When Uni started in September I started making some new friends and basically loving my time in Uni (both my course and the social aspect)
After a little time I started getting very close to a girl who is studying here, we hung out lots and eventually I asked her if she'd like to make it official and she said yes. We spent some days together and generally things were going pretty good. Recently however I noticed things had virtually ground to a halt, for example she wasn't interested to going any further than simply holding hands and cuddling.
Then it led to her being virtually impossible to meet up with, I said that we needed to have a talk more about the latter than the former and she assured me that she did want to be in the relationship but she was just a little stressed due to some issues she was having with banks and money, I understood and she said she'd make more of an effort now that the problem was sorted, she said she still had some things to think about in regards to the relationship and said she'd think and talk to me later about it.
A few days ago we agreed to meet up again on the weekend (Today) and talk again, when we met she said she had no idea about what she was reserved about. After some talking and prompts she admitted she was worried about the following:
-She's never dated or done anything sexual so is very nervous
-Worried that I'd get bored with her
-Afraid that I'd get in the way of her studies
On the first point I also revealed that I am a virgin and with very limited experience and that I am not in the relationship to basically have sex. She was happy to know that we're both in the same situation in that regard.
On the second point I just said that I can only really prove it wrong by doing just that...proving it. I did say that I don't honestly believe I would considering I have strong feelings towards her but again only time can really get that one, she was again happy with my answer.
On the last point I said that all I'm asking is just a day in the week where we can be together, I have no intention of putting my education on the line and neither does she. Again like above she was happy.
At the end of it all she said she still didn't know and that she is going to think about it some more, she said she'd let me know in just over a week (its a reading week and she's seeing her family over next weekend) she said she wants to talk to her sisters about it. I asked her what was left for her to think about and she said:
"I want to be in a relationship but I've never made the transition from I friend to a boyfriend, I've never had a real relationship...I want to think about it...and the other thing is a girl thing that you don't need to know"
Basically I'm asking some things here...
-Am I just setting myself up for a "No" here?
-Am I being led on maybe?
-What the heck is the "Other girl thing"?
Just generally what are your opinions on the situation?
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