I'm not talking about right now, even if it was possible (but its not, because i'm not sexually active) - I wouldn't want a child now because I'm only 22 and would obviously ideally want to be in a stable relationship/job etc first.But I really honestly can never see myself in a relationship and consequently eventually with a child, and it really bothers me - not just a niggle, I'm thinking about it everyday and end up in tears over it regularly and it just gets worse the closer to graduating I get, I sort of link graduation to this big black hole of loneliness where everyone I know is going to marry off and have kids and i'm just going to be left alone. I am very unattractive, my confidence is extremely low, I've always been incredibly love shy and get so anxious around guys I can barely make conversation with them let alone anything else, i've never flirted in my life, I wouldn't even know where to start! Plus i'm so ugly/awkward they aren't interested anyway unless its to take the mickey. So it probably goes without saying that i've never been in a relationship or even had a fling or anything. That's not meant to sound wierd and full on like my plan is to meet men with the sole purpose of having children - my point is more that if I can't even speak to men now then how am I ever going to get to meet someone who I could potentially have a child with in years to come? I've already had one round of unsuccessful therapy to try and deal with self esteem issues/social anxiety but it hasn't helped and so I'm just getting even more fearful that i'll never be able to have a child, because until I manage to change I don't see how I can! I'm finding my final year of uni a bit difficult due to persistent mild depression/anxiety and I think my worry about never having a family is a pretty big contributing factor to why i'm finding it difficult to shake. My mum was 26 when she had me, that's only 4 years older than I am now! Ugh :( | |||
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Does anyone else get really, really worried they will never have children?
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