Okay, after a reply from WorkingOnMe to a comment I posted on another thread, I am having to rethink the situation and consider the fact that my husband may not be LD - it could be all my fault. WOM suggested that the reason my husband does not have sex with me is that I've made it quite clear that the rough sex he likes is not pleasurable for me and that he's not interested in having the gentler type of sex that doesn't hurt. I could do with some input from other TAM members here - it it's my fault that I cannot take the pain, then I obviously need to do something about it.
Do any of the female members here have any advice on how I can begin to like (and get sexual pleasure from) having my nipples bitten or squeezed really hard and having my clitoris pulled over and over. I just find all this painful and I sometimes end up bleeding afterwards down there. I also find it difficult to get pleasure from biting and having my hair pulled. Don't get me wrong, I've had rough sex with other partners in the past, but it's usually been a slower build up that has made me horny and able to take a bit of rough. However, just going straight to the pain makes it really difficult for me to get turned on in the first place.
I'm in my fifties and have had several sexual partners and have never before come across somebody that likes it as rough as my husband does. He likes me to pull on his penis really hard, bite it and squeeze his balls. None of my past partners have liked me handling them so roughly so I find it difficult to do stuff to my husband that seem to be to be causing pain. I do it though as it seems to be what he likes, I just can't get any pleasure from it when it's this rough. I know some women like it rough - I have a friend who is an alcoholic and likes to be beaten up (to the point of having black eyes) when having sex - I can't see me ever liking it that rough though.
Does anybody here have any advice on what I can do that would make it easier for me to get pleasure (or even just to deaden the pain) from this type of rough sex. Or should I just accept that we have different sex styles and that if I want our marriage to be complete and lasting I have to put up with the pain and let him have sex this way rather than not have sex at all.
Do any of the female members here have any advice on how I can begin to like (and get sexual pleasure from) having my nipples bitten or squeezed really hard and having my clitoris pulled over and over. I just find all this painful and I sometimes end up bleeding afterwards down there. I also find it difficult to get pleasure from biting and having my hair pulled. Don't get me wrong, I've had rough sex with other partners in the past, but it's usually been a slower build up that has made me horny and able to take a bit of rough. However, just going straight to the pain makes it really difficult for me to get turned on in the first place.
I'm in my fifties and have had several sexual partners and have never before come across somebody that likes it as rough as my husband does. He likes me to pull on his penis really hard, bite it and squeeze his balls. None of my past partners have liked me handling them so roughly so I find it difficult to do stuff to my husband that seem to be to be causing pain. I do it though as it seems to be what he likes, I just can't get any pleasure from it when it's this rough. I know some women like it rough - I have a friend who is an alcoholic and likes to be beaten up (to the point of having black eyes) when having sex - I can't see me ever liking it that rough though.
Does anybody here have any advice on what I can do that would make it easier for me to get pleasure (or even just to deaden the pain) from this type of rough sex. Or should I just accept that we have different sex styles and that if I want our marriage to be complete and lasting I have to put up with the pain and let him have sex this way rather than not have sex at all.
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