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| Right so me and my Girlfriend have been together for just over 3 months and have done all but sex, she doesn't want to and I am fine with that. Recently when we have been together and we are doing effectively foreplay without the sex after she has told me not to finger as she "can't". I am new to this sort of thing and assumed period but then she told me she would but had no feeling down there. Is this a period or am I wrong. If I am wrong should I be concerned? Thanks for any replies I get. | |||
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| Okay. So there's some common sense answers in my head about all this but I think I just need to hear it from others. I'm just confused. Backstory: I was with my ex for 2 years, the last 6 months living together and engaged. Shortly after the breakup I started seeing my current bf (of 5 months now) and found out how hard it is to go back to casual dating. My poor bf, I kept asking him if things were going ok since we were only seeing each other once a week and stupid ish like that. Though to my credit of not being a *complete* headcase, I did try to deal with the adjustment mostly on my own and did not text him *every* time I had another panicky thought. Damn, that was hard. I feel better now but for the first 3 months or so, that was rough. He knew about my ex, so I think he was just extra understanding and patient. I probably would have left me and called me crazy lol. Now: So it's been 5 months and we've told each other that we're totally in love and crazy about each other. He works in, we'll say, Town A, where I, until a couple of weeks ago, used to live. I moved an hour west to be in Town B where I work. At the time I didn't know what was going on with us and I didn't want to decide based on a new boy I just happened to like a lot, but I've been uneasy about the decision since before it happened. Basically, I had just told my now-roomie that I would move in when my bf and I started talking about me moving or staying (turns out, in the fall I may need a new job and might just end back up at my old place), and I didn't want to be a jerk and up and cancel on the roomie like that. So I moved. My bf lives an hour NE of Town A, so we are in completely different directions now. We are still seeing each other once a week. We've only had one week of me being moved and I happened to be back in Town A so I saw him then. He does say he'll c ome out to visit me. He lives with family, and he says that I can also come out and meet his parents, which I offered to do in an effort to show that I will happily split the travel. I am supposed to go back to Town A to see him tomorrow. The Meat: I am now in a long-distance relationship, which is my first. I'm coming off living with someone I was going to be spending forever with and being that I don't have friends here yet (I know a couple of people though), I feel sometimes that I just want someone to come home to. I want to tell my bf that I want to be more serious- he's fine with seeing me once a week, I'm starting to feel like that's not enough. Just from how he acts towards me, I feel that I'm more into this than he is. I know he's really into me, but I just want this to move a tad faster. I know I didn't help things by moving. And maybe it's still adjustment yearning? I have no idea. oh- useful note- I'm 31, he's 25. It does me a bit of good when I'm in my panic moments to remember what I was like at 25, and having an LTR was not on my radar. I will say that he is mature for 25, he is very career-driven and focused. Frankly, I don't think I would have stayed with him otherwise. So, throwing in the distance, I have no idea what to expect from this. It's been 5 months and I feel that he's keeping things at a distance, and I'm afraid to suggest otherwise. I say this because although our feelings are strong, we're still a little new and "fresh love" about things. Our texting consists of hearts and I love you's and sad faces because I miss you again. Minus the first few dates, we haven't tended to spend time actively getting to know each other but we don't get a lot of time to hang out- he works weekends and during the evenings on weekdays; his days off each week vary. Neither of us like leaving right after sex, so we'll hang out for a couple of hours after (he would come over after work around 10pm most times, and then have his hour drive home, so I try to be understanding about that). I do enjoy our hangouts though; we have started to talk then lately. And that's another thing that we will have to deal with- neither of us live in Town A anymore, so uh....I guess we're going to get creative with his backseat or something. Who knows. Questions: I don't want to freak him out with telling him that I want something more serious, sometimes I'm ok with us and sometimes not. Should I just leave him and find someone who knows they want a LTR? I don't feel the need for any official commitment from him but I want it to be more stable than it is now. As far as his past, I know that his last gf, they moved in together after 4 months of dating, 3 months later she left him for some guy she got engaged to 4 days later. Sooooooo, thanks for those trust issues, b!tch. I just don't know. Every time I think about ending it, I just feel all in love with him again and I decide I'll just hang on and see what happens. Am I still too early out of my last relationship? Should I be concerned that he's more lax about us than I am? It's been almost a half-year, a little new but not insignificant for sure. How long should I hold out? As for what I want in my future, not sure about kids but am more favorable about it, well since I've been with him actually. So no super maternal urges going on, but maybe I'm just getting tired of bs dating. ? | |||
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| Almost 11 months into separation. Been feeling pretty well as of the last few months. But this weekend I'm feeling a little - no, a lot - melancholy. I'm really missing the STBXW. Saw her for about 10 minutes today and, dang, she looks incredible. She truly is beautiful. Always thought so. I've always loved her (still do) and thought she was one of the most beautiful women I've ever met. What's really got me worried is I have the kids this weekend. Up until now I've always been fine when they are with me. I've never felt lonely or sad when they're here. But this weekend is different. I couldn't even sleep last night. Anyway, just throwing this out to my TAM friends for a little support. | |||
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| I am reeling. About 5 months ago, my husband stopped using FaceBook. We had the same friends, mostly relatives. He said they talked to me more than him, and that he had found a forum that he liked. I thought it was strange, but let it go. If I get up and walk near his laptop, he shuts the pages. Last night, he fell asleep with his phone in the bed. At first, I thought it was mine, so I opened it up. There was this website called Nude_____, (my name) and it was about me! Most of the pictures are about 8 years old, and they are pics we took for fun, for each other: me pulling my top up, stuff like that. There are other more private pictures up there. He also posts pics he finds online and says I like that stuff! I only found this all out today. I also found out that this site is very popular. People actually write to "me" and ask me questions, but I can't see what they are. People have made comments on the pics that I can see. I would like to throw up. I have not told him. I have decided I am going to see a counselor I saw last year. I think this has gone over the top. I feel degraded and humiliated. The way he writes as me, it sounds like I am a ****. I am not. I've had sex with a total of two men in 35 years. One of them is him. I am seriously considering just packing up my car and driving away for several days to figure this out. Is there any chance anyone has had someone post pics of them without their knowledge??? Jersey Girl | |||
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| I realise there's thousands of threads started like this one with almost identical scenarios but I just want to get everything out and hear what you people think. Anyway, here goes: I've been with my current girlfriend for just over a year (we met at uni). I really don't think I've been so crazy about anyone in my whole life, and to me (and everyone else we know) it seems like she feels the same way. However for the past few months, my girlfriend has been texting and hanging out with a guy on her course. She's known him for as long as she's known me but they've always been just friends. It started with the two of them studying together in the library, but it soon turned into them seeing each other out of uni. Sometimes I'd text her to see what she was up to and she wouldn't reply for ages. Then a few days later I'd find out that she was round at this guy's flat. More recently she started going to the cinema him, at which point I told her that I wasn't comfortable about the amount of time they were spending together (bad move, you're probably thinking!). She got a ' bit' annoyed but seemed to understand that I was upset with the situation and said she'd lay off seeing him so much. I thought everything would be sorted after that, but the other week I saw her texting him (she openly texts him in front of me). In the text, she joked about sex or something. Well, a few days later when I was in a 'less-than-sober' state, I stupidly looked through her texts and saw that she'd joked about wanting to have sex with him. I confronted her about it and she was majorly pissed off about me looking through her texts (completely understandable and something which I feel genuinely guilty about). I then said that I was going to break up with her because the past few months have been like hell for me e.g. her constantly lying about where she's been and who she is with. I told her that there's really no point in us being together if she would rather spend time with him than me. My girlfriend then 'begged' me not to leave her. She said that she loved me more than 'anyone in the whole world'. She then said that she was going to make more of an effort to spend time with me. She also said she would talk to the guy about the situation, but I really think she told him that I was being a controlling dick. I'm saying this because whenever we have an argument (only twice in our relationship), she'll end up texting him and complain about me. Anyway, I figured that after we'd talked about our relationship and how she 'genuinely wants to be with me' that things would get better. However, just the other week she asked me if she could say goodbye to her friend because he is going home for the summer. I said that was completely fine and thought nothing of it. But a few hours ago, my girlfriend's flatmate (an honest and close friend to both my gf and I) told me that he saw a text to the guy from my girlfriend which talked about how she really enjoyed the 'kiss' they shared at the museum when they met up last week. So basically I'm at a complete loss as to how to approach this one. I can't confront her about the kiss with that guy because she'll assume that I've looked at her phone again. Also, it seems like she is still in love with me. She makes the effort to spend time with me and text etc. Furthermore, we've been planning to go away over the summer to visit her brother in Spain and despite what has happened she still wants to go with me. So my question is... what the hell should I do? While on the one hand, I really do love her and want to spend every minute of my life with her. I'm also not willing to stay with someone who doesn't feel the same way about me. Thanks in advance for making the effort to read and reply to this, sorry for such a long spiel. Any advice would be massively appreciated :) Posted from TSR Mobile | |||
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| OK... so it's a temporary solution but ... it will help ;) Go dancing and make out with a stranger. or two. or three. In LA? GO HERE: [url removed] It will be so much better than sitting around feeling like shit. | |||
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| I am loooking for advice on my current relation with my ex. Quick recap: last december, she says we need to work on our relation, early says we are done i dont love you anymore, i was devastated. She bought a condo a couple of weeks later and moved out last month. She had been, for at least 2 years, getting more and more frustrated with her job, the kids and me. She just wanted to be out of the house. Everybody as felt her anger and it was tough. She turned 40 this year. She had a stresful time at work and was finishing a masters degree part-time. I happened to see her a couple of times crying, and when i asked why she told me that she felt like she was going crazy. She has had some health issues that would not react to medication. Also both her grandparents died in the last 3 years. After she movedout i asked her how she felt when were living together, she said that she felt unloved, alone and that she was slowly dying! When i asked about her saying she did not love me, she sais she did no what else to tell me. It looks like she might be having a midlife crisis but there is something weird in her behaviour: she is feeling depressed alot of the time and trying to talk about any emotions makes her cry. Says that she is crashing! I am unable to talk about us because it pushes her away. But this is nothing, she insists on seeing me and she wants me in her life. We have started to plan activities every week in secret, nobody must know (we have 2 kids). We have been having a lot of fun together and enjoying each others company but i can not talk about our relationship, she likes it the way it is now, no stress, nothing from the past. Even weirder, she as been more physical latelly and on our last activity, our bodies were touching for at least an hour. I can flirt with her and she shows me signs that she likes it but when i try to kiss her or be intimate, she says no and usually starts to cry? What is going on with her? She wants us to hangout together and says that she really enjoys herself. I have asked on numerous occasions if she had an affair and she said NO? Any advice would help on how to proceed? We are getting closer and closer but i do not want to put any pressure on her because it backfired in the past. On the other hand, i do not want to miss my chance. | |||
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| It all started when my husband left the job he'd been doing previously, and came to the one where I was working. I thought that working together would maybe bring us a little closer, since we'd have more to relate with, and that it would make life in general a little more easy for many other reasons. I never once thought that I would suddenly have this indescribable worry and dread that is impossible for me to ignore or push aside for very long. But, much to my dismay, that's exactly what happened. It didn't start too long after he got there. Soon, he started talking about this woman from work, one that he saw on a daily basis and interacted with throughout the day regularly due to the work we all do, while I was in another office and only saw him before and after work, or during lunch. It was just one story about her, which is why I didn't pay it much attention at first, because people talk about people. That's just what they do. But then I realized that it was becoming a more frequent thing, and the troubling aspect of it was, he was only talking about one of the many women he works just as closely with. He was saying teasing things about her. Saying how short she was, but in a way that made it seem like he thought she was cute. I could see by the way he smiled that he did. He would talk about how she did this, or that, and just seemed to be bringing her up whenever he got the chance. He even stopped mentioning the guys he worked with, and the topic somehow always was about, or, if I tried to change it, came back to her. It really bothered me. So one day I asked him, just curious as to what he would say, "If I wanted you to stop talking to someone -- anyone -- would you do it?" Immediately he retorted, "Are you jealous of So-And-So?!" I hadn't mentioned a gender, and the fact that she was the first thing that came to his mind worried me. After that, he seemed to calm down when it came to talking about her. Then one day, on our way home, she happened to be crossing the street. When he realized it was her, and saw her wave at him, (which I'm not sure if it's important but she didn't acknowledge the fact that I was in the car at all in any way) his face lit up so brightly that I instantly felt this immense sadness, and for a guy that almost never smiles, and never does outside of the house, he was grinning ear to ear and waved back. I felt stupid this whole time, like I was just starting to become this jealous person I never used to be, that I was making stuff up, or just singling things out, but things progressed from there. The employees of our job went on a trip, and being pregnant, I couldn't go, when he came back the first person he had to say anything about was this woman, and he couldn't wait to tell me how he and the guys were being so loud that she came in to the room they were in, half asleep since it was so late, with her hair all messy in this cute way, with one eye closed telling them to keep it down. And as he told me, he smiled the whole time, in a way that just didn't sit well with me. I knew then, that even if he wasn't cheating, which I'm still not sure if he was/is, he was undoubtedly attracted to her. And that terrified me, and terrifies me still. I stopped acknowledging any conversation about her. For a while we grew distant from each other. I was so worried that he was becoming more and more attracted to this woman, that I could barely act normal. But over time, when he quieted down again, I started to get back into the normal flow of things. There were a couple more little things that happened that, from what I've read from sites like these and others, could be red flags. Last night, I was showing him a video of my training about a year ago. The woman and I did the same training. Every time there was a frame with her in it, he would make the effort to pause the video, or go back to where he thought he saw her and then pause it, and point it out. He'd laugh and smile. I don't want to overreact, but I'm afraid that his attraction for this woman will grow into something more and that eventually, down the line, when he has an opportunity, he'll cheat on me with her. I know her, and I hear a lot about her from fellow co-workers. She is a huge flirt. My husband told me a story about how they were all sitting together and she stretched out her leg so she could place her feet on his foot. So it was obvious she was/is attracted to him too, and that makes me feel like she would provide that opportunity for them to do something. I need advice, badly. I'm desperate to get some. I find myself worrying when he goes out that he's sneaking away to do something with her. And more often, I find myself worrying that he's more attracted to her than he is me, that he thinks about her more than he thinks about me. I'm terrified to lose him to someone else, and I try so hard not to. I try to make him as happy as possible in all ways that I can. If anyone could give me some insight, or just share their opinions on whether or not I should feel this afraid and worried, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read this. | |||
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| Ok, I'll try not to ramble and just summarize the issues...if anyone needs more details to offer some advice, I'll share them. We married when were were 22; it's been 4 years *** I had a lot of meaningless sex in college, no real relationships *** He had 2 or 3 girlfriends in college, cheated on them all, not a lot of sex *** We had a lot of issues before getting married that didn't just go away when we did get married *** Last year, I finally moved to another state and decided I'd rather be by myself than dealing with his infidelity *** While separated, we both dated, had sex, and were with other people *** Last month, I went abroad for 2 weeks and decided I was going to move overseas and wanted a divorce so I could live my life freely -it wasn't an ultimatum, more of a "I want to move on and have a healthy life." *** Throughout the year that we were separated, we remained in contact and he constantly asked me to move back with him; I refused because the main issues of infidelity didn't seem to be resolved *** Since I've known him, he'd been unwilling to be monogamous (he's say one thing but do another behind my back) and I didn't know just how addicted to sex he was. In his mind, he hadn't "experienced" as much as I had and wanted to "get it out of his system" I guess. *** Rather than get a divorce when I brought it up last month, he said he wanted to reconcile, he wouldn't cheat, and that he was ready to be in a committed relationship. I agreed and moved back. *** Before I came back, not long after he said he'd stop doing all the bull**** he was up to before - my main condition for moving back - I found out he had a threesome after he had already told me he had changed. He's a habitual liar and I was very disappointed and hurt. He apologized and said he regretted what he'd done and was ashamed. Rather than harp on it, I tried to just forgive, but I haven't been able to forget (and rightfully so. I mean, seriously???!?!) *** Fast forward 2+ weeks and we haven't had any sex or any sexual intimacy. Of course, at first, I was so pissed and disgusted at what he had been doing/done, I told him we both needed to be tested before anything would happen, because god knows what trash he was sleeping with (seriously). I'm more of a "Type A" and he's more of a "Type B." I put out my feelings bluntly and move on, he just kind of takes the back seat. *** Basically, he's said he has no sexual drive anymore. I find this ridiculous, because we're only 26/27, and what the hell am I supposed to do for the rest of my life? I also, from experience with his past behavior, wonder what's going to happen when this so-called asexual phase wears off: is he going to cheat again? I've asked as much and he says he just doesn't feel like it. So now I'm left feeling undesirable and like I got the ****ty end of the stick: ok, so you "choose me" and I'm you're soul mate, but....I don't turn you on? You don't find me attractive? Yeah, this a'int gonna work. Sex isn't everything, but it's certainly *something* in a relationship, right?? :confused: *** After nosing around on this site a bit, I told him again simply: this will not work. I'm not going to screw the lawnboy and I'm not going to forgo sex during the prime of my life. He's basically shut down and won't talk about the issue, so here I am... Ok, way more wordy than I intended, but there's a lot of water under the bridge, I guess. :scratchhead: Help? | |||
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| So I got some very clear signals, flirting from a married woman recently. She's unhappy in her marriage. I'm divorced. We have only met one time in a bar. From what she says it seems like her marriage has no future. We are both parents. She gave me her number. I like her but have not yet called her back. We exchanged a few texts. I want to act honorably but I also want to see her again. Am I trying to square the circle. Is achieving both of those even possible in this situation? | |||
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| I'm so sad right now. I've been trying to be strong but my heart hurts. I'll try to spare those who read this a wall of text. me (32f) and my bf(36m) have been going out for 4 years. Things sorta came to a crossroads last week when we had a huge blow out of an argument. It comes down to neither one of us communicates effectively to the other. So when there are problems nothing is said or they get spoken about and nothing is done about them or it starts an argument. I suggested couples therapy. Because at this point that's the only thing I think is going to work if we want to stay together. we clearly aren't communicating well enough that our needs aren't be met properly. I want nothing more than to spend my life with him. This is one of my frustrations with him. I've asked him before if he wanted to get married engaged. He says yes but only if I bring it up or get's defensive or tense about the whole conversation. I don't nag him about it but this is one of our problems. We don't live together. He says he's wants a family... maybe it's not with me. I think if we were to go to couples therapy and worked on our communication I think that would help tremendously. Seeing this is what we always argue about. But he's deciding if that's what he wants to do or not. If it's even important... If he doesn't then we will go our separate ways. We share no mutual friends or anything so I guess in theory a split up won't be so bad? I guess... I don't know? we are doing NC while he decides if he want's to try couples therapy. I told him to be quick about the decision cause I don't want this dragging out. I'll be 33 and more than likely single. I want to get married, I want a family, I want someone to get old with me, share my intrest. I want to believe so hard I'll find someone but I'm worried. I'm worried I won't find someone and I'll be alone with my forever needy cat. :( I am in therapy myself since I'm having my own issues outside of the relationship. Just really depressed about my life in general now. Nothing is really working out. :( | |||
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| Where to start? Well, I've been married for almost 8 years and have been with my husband for almost 15. I love him and know he loves me and our 2 1/2 year old son, but I feel like he is taking both me and my son for granted. When we were first married, he was always with buddies or inviting them over. While getting his Masters he was always with groups studying and hanging out. Since my son was born, my husband is either working, playing softball, finding something else to do with friends, or when he's home talking/texting w/work and friends. I don't think my husband does not want to be married, I honestly feel like he wants us there when he feels like it and expects us to be there when he comes back from whatever adventure he's been on that day. Before my son, I was a very active person as well, and was very healthy/in shape. Since, I have almost no time to myself (I work full time as well), and definitely don't get time to exercise like I use to. I try in between mommy stuff (which means really late at night or really early in the morning, but that is rare). My husband helps very little with my son and only helps if it is absolutely necessary-in fact, I had to go away on a trip for work one week, so my husband shipped my son out of state with his mom while I was gone. What makes things worse is we relocated 2 years ago to help financial burdens and obtaining better jobs, so I am virtually alone. I have almost no friends because it is hard to make friends when you are toting a 2 year old around all the time-I have joined a mommy group, and enjoy every second with my son, but I would like a little time for myself too. I could go on and on with example of my husband's selfishness but here's a small glimpse-he plays 3 nights a week on a softball league, and on most weekends, he refuses to go home to visit his or my family, he will go out to go fishing, golfing, etc. and won't return for 6, 7, or even 8 hours. He seems to have no reguard for me or my son. I have begged him to help me with having time for me and him having time for his son, but he gives me excuses and I have to fit my stuff into his off times (which is very limited) and it often changes so it never happens. I have talked to him repeatedly about it and he might change for a minute and help a little or spend a little time at home, then it changes back in a week or so. I don't know what to do anymore. Am I better off staying with him because I love him and accept the fact that he does not prioritize me or my son, or do I leave and then really become a single mom? I am sad, lonely, and don't know what to do! | |||
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| For the last 3 to 4 months, I have been going to couples counseling with my partner and her therapist of 15 years. Last session, we were talking about my partner's explosive anger and my wish that she express her anger more appropriately in a way that isn't frightening to me and one of our dogs i.e. banging things in the garage, screaming at me to my face or being in her office with the door closed, cussing me out and saying hurtful things about me, slamming doors, blasting music at a deafening volume, just to name a few. I get anxious and can't sleep, dog gets anxiety and potties in the house when she's upset. She expressed that she felt like she's not allowed to be angry. I tried to explain again that I didn't mean it that way, just that I have trouble ignoring it. Long story short, her therapist brought up all that she has been through in her life (abuse/mistreatment by others, not me) and she said that I need to honor her anger. One of the sug gestions she posed to us is that my dog and I leave the house and go somewhere till she cools down. This feels invalidating to my feelings and enabling to her behavior. Can anyone help me understand this differently? :confused: | |||
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| I am a 5'7 - 170cm male 145-150lb 7% BF. I just can't seem to get a girlfriend no matter how hard i try ( sound desperate :( ) and i am not ugly. Random girls always say am good looking/cute on nights out.(hate getting called cute) Anyways everytime i get a girls number they text me for like a week then just stop replying. Whats up with that? Am i just too short for girls to find attractive? | |||
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| I've been feeling extremely dislocated from the real world recently, and in one 'episode' I ended up cheating on my partner. I have now cheated on my partner with the same person a couple of times but I just don't feel guilty about it. I know that he would be greatly upset, however, when we first got together I didn't want a monogamous relationship but he insisted, and he is a horrible partner anyway, treats me awfully. This other person is just sex, nothing more. Is cheating ever okay? | |||
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| Hey, so this might be a bit of a ramble. Basically before I came to uni in September, I started chatting to a guy through facebook who I knew was going to live in the same courts as me. He was gorgeous by the looks of his photos and I was instantly attracted to him. However, I was still reeling from a recent break up, and when I got to uni I started acting a bit weird around him.. He suggested meeting up and I said yes but then blew it off.. anyway cut a long story short, I started sleeping with him.. he seemed keen at first and quite affectionate but I was admittedly acting strange.. Basically people I'd met told me he was a player and I'd convinced myself that was ok and was all I wanted from it after my relationship. So we talked all the time and slept together more but then he started acting like all he wanted from it was sex, so again, I was like "fine, whatever.." So eventually, as usually happens, I realised that I actually liked him and was just really confused before. I told him this and there was a lot of confusion and we didn't speak for a while, but neither of us definitively knew where we were, so I sort of just accepted we were nothing, but I still continued liking him. Months and months went by, and then terms and then just recently, he's got in to a relationship with another girl. I felt a bit weird about it, but it was ok because we were hardly going out, and it had been months anyway.. It's just that my "crush" on him had never really gone away... and even now I just can't stop liking him. I don't know what it is. I have the highest respect for relationships and would NEVER act on any of my feelings, I just want them to go away!? Also I've sort of met a few guys in between then and now, but no one has given me anywhere near that feeling he gave me, and I just find myself comparing them to him and becoming disinterested. Can someone help me/explain what's going on in my head/tell me how to get over this whole thing?! It's an unsettling feeling :( | |||
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| Hi I go to Bangor University, and I had been in a relationship with my ex in Worcester University for a year and 2 weeks. We had been maintaining well most of the time, and a month ago she said that she was feeling confused over how she felt towards me, and we rushed to a quick breakup. I was really devastated and really missed her, but I decided to not contact her for few weeks because I know I would just be asking to get back with her. Two weeks ago, she was crying to me on the phone telling me her family problem (she often comes to me when she is upset), and she said that she also regretted breaking up with me, and she still has feeling for me. She figured out that the reason why she is uncertain of the relationship is because she had always been in long distance relationships, and she cannot cope with it anymore that I am not physically around her when she is most upset and that when I go back to Bangor. I then confessed to her that I do still really like her and that I missed her, and that she said that she can see us being back together in the future. However, she doesn't seem to want to commit to our long distance relationship no more, and that she said she needs time to think about it with 'she will see'. The thing is, she is always so uncertain about everything and everything she does and plan is 'she will see', it is quite annoying to be fair. I am going to graduate next year, and because I really value the relationship I had with her, which only failed because she cannot cope with long distance no more, I am planning to do a PGCE in Worcester University, which is going to start next year September. Should I really be patience to wait for her 'she will see'? Mine and her relationship is the best one I ever had :S | |||
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| I hear that term a lot here on TAM. I'm interested in reading on line or book resources about making the relationship stronger the second time around. Please post your favorite website, book, author, or just general advice is fine... I'm all ears. | |||
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| I go to uni on a 100% male course, and my hobbys are mostly sports such as cycling where you're very unlikely to meet people while you're doing it. Furthermore i don't enjoy going to clubs or pubs because i find it a bit boring (i do like drinking, just at home or at a mates house). Also, i won't use online sites to meet people because it feels to fake and forced. Where can i actually meet girls to talk to and find a relationship? | |||
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| Would you as all fellow tsr members prefer texting alot less to someone you like rather than alot during one day? | |||
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