I'm just venting here. My best friend is a family therapist, so I try not to burden her further with my drama. And my family would pretty much be willing to help me hide my ex-husband's body at a moment's notice, so I try not to vent much to any of them, either.
My ex came by yesterday to pick up our son for his weekend, and asked to speak to me privately for a moment. So, while DS was finishing his packing, we stepped out on the deck to speak. Ex immediately started telling me that I should be more careful about talking to my friends. It got back to his girlfriend that he asked me out a couple weeks ago - though he was and still is in a committed relationship with her. She was angry and hurt, and now doesn't want to hang out with my husband's (formerly our mutual) friend who told her. He's pissed at me because I hurt his girlfriend and cost him a friendship.
He wanted an apology. He did not get one.
He has no sense that it was inappropriate to ask me out while already in a relationship. No sense that it's not my job to keep secrets for him. No sense that maybe he shouldn't be doing things he needs to hide from the person he's in a relationship with. No sense that it was his behavior that was hurtful, rather than me who did something wrong. He's still in the mindset that anything he doesn't want his partner to know about is simply none of her business - and that everyone else should know and respect that fact.
You'd think I would be past the point of being surprised by anything he does. But, astoundingly, I am sometimes still amazed at the level to which he can suck.
:slap:
My ex came by yesterday to pick up our son for his weekend, and asked to speak to me privately for a moment. So, while DS was finishing his packing, we stepped out on the deck to speak. Ex immediately started telling me that I should be more careful about talking to my friends. It got back to his girlfriend that he asked me out a couple weeks ago - though he was and still is in a committed relationship with her. She was angry and hurt, and now doesn't want to hang out with my husband's (formerly our mutual) friend who told her. He's pissed at me because I hurt his girlfriend and cost him a friendship.
He wanted an apology. He did not get one.
He has no sense that it was inappropriate to ask me out while already in a relationship. No sense that it's not my job to keep secrets for him. No sense that maybe he shouldn't be doing things he needs to hide from the person he's in a relationship with. No sense that it was his behavior that was hurtful, rather than me who did something wrong. He's still in the mindset that anything he doesn't want his partner to know about is simply none of her business - and that everyone else should know and respect that fact.
You'd think I would be past the point of being surprised by anything he does. But, astoundingly, I am sometimes still amazed at the level to which he can suck.
:slap:
Put the internet to work for you.
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