so some time ago, I made a post about the same guy (http://ift.tt/1w2Aib2).
basically, dated for a few months over the summer, then as things started picking up, he got flakey and the thing pretty much died out, apart from a random weird text here and there.
anyway, haven't been in contact for some weeks, and then last night (at 3am), he starts messaging. I thought he was drunk, but he said he only had a few beers earlier and was actually sober. I think he opened up with some sexual suggestion to get my attention (he's so bad at it and can't even flirt), then there was some chit chat on something not too relevant, but anyway, these are the bits that I'm finding hard to figure out.
he: to be honest, I just would like a person to lay next to me and not want anything else. just to feel good beside each other.
me: hire somebody on an hourly basis
he: I just want to spoon you. and cuddle you some more for the next few days.
me: says drunken you
he: says sober me
me: why do you message me when you don't even like me?
he: I do like you. I just fear the relationship side of things. I want to be free to build a business but need two years experience in b2b sales first to build a reputation. once I have a rep I can go for broke in this market
me: nice to know that any hypothetical association with me would be bringing you down :S
he: well the way I would look at it is in front of my employer I am focused on being the best that I can be. and when starting off I have a girl it may distract me from the final goal. I still want to have you by my side but if it was known in the first six months, my full attention would not be on getting a big contract but on pleasing both sides.
me: maybe you should focus on pleasing your boss then since I don't think you could please the girl
he: I want to please you first before pleasing anyone else. but I need to make sure I can provide for both and it's going to take time.
me: and how would you do that?
he: I have to make sure my attention is on signing a big client and not have my focus on anything else. even though I want to have a cuddle in my free time and make sure no one else knows my focus is on something else.
me: a plan for pleasing me down to a tee :S
he: yes! and it's about time I did that. but if I get a random email from work I will wait until you finish before I respond
me: until I finish what?
he: we will have to cuddle first. and then you may finish.
me: as much as I'm honoured to be getting these indecent proposals from you as a result of too much alcohol in your system, I'm not interested in some meaningless casual sex exchange. when i first met you I thought you were a very nice and decent guy (which means a lot in my books!), and I did like you very much, but if this is all there is to you, best don't message me again. good luck with the boss pleasing and work in general.
he: a come on now that's unfair. there is a lot more to me and that's why you text the long message. I want to please you, myself and no one else tonight. you haven't given me a chance!
me: I know there is more to you but you don't show any of it to me. what do you want, meet for lunch?
he: what would you like to eat for lunch?
me: I don't know...breakfast? I don't mind
he: let's see how we do. going to sleep for a few hours and then breakfast or lunch after!
me: sure, wake me up
*it was almost 7am when that finished.... 10 hours later he texts*
he: sorry about bothering you last night. it won't happen again.
I'm not sure what to make out of this, since although I expected to be disappointed (by now it would be out of character for him not to disappoint me), I was partly hoping he wouldn't. In the end it doesn't even matter since I think I'll be moving abroad in a few weeks permanently (he doesn't know and probably wouldn't care much), but I'd like to know why the sudden change. is he just a douche or some hopelessly shy and cowardly guy? he's irish (not sure if that matters), and we're both in late 20s which sort of makes the whole thing a bit embarrassing.
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