I have posted on here before but here is a quick update.
Had suspicions my husband was cheating, found a woman's number on his phone bill. Confronted him he told me it was an old friend he had bumped into and they had spoke on the phone.
Phoned other woman and she said the same, she is also married and I asked did her husband know they had spoken, she said 'no'.
I told her I would come to her house to tell her husband she said I didn't know where she lived I said I do, cause my husband told me, she was angry at this (basically calling her bluff, this is how I knew he had been to her house).
Anyway things went on for about 3 weeks then he finally confessed, she was an ex who he had been engaged to about 19 years ago (we have been together 16), they split without no proper ending and he said he should have gone back, he also said most of the time they talked on the phone, they had met up for coffee and they had also slept together. He regrets ever meeting up, said it would not have been anyone else, just her as they were good friends and engaged.
Situation I am in now is, he has told me everything, given me access to all social media, leaves his phone with, answers any questions I ask, I believe he is being honest with all answers.
He said she got in touch with him through twitter, then they swopped numbers.
She told me stuff on the phone, saying he chased her, when I told him this he said don't know why she said that cause she got in touch with me. He phoned her to ask why she said this and she said she didn't that I was lying. She wanted him and said on several occasions, you would never leave your wife would you but if you did then we could have a future. Her marriage has ended as she didn't want her husband. I emailed her husband to tell him of the affair and have spoken to him on the phone, I apologised for being the one to tell him as I felt bad.
I love him, but don't know how I feel to carry on, we have 2 children age 11 and 15, I want to be with him but the thought of what he has done makes me physically sick.
He is back home now, but I feel he is in my face all the time, telling me he loves me, we can make this work, he will do anything I ask, I believe this, but I just want time I can't forget what he has done, he is now saying I don't want to forget, cause I have told him I love him so should try to move on. I told him it's like he has confessed, told me him loves me and now I should just carry on which is not going to be the case.
He doesn't seem to understand I am hurting, although he says he is hurting to cause I don't tell him how I feel, what does he expect.
It's just so hard to forget, I am torturing myself looking at pictures of her, why I don't know, When I look at him now I just see her standing with him.
Don't know what to do anymore, feel like I can't do anything, finding it hard to even go to work.
Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.
Had suspicions my husband was cheating, found a woman's number on his phone bill. Confronted him he told me it was an old friend he had bumped into and they had spoke on the phone.
Phoned other woman and she said the same, she is also married and I asked did her husband know they had spoken, she said 'no'.
I told her I would come to her house to tell her husband she said I didn't know where she lived I said I do, cause my husband told me, she was angry at this (basically calling her bluff, this is how I knew he had been to her house).
Anyway things went on for about 3 weeks then he finally confessed, she was an ex who he had been engaged to about 19 years ago (we have been together 16), they split without no proper ending and he said he should have gone back, he also said most of the time they talked on the phone, they had met up for coffee and they had also slept together. He regrets ever meeting up, said it would not have been anyone else, just her as they were good friends and engaged.
Situation I am in now is, he has told me everything, given me access to all social media, leaves his phone with, answers any questions I ask, I believe he is being honest with all answers.
He said she got in touch with him through twitter, then they swopped numbers.
She told me stuff on the phone, saying he chased her, when I told him this he said don't know why she said that cause she got in touch with me. He phoned her to ask why she said this and she said she didn't that I was lying. She wanted him and said on several occasions, you would never leave your wife would you but if you did then we could have a future. Her marriage has ended as she didn't want her husband. I emailed her husband to tell him of the affair and have spoken to him on the phone, I apologised for being the one to tell him as I felt bad.
I love him, but don't know how I feel to carry on, we have 2 children age 11 and 15, I want to be with him but the thought of what he has done makes me physically sick.
He is back home now, but I feel he is in my face all the time, telling me he loves me, we can make this work, he will do anything I ask, I believe this, but I just want time I can't forget what he has done, he is now saying I don't want to forget, cause I have told him I love him so should try to move on. I told him it's like he has confessed, told me him loves me and now I should just carry on which is not going to be the case.
He doesn't seem to understand I am hurting, although he says he is hurting to cause I don't tell him how I feel, what does he expect.
It's just so hard to forget, I am torturing myself looking at pictures of her, why I don't know, When I look at him now I just see her standing with him.
Don't know what to do anymore, feel like I can't do anything, finding it hard to even go to work.
Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.
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