Apologies

This is a big problem in our marriage.

Whenever I have done wrong (said something hurtful or got too rough while rough housing) I apologize sincerely. I try to explain that I understand what I did was wrong and ask for his forgiveness. But the issue is he never excepts my apologies.

The issues range from telling him to stop b----ing, or hitting him the the nose while playing, no matter how minor or major the situation, my apologizes are never good enough.
I am aggressive by nature (I'm have strong opinions/ talk loud) and throughout our relationship I've tried to consider that maybe I come off too harsh. He's a sensitive person, and our personalities clash a lot. I try to adjust my approach to him. I try toning my approach down. But it never seems to be good enough. I've come to believe that he's using that against me, cause I'm basically "sucking up" to him the entire time he's mad at me out of guilt.
Emotional manipulation plays a major role is our marriage and I feel like this is another way he uses my emotions to control me.

I can give several honest apologizes, and he'd never forgive me, no matter the situation.

Thoughts????
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My Boyfriends Fantasy Is To Have a Threesome

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My Boyfriends Fantasy Is To Have a Threesome

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One of my boyfriends fantasy is to have a threesome, with another girl. I have never had sex with another girl before, but it sounds really interesting. Where do I even begin?

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Was this rape?

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Was this rape?

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Flashback to several months ago, and my current boyfriend was tying me up to my bed because I'd asked if we could try out light bondage. I explicitly stated several times beforehand, "I don't want to try anal, so please don't break my trust." So naturally he goes ahead and puts it in there as soon as I'm tied up.

I was very uncomfortable, and my body language showed it, my entire body/face was practically, 'no, I don't want it, please stop". I said his name in a warning tone, however he just continued. It was always as if someone had pushed my mute button, I just lay there completely stock still.

I've never really thought much of it, as I blame it on myself, for not explicitly saying 'no' whilst he was doing it, or even struggling, and just taking it (excuse the innuendo) passively. I have no doubt that he would have stopped if I'd said no insistently.

Reading it back it does sound kinda dodgy, but I'm not sure if it's rape, a) because I was passive and b) he is boyfriend and I don't think he'd ever do anything intentionally to hurt me.

Rape has always been portrayed to me as a hugely traumatic experience, and although I was annoyed and a tiny bit upset at him for it, I don't have any emotional scars from the experience, and whilst it was uncomfortable and slightly painful he was nice enough to lube me up beforehand (sorry for TMI) so there was no physical repercussions either.

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One Wife's Totally Honest Post About Porn

I'm in a way disappointed by what a relationship is. Be it casual dating or marriage. I grew up believing it would be a huge commitment, with 2 people giving themselves to one another completely, having this bond, so that nothing could come between them. Part of it was my mom's behavior. She put it into my head that true love is always that way, and anything else is just bull****. Well, it turned out life was more complicated than that.
I was just waiting for 'the one' to come around, I was ready to be selfless, and give it all. And I did. Too bad I expected the same in return. I expected a relationship to be a fairytale filled with unicorns and rainbows and the two people only wanting each other. And to my disappointment and horror I realized when you do get into a relationship, as a woman, you commit yourself to a man, only to have him check out other women and jerk off to 18 year olds who are hotter than you for the rest of your lives together, and eventually underappreciate and take your beauty for granted. The initial spark simply fades. And to some extent I believe that happens to the majority. People will say boohoo, boys will be boys, that I need to stop being a *****/dramatic/controlling and let it go and accept it. That it's not a big deal, that it's normal and a typical male behavior, it's biology. I know all that, I've heard all that and I get it, but getting it doesn't honestly make me feel much better about it. It's still a slap in the face. It still makes me feel like im not enough, like I will never be enough to make him happy. This is not a case of a wife denying her man and then *****ing about him turning to other things for release. It's a case of a woman who gave it all, all she had, only to realize it really doesn't make a difference. That apparently by marrying this man she also married his porn, and that it's just how it is, and she'd better deal with it. Deal with his obsession with other women and that being a big and vitally important part of his life, to the point he can never stop? Well I can deal with it, but will I ever be fully happy? Does that FEEL fair or normal to me? I don't think so. And I don't think anything or anyone can help me change the way I feel about it, cause I've tried, I've tried very hard.
Now, do I think it's worth it? Yeah, it definitely is, for the amazing times you have, for the laughs, the happy moments, having your best friend and the love of your life all in one person, waking up with them every morning? Of course it is. But is it all I hoped it would be? Unfortunately, the answer to that is depressing. People out there, men in particular, will call me crazy, possessive, a *****, jealous, controlling, a ball and chain. Well maybe that is who I am. And I think part of the reason why I made this post is to stop pretending for everyone's sake, be honest, accept myself, and perhaps give people some insight on how people like me feel. Some may feel the same, others will call it immature and overly dramatic, but that's who I am, and I think I just had to let it out.

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Asking for oral?

My wife and I were both virgins until we got married. We didn't have sex right away (logistics), but ever since we did, we have a great sex life. Frequency is great for us both, and both are satisfied.

My wife has performed oral on me a few times, but I was too worried about what it would taste like for her, so we switched to a handjob those times. A few other times, she has performed oral with flavored condoms (my suggestion, since I was still worried), and she was pretty into it too.. However, to this day, I have not finished without a condom....and I really desire it without a condom.... I hinted at it a few times, so she started one day, but then she got up and went to the washroom and rinsed her mouth. I asked what the issue was, and she said "I have this salty feeling in my mouth"...needless to say, that didn't go so well (and I didn't even finish, mind you).

How do I go about this? I don't want her to be offended...and I don't want this to mess up everything else we have going for us..

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What Is Romantic Love?

This subject perplexes me - is romantic love just a combination of affection plus attraction or is it something extra, something more special than the sum of those parts?

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My crush told me I was in his dream, does his dream mean anything?

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My crush told me I was in his dream, does his dream mean anything?

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Am I over thinking?

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Am I over thinking?

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Basically my friend hates waiting for people/ giving lifts. Today I wasn't suppose to be at work, no one knew other than a manager and it wasn't on the router. I left work and my friend appears (it was his day off) he asks why I was about to walk past him. I honestly didn't see him, I'm short sighted. I made my way to the drivers side to say hi, then noticed he was clearing the passenger seat for me. His little cousin was with him and he said he had to pick her up. I didn't think anything of it.

He drops me home and tells me about our colleague implying me and him were together. Then when I actually thought about it, he went out of his way to pick me up from work, which isn't on route to his house or his aunties house.

I was telling my friend and he said he would never do this for anyone. I mean he does things here and there but never to this extent
What are you thoughts? Apparently I'm missing all the signs.

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Opinions on these 3 relationships, older bloke with a youngish 3rd world woman.

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Opinions on these 3 relationships, older bloke with a youngish 3rd world woman.

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It seems this is quite a common trend of late, White men in their 40s,50s and 60s marrying girls in their teens or 20s from 3rd world countries.

Relationship 1 :

He is 48 from Norway, she is 22 from Thailand. Claims to have purportedly met 6 years ago in Thailand. I know the girl as she works for me. She trained in Thailand as a masseurs and I must say she is pretty good. The guy used to work for one scrapyard but now no longer works, house (quite a lousy one) is paid up and he mostly stays at home to fix the house, keep the house clean, send her to work and plants a garden. She works fulltime and makes fairly good money as there are no shortages of clients who want her, after work he will be waiting for her to bring her home.

Relationship 2 :

He is 57 from Sweden, she is 24 from Cambodia. He used to work for me as a painter, she works for me too as a masseur. Claims they met off the net. Used to be he worked and she took care of the house and had Norwegian lessons, then she did some training to be a masseurs and her husband convinced me to hire her. She is really good and makes quite a lot of money as she has plenty of clients. He has since laid down his brushes and rollers, stopped painting altogether as he claims she makes enough money so he mostly concentrates on keeping the house and car running and looking after their 3 year old.

Relationship 3 :

He is 55 from Norway, she is 27 from Philippines. He used to work for a fish farm, she is also one of my masseurs and is my salesperson as well for the operations. She is a very hardworker, ever since she started making good money her guy has essentially stopped working and mostly spends his time fishing, keeping the house and transporting her about. They also have a 6 and 9 year old whom he mostly takes care off.

Strangely, all 3 girls when they first came over never in their life they ever thought they would be the one working to support their bloke so pretty obvious that never was in their plan.

Anyone else think such relationships are exploitative?

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Would you say that social networks ruin relationships?

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Would you say that social networks ruin relationships?

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What are your opinions on this? Any past experiences where you've doubted your bf/gf because of something you've seen them do on facebook, twitter, instagram?

or do you think its not worth the hassle say if your other half is always liking a specific guys pics on Instagram and comments sometimes, but nothing flirty just general convo.

We've been together 10 months now but this kind of stuff still gets to me mainly because she harasses me about any girls that I talk to even as friends and thinks its okay to talk to other guys when she's said I'm not allowed to talk to other girls. When I bring the fact that she talks to these guys she says their just friends and I'm over reacting when she goes ballistic when its me we're talking about.

Am I over reacting or is me asking questions justified?

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Is Virginity Attractive?

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Is Virginity Attractive?

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Basically...

I'm 18... A Virgin and never even had any experience with a guy at all...
It doesn't bother me, but when I do get into a relationship where that happens; would the guy find it attractive or annoying that I don't know what to do?
(im a girl)

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How do I get him to want to come and revise with me?

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How do I get him to want to come and revise with me?

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I'm in year 13 and I'm in love with a year 12, he knows nothing about me. We speak every now and then but only in the presence of others and when it's to do with someone else etc, we would never speak alone, I never see him alone to get the chance to speak to him,

I want to ask him to be my revision partner for my resit but I don't know how to do it? How do I get him to notice me more I've tried everything..

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how do i tell/show him i want to have sex?

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how do i tell/show him i want to have sex?

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is it bad that everytime i see him/ talk to him i just want to have sex with him or just rip his clothes off, however i don't know how to tell him or show him exactly what i want. we are really close, like we talk often and i can tell him anything and we've even kissed and done oral but never sex. sometimes i am unsure if he wants to

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Help! What do you say when someone says that youre hot?

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Help! What do you say when someone says that youre hot?

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Texting a guy I met a few days ago and he just said that he thinks I'm really hot via text and I have noo idea what to text back, do you just say thanks? :L help!

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Did she like more than a friend, if so does she still like me more than a friend.

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Did she like more than a friend, if so does she still like me more than a friend.

• 1 Hour Ago 1 hour ago

There is this girl who I used to sit next to in class and as far as I can remember every lesson she would either draw on my arm and/or start feeling me but not in the crotch region, she also used to compliment me whenever she could and randomly introduced me to her father. At the time she never used to ask me for my number but many of her friends did but only when she was around but I did not give my number in front of her friends as I used to get a lot of prank calls and texts from people who already had my number, I would not have been able to say "hey, do you want my number" as I was always kind of shy and thought that this would be cocky.

However, she then heard me and my friends making fun out of each others race's as we normally would for a laugh... Nothing serious :) After that she seemed to have quietened down around but has been showing more interest asking me about twitter, tumblr etc ever since she heard the conversation.

Any help would be appreciated
Sorry if it doesn't make sense but in my defence it is 3 in the morning.

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Suspecting infidelity

My wife of eight years recently told me I don't take care of her... Prior to that she has been saying we should just be roomates, she wants an open relationship, She can find me a Girl friend, etc....Getting to the root of the problem is going to be tough.. She has a job and saves all her money while I pay all the bills aside from her car and her phone which she just got maybe a month ago. Since sh egot this new phone it seems she is on it all the time, texting, etc. I walked in on her texting someone and she quickly turned the phone off.. once she got a text and immediatley went to use the bathroom. I asked her if she wanted to go out and she told me she has to work.. Yet, she has to work today and went out last night... I took at look at the history in our daughter's laptop and found that my wife had been searching hotels/motels in our area...

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stuck and confused

Two weeks ago my wife of 9 years informed me that she wanted a divorce. She has been a stay at home mom for our daughter for the past 3.5 years. During the conversation she stated that it was her desire for us to divorce and for all of us to move to another state at the same time to raise our child. I was destroyed by the news of the divorce and even more shocked that she would want to make things worse for our daughter by taking her our of her school and her local support network. Secondarily assuming that I would subsidize a move to another state that would result in a divorce. She says I am being controlling and insensitive to her needs and demands by not agreeing to move.

Almost immediately I spoke to a friend who suggested getting an attorney then logging onto this site. She stated I needed to learn to do the "180." Has anyone experienced a similar situation and what is the "180/"

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Jeremy Kyle show with the devastation cheating causes

The Jeremy Kyle Show 18 February 2014 Full Episode - YouTube

Both segments are bad -the first actually shows a perfect example of the cheater's script in action.

The second is especially heartbreaking. That poor chap. I really feel for him. :(

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How many of you talked to the spouses parents during a divorce?

So going through a bitter divorce. Wife is spreading a bunch of lies around town and told her parents I wouldn't go to counseling. Multiple things happened with her involving other men while we were together toward the end that her parents no nothing about. Always got along good with her parents. I just feel like a need to tell them that I did want to go to counseling and about the other stuff. I don't know if it is the right thing to do but it would make me feel better from a dignity point of view. Would this be stupid thing to do? Married 5 years, together 10.

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Are you a football fan?

Buffalo Bills' cheerleaders handbook: Here is how to wash yourselves - Salon.com

Excerpt from the story:

Quote:

It turns out the world of professional cheerleaders is often anything but cheerful. If the claims of a new lawsuit are to be believed, it can be a job in which you have to fight for minimum wage while being told how to manage the landscape of your own genital terrain. Following in the footsteps of cheerleaders from the Raiders, Ravens and Bengals who've come forward this year with their tales of payment disputes and humiliating working conditions, this week the Buffalo Jills suspended all activities in the wake of the new lawsuit that five of its cheerleaders are pursuing against their team and its cheerleader management groups. As the Buffalo News reports, the suit against the Bills — a team for which Mario Williams makes $6,500,000 — alleges it "failed to pay the former cheerleaders the $8 minimum wage for all the hours they worked … The five former Jills, who worked as long ago as the 2010-11 season and as recently as the 2013-14 season, were paid amounts ranging from as little as $105 to as much as $1,800 a year." And what obligation to the organization does this sort of money buy? According to documents obtained by Deadspin, "the Jills were subjected to weekly 'physique evaluations' during which defendants' representatives tested the Jills' bodies for 'jiggling.'"

These are the kind of sports organizations men cheer on and support everyday - how about you ladies?

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