. I'd like to make up a thousand excuses right now to make what I've said okay but...

She never did respond to him and she is in a relationship. I don't know what their conversations are usually like but I have read a few and I don't get the feeling she has any romantic interest in him.

He had sent me a message earlier in the day saying "I mean you no harm no disrespect. what I felt before I can feel no more. I sacrificed those feelings for you and I don't know what to do anymore." I asked him if that meant he didn't have feelings for me anymore and he said "No, those were just words."

Do I have anything to be worried about?


I don't have anyone I can talk to about this and I'm such a mess right now, I think my mind is my biggest enemy at the moment.

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Vibrators, Am I not enough?

She's gorgeous and insatiable getting off daily... often multiple times a day. Married 6 months and terrific sex life. So.... why does she continue to use vibrators and get off daily? When together I'm more than happy to satisfy her appetite for multiple O's whether it's Oral, using the vibrator or rocking her world until she's gasping for air and begging me to stop. ... So, I feel like she's not saving her passion for me when she's getting satisfied with her toy. She says it just makes her even more horny to have sex with me when I get home from work. She knows how I feel but insists "it's my body and I'll do what I want and stop monitoring my vibrator use.. it's none of your business". Am I out of line?

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Older Age And Your Health....

Nothing has shocked me as much as what our son and I have learned about older age health in the last 13 months...What started off as a burning in my husband's chest ended up escalating to many wrong and eventually right diagnosis...I'm not going to go through all the problems, however, I am going to mention what to and not to look for...

Maybe the reason for this post was our son who is management at a big company, today being approached by one of his staff who told him of a similar situation...He was shocked at what he said and heard...He told the man things that even he didn't know...And he had been doctoring for a few months with this...Oh, and the this man who told him this is 55 years old..

Maybe this will be read and maybe it won't...But, I do want to try...I will get back to this next week as like all Mothers I have a busy weekend...Thanks....

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My change is too late :(

I am heavily conflicted, after reading several books and seeing a therapist my thoughts and emotions go back and forth from one side to the other.

To start, I am guilty of cheating on my wife on multiple occasions by posting ads on craigslist and emailing with recipients in order to feel good about myself and receive validation and attention.

Initially this happened when we were dating, and then she found out and the standard result ensued, she was upset, I said I was sorry and would not do it again. (At the time I felt like I would not)

We then not too long after married, but I could tell things weren't right, or at least I was unhappy with her state, her lack of joy and excitement about us or anything really, and even more so our sex life. I am not sure if I have a overwhelming sex drive and craving - but that feeling intensified monumentally as time progressed to a level that drove me insane.

Additionally she would not kiss me more intensely than what i would describe as how you kiss your grandma essentially, the tight lipped pecks you give. I deeply wanted passion and intimacy and romance as I needed this to feel a connection between us. I would wake every morning hoping it would be the day she would touch me, or would kiss me. I tried kissing and touching her but after time it became awkward for me because of the lack of genuine desire reciprocated. I wanted to have sex all day and all night with her intensely, with her, i did not actually desire anyone else. After time I did it again with the online ads, and then the same thing happen. And I suppose you could say she became even more distant, though nothing was ever talked about or communicated. In my perception I asked on numerous countless occasions why there is a lack of spark or intimacy, why you won't kiss me for real, why do we not have sex. And I was referred as a monster because its always about sex, th ough i felt it was rational to inquire as to the lack of any intimate connection in a relationship where i literally ache with despair at the inability to do the things with you and be intimate with you as i desperately wanted.

A total of 4 cycles of this went on - and this last time the 4th, a month after she came home and from work one day and was nullified of emotion - she was done. Not like before when she found out and was devastated, at this point she was settled and content with the fact that was done, and is not IN love with me anymore, and is moving on and doing her thing.

In reading books and seeing the therapist since, I have come to immense discovery in the misguided thought process of my actions and thinking that it was ok to seek this attention online in this manner.

I understand that if i had taken the effort to fix MYSELF after the first time maybe there would have been a chance to fruit together, to develop into what i wanted us to be. I understand that her neglect of me was marginal compared to the pain she must have been going through, and the fact that she stood in there and just stayed hoping for me to come around is astounding. I was extremely selfish about my entire train of thought throughout this whole span of what was a little over a year. There are so many things i now realize about where i was wrong and what i should have been doing and thinking. I can not believe that i did what i did honestly, i am genuinely ashamed in myself. Additionally there was a difference in how i reacted this last time, in that after i did the actual event when i was in the moment i had a partial realization of all this - not quite as clear and elaborate - but i realized i was doing something wrong and stopped right away. Needless to say she found out anyways despite me trying to cover it up deleting history etc, i just wish i had paid deeper thought into it before committing it - but the difference is two fold i actually was aware of what i was doing and that it was wrong and should be taking other steps (this is during my committing the act) and after she found out i fully deleted every shred of emails accounts and anything related to this infidelity. i have spent day and night contemplating my wrongs.

she was so strong and wonderful for sticking in the beginning, i was selfish in expecting things to be a fairytale without earning and proving that i deserved it. and now that i have so much clarity and frame of mind, it is too late. i understand that it is my fault, i have done this, she did not deserve it, and deserves the world and i believe that.

i just cannot get over the fact that i know with this starting of change in me that i intend fully to continue for a long time without expectation of her giving back to me for a long time, we could work together because i truly believe there are no 2 better people fitted

but on the other hand half of the material i read describes i need to allow her to move forward and procure this perfect love from scratch with someone new who will not ever damage her and i believe she deserves that

but i battle with the fact of how perfect we have been and are all the little and big things

it tears me up every minute of every day for 2 months now. i am on the verge of tears at all times and half because i am ashamed and disgusted or disappointed in myself and half because i know i have lost the one thing that despite my missteps and poor decisions i have all along wanted so desperately and genuinely and passionately.

please help me discern this conflict i am torn with

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Ode to the clit

A Heavy Handed Ode to the Clitoris | Lefty PopLefty Pop



"In honor of International Clitoris Awareness Week* (which, appropriately or not, includes Mother's Day), I present to you…a po-em. I thought, in this case, the limerick a most appropriate literary vehicle. Because you can't have a limerick without the letters l-i – (you get the idea.)


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There once was a girl from the city
Who needed to write something witty.
She wracked her tired brain
For something germane
And came up with something quite clitty.

Apparently we lack awareness
Of female sex organs – UNFAIRNESS!
But at this fine hour,
We now know the power
That lurks beneath our underwear-ness.

The clitoris is like the penis.
It's true, despite it's outward wee-ness.
It's eight inches long,
(That's more than a dong!)
But most of it's inside your she-ness.

This organ has eight THOUSAND small nerves!
So, careful when tasting the hors d-oeuvres…
Ensuring your friend
A real happy end.
Please show it the respect it deserves.

We don't know if it's reproductive.
But here's some advice that's constructive:
For problems spousal,
Work on arousal.
The clit's good for feeling seductive!

So, celebrate dildo and fingers,
Monogamists, Singles or Swingers!
The clit's center-stage
No matter your age!
(Hats off to all you cunnalingers…)

* Though Clitoris Awareness Week is meant to be light-hearted in tone, it originated with a group's very serious purpose – helping female victims of genital mutilation. Click here to learn about Clitoraid."

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Being left out

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I got a job at this place a few months ago at the same time as Carl, Kent, and Tom (names are made up). Tom left within a few months as he didn't like the job so I've never gotten close to him. Carl and Kent are friends since they know each other from a different company. However the four of us were introduced the same day we joined the company.

As the months past, I found out that Kent and me would probably be just acquaintance and never friends, but Carl was talkative so was easy to get along. Soon, Carl and I just talked about things that friends talked about and I'd assume that we're friends now, and no longer acquaintance. Most of the time we'd hang out during lunch or sometimes breakfast so all is good. Kent on the other hand is a bit cliquey; he only joins events that matters to him or anything related to his job or his team. Since Carl and I are not in his team, we rarely go to his event.

But recently, Carl wouldn't go out and eat lunch with me if Kent's in. Carl wouldn't even sit on the same table with me if Kent's in. I was having lunch with another colleague the other day and they wouldn't even sit next to us (we have still two empty chairs). To be fair, maybe they didn't want to intrude but Carl's the kind of guy whom somewhat likes to intrude.

On several occasions, he kept on saying to my face, "Kent and I have been in this comp...", and I instantly went clueless with his statement. Whenever people asked him when he joined the company, he'd say, "owh, the same day as Kent". How about me? Didn't we join the same day? Am I so insignificant that I'm not being mentioned? Perhaps I'm not considered as a friend to Carl then?

I'm not entirely sure what's going on with Carl. Not too sure what he's on about or is there something that I'm missing out.

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Why is my brain doing this??

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Hi,

Basically I've been talking to this girl for quite sometime now, and we both really like each other but as we've been getting closer, I've started to pick faults in her appearance (not faults but looking at pictures and thinking meh that looks a bit weird and picking up on things that aren't perfect etc.) and this is the same girl who a few weeks ago I could not fault her at all on anything and thought she was one of the most beautiful girls I've ever met. Now I know some of you will read this and think what an idiot etc. its not all about looks, and I know that I really like everything else about her too. and I'm guessing my heads just doing this to find a way out of a possible relationship cause its unknown territory/I'm scared maybe? I don't know... but what I do know is I really like her and want to stop myself thinking like this and if anyone knows how to stop it it'd be much appreciated, as I don't want it to get in the way of anything as I know from before that I've do ne the same thing and searched for faults in someone as we got closer - although that time it didn't go anywhere so wasn't such a problem.

Thanks for any help its much appreciated.

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What to do after one night stand

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Just curious on people's thoughts of what they would do if they had a one night stand with there ex or even a stranger would you text them
The next day or leave it? State whether your male or female when you share your opinion.


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Scared

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Hi,
I am 20 years old and I've never been in a relationship, I've never even kissed a guy. And I don't know whether it's because it's new or if it's just me but I'm scared to do anything about it. I was close to kissing a guy but chickened out at the last minute, it's not his fault.

Is is there anyway I can get over this or do anything about it please?

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Girls: have you ever caught a guy staring at your arse?

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I have accidentally when I turn around suddenly. Ngl it feels flattering if the guy looks a little sheepish after getting caught :lol:

And guys have you ever been caught?

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Stuck with a girl...

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Ok, I'll try and keep it short.

Was in school with this girl, grew close a couple of years ago in our last couple of years of school and became good mates. Kissed her recently, she flirts a bit.

The problem is she can be a little easy, so I don't know if it's serious or not, plus I'd sleep with her, but I don't know if I could go out with her because she's my mate...

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