So, I'm in this really weird situation with a guy. We dated for a while, that ended because of a drunken argument, now we're supposed to be 'just friends' but stuff still happens occasionally.
Thing is, I actually really like him, but I feel like he's playing games with me. He'll be all over me one minute and go completely cold the next, and he's very inconsistent in his communication with me. I think he also tried to booty call me once (texting me at 6 pm saying 'come over to my place, my flatmate's fling is here and we have loads of cheap booze' - yeah, like that's going to make me want to come over). On the other hand, he still keeps messaging me, he's helped me out with some work-related stuff, and he does make an effort to see me (e.g. he came to a party where he didn't really know that many other people apart from me; I was mostly dancing with my friends and he just sat in the sofa sulking for a few hours and then left looking pretty upset. I wasn't really sure what to make of that).
So yeah, I have no. idea. what to make of his behaviour. I know he's generally pretty confused about relationships / life in general and about what he wants. He has this whole thing about 'not doing relationships' because he wants to be free to travel any time he wants etc., but when we were dating previously, his best friend told me that apparently he was panicking because he'd never liked someone as much as he liked me.
On the other hand I'm worried he might just be using me whenever he needs an ego stroke. My friends have advised me to basically play him at his own game and act hard to get and unavailable while still being friendly (and definitely not get with him any more). Tbh I really don't like playing games with people and I don't know if anything good or sustainable can ever come from it. On the other hand, I can't really see any other way to find out whether he's genuinely interested and just confused, or whether he's leading me on.
Opinions?
tl;dr: have a feeling a guy is playing games with me, should I try to play him at his own game or does nothing good ever come from that?
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