I just want to offer support to those that are betrayed spouses.
You may feel intimidated to share your story and feel that in someway you were cheated on because of something lacking in you.
Please don't feel intimidated by those who are cheater apologists as they tend to support those that cheated and are in one way or another insinuate that a betrayed spouse is complicit on being cheated on. Please don't allow yourself to feel worse than you already feel.
I doubt any betrayed spouse feels they were perfect. No one is perfect, not a betrayed spouse or the wayward spouse. Unfortunately, there seems to be a prejudice in regard to being betrayed in the sense that a cheater wouldn't have cheated if the betrayed spouse was not in some way lacking.
It makes me wonder though...if a spouse were so lacking, why were the cheaters so invested in not being found out? Of course, cheaters are good at straw man tactics and it's one of their greatest tools in shifting the narrative.
So what...you were not perfect and neither is the WS, but cheaters are good at elevating themselves and downgrading the betrayed spouse.
I never read a thread where a betrayed spouse claimed to be a saint or the best thing since sliced bread. It's weird that so many betrayed spouses are dissed and dismissed.
You may feel intimidated to share your story and feel that in someway you were cheated on because of something lacking in you.
Please don't feel intimidated by those who are cheater apologists as they tend to support those that cheated and are in one way or another insinuate that a betrayed spouse is complicit on being cheated on. Please don't allow yourself to feel worse than you already feel.
I doubt any betrayed spouse feels they were perfect. No one is perfect, not a betrayed spouse or the wayward spouse. Unfortunately, there seems to be a prejudice in regard to being betrayed in the sense that a cheater wouldn't have cheated if the betrayed spouse was not in some way lacking.
It makes me wonder though...if a spouse were so lacking, why were the cheaters so invested in not being found out? Of course, cheaters are good at straw man tactics and it's one of their greatest tools in shifting the narrative.
So what...you were not perfect and neither is the WS, but cheaters are good at elevating themselves and downgrading the betrayed spouse.
I never read a thread where a betrayed spouse claimed to be a saint or the best thing since sliced bread. It's weird that so many betrayed spouses are dissed and dismissed.
Put the internet to work for you.
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