Hi all, I've been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post my story..
Married for 21 years, I thought happily. We have two great kids ( 19 and 16).& my WW was a terrific mom and wife during most of that time.
About 5 years ago, during the economic suckiness, she had to go back to work after being off for 9 years raising the kids.
My jobs keep me away from home a lot., She struck up a "friendship" wth a co-worker and then the EA started about 10 months ago. She did the typical " Oh, he's just a friend" and was very upset anytime I questioned her about the relationship ( he is 21 years younger than her)
D-Day happened about 7 months ago when I took her phone without her knowledge and saw the texts between her and AP. I confronted her and told her that she neded to make a decsion between the family and I, or the AP. She chose the family, and I thought that we would be OK after some MC and absolutely NC with AP.
That lasted 7 days. She was distant and cold the week after she made the decision to stay with the family. The night before she moved out, I had told her that she didn't seem like she wanted to work on our M, and she replied that she was "trying, but it was hard". She moved out the next day to a girlfriend's house ( I was distant to her that day) and was back with the AP that night. That was 5 months ago.
She has seen our kids (S19 & D16) 4 times in that time period, and texts them about once a week if that. She's not talked to her parents or any of our friends since she moved out. It's like she's completely abandoned her life except for the AP and her girlfriend that she moved in with. She's pretty much lost all of her friendships and the kids don't even care that she contacts them or not. They hate the AP, and refuse to be around him.
Our M is done, period. ( I am one of those guys who will not deal with getting cheated on ), but for her to completely abandon everyone else is bizarre. I think she needs some professional help.
I have D papers signed, and ready to go at my lawyer's office, but am waiting to file until D16 is out of school ( probably is going to graduate next spring).
Definitely a Walk Away Wife story....
Married for 21 years, I thought happily. We have two great kids ( 19 and 16).& my WW was a terrific mom and wife during most of that time.
About 5 years ago, during the economic suckiness, she had to go back to work after being off for 9 years raising the kids.
My jobs keep me away from home a lot., She struck up a "friendship" wth a co-worker and then the EA started about 10 months ago. She did the typical " Oh, he's just a friend" and was very upset anytime I questioned her about the relationship ( he is 21 years younger than her)
D-Day happened about 7 months ago when I took her phone without her knowledge and saw the texts between her and AP. I confronted her and told her that she neded to make a decsion between the family and I, or the AP. She chose the family, and I thought that we would be OK after some MC and absolutely NC with AP.
That lasted 7 days. She was distant and cold the week after she made the decision to stay with the family. The night before she moved out, I had told her that she didn't seem like she wanted to work on our M, and she replied that she was "trying, but it was hard". She moved out the next day to a girlfriend's house ( I was distant to her that day) and was back with the AP that night. That was 5 months ago.
She has seen our kids (S19 & D16) 4 times in that time period, and texts them about once a week if that. She's not talked to her parents or any of our friends since she moved out. It's like she's completely abandoned her life except for the AP and her girlfriend that she moved in with. She's pretty much lost all of her friendships and the kids don't even care that she contacts them or not. They hate the AP, and refuse to be around him.
Our M is done, period. ( I am one of those guys who will not deal with getting cheated on ), but for her to completely abandon everyone else is bizarre. I think she needs some professional help.
I have D papers signed, and ready to go at my lawyer's office, but am waiting to file until D16 is out of school ( probably is going to graduate next spring).
Definitely a Walk Away Wife story....
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