Ok before people will start attacking me for being shallow:
-It is her own body I know, but she want's to lose weight herself too
-I'm not so shallow that I would dump her for adding on a bit of weight
-I have never called her fat or told her to lose weight
But, to the point: My girlfriend tends to add weight on really easily. While personally I don't mind someone having a tiny bit of extra, the fat goes into places with her that makes her body look very unattractive. Recently she has put on a little weight and her attitude has started annoying me.
She has actually started working out very often and seriously and she follows a healthy diet to keep fit. The problem is, that whenever someone offers her cake she can't refuse. Basicly I give her a lot of advice in fitness etc., she ask me things like "what fat burner would your recommend" and I tell her to just eat clean! But she always finds an excuse to eat cake, sweets and chocolate "beacuse saying no is impolite". Because of this, she has put on some weight recently and I can't say I find her body attractive at all at the moment. Then she complains herself that "how do I get rid of this fat??"
It's no impolite to say no to crap food. Just like a vegan would say no to meat, just like someone who doesnt drink would say no to beer, it's completely natural for a fitness enthusiast to say no for cake. I personally keep very fit and it's a big part of my life.
Now my girlfriend is complaining that I don't compliment her, or don't have much sex with her anymore. What am I supposed to say? I honestly don't get turned on and having sex feels very uncomfortable for me. I can still get hard somehow but I feel like being someones toy to get off.
I still like her loads, but this really makes our sexual life suffer. What could I say to her or how could I talk to her about this?
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