I wanted to ask a Q - to see the type of reaction/advice I would get.
I have been with my now-husband for 3 years this Jan.
I married him Sept. 2013 and due to the fact he is from a different country (USA) for him to come to the UK he needed a settlement Visa. I am currently working and my pay is good, as well as my job so I didn't want to go over there (yet).
I applied for the settlement Visa - and he has been unemployed since Jan2014 - due to travelling and our relationship etc.( Initially we didn't know that he had to be in his country of residence to apply for the Visa so he moved to the UK and came in via a visitor visa - we thought we could just swap the visa's around etc... big learning curve).
I have been supporting him - and that was fine. I do find it very hard sometimes - but it's just a sacrifice I am making now until he gets the Visa and hopefully the NI number and can also work.
The problem is - ever since he stopped working - we just fight all the time... for the last 3 months he has been in USA waiting for a reply from the Visa people. So we have been long distant. We fight alllll the time - and sometimes I just think. I don't deserve this - I am doing all I can, yes.. I get moody days when ( mostly for attention- due to it being long distant) I kick up a fuss about how hard and blah this situation is and how everyone else who gets married doesnt have to go through this BS etc. But the fighting - oh Lord - It has brought out this monster in me, that honestly - I didnt even know existed. My tongue spills out vile absuive words and it's a side I never knew I had. On his side - he loves to put me down when angry - Oh lord... every insult from ' You are a lady act like a lady' to yelling at me like I am his 5 year old child.
I'm going to keep going on in this relationship - but when do you know enough is enough?
Put the internet to work for you.
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