I guess what I need is some honest (and anonymous!) advice. Sorry is this is a bit of a ramble – it's just that I need to get it out.
Just when I thought that all men were the same (and not in good ways), I met a guy I'll call Chris. Chris is just so much fun to be with. He's intelligent, has his act together, is handsome, has a real future,and is just an honest to goodness good human being. We've been dating for almost a year and it's really been the best year of my life.
I'm old enough and hopefully wise enough to know that nobody is perfect. I'm for sure not. Anyway Chris really doesn't have any bad traits, but he is a bit on the shy side and is kind of introspective. He's told me pretty much everything about him which is something that was just not easy for him to do. We've shared with each other our hopes, experiences, and dreams for the future.
Before I met Chris, I went through a phase when I didn't think or act as I should have. I was a bit casual about relationships and thought I was having a good time. When I started dating Chris, everything was just so different and good in every way. We've had the "past loves and not quite loves" conversation. I didn't lie but seeing that Chris was sensitive in this area, I glossed over some stuff.
This week he was with a lot of people "somewhere" and he ran into a bunch of guys he hadn't seen in a while. He told me about it – no big deal. I guess they all relived past war stories and whatever. A couple are married, some are dating. When pics came out, Chris said he proudly showed mine. All good – again no big deal.
Well yesterday, when we got together he was not himself. I kept asking if he was OK and he kept saying yes. Anyway at some point he threw out a name and asked if I know that guy. It was a guy I was "seeing" when I met Chris. Not a good person at all but I guess I didn't see that then.
That guy was part of the group where Cris was earlier this week, so I guess when he saw my photo he recognized me. I guess since then he's been bragging and mouthing off to whoever will listen that he "knew" me and that he had done "such and such" and crap like that. Somehow it got back to Chris.
When I said he was a guy I met a long time ago and didn't care for, Chris blurted out and asked if I had sex with that so and so. I was sort of in the headlights and asked him why he would ask me something like that. He then asked me if I had done "such and such" with that a-hole. I think I just said this is crazy where are you getting this. Anyway, we got silent and it was uncomfortable and he left and went back to the office.
We're going to get together tonight and I know this is going to hang there. Should I bring it up? What if he brings it up? What do I say and how should I say it? Fact is I was with that guy and we did kind of do a lot of stuff. I hate this. I just so hate this.
Just when I thought that all men were the same (and not in good ways), I met a guy I'll call Chris. Chris is just so much fun to be with. He's intelligent, has his act together, is handsome, has a real future,and is just an honest to goodness good human being. We've been dating for almost a year and it's really been the best year of my life.
I'm old enough and hopefully wise enough to know that nobody is perfect. I'm for sure not. Anyway Chris really doesn't have any bad traits, but he is a bit on the shy side and is kind of introspective. He's told me pretty much everything about him which is something that was just not easy for him to do. We've shared with each other our hopes, experiences, and dreams for the future.
Before I met Chris, I went through a phase when I didn't think or act as I should have. I was a bit casual about relationships and thought I was having a good time. When I started dating Chris, everything was just so different and good in every way. We've had the "past loves and not quite loves" conversation. I didn't lie but seeing that Chris was sensitive in this area, I glossed over some stuff.
This week he was with a lot of people "somewhere" and he ran into a bunch of guys he hadn't seen in a while. He told me about it – no big deal. I guess they all relived past war stories and whatever. A couple are married, some are dating. When pics came out, Chris said he proudly showed mine. All good – again no big deal.
Well yesterday, when we got together he was not himself. I kept asking if he was OK and he kept saying yes. Anyway at some point he threw out a name and asked if I know that guy. It was a guy I was "seeing" when I met Chris. Not a good person at all but I guess I didn't see that then.
That guy was part of the group where Cris was earlier this week, so I guess when he saw my photo he recognized me. I guess since then he's been bragging and mouthing off to whoever will listen that he "knew" me and that he had done "such and such" and crap like that. Somehow it got back to Chris.
When I said he was a guy I met a long time ago and didn't care for, Chris blurted out and asked if I had sex with that so and so. I was sort of in the headlights and asked him why he would ask me something like that. He then asked me if I had done "such and such" with that a-hole. I think I just said this is crazy where are you getting this. Anyway, we got silent and it was uncomfortable and he left and went back to the office.
We're going to get together tonight and I know this is going to hang there. Should I bring it up? What if he brings it up? What do I say and how should I say it? Fact is I was with that guy and we did kind of do a lot of stuff. I hate this. I just so hate this.
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