I would like an opinion on whether resentment can ever be healed?
My wife literally hates my family. To explain, we had a relative refinance our home. When assigning the new loan, the loan was made only in my name (the husband). The explanation for this was my credit rating was better and we could get a better rate. My wife feels this was a conspiracy to get her off the deed,etc. At the time I was ignorant of financing practices and didnt think anything about it. My fault there. My family denies any of that and tries to reach out to her. My state shows equal ownership bwtween spouses so that scenario could not have happened. I have apologized for this and had no idea it bothered her like this. She is bitter to the bone on this and refuses to get past it.
It has been over two years now and it is contantly thrown up. She is bitter to the point she is resenting me for it. We have been married for 15 years and I love her to death. She seldom touches me and is critcal of everything I do now. There are other dynamics that have impacted our relationship over the years so this doesnt help things. I feel like I have no bargaing leverage to address those issues I am dealing with. All I do is apologize for everything.
She is drop dead gorgeous and has several options to replace me with if she chooses that, so I am between a rock and hard place.
My wife literally hates my family. To explain, we had a relative refinance our home. When assigning the new loan, the loan was made only in my name (the husband). The explanation for this was my credit rating was better and we could get a better rate. My wife feels this was a conspiracy to get her off the deed,etc. At the time I was ignorant of financing practices and didnt think anything about it. My fault there. My family denies any of that and tries to reach out to her. My state shows equal ownership bwtween spouses so that scenario could not have happened. I have apologized for this and had no idea it bothered her like this. She is bitter to the bone on this and refuses to get past it.
It has been over two years now and it is contantly thrown up. She is bitter to the point she is resenting me for it. We have been married for 15 years and I love her to death. She seldom touches me and is critcal of everything I do now. There are other dynamics that have impacted our relationship over the years so this doesnt help things. I feel like I have no bargaing leverage to address those issues I am dealing with. All I do is apologize for everything.
She is drop dead gorgeous and has several options to replace me with if she chooses that, so I am between a rock and hard place.
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