He said 'sex complicates things'

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He said 'sex complicates things'

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So met a guy a couple months ago at uni through mutual friends. He tried having sex with me twice, but I didn't want to have sex with him in that moment in time...however we continued to sleep in the same bed with each other whenever I stayed over (which was a couple days a week). His friends/flatmates would always say how we should be together, how we are both similar etc...any way I just generally started to relx and feel comfortable around him and then started to feel like I could have sex with him (friend with benefit as I don't feel I could handle a relationship right now, nor neither could he)...I tried to initate it and then a week later brought it up in bed and he said that 'I do have sex...but not with you...sex just complicates things'...I don't get what he means by that ? considering he was flirting with me still after turning him down...and I continue wanting to be friends but haven't seen him since...was wondering how should I do act when I do see him ?

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boyfreind ruff and dominating in bed

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boyfreind ruff and dominating in bed

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My boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for 4 months its been really good. But sex wise he seems very dominating!! and ruff, he would lie on me with his legs pinning my legs, my arms pinned over my head, with one hand and the over hand pinning my head, so i cant move literally. For oral he would sit on my tits, with his shins pinning my arms, and his knees sat over my shoulders, so i cant move, and he would shove his thing in my mouth, and hold my hair, and grind on me while im gagging for like 10 min. Same thing simialr with the tit ****, he sits close to my tits, knees on my shoulders, and holding my hair and riding my tits, everything he does keeps me trapped!!! so i cant move. Oh and he also likes to sit on my face knees down and his ass right on my face, while he jacks off?? and not even asking if i can breath....is this normal? do most guys enjoy this????

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Did I say something wrong?

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Did I say something wrong?

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Having a terrible time right now with girls :/

I had a quick bite to eat with a friend. She came in after me and as she was taking her coat off I said something along the lines of 'haha you look cute in your coat, just like a penguin'. She did though. I wasn't trying to flirt with her. It was just an observation. Since then the whole conversation was just me talking and her nodding and looking at her watch. Then after about 15 minutes she actually cuts me off mid-sentence and says she needs to go home, it was nice to see you blah blah. I then texted her asking if everything is ok, and she replied saying that I had been "inappropriate" with her because she has a boyfriend.

HOW?!

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My friends told me he's really flirty with me and I am confused.

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My friends told me he's really flirty with me and I am confused.

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This guy I have liked for a quite a while. I thought he didn't like me so I have been trying to get over him. We have always been good friends though. Recently, I have noticed we have got closer but I never thought more of it.

Yesterday, I bumped to 3 different friends of ours throught the day. They all asked me if there is something going on between me and the guy. They told me he's been very flirty with me the last few days, esp yesterday. He hasn't asked me out explicitly though.

I am a bit confused.... I thought that how good friends were and I kinda made up my mind that he doesn't like me. AND HE HAS NOT ASKED ME OUT! Surely, he knows I like him?

Is he just playing w my feelings? Since I have tried to tone down my feelings around him and act like a friend, could he just try to get my attention for him back?

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What do you think of this

We are watching tv on the couch. I decide to look at some basic porn to see her reaction. When she saw me browsing on my ipad she couldn't believe it and said why. I said because I'm a man and that's what men tend to do. She said that since I'm married and am having sex there is no reason to. I said that even married men having sex still look at porn time to time. She didn't believe me.

Is it normal for married men to look at porn?

Another thing, she saw the commercial for 50 Shades movie and said she'd like to see it. She read the books a while ago. That night in bed I said I would like to try BDSM. She said, 'doesn't that involve tools?' I said it can be as simple as tying or covering eyes. She said no way. I said then I would like to be tied up then. She said absolutely no way. It reminds her of slavery. I said it's not like that because there are safe words etc. She said no way, end of story.

Why do you think she would want to watch 50 Shades but not even consider basic BDSM play? We're very vanilla but I would like to introduce something new. The only thing she would agree to is role play but even that she's reluctantly agreeing I think. I'm somehow hoping it turns out she ends up liking it. English is not her first language so it's harder.

We have sex 2 times per week and are in mid-forties so I can't complain about frequency.

4 of her married girlfriends from same ethnic group (Asian) are basically sexless so she said I should be thankful I'm getting as much as I am. I told her I am thankful but I would like her to initiate, dress up etc. Am I asking for too much?

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Childs anxiety problems

My son seem very normal around my family and I. He always seemed shy around strangers. When he started school the teacher contacted me about his shyness. He has started biting his finger nails u till the nail looks very bad, picking at his skin until it bleeds and chewing holes in his clothing. He can't interact with strangers at all. I try to the him a little push to interact with people by giving him a dollar to buy candy but he gets so nervous he can't pay the cashier. It's taking away his childhood. He does have friends he plays with but if a child he does not know come around him he shuts down. The part that bothers me is the picking and bitting making a sores on his arms. He now has sores that have not healed for 4 months and we leave scares. I have no idea what to do to help him.

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Live below your means

For most of our 21 years of marriage, I've been the sole or main income provider, with an average income from working of about 45k a year. This isn't a huge amount for California, but early on we started a process whereby we now make another 25 to 30k a year through passive, or invested income. Plus we don't have any mortgage left on our house.
Basically we did this by always living below our means, living frugally and responsibly. It meant rarely eating out or going on pricey trips, and always buying good used cars. 10 years ago we paid off our house and then began putting money that went into house mortgage payments and prepayments into investments. Now our investment income is closing in on matching what we make by working (not there yet but in a few years it hopefully will be). And as our income has grown we have expanded our budget as well so we can enjoy this income more than we did while we were building up our capital.
Every day while driving at my job I listen to people call into the Dave Ramsey show (I don't always agree with him, but he has generally good ideas IMHO) with their stories of success, and I also frequent the Mr Money Mustache forum where people chime in with their stories, so these things can be done, especially for couples making a good income.

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What steps to take when you know it's over?

How do I protect myself? My stbx will surredly be trying to hurt me in as many ways as possible.

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Hubby thinks once my son graduates high school he should be out.

Hello, This is my 2nd marriage, my 1st husband passed away and we had 3 children. Youngest was 14 at the time. I remarried my high school crush 1 1/2 yrs later. My youngest son is epileptic, normal, high functioning otherwise, just has seizures that can be severe because the last awhile. Anyway I do baby him but he does help around here, not to the expectations of new hubby. He said today that when my son goes off to college he isn't coming back to stay during breaks. He gets 2 weeks a year and that's it. Other than his dislike for my children he treats me really well. He travels a lot for work so he isn't home much which is why I think we've made it over 2 years but I don't want to have to choose between my husband or my kids. Any suggestions.

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White asian black guyss

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White asian black guyss

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what do you think of hijabis/hijabs?
do you find them unattractive? have u ever met any hijabis? what do you make of girls in hijabs in general?
I wear one and im interested in how guys perceive us :p
and your honest opinions please

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Opinon on threesomes???

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Opinon on threesomes???

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• 8 minutes ago 8m ago

What you think? ever had one or would yoy?

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do you enjoy making eye contract with ppl your attracted to or is it awkward

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do you enjoy making eye contract with ppl your attracted to or is it awkward

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i like it when i get eye contact flirtation looks from people i like or start to like but i still feel a bit embarrassed by making eye contact. im naturally quite shy so dont give much eye contact any way, but i feel like flirtation eye contact is abit embarrassing

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How to tell if someone 'likes' you?

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How to tell if someone 'likes' you?

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Booo, I feel like the typical posts here asking this :') but I promise you, this has been going on way longer than just a couple of months and I'm not about 15 :')

Anyway, I'm 19 and in my second year of uni right now and in year 13 I met a guy, literally the most perfect guy. He is a male version of me and we did once have a thing... until I messed up 100%. We made up again and everything was hunky dory.. until I got a new boyfriend (perhaps to get over him? not that it ever worked) and that new boy told me not to talk to that guy. Anyway that relationship is over and we're back to our normal selves, perhaps a little more, like we've been having phone calls until about 4 or 5 in the morning and when we got together as our friendship group, everyone said that we're 'definitely going to get together' etc etc, but obviously we've not spoken about this and we live in different cities now. He's on about visiting soon and I'm so excited for it, I have never been so infatuated with anyone like him... two years later and nothing has changed. It's so frustrating!


what would be the tell-tale signs that someone, who you don't see on a frequent basis, may be interested in you?

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GIRLS; what do you do with your public hair?

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GIRLS; what do you do with your public hair?

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lol this is kind of embarrassing but if you expect to sleep with someone soon or not, what would you do to your hair down there? what's 'expected' from whoever you're going to sleep with?

personally i trim, i cant stand the thought of shaving but still like it short so it's hygienic. i'm just worried the girl i may sleep with soon either; expects me to be bald down there or doesnt do anything to hers.

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Black people and asian men

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Black people and asian men

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Black people and asian men: do you feel like you're disadvantaged because of your race?

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Asian Catholic guy w/ Asian Muslim girl

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Asian Catholic guy w/ Asian Muslim girl

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Hey

Both myself and the girl I'm with aren't really practitioners of the religion, we were both brought up into our religion but share liberal values (her parents not so liberal). She does wear the hijab 50% of the time. Her diet is in-check with Muslim belief but I eat whatever and she is fine with it.

Me and her are in the same course at university, and eventually we began talking casually and normally. Things snowballed quickly and we were soon going out on dates and then meeting up alone.

We've slept with each other, and had sex, quite a few times. My parents aren't over the moon about me going out with a muslim girl (my mums a bit protective, my dad doesn't want me to turn into a playboy).

About 3/4s of her friends who are Muslims seem okay with the relationship, and I get along with them. The quarter I don't get along with so much (I just feel tension, no physical aggression or anything) are majority male Muslim friends of hers.

I've asked her how she feels about being with me and she says she loves me and that the religious problem shouldn't matter to us.

I'm not fussed with Catholicism or Christianity since I think religion is basically a collection of different historical accounts on the same person. Why I am worried is because I've read that Muslim women are forbidden from dating, or marrying a Non-Muslim which I don't agree with.

I won't convert to Islam.
Any advice for what I should do in this situation, and the consequences?

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Why aren't women attracted to me?

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Why aren't women attracted to me?

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I'm 17 and I've never had a girlfriend before, I'm fairly confident yet I still don't get female attention am I doing something wrong? What should I do to overcome this. I have no problem speaking to girls whatsoever and I'm not going to lie, I'm an interesting and funny person. Is there any way I could overcome this issue?

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