So I am searching for an answer . Someone enlighten me ,
someone share with me your story of success.. I am so stuck
where I am in my marriage ..
Let me share who and where we are
I am 44
my wife is 47
we have no serious bills
we are healthy - each work out
I work out 5 days a week and wife 3 times
we both eat organic food,
no drugs, no alcohol
except for a drink perhaps 1 time every 2 weeks
we have daughter who is 5
Since my wife had our daughter - she has become
very disinterested in sex. she also had a fibroid removed
a few years back and her parents passed away a few years
back.
I support the family and earn the money
in fact I usually make a few hundred thousand a year
almost every night I put my daughter to sleep and
pick her up from school ...
I also take her places and help by picking up dinner
for us almost every day so she doesnt have to cook
in fact my wife probably cooks breakfast for me 1-2 times a
week and that is it ..
we do have someone who comes and cleans the house
she does laundry though and helps as we now own a business together..
she was having some irregular period and now is getting acupuncture however she has shared with me that she doesnt feel the same way about sex.
I am in great shape, lost 30 lbs in the last year and defined muscle and wife in good shape too...
We have a date night every week where the babysitter comes out and me and my wife go to dinner ...on top of that sometimes my wife gets massages and etc ...
Lately over the last 3 months we have not had any sex at all .
its usually 1 time every 2 weeks or every week before and now - not at all..
every time I bring it up with my wife perhaps one time per week she gets reactive and states that perhaps we arent looking for the same things and she cant be my sex pot every day after taking care of our daughter and working and doing housework ..
I see her scheduled two days a week with her family for all of us to go out however I dont know how to get the passion back.
I used to get at least a hand job every week however not even that ...
perhaps I she had given me oral 1 time in the last 6 months and I always give her oral when we have sex to warm her up ..in addition I now feel kind of a rejection so lately when I initiate
its one of the following :
I am tired can I just go to sleep
Are you just laying there trying to figure out what I am thinking
My neck hurts
My stomach doesnt feel right
I need a vacation
There always seems to be some kind of excuse lately
she went to acupuncture person because she felt tired even when she sleeps for a long time and she never seems rested and gets to small bouts of anger at times because she feels tired or she needs space..
Every time I have tried to discuss her getting help she thinks its just beacuse I want sex ... I do want sex however I feel like I am living with a 70 year old when it comes to her priorities
..sleep, and the bathroom and doing chores...
I dont know what to do and its painful to even lay in bed next to her and just watch her sleep . I wish I knew how to get that passion back in our marriage
This past week she said she had two dreams about us getting a divorce and I told her I love her and she said I dont feel your happy ..... I have communicated about 20 times in teh last last year about how I need to connect with her and how sex makes me feel and she responds that she thinks I have issues around sex and whats the purpose of sex and etc ..
Whats even weird is a year ago she discussed me having a vasectomy so she didnt have to worry about birth control - yet we dont even have sex perhaps one time per month and lately not in the last 3 months at all ..
What do I do >??
Women ? Any advice ???
Do I give her more time to herself ?
Even when I was making 300k a year and our daughter was at school from 9 -5 she was not in the mood .. she seems to always get distracted in life with things she has to do like busy work ..
I offered picnic in the say dates during the week, get aways however she just doesnt seem into it and game for it ???
Do I try and stay away from her -- and find some hobbies ?
Do I not do as much for her and disconnect from needing her ?
Do I try and find some other friends and make her less important ?
DO I go to the gym 10 times a week and just focus on myself and make her secondary ..because even though I haev asked I dont seem to be a priority to her at all ...
It seems I am just good for what I do for her work , support , earn money and run chores .. that is my purpose without any of the things that I need ??
What the hell do I do ???
We do have good conversations - just no sex and it hurts me a lot , it un-inspires me to work and do all of these things if she has no concern for what I need ...
I just dont know what to do , she doesnt want to see a counselor because she feels they just take peoples money >>> I Dont know >>?????
someone share with me your story of success.. I am so stuck
where I am in my marriage ..
Let me share who and where we are
I am 44
my wife is 47
we have no serious bills
we are healthy - each work out
I work out 5 days a week and wife 3 times
we both eat organic food,
no drugs, no alcohol
except for a drink perhaps 1 time every 2 weeks
we have daughter who is 5
Since my wife had our daughter - she has become
very disinterested in sex. she also had a fibroid removed
a few years back and her parents passed away a few years
back.
I support the family and earn the money
in fact I usually make a few hundred thousand a year
almost every night I put my daughter to sleep and
pick her up from school ...
I also take her places and help by picking up dinner
for us almost every day so she doesnt have to cook
in fact my wife probably cooks breakfast for me 1-2 times a
week and that is it ..
we do have someone who comes and cleans the house
she does laundry though and helps as we now own a business together..
she was having some irregular period and now is getting acupuncture however she has shared with me that she doesnt feel the same way about sex.
I am in great shape, lost 30 lbs in the last year and defined muscle and wife in good shape too...
We have a date night every week where the babysitter comes out and me and my wife go to dinner ...on top of that sometimes my wife gets massages and etc ...
Lately over the last 3 months we have not had any sex at all .
its usually 1 time every 2 weeks or every week before and now - not at all..
every time I bring it up with my wife perhaps one time per week she gets reactive and states that perhaps we arent looking for the same things and she cant be my sex pot every day after taking care of our daughter and working and doing housework ..
I see her scheduled two days a week with her family for all of us to go out however I dont know how to get the passion back.
I used to get at least a hand job every week however not even that ...
perhaps I she had given me oral 1 time in the last 6 months and I always give her oral when we have sex to warm her up ..in addition I now feel kind of a rejection so lately when I initiate
its one of the following :
I am tired can I just go to sleep
Are you just laying there trying to figure out what I am thinking
My neck hurts
My stomach doesnt feel right
I need a vacation
There always seems to be some kind of excuse lately
she went to acupuncture person because she felt tired even when she sleeps for a long time and she never seems rested and gets to small bouts of anger at times because she feels tired or she needs space..
Every time I have tried to discuss her getting help she thinks its just beacuse I want sex ... I do want sex however I feel like I am living with a 70 year old when it comes to her priorities
..sleep, and the bathroom and doing chores...
I dont know what to do and its painful to even lay in bed next to her and just watch her sleep . I wish I knew how to get that passion back in our marriage
This past week she said she had two dreams about us getting a divorce and I told her I love her and she said I dont feel your happy ..... I have communicated about 20 times in teh last last year about how I need to connect with her and how sex makes me feel and she responds that she thinks I have issues around sex and whats the purpose of sex and etc ..
Whats even weird is a year ago she discussed me having a vasectomy so she didnt have to worry about birth control - yet we dont even have sex perhaps one time per month and lately not in the last 3 months at all ..
What do I do >??
Women ? Any advice ???
Do I give her more time to herself ?
Even when I was making 300k a year and our daughter was at school from 9 -5 she was not in the mood .. she seems to always get distracted in life with things she has to do like busy work ..
I offered picnic in the say dates during the week, get aways however she just doesnt seem into it and game for it ???
Do I try and stay away from her -- and find some hobbies ?
Do I not do as much for her and disconnect from needing her ?
Do I try and find some other friends and make her less important ?
DO I go to the gym 10 times a week and just focus on myself and make her secondary ..because even though I haev asked I dont seem to be a priority to her at all ...
It seems I am just good for what I do for her work , support , earn money and run chores .. that is my purpose without any of the things that I need ??
What the hell do I do ???
We do have good conversations - just no sex and it hurts me a lot , it un-inspires me to work and do all of these things if she has no concern for what I need ...
I just dont know what to do , she doesnt want to see a counselor because she feels they just take peoples money >>> I Dont know >>?????
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