Saying NO

Hello folks. I'm going to give you three scenarios and I'd like both the male and female perspective one each one. These are three scenarios I commonly find myself in with my fiancé. Our sex life is great for him, tolerable/decent for me (which is okay with me) Anyways, I'm just looking for outside perspective. He's my one and only so he's all I have to go on, in terms of sex stuff. I could be unreasonable, he could be unreasonable. That's why I'm asking. We're both 20, if that matters any (though I have considerably more life experience) Scenario 1: My fiancé and I are at dinner. He starts with the footsies and I know instantly he wants some. :smthumbup: We go home. I notice the things I'd asked him to do are (of course) not done. The dogs need to go out. The kitty litter needs changing, the dinner I spent 5 hours cooking the night before was left out on the table and spoiled...etc. Meanwhile, the second we get home he's already in the bedroom. "Norriiiiiiiiiii...." "In a minute." Ok but now I'm getting annoyed. He basically ignored my request to do anything but sit around and play X Box. But on the other hand, he just spend 200 bucks for dinner. And I've read on here it's petty to not have sex over housework. And he planned a nice evening, right? So this is one of those times when I'd really like to say no. As a man in my fiancés shoes, would you be upset? As a woman, is it unreasonable to expect him to have done *something* all day? Or is that unrelated? We had sex, when we were done I waited till he fell asleep and then I got up and cleaned. The next morning he was in a mood because I fell asleep on the couch. "I don't like waking up alone" ie "You're avoiding the second round" I actually wasn't but I wasn't in any mood to be conciliatory as I found it miraculous that he had the gall to have an attitude. Scenario 2 It's 3 am. "Noriiii...." "No." "But Noriiiiiiiii..." "Fine." "Well not with that attitude." It's 3 ^&#!* AM! I have to go to school and then work (did you know swim calendars are shot in winter? random, miserable fact) Is this unreasonable of me? I'm genuinely wanting an outside view. Scenario 3 I'm on the couch watching a movie. He's been away for a few days at some stupid (maybe stupid) camping trip/male bonding thingy. I get up, I greet him with a kiss. He sits down to watch the movie with me. Within ten minutes, hand on the boob. Fine, I leave it. Hand down the panties. "Noriiiii..." ( I swear he does actually say my name like that EVERY time, it's rather cute at times) "Babe, I'm watching this." "So a movie is more important than me?" Ok, I'm done. All all 3 of these scenarios we ended up having sex. I'm just wondering if it ever would've been appropriate or rude/cruel to say no.

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