Me 35, Husband 31. I'm 5'4, 107lbs, and 32D but don't have much of a butt nor a belly. I'm stating my figure in advance so I don't get any reply asking if I've gained weight. I don't work out and my body have stayed the same since we've met 5 years ago, nothing about me have physically changed.
I've posted previous threads seeking advice on husband just not interested in sex. Thought it was his porn addiction that caused the problem. We worked on that, he tried to stop and I thought our sex life improved while it always felt pretty much like a chore to him. I let that part go since he was at least doing "it". He is very affectionate with holding hand, a kiss here and there everyday, but there is 0 passion.
He rejected me again after weeks gone by without sex, then I forced him to talk about it after almost crying the entire night... then truth came out. He said he went back to porn because stopping it didn't change anything for him. Truth is that he did his own research on his "problem" and realized that I'm just not his type. He said he felt ashamed that he's so shallow, he married me because I was smart and pretty, aka wife material, but the attraction is just not there and didn't think that it was a problem or would affect us until I made it a problem.
Long story short, I asked for honesty and I wanted to know his type. After an hour of hesitation on his end he finally told me his type is a rounder butt and basically tighter breasts... and more toned. (So all of this is not me).
He doesn't want to separate because he insist that sex is not that important in a marriage. I, on the other hand, don't see how 0 intimacy can result is a healthy, lasting marriage. He think I shouldn't want to give up because of this.
I do love him, and he said he loves me. But I just can't see how this can work in the future. As a woman, and I'm sure all women will agree, even if I can let go of the fact that my husband have 0 interest in me, I will always be insecure in this relationship. And that's not healthy for me or him.
Any feedback will help. The pain is over for me, I just need opinions on what to do since I'm still very lost with this cold harsh truth...
I've posted previous threads seeking advice on husband just not interested in sex. Thought it was his porn addiction that caused the problem. We worked on that, he tried to stop and I thought our sex life improved while it always felt pretty much like a chore to him. I let that part go since he was at least doing "it". He is very affectionate with holding hand, a kiss here and there everyday, but there is 0 passion.
He rejected me again after weeks gone by without sex, then I forced him to talk about it after almost crying the entire night... then truth came out. He said he went back to porn because stopping it didn't change anything for him. Truth is that he did his own research on his "problem" and realized that I'm just not his type. He said he felt ashamed that he's so shallow, he married me because I was smart and pretty, aka wife material, but the attraction is just not there and didn't think that it was a problem or would affect us until I made it a problem.
Long story short, I asked for honesty and I wanted to know his type. After an hour of hesitation on his end he finally told me his type is a rounder butt and basically tighter breasts... and more toned. (So all of this is not me).
He doesn't want to separate because he insist that sex is not that important in a marriage. I, on the other hand, don't see how 0 intimacy can result is a healthy, lasting marriage. He think I shouldn't want to give up because of this.
I do love him, and he said he loves me. But I just can't see how this can work in the future. As a woman, and I'm sure all women will agree, even if I can let go of the fact that my husband have 0 interest in me, I will always be insecure in this relationship. And that's not healthy for me or him.
Any feedback will help. The pain is over for me, I just need opinions on what to do since I'm still very lost with this cold harsh truth...
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