My husband has been gone 5 days now and wants to come home. He was removed by police and I haven't taken out a restraining order yet because there are two kinds and I haven't decided if I want a full no contact or there is a nonviolence order that allows for contact and for him to be in the house but if he touches me, it's an automatic arrest. I am a stay at home mom and we need to be able to discuss finances, insurance and things like that.
We have two kids and he has not even taken them for a visit. He Txts them but that's about it. His parents are pretty happy because they hate me and according to him have been telling him what to do to "screw me over" even IF he and I were to work things out, I know his parents are in the background preparing him to basically ambush me in a divorce.
I told him that I am promising nothing but if he wants to keep in contact with me that he has to own up to what he did and find a way to understand that everything he did was wrong.
I admit that I'm not perfect but refuse to take ANY responsibility for the abuse he has done to me and inadvertently to the kids. He doesn't understand that physically hitting me and sexually abusing me trickles down to them in many ways.
I am angry and rightfully so. I have been violated in every way possible and when he was here I lived in my bedroom so I could stay away from him. But in doing that I have missed out on many things with my kids.
Now that he is gone, I have been comfortable being out and about and while I get depressed, it's because of what's happening right now and it comes in bursts. When he's here I have no energy or motivation. I don't want to give that up.
But I am so confused over what to do and will not make any decisions until my brain has calmed down and had some time to process some of these things. I hope this is the right way to handle it.
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We have two kids and he has not even taken them for a visit. He Txts them but that's about it. His parents are pretty happy because they hate me and according to him have been telling him what to do to "screw me over" even IF he and I were to work things out, I know his parents are in the background preparing him to basically ambush me in a divorce.
I told him that I am promising nothing but if he wants to keep in contact with me that he has to own up to what he did and find a way to understand that everything he did was wrong.
I admit that I'm not perfect but refuse to take ANY responsibility for the abuse he has done to me and inadvertently to the kids. He doesn't understand that physically hitting me and sexually abusing me trickles down to them in many ways.
I am angry and rightfully so. I have been violated in every way possible and when he was here I lived in my bedroom so I could stay away from him. But in doing that I have missed out on many things with my kids.
Now that he is gone, I have been comfortable being out and about and while I get depressed, it's because of what's happening right now and it comes in bursts. When he's here I have no energy or motivation. I don't want to give that up.
But I am so confused over what to do and will not make any decisions until my brain has calmed down and had some time to process some of these things. I hope this is the right way to handle it.
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