My husband just made a comment that totally pissed me off. He has been on short term disability since October because his blood pressure is too high for him to work around machines.
Most days when I get home even though he has been here ALL day the house is still a mess. I get off at 5, pick up the baby from daycare and come home and start cleaning up.
Once he sees me cleaning up and senses my aggravation about it, he starts helping me. We have had the conversation many times about him needing to help out more around the house.
Not long after I get home, he leaves and goes to the place where he keeps his horse to feed it and clean out the stall. (More free time for him) I'm at home bathing the baby, cooking (if I cook that day); By the time he makes it back home the baby is in bed and all he has to do is eat, shower and jump in the bed and harass me for sex.
I'm tired. Then he gets an attitude because that makes him feel like I'm not attracted to him anymore. I love my husband but if I'm tired, I'm tired.
So tonight I picked up dinner on the way home. The baby was grouchy and wanted to be up under me. I just wanted to eat my dinner so I asked him to get her. Why do I have to say can you get the baby for a minute so I can eat my food in peace. So disconnected...He can clearly see me having a hard time but will not do anything to help unless I ask.
Daycare is closed tomorrow for the holiday but I still have to work. He says to me I think I may take the baby to my cousins house tomorrow so I can go fishing. I'm like you always get off so easy. He asked what I meant by that and I said on the days when you are supposed to be here with the baby you always find something to do and have to take her to your family if I'm working.
Why can't he just sit down somewhere and stay here with the baby for once??? So when I said something about that he said you get breaks too. Yeah but when "I" get a break it's actually "US" getting a break. I may get my niece to watch the baby so my husband and I can go out to eat. But he is still getting off easy.
Yeah, I get free time like that but I am still in his face. Does he not think that sometimes I want to do something by myself like he does all the time?
I want some me time just to be quiet, read a book, or whatever I choose to do. But if I grab the keys to go to the grocery store he tells me to take our son with me because there is too much happening and he doesn't want me to go to the store alone. Really?
Sometimes I just want to ride in my car ALONE and bask in the quietness. But no, he always wants to send someone with me or he wants to come with me. I just need a break.
Oh, what he said to me was "You can sleep all day and still wake up grouchy" Hmmmmm I wonder why?
Is anyone out there in this situation? How are you handling it?
Most days when I get home even though he has been here ALL day the house is still a mess. I get off at 5, pick up the baby from daycare and come home and start cleaning up.
Once he sees me cleaning up and senses my aggravation about it, he starts helping me. We have had the conversation many times about him needing to help out more around the house.
Not long after I get home, he leaves and goes to the place where he keeps his horse to feed it and clean out the stall. (More free time for him) I'm at home bathing the baby, cooking (if I cook that day); By the time he makes it back home the baby is in bed and all he has to do is eat, shower and jump in the bed and harass me for sex.
I'm tired. Then he gets an attitude because that makes him feel like I'm not attracted to him anymore. I love my husband but if I'm tired, I'm tired.
So tonight I picked up dinner on the way home. The baby was grouchy and wanted to be up under me. I just wanted to eat my dinner so I asked him to get her. Why do I have to say can you get the baby for a minute so I can eat my food in peace. So disconnected...He can clearly see me having a hard time but will not do anything to help unless I ask.
Daycare is closed tomorrow for the holiday but I still have to work. He says to me I think I may take the baby to my cousins house tomorrow so I can go fishing. I'm like you always get off so easy. He asked what I meant by that and I said on the days when you are supposed to be here with the baby you always find something to do and have to take her to your family if I'm working.
Why can't he just sit down somewhere and stay here with the baby for once??? So when I said something about that he said you get breaks too. Yeah but when "I" get a break it's actually "US" getting a break. I may get my niece to watch the baby so my husband and I can go out to eat. But he is still getting off easy.
Yeah, I get free time like that but I am still in his face. Does he not think that sometimes I want to do something by myself like he does all the time?
I want some me time just to be quiet, read a book, or whatever I choose to do. But if I grab the keys to go to the grocery store he tells me to take our son with me because there is too much happening and he doesn't want me to go to the store alone. Really?
Sometimes I just want to ride in my car ALONE and bask in the quietness. But no, he always wants to send someone with me or he wants to come with me. I just need a break.
Oh, what he said to me was "You can sleep all day and still wake up grouchy" Hmmmmm I wonder why?
Is anyone out there in this situation? How are you handling it?
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