Should I end this now?

Hi, I have been seeing a guy for a few months now. We have a wonderful connection both in and out of bed and i know he loves me and wants to be with me. When we met the timing wasn't good. I had just recently ended my 26 year relationship and made it clear that I had plans to be on my own for a while. even knowing that he wants me to move in but I won't. lately I have seen some warning signs. He has been unhappy for a long time and tells me I am the best thing in his life. I feel from our conversations that he is placing a lot of pressure on us and on me to fix things. He is ex forces and I am sure he has had a lot of trauma from that and from his shaky upbringing - I know that he has gotten into fights before on a number of occasions. I didn't have a happy childhood but there was little to no violence and violence scares me. I think he has a drink problem. A couple of times now he has had too much to drink and tries to cause an argument - he questions me about what I have been doing and says things like you're going to leave me. Which makes me want to leave him. I was staying at his house on Friday night when he did this. I would have left there and then but was worried about his reaction while he was in a drunk state. The next morning I took my bag and left. He knows he has caused this and is desperately sorry and wants me to reconsider but I think I should end it. I love him but I am not strong enough to take this. I do have a tendency for self preservation but don't want to cut off my nose to spite my face. Any advice would be appreciated.

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