I'm in a difficult spot and I would love to get some objective advice. To make a long story short things have been very bad for over a year now. It feels like I have tried everything I know how to do, including sacrificing my career to make things work and she has no interest in even commuting to a marriage with me. About a week ago she told me that "eventually" she wanted me to move out and that she was going to file for divorce. We have two little girls and that is the only thing making it hard. I told her that I couldn't keep living there if her mindset was that she was done and it was just a matter of time before she wanted me to leave. I should say that we don't own a house. We did but sold it to move closer to family (something I agreed to to try and fix things) so right now we are living in a house owned by her parents (they don't live with us, they have another house). If we owned the home I would have said "no I'm not leaving, if you want to sepa rate you need to be the one to leave, however with it being her parents house and them not even charging us rent I didn't feel that was an option.
So for the lady week I have been staying with my parents. Our daughters have stayed here with me a few of those nights which has helped. I have found a house to rent and basically just need to sign the lease to make it official. This is the hard part . Pulling the trigger and signing and then moving out has been so difficult. I have asked her three times in the last week if she would reconsider and she either days no or totally ignores it. However at the same time she seemed surprised when I told her I was planning on renting a house.
I don't want to move out (eventhough I have been miserable and she treats me horrible). I can't help but feel that even though she has backed me into this corner that I am walking out on my family. I can't imagine what it will do to my little girls who I love more than anything in this world. I have to make the decision on the house in the next couple of days, but like I said I am having a hard time actually pulling the trigger on it.
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated .
Thanks
So for the lady week I have been staying with my parents. Our daughters have stayed here with me a few of those nights which has helped. I have found a house to rent and basically just need to sign the lease to make it official. This is the hard part . Pulling the trigger and signing and then moving out has been so difficult. I have asked her three times in the last week if she would reconsider and she either days no or totally ignores it. However at the same time she seemed surprised when I told her I was planning on renting a house.
I don't want to move out (eventhough I have been miserable and she treats me horrible). I can't help but feel that even though she has backed me into this corner that I am walking out on my family. I can't imagine what it will do to my little girls who I love more than anything in this world. I have to make the decision on the house in the next couple of days, but like I said I am having a hard time actually pulling the trigger on it.
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated .
Thanks
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