My question to you is do others see what your husband is doing and how he is treating you? What is your friend and family's reactions when you tell them what things your husband has done that have hurt you??
I find other people make excuses for my husband and see him as a wonderful man. Tell me I am the one that needs to accept his behavior, forgive his behavior and learn to move on.
When we are out with friends husband will engage in conversation with them. He likes to joke and people think he is funny. They see a good natured easy going guy, much like I did before I really got to know the man.
I recently read the book "Secrets of Happily Married Men" by Scott Haltzman. The author talks about the various violations men do to marriages that hurt them and send their wives away. My husband has done everyone of them yet my friends just tell me I have to forgive. Forgive?? There is a huge wedge in our relationship and no matter how much I have tried to talk and understand this man it does not change. If I say anything he pouts and won't talk to me. I feel like I am living with a child as far as his emotions.
A friend of mine recently told me the secret was sex and to give him sex and engage in sex, that would help him bond to me. She was convinced that the TV program "Sex for 9 weeks" was genuine and felt it put marriages back on track. She told me I need to stop denying my husband sex. I was so hurt. This is a real good friend. I do not deny my husband sex. If anything it is just the opposite. My husband has denied me sex and does not show interest in me sexually yet was a porn addict for many years and chasing other skirts. It was like he married me to become his housekeeper and maid.
I have been the one to initiate sex, 85% of the time I was the one and I think most people do not get this. Even counselors have told me that they think my husband was sexually abused or could be bi-sexual as they say this is not common behavior for men. Yet, you read other women's stories about living with a passive-aggressive husband and this is typical.
I am just so frustrated. Why are women blamed for their husband's behavior? And why can my friends not see thru my husband?
I find other people make excuses for my husband and see him as a wonderful man. Tell me I am the one that needs to accept his behavior, forgive his behavior and learn to move on.
When we are out with friends husband will engage in conversation with them. He likes to joke and people think he is funny. They see a good natured easy going guy, much like I did before I really got to know the man.
I recently read the book "Secrets of Happily Married Men" by Scott Haltzman. The author talks about the various violations men do to marriages that hurt them and send their wives away. My husband has done everyone of them yet my friends just tell me I have to forgive. Forgive?? There is a huge wedge in our relationship and no matter how much I have tried to talk and understand this man it does not change. If I say anything he pouts and won't talk to me. I feel like I am living with a child as far as his emotions.
A friend of mine recently told me the secret was sex and to give him sex and engage in sex, that would help him bond to me. She was convinced that the TV program "Sex for 9 weeks" was genuine and felt it put marriages back on track. She told me I need to stop denying my husband sex. I was so hurt. This is a real good friend. I do not deny my husband sex. If anything it is just the opposite. My husband has denied me sex and does not show interest in me sexually yet was a porn addict for many years and chasing other skirts. It was like he married me to become his housekeeper and maid.
I have been the one to initiate sex, 85% of the time I was the one and I think most people do not get this. Even counselors have told me that they think my husband was sexually abused or could be bi-sexual as they say this is not common behavior for men. Yet, you read other women's stories about living with a passive-aggressive husband and this is typical.
I am just so frustrated. Why are women blamed for their husband's behavior? And why can my friends not see thru my husband?
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